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- ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Rejected - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 22, 2016 Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now! What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ...
Views: 1242 - ***Loving Yourself: A Path To Manifestation - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 03, 2017 Discover how loving yourself can not only lead to the manifestation of your dreams, it can also lead to manifesting kindness and caring on our planet. "Great hearts steadily send forth the secret forces that incessantly draw great events." – ...
Views: 1495 - ***Making Peace With Lost Time - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you? Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning ...
Views: 1099 - ***Managing Challenging Families - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulSometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing. We all know that families can be very challenging! Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ...
Views: 1294 - ***Managing The Heartbreak of Not Being Seen or Heard - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 02, 2016 _________________________________________________________________________________ Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ...
Views: 1191 - ***Managing The Pain of Breakups - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup? Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ...
Views: 1326 - ***Manifesting Your Next Year - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ There is no time like right now to get clear on what you want to manifest in the coming year. ________________________________________ What do you want in the coming year? One of the things I've done for many years is to write down what I want for ...
Views: 1087 - ***Men, Women, And Sex - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2007 from Margaret PaulDuring my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in marriages. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy. There is a very good reason why ...
Views: 5125 - ***My Husband is Not Sexual - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone! ________________________________________ In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him ...
Views: 1431 - ***Others Treat Us The Way We Treat Ourselves - by Submitted on May 05, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are. If you're friendly, then everybody else seems to be friendly too." --Dr. David Hawkins, Physician and LecturerHave you ever noticed how true this is?I would change it a bit and say that we attract ...
Views: 3156 - ***Overweight and Miserable - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you tired of being overweight and food addicted? There is a way to heal. ________________________________________ Pamela writes this question for my webinar on food addiction: "I am a 22-yr old female weighing 220 lbs with a height of 5.9". I ...
Views: 1485 - ***Politicians Need Inner Bonding! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow would our country change if politicians had to learn to love themselves and others before taking office? What if politicians had to be mentally evaluated before running for office? How many of them would pass as being emotionally stable and healthy? What difference might it make ...
Views: 1054 - ***Problems Sleeping? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulInsomnia is quite common in our society. While there many different reasons for sleep problems - such as poor diet, too much sugar and refined carbohydrates, too much caffeine, or lack of exercise - I want to share two major causes and the solutions to these. Ironically, one of the major causes ...
Views: 3293 - ***Relationship Advice: Are You Giving To Get Love? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 04, 2016 Are you giving love to your partner or others for the joy of giving, or are you giving to get love, attention or approval? I received the following email, asking for my help: "Hi, my name is Adam. I am living with my parents and I'm thinking of ...
Views: 997 - ***Relationship Advice: Resolving Conflict When Someone Is Closed - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 04, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution. ________________________________________ Loving relationships create a safe arena in ...
Views: 1231 - ***Relationships: Are You A Taker Or A Caretaker – Or Both? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 18, 2016 If your relationships are challenging, you might want to gain awareness and understanding of the taker-caretaker relationship system. As we all know, relationships are generally very challenging, and one of the reasons is that we bring into our ...
Views: 1003 - ***Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Margaret PaulKari and Rudy consulted with me because they kept having conflicts over the same issues over and over - primarily money, chores, and child-rearing. They were nearing the decision to separate, believing that they were incompatible.I asked them to pick one of the issues and they picked a recent ...
Views: 2280 - ***Relationships: Empathy Vs. Responsibility for Feelings - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulWilliam grew up with a mother who was depressed much of her life. As the oldest of three children with a father who was not around much, William took on a lot of responsibility for his mother's wellbeing. He grew up as a kind and caring man, believing that he was responsible for another's ...
Views: 3152 - ***Relationships: Hanging in Through the Hard Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship? ________________________________________ Are you committed to working through the difficult and painful ...
Views: 1158 - ***Relationships: When Is It Okay To Call It Quits? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 10, 2016 Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits? Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship. Mary asked me: "I married my first ...
Views: 1183 - ***Relationships: When To Let Go and Move On - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you staying in an abusive relationship because you believe you can change it or not be bothered by it? ________________________________________ The question of when to leave a relationship comes up over and over with my clients and with the ...
Views: 1181 - ***Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from Margaret Paul"A woman who I was dating and who I really liked ended our relationship and is dating someone else. I see her all the time at the market and I feel like yelling at her." "I keep vowing not to, but I keep getting really angry at my husband when he is distant." "I lost my temper with my ...
Views: 2211 - ***Romance And The Power Of Hugs - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Hugs can be romantic or disconnecting, depending on your intent in hugging. Has the romance gone out of your relationship? Has work and/or parenthood left you no time for romance, connection and intimacy? A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is ...
Views: 991 - ***Self Improvement: Leisure Time, Retirement Time - by Submitted on May 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulYou've worked all your life and now you are looking forward to retirement. How will you spend your time? Many people have not created balance in their lives between work and play, so when it comes to leisure time or retirement, they don't know what to do with their time. If you no longer have ...
Views: 3844 - ***Self-Care: Are You Resistant to Health and Fitness? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you find yourself resisting or procrastinating taking loving care of yourself? ________________________________________ Of course you want to be healthy and fit! Who doesn't? But are you always motivated and willing to do what you need to do to create health and fitness? Are you ...
Views: 944 - ***Self-love or Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover that self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! ________________________________________ It's interesting to me how often people confuse self-love with narcissism – because they are actually opposites in many ways. Ramona ask a ...
Views: 1669 - ***Self-Love vs. Selfless Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? ________________________________________ Have you ever been confused about the boundary between loving yourself and also being loving to others? This is what Rosanna is struggling with. She ...
Views: 1466 - ***Shyness - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you shy? Is your shyness getting in the way of your connection with others? ________________________________________ Have you struggled with being a shy person? Lily asks: "I try hard to overcome my shyness and reluctance to stand out, speak ...
Views: 1280 - ***Single? What Are Your False Beliefs About Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship? ________________________________________ I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ...
Views: 1241 - ***Speaking Up For Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Do you speak up for your inner child – your feeling self – when someone is judgmental toward you, or they are blaming you or discounting you? What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared or lonely from ...
Views: 962 - ***Standing Strong In Your Own Truth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you? ________________________________________ When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ...
Views: 1454 - ***Staying Centered in Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this. ________________________________________ Angela writes: "I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going ...
Views: 1253 - ***Staying Connected As A Loving Adult In The Face Of Conflict - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Margaret PaulHave you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Does your wounded self quickly take over, and your conflict resolution skills disappear? Allison asked me the following question: "I practice Inner Bonding when I feel I need it. I basically feel connected and when something is ...
Views: 886 - ***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit ...
Views: 1543 - ***Sustaining Love: The Importance Of Emotional Intimacy - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 12, 2016 Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship. Discover how to create and nourish this deep connection. Loving coupleThink back to times you felt 'in love.' Aside from chemistry, what was it that drew you to ...
Views: 1014 - ***The Aftermath of a Relationship with a Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul Ph.D. February 22, 2016 Have you been in love with a narcissist? Are you now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Many people are very vulnerable to getting into a relationship with a ...
Views: 1377 - ***The Art of Conversation - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have mostly one-way or two-way conversations? What kind of conversationalist are you? ________________________________________ What happens in your conversations with people? The kind of conversation you have with someone says a lot about both ...
Views: 1480 - ***The Art of Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover what a boundary is and what it isn't. Merilee wrote the following question to me in one of my relationship webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul -- One of my biggest struggles is being open to giving and receiving love, but also setting boundaries. I want to be loving, not ...
Views: 1470 - ***The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2011 from Margaret PaulHelplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one coming to help us. Because we were so helpless over ourselves as babies and small children, it can trigger feelings of panic. It's hard to remember, ...
Views: 3012 - ***The Challenge of Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Margaret PaulDo you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work! Leslie asks: "When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating 'controversy'. He can barely stand ...
Views: 1348 - ***The Challenge Of Good Nutrition - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2007 from Margaret Paul"Eat more carbohydrates!" "Eat more protein!" "Be a vegetarian!" "Vegetarians are not healthy." "Don't eat grains!" "Eat more grains!" Are you confused about how to eat for excellent health? Even the research is contradictory! Since my early 20s, I have been interested in health and ...
Views: 2984 - ***The Circle of Love: The Highest Experience in Life - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulA circle of love is the result of people being together with open hearts, and is the most wonderful experience in life. Have you ever experienced a circle of love? A circle of love occurs when two or more people are together with completely open hearts - open with their essence, with each ...
Views: 1426 - ***The Devastation of Inner Emptiness - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2011 from Margaret PaulOne of the sad truths in our society is how empty many people feel, and the devastation their emptiness causes others through their resulting addictive behavior.We have all heard about the sexual acting-out of Anthony Weiner, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton and John Edwards. We ...
Views: 2669 - ***The Fear of Being Duped - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is being duped something you avoid at all costs, or are you willing to be duped in order to keep your heart open? ________________________________________ No one likes being duped. It feels awful to realize that someone has pulled the wool over our ...
Views: 1337 - ***The Fear of Being Excluded - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph. D. February 01, 2016 ___________________________________________________________ You CAN heal a fear of being excluded and rejected! ___________________________________________________________ Many of us grew up experiencing, in one way or another, the pain of ...
Views: 1237 - ***The Foundation for Abundance - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all ...
Views: 1302 - ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
Views: 1095 - ***The High Cost of Physical Self-Abandonment - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Margaret PaulIf you are not concerned with your physical self-care, have you ever considered the high cost to those around you? I was sitting in the airport at my gate in Chicago, on my way home from the East Coast, having just completed a wonderful Inner Bonding weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA. ...
Views: 1289 - ***The Incredible Power Of Intent - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Margaret PaulImagine two big spotlights. One is pointed upward, casting light far into the air. The other is pointed downward and buried into the earth - no light is cast at all. This is like intent. There are only two possible intentions in any given moment: the intent to learn about loving yourself and ...
Views: 2777 - ***The Lies We Tell Ourselves - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Dr. Margaret Paul June 27, 2016 Our emotions are an accurate indication of when we are in truth and when we are lying to ourselves. Believe it or not, one of the great gifts we were born with is our emotions. Our emotions infallibly let us know when we are operating from the truth ...
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