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- My Transition From Alcoholism To Business Success - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Ken SundheimAlcoholism - To Sobriety - To Business Success - My Story I am a true believer that alcoholism is a disease and, unfortunately that disease was bestowed upon me. I started KAS Placement when I was 23 years old (I am 28 now) and began making a lot of money for somebody my age. I would spend it ...
Views: 2422(5 votes) - Psychology In Trouble - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneThe Human Condition Volume 1, Part 01 Have you ever wondered what is the platform for our one and only human experience? I have, for I once destroyed 99.9 percent of my human experience. With one tenth of my experience left, I took the time to learn how to learn from my insecurities. I ...
Views: 1657(3 votes) - Putting An End To Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Monty RitchingsRecently, my daughter made a trip to the town where she was born. Unfortunately, it was not a happy occasion. The daughter of one of her childhood friends had committed suicide. The girl was 15 years old when she decided that she could not tolerate any more bullying. The only way she could ...
Views: 1895(2 votes) - How to Prevent a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerIt seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken ...
Views: 5684 - The Process of Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerLoss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are ...
Views: 3013(1 vote) - Unrecognized and Unconscious Emotional Injuries of Childhood, Part I - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Carl H. Shubs, Ph.D.In Memoriam: Alice Miller One of the great advocates of children and their struggles against unrecognized mistreatment has died. “Alice Miller, a psychoanalyst who repositioned the family as a locus of dysfunction with her theory that parental power and punishment lay at the root of nearly ...
Views: 3031(16 votes) - Recovery Happens - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneI recently saw a banner — set in place for Recovery Month — that read: “Recovery Happens.” My question is: “What is implied here?” Words have meaning, and when those words are demonstrative of a process to behavioral change, people either simply disregard, are motivated by, or are intimidated by ...
Views: 2233(4 votes) - Domestic and Workplace Violence - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneWhen are people going to get real? When society reads in the newspaper or catches on local news channels the headlines: Murder-Suicide, Domestic Abuse Homicide, or Workplace Violence, they are intrigued out of the common interest that everyone has been frustrated in a relationship at home, ...
Views: 1716(2 votes) - Why Understanding Child's Play Can Help You If You're an Abuse Survivor Struggling in Relationships - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Adam ApplesonHave you ever watched a group of children playing together? There's so much energy and so much smiling. There's lots of running around, and then inevitably, somebody starts crying. Someone gets mad. There's a bit of emotional chaos. Sometimes a grown-up has to step in and sometimes the kids ...
Views: 2071 - The Betrayal - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysMy next several blog posts are all related to the same topic. They deal with something that happened to me in July of 1988. My Dad had died the previous Thanksgiving, and I was still in the grief process over that loss. As well, I was still involved with a 12 step program for people who had ...
Views: 1942(2 votes) - Healing My Anger - Defusing a Time Bomb - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor many years, I would have told you that yes, there was drinking in my house while I was growing up, but I got out just fine, and it didn’t really affect me. Then when I was in my early ‘30s, I started to see signs that such was not the case. I worked for a time with a prison ministry, ...
Views: 2396(4 votes) - If You Had Any Sense - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. Hays(Written August 8, 1990) It was June of 1969. I had just come home from my freshman year at Texas Tech. I had not declared a major except for General Studies. I liked my psychology and sociology courses, and thought about going that direction for a major. We lived in Fort Worth, and ...
Views: 2158(1 vote) - Qigong for Longevity - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Martin EisenQigong (Chi Kung) is a Chinese medical therapy thousands of years old. It consists of mental as well as physical maneuvering which simultaneously adjust body posture, breathing, and the mind. Qigong for health is not strenuous and can even be performed by handicapped people. It can be done ...
Views: 3080(3 votes) - Sexual Addiction Behavior Types (Patrick Carnes) - by Submitted on May 30, 2011 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCAccording to Patrick Carnes, there are 11 sexual addiction behavior types. This information is important when when working with sexually addictive or codependents or co-addicts of sex addicts. As you will see, sex addiction comes in many forms and types. Anything from the lone web surfer who ...
Views: 8382(5 votes) - Studies Find Birth Trauma Can Lead To Child Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2010 from Leah FriedmanBirth is a life-changing experience. Each birth brings with it a new and different set of experiences and feelings, but birth trauma can have serious and long-lasting effects. A Swedish study showed that those who have a traumatic and painful birth are more likely to end their life with ...
Views: 1327(6 votes) - How Does Emotional Abuse Affect Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2010 from Evelyn YeoResearch shows that the parenting style used on a child during the first 3 to 4 years of his life is the strongest factor that determines his level of self-esteem. Parenting style refers to how parents treat, guide, and nurture their young. It encompasses the messages that parents communicate ...
Views: 13245(2 votes) - SIBLING ABUSE – Children Abusing Other Children - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossEven though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored - if not accepted - form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of ...
Views: 4681(3 votes) - Depression And The Traveler Within Us All - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Shayne and Lori NorthThe road was long, dusty and rough. It went on winding through the forest and was strewn with rocks and ruts, which was hard on the feet. A lone pair of soft leather slippers worn by a tired peasant trod along its path. The road started up a hill, passing under a large oak tree overhanging the ...
Views: 1753(2 votes) - First Choice - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Timothy SinnThe first choice that can turn ones life in another direction is the choice I am referring to. This choice is to use or not use drugs or alcohol for the first time. If one is educated and prepared when they come face to face with this decision, is priceless. This is your first choice and very ...
Views: 1323(3 votes) - Fight Night - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten October 17, 1988 I was out in the back yard shooting baskets with some of the boys from the neighborhood. It was a crisp, sunny fall afternoon, sweatshirt weather, and I was feeling great about life. I had finally gotten the knack of the jump shot, and was really proud of ...
Views: 2080(4 votes) - Talk of Tigers/The Tiger Unveiled - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysTalk of Tigers (Written March 9, 1990) "Tell me about your tiger," she said. They were at the zoo, standing in front of the tiger cage. A huge, restless Bengal tiger paced back and forth the length of the cage. His eyes looked devoid of life, cold, neutral. The huge paws silently padded up ...
Views: 1715(4 votes) - The Hunt - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. Hays(Written September 20, 1988) We were in a house trailer just outside the Lindreth trading post, in northwest New Mexico. There were six of us on the hunt that year: My Dad and I; Morris - Dad's best friend, and his son Brad; Don - who owned the trailer and was to be our guide, and his son ...
Views: 1936(9 votes) - THE ENABLING PARENT - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossA while back, I jotted down some thoughts about a person I called “The Other Parent”. Since then, I’ve been collecting information and have concluded that there is a dearth of material on this subject. But I have expanded upon my initial ideas and hopefully this will be lead to more research ...
Views: 2511(2 votes) - Overcoming The Fear - Facing The Past - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI received this question from someone who had just read my book, Freedom’s Just Another Word, where I confront some pretty bad demons from my past: How did you overcome your fear of dealing with all the pain coming to the surface? I have not been able to conquer this fear I have of ...
Views: 2396(3 votes) - PTSD - And Didn't Know it! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI spent a lot of time walking around Houston in the middle '80s with many of the symptoms of PTSD, and didn't know it. I was having flashbacks - of occurrences I didn't remember. I felt like the man in the Bourne Identity with amnesia, who was getting glimpses of his past - a past he could not ...
Views: 3261(8 votes) - Independence Day - Little Danny Set Free! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor the last two years I've been working to overcome the effects of damage done by my Grandmother, who we all called Mamaw. When I was 8 years old, she asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said a famous writer, and she was appalled, and said "If you are a famous writer, they'll call ...
Views: 1926(7 votes) - A Conversation With Dad - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten August 5, 1990 All I really wanted to say was "I'm sorry." I had said some hurtful things to my Father. But he had been dead for three years. How do make amends after they're gone? It wasn't perfect, not like him being there, but I was talking to him anyway. Just making up a ...
Views: 1610(5 votes) - Thoughts on My Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysA good friend emailed me a while back and asked about my experience of the "inner child" on my road to healing. My inner child, who I called Little Danny, was an integral part of the book I had written, "Freedom's Just Another Word." My friend wondered if my experience of that inner child had ...
Views: 1633(7 votes) - Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Richard Burns, J.D. (pen name Dick B.),Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? “Go with the Winners” and Follow the Original Akron A.A. “Christian Fellowship” Program Dick B. © 2010 Anonymous. All rights reserved The following verses from the Book of James show specifically why and how to seek the wisdom of God. As A.A. ...
Views: 2611(2 votes) - Heartbreak - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Margaret PaulCeline, an only child, was 7 years old, her mother died tragically in a car accident. She and her father were devastated. However, unlike so many of my clients who lost parents and no one was there for them, Celine's father was completely there for her, even while dealing with his own grief and ...
Views: 5587(4 votes) - How Drugs Work - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Aaron PeterDrugs have become an important element in the history of medicine to cure or increase the immunity in humans against various diseases. Due to continuous innovation, research and development in the past 4-5 decades, drugs are now available to cure majority of diseases. When taken in prescribed ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - Advantages of Multi-Panel Drug Test - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2010 from Aaron PeterDrug testing at homes, workplaces, schools, and sports is important as it helps to identify drug addiction among teenagers, employees, students, and athletes respectively. Performing drug testing using multi-panel urine drug test is easy, convenient, and provides quick results. Multi-panel urine ...
Views: 1773(2 votes) - Female Sexual Abusers – Who are they? Part III - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossThere weren’t a lot of statistics, because no one thought it was a problem. But then in 1990, Ramsay–Klawsnick found that adult females were abusers of male adolescents 37% of the time and of female adolescents 19% of the time; and in six studies reviewed by Russell and FInkelhor, female ...
Views: 2201 - Alcohol Test to Control Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Anne HamiltonThe holiday season is considered to be one of the most hectic times for police and traffic departments due to the significant increase in impaired or drunk driving. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), there are more than 1000 people in America who are killed ...
Views: 1990(2 votes) - Forgiving vs. Forgetting - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2009 from Adrian CaminosThe phrase “Forgive and Forget” is a nice thought but one of those things that is hard to do in practice. My question is why do we link the two in the first place? I have heard some people say that once you forgive somebody for what they have done to you, you should then just move on and ...
Views: 2248(2 votes) - Power To Set Yourself Free - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Vonzel SawyerThis posting is about forgiveness. I don’t know about you, but most of the time when I have seen forgiveness addressed it involves the actions of two or more persons. This posting will take a more focused view where it mainly involves action of a single person. Part of improving oneself leads ...
Views: 1792(4 votes) - Adult Talk - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Fireflies Team"Not again!" I screamed silently as my dad's footsteps careened him into the wall. . . slurring a curse, he stumbled. He was home and drunk - again. "I hope. . . " I continued my silent plea, "I hope you just keep on going past me. No need to say anything." The very large house I lived ...
Views: 1364(2 votes) - MOTHER LOVE / Female Abusers Part II - the psychological impact on daughters who have been sexually abused by their mothers - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross“There is no other closeness in human life like the closeness between a mother and her child. Chronologically, physically and spiritually, they are just a few heartbeats away from being the same person” * This is the darkest secret of them all. It challenges societal expectations and myths ...
Views: 13079(2 votes) - Holodynamics: Compassion meets physics - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Andrew ScheimI would like to share with you a very powerful form of consciousness work called Holodynamics. First a brief background on how I came to this work. In my practice I work with very challenged individuals. The patterns that cause illness on all levels are quite deep and usually clouded in ...
Views: 4335(3 votes) - Breaking Boards and Breaking the Silence - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from Lisa ChristiansenGi-Dee-Thlo-Ah-EE, This is the name given to me by my mother Sosti (Mary Ann Groundhog) at the time of my birth, My Name is Lisa, I am from the Blue People Clan and I will Break the Silence! As you come to know me better my hope is that you will feel the pride that I have lived with in my ...
Views: 2036(3 votes) - The Heart of Transformation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Glenn BergerHow do we change? Change takes one tiny step, but to take that one step can require a journey of a thousand miles. So many of us can dream of the life we want to have and the person we want to be. It can be especially frustrating when we get to the stage in our adventure where we ...
Views: 1356(6 votes) - Overcome Alcohol Dependency - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonWhen you reach a point in your life that you realize that alcohol is creating problems, then you know that a change is required. Some people drink far more than the doctor recommends but are completely happy with the effect upon their life and their health, and that's fine; you are the person ...
Views: 1558(2 votes) - Siblings - The Forgotten Ones - How Siblings Get Hurt - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Judy HerzanekThe Parable of the Prodigal Son While he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with compassion the father ran to the son, threw his arms around him and said, "Welcome home." His son had come to his senses. "Let's have a party!" His brother refused to come ...
Views: 2906(5 votes) - Mother Love / FEMALE ABUSERS - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross“A Social Problem Does Not Exist For A Society Until It Is Recognized By That Society To Exist” – H. Blumer The following is the first of a three-part series of articles: It was in a high school literature class that I was first introduced to the Oedipus Complex, defined as “a boy’s ...
Views: 14097(2 votes) - Healing From Abuse is Not the Same as Confrontation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanA lot of survivors of sexual and physical abuse feel they need to confront someone about it. Face down the perpetrator and tell him (usually him) – tell him what? That what he did was wrong. That it was hurtful and did substantial harm. I imagine it could amazingly empowering to do that. ...
Views: 1644(3 votes) - EMOTIONAL ABUSE : What it is and why it is so important to recognize - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossSticks and stones may break my bones but … bullying and name-calling can emotionally scar me forever. Not the original ending to the classic verse, but probably the more accurate one. It seems that broken bones will heal far more quickly than a battered soul. Does this sound overly ...
Views: 2097 - Why Parents Need to Read Fairy Tales (Part 5) - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Glenn BergerAs we have learned in this series so far, fairy tales are ironic. They tell a truth so shocking that it can only be revealed in innocent children's stories. 2500 years ago, in Plato’s Republic, Socrates said the truth exposed in these stories was so dangerous that they should not be allowed to ...
Views: 3850(1 vote) - Pre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldPre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse My boyfriend and I getting married in a few months and I am worried because although he is so great, he does have a temper. When he gets mad he becomes scary. At times he yells and screams and at other times he throws and breaks things. He’s only hit me ...
Views: 1639(1 vote) - Michael Jackson, King of Pain? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDetails about Michael Jackson’s passing are still fuzzy, but already people are drawing conclusions about the superstar’s premature demise. One media thread has him using prescription medications in what may have been a troubling way ...
Views: 1343(2 votes) - Adult Depression and Childhood Abuse - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossOver the years I’ve discovered that a significant proportion of adult clients who present with depression have a history of childhood abuse. The abuse may have been sexual, physical and/or emotional. At first I attributed this to the fact that I specialize in abuse and many clients who come ...
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