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Consumerism: What Causes Consumerism?

One doesn’t need much awareness to see that consumerism is a big part of the modern day world. And depending on one’s point of view or position, it can be described as either positive of negative. A small company or large business for example, that’s main focus is on selling physical items, might be only too happy with consumerism. However, for the consumers who are in tune with their environment; consumerism is likely to be seen as negative and dysfunctional.

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Introverts are Not Mentally Ill!

One of the biggest differences between introverts and extroverts is how they react to stress. Some people don’t understand how introverts react to stress. Because of this, they think that all introverts are “neurotic” or mentally ill. Let me explain why this is a misperception. When ...

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Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother?

While some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she is able to give her child (or children) what it needs in order to develop into a healthy adult. If they were to check the DNA of the child and the parent, they would see they are connected, but that might be about as far as the connection goes. Appearances

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How To Cut Deals With Your Unconscious Mind

How To Cut Deals With Your Subconscious Mindnn Hi there my dear reader. In this article, I’m going to tell you about an advanced technique that fewer than 1 out of 100,000 people know about or will ever know about. You’re getting this insider information for being a fan of mine. This is ...

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Loyalty: Is Being Loyal Good Or Bad?

One of the reasons why people have dogs is because they are loyal companions. And while this is one of their strengths, it can also cause them to be taken advantage of. Yet, even though this can set them up to be treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will simply run away. Instead, a dog is likely to stay with their owner and to continue to put up with what is happening to them. A Different Experience If one was to look at how dogs experience life, they could say that human beings are different. This can be due to the fact that a human being usually has more options than a dog.

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Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away When Things Get Serious?

When a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever. And it can depend on how connected the woman felt to the man, as to how she responds to what took place. If everything was going well and there was the potential for so much more to occur, then there is higher chance that there will not only be anger and frustration, but also a sense of sadness and even loss.

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Tips for Using Social Media in a Healthy Manner

While social media can be useful in connecting you to family, friends and colleagues, there can be many pitfalls. But you can avoid these pitfalls by following these words of advice. Spend a Limited Amount of Time on Social Media Probably the most important thing to do is to spend a limited amount of time on social media. Turn off your computer and do things in the real world.

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Racism: What Causes Racism?

We live in a time of extreme exposure and this exposure is no longer limited to the old ways of reporting; where radio, news papers or the Television were the primary ways. There is now Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and many other ways that allow for current events to be exposed and for individuals to express their views.

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Boost Your Ability to be Assertive With Friends

It’s not the easiest thing to be assertive with friends. They may be used to you doing everything they ask. If you agree to any request they make, cancel appointments to be with them, and even ignore things you have to do so you can do what they want, then you’re like a doormat. You don’t have your own life; you live for your friends. When you start to be more confident and act in a stronger manner, you won’t be like this anymore. Let’s look at some situations where it’s important to be more assertive with your friends. Situation 1: A Duty to Visit

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Being Selfish: Is It Bad Thing?

The word selfish has all kind of associations, however I’m sure one of the images that comes to mind for most of us, is of the person who only thinks about themselves and is extremely self centred. This person only seems to think about what is in it for them and how it will benefit their own life. On the other side we have the person who only thinks about others and is shown to be completely selfless. These kinds of people are typically lauded by our society for what they offer and for the many people they routinely help.r

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Superiority Complex: Why Do Some People Think They Are Better Than Others?

If one was to watch athletics on TV or at a stadium, they would soon see that not everyone is on the same level. Within each race, there will be some athletes who are at the front and there will be others who nowhere near the front. In this instance, it is clear that some of the athletes are better than others. One is not being ‘politically incorrect’ by saying this; they are making a simple observation. Very few athletes break records or win medals and even if they do win a medal at one event, it doesn’t mean they will go on to win anymore. Human Beings

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Self-Esteem in the Performance Arts

Many athletes and performers I work with often wrongly determine their self-worth by how successful they feel about their career. When an athlete performs well or feels successful, he or she can feel good about him or herself. But the opposite is also true: despair and low self-esteem results when this person does not perform well or view him or herself as a failure. Self-esteem is a core issue in my work because it affects every aspect of your life, not just dancing.nnBaller

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Emotional Insecurity: What Are The Signs?

Emotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often accepted. If one is emotional insecure it is going to affect many areas of life. There is of course the inner stress that will be created and this will then lead to outer stress. So, the inner instability that one feels always has the potential to increase through the combination of the two sides.

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Powerful Ways to Develop Positive Emotions to Have High Self-Confidence

People with high self-confidence naturally have optimistic and joyful emotions as well as the knowledge that they can change their emotions from negative to positive. You can’t be down in the dumps and have high self-confidence at the same time. The two don’t mix. Emotions are a normal part of life. They indicate how you feel about a situation and any needed actions. When you have high self-esteem and self-confidence, you radiate joy and feel good about life, both about your own life and life in general. You feel secure and have an open heart and calm mind.

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Your Self-Talk Can Make You or Break You - Predicting a Negative Outcome and Overgeneralizing

Since your self-talk affects everything about your life, what you learn in this article is crucial to your growth toward high self-confidence. Have you ever said any of these to yourself? • I can’t do it. • I’m so stupid! I can’t do anything right. • I’m afraid to speak up at meetings. People will ridicule what I say. • I will fail, so why try? • I can never get this right. • I’m such a loser. I’ll never get a better job.

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***The 6 Stages of Overcoming Bad Habits

In the 1970s, Dr. James Prochaska and colleagues at the University of Rhode Island developed a model on the process of changing from bad habits to good ones. They identified six stages that people go through in this process. Generally, people don’t go through these stages in a linear fashion. People who successfully change their bad habits move forward into the next stage, then back to a previous stage, then forward to the next stage as their commitment becomes stronger. They may do this one or more times before breaking the habit once and for all.

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Enmeshment: What Is Enmeshment?

The word enmeshment is often used in the world of psychology, therapy and in every day relationships. These could be with family, friends and with intimate relationships. On the en.wiktionary.org website, enmeshment is described as: The state of being enmeshed; entanglement. And if something is entangled, it means that it is caught up and is therefore - not free. Examples

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***2 Crucial Tips for Creating a Quality Conversation

Did you know that we’re physically and mentally healthier when we have meaningful and fulfilling relationships? People who are ill get better more quickly when they have a loving support system. People who are broken-hearted from a romantic breakup get back to normal more quickly if they have someone to talk to and pour their hearts out to. Relationships are crucial to having a balanced, happy and healthy life. Two-Way Conversations Are Best

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How to Argue with Your Mate Most Effectively

Couples who are most successful have learned how to argue effectively. Believe it or not, arguing in a caring fashion is a skill. Arguing can easily get out of control. You need self-confidence to bring up a topic you’re conce ed about, and you need self-confidence to argue in a way that leads to a win-win for both parties or a compromise that both of you can live with. Speak Up About What Conce s You

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Boundaries: Why Do Some People See Others As Extensions Of Themselves?

If one was to take a look at their fellow human beings, it would be clear that they are all separate. They each have their own body and this then goes onto to cover their individual preferences, wants and needs. And as well as this, each person has their own personal reality and an experience that no one else is having. Of course, each one of us lives on the same planet and therefore there will be similarities as a result, but each person is still having a unique experience. A Metaphor

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Instant Gratification Culture: What Created It?

The term ‘instant gratification’ is widely known and widely used in today’s society. Having something tomorrow or having to wait any longer than now, is often far too long in today’s culture. Instant gratification can be observed throughout all ages and in numerous situations, it is not limited to a certain type of individual or situation. And whether we are talking about acquiring a new car or the urge to have something to eat, instant gratification is in action. Disclaimer

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The Core Beliefs That Plague Men

Your core beliefs are those beliefs you created when you were a child based on your experiences and how you were treated and talked to. You had certain experiences and heard the same messages over and over again from family members, peers and others, and you formed certain core beliefs about yourself and how you fit in with the world of work.

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Emotional Honesty: What Is Emotional Honesty?

Emotions are part of being human and this means that they play a vital role in each of our lives This could be to inform one of what is going on in their immediate environment or to do with something that is being triggered from their past for example. However, no matter what their reasons for appearing are; they are trying to communicate something. And yet this form of communication doesn't always occur.

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Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them?

It doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less severe. It might take a while for the damage to appear, but it can be just as bad in the long run and even in the short term, depending on what happens.

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Foolproof Ways to Use Assertiveness to Request a Raise

You are looking at your bank statement, and you realize that you’ve been getting the same salary for a long time. You know that you’ve added a lot of value to your company or organization, and you feel you’re entitled to a raise. Last week, your mechanic told you that your car needs a major repair job, and you need the money for this additional expense. How do you request a raise in a way that is most likely to succeed? How do you request a raise in a confident manner? Research Your Worth to Your Employer

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Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless?

To have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, from life. This could mean that one displays an exaggerated sense of themselves and this is the result of them going to the other extreme. Perhaps they feel as though they deserve everything in one moment and the next moment, they slump right back into their feeling of being worthless.

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Dysfunctional Environments: What is A Dysfunctional Environment?

When it comes to describing a Dysfunctional Environment, it might help us to also look at what a functional environment might look like. Functional Environment A functional environment then; would be an area that is conducive to growth. Somewhere that not only supports and encourages an individual to be themselves, but also allows them to. Here, one can express who they are and feel safe doing so. Positive feelings and thoughts are also more likely to occur in this environment. Dysfunctional Environment

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How to Nurture Yourself With Your Self-Talk

While it is true that your confidence was especially vulnerable to exte al influences when you were a child, as you grow older, you can gain awareness and perspective on what those influences were and how they were received. When you begin to do this, you can choose which influences you will continue to allow to have an effect on your life. You don’t have to be helpless to what happened to you in the past. Exercise

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40 Days and 40 NIghts in the Arms of Venus

Venus, the planet, goes retrograde (backwards) less frequently tha Mercury, about every 18 months, and the cycle lasts 40 days. Because it is less frequent, it is more difficult to understand and wreaks more havoc than a Mercury retrograde transit. Mercury affects communication. Venus ...

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***6 Easy Actions to Take to Encourage Self-Confidence in Children

Children need to feel good about themselves. They need to be accepted and valued by the adults in their lives and their peers. Children with high self-confidence feel that the important adults in their lives care about them and would go out of their way to make them safe and well. They feel that these adults would be upset and miss them terribly if anything were to happen to them. Here are some tips in encouraging self-confidence in children. Make Them Feel Valued

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***Secrets to Writing Your Own Affirmations

Using affirmations is a key component to building new mental habits and beliefs about yourself. What you tell yourself about yourself is directly related to your self-confidence, how you feel about yourself and what you believe you can accomplish. By repeating positive affirmations, you encourage your sense of self-respect and improve your self-confidence.

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An Amazing Exercise for Reaching Your Goals

Every person has inner dreams and desires. You do too. You may feel there are many things you were born to do and to accomplish in this lifetime. You have natural talents and skills, things that come easily to you and activities you enjoy doing. There are numerous parts of life that bring you happiness and joy. Take these steps to reach your desires and make your dreams come true.

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The Seven Types of Inner Critics

The Inner Critic is the part of you that judges you, demeans you, and pushes you to do things. It lowers your self-esteem and makes you feel bad about yourself. This is one of the most difficult and tenacious issues that people face. The Inner Critic is actually not a single part of you; there can be a number of critical parts that judge you in different ways or for different reasons. In our study of the Inner Critic, we have identified seven types of Inner Critics that people are troubled by. Perfectionistr

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Sir Isaac Newton and his Diamond in the Ruff

I've been looking forward to writing this article because Sir Isaac Newton personifies some of the outstanding introvert characteristics that you can learn to prize in yourself, your introverted child or your introverted lover. If you're an employer, you can also learn to identify two of these ...

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Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention?

There is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only human to want attention and while there is nothing unhealthy or dysfunctional about this need, some people are operating from the other extreme. They constantly need it and are only happy when they are getting it.

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Spice Up Your Affirmations!

Ava goes throughout her day putting herself down. She looks at herself in the mirror in the morning and thinks how ugly her hair and nose are. She arrives at her job and tells herself how much she dislikes doing this work but that she’ll never find anything better. At lunch, she doesn’t sit with anyone from her office because she believes no one likes her. After work, she sits down with takeout Chinese food and watches a movie online while telling herself that no man would ever be attracted to her and how miserable her life is.

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***How the Lefkoe Belief Process Works, Part 1

Many people who have eliminated at least one belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process have asked me for more details on how it actually works. In order to provide you with a relatively complete answer (it would take me several days to teach you how to use it effectively), I’ve written a two-part article. The Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) begins with the client describing an undesirable pattern of behavior or feelings that he has been trying unsuccessfully to change. Feeling patterns could include fear, hostility, shyness, anxiety, depression, or worrying about what people think of you.

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***Eliminate Your Passive Language - Tag Questions and Qualifiers

Passive people give away their passivity with the type of language they use. Their words tell others that they don’t think very highly of themselves and that they need others’ approval. This type of language takes away their power. De-emphasizers are methods of using speech so that passive people feel safe. If others disagree with what they have to say, they can change what they’ve said to agree with the other person. These de-emphasizers undermine what passive people say and make them look weak.

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The Ultimate Guide to Creating New Friendships, Part 1

Studies have found that having friends is one of the most important contributions to having a happy and healthy life. Forming friendships isn’t difficult, but it does take some effort. Friendships Come in All Shapes and Sizes Some friends we know from childhood are with us our entire lives. Others come into our lives for a short time, and our lives are enhanced. With some friends, we feel close right away, and we’re are able to share intense experiences soon after we meet. Other friendships develop slowly, perhaps over years.

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The Core Beliefs That Plague Women

As girls are growing up, their parents and culture teach them how to be. Most girls get the message that they’re supposed to be and act in certain ways. Many of these messages encourage girls to be “less than.” In many ways, girls are taught to have low self-esteem as part of their personality. Which of These Do You Remember Hearing? • Don’t be too smart or boys won’t like you. • Don’t get your dress dirty! It’s better to sit in that chair like a good little girl. • You need to be well-mannered. • Don’t speak up because you might hurt other people’s feelings.

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***How Core Beliefs Run Your Life - For Good or Bad

Most people begin their journey into low self-confidence in their childhood. Our early environments affect us deeply, and we take in the messages we receive. As we hear these same messages over and over again, they take shape in our minds, and over time they form our core beliefs about ourselves. What Core Beliefs Are Your core beliefs can be formed by the messages you hear from many people - your parents, other adults in your life, and other children you are around, including your brothers and sisters, your cousins, your neighbors, your playmates, and your schoolmates.

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Relationships: Is Your Ex Giving You False Hope?

When a relationship comes to an end, each person can go their own way, or something else might take place. As a result of this, it could only be matter of days or even weeks before they are back together. Round in Circles In fact, this could be something that will take place more than once, and it could then be said that this shows that their relationship is not very stable. Therefore, even when they do get back together, this is not going to be an experience that will last for very long.

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Essential Tools to Achieve Strong Family Relationships

Family relationships are some of the most important in your life. There are many families that you may be relating to: • the family you grew up in • your extended family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and all their husbands and wives • your current family • perhaps the family members of your ex To have significant relationships with people in your family, you need to connect with them often, whether in person, on the phone, e-mailing, or texting. Whatever way is best for you, making that contact on a regular basis is crucial.

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Your Self-Talk Can Make You or Break You - Focusing on the Negative and Mind Reading

There are so many ways that your self-talk can add to your life or subtract to it. In this article, I’ll explain two types of mind games your self-talk can play with you: focusing on the negative while discounting the positive as well as mind reading. Let’s start with focusing on the negative while discounting the positive. Both of these ways of talking to yourself lead to low self-confidence. But they can be changed. Focusing on the Negative While Discounting the Positive

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