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- ***You Want A Relationship, But Are You Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 28, 2016 ________________________________________ Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person? ________________________________________ Do you believe that you are fully ...
Views: 1075 - ***How To Forgive - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. June 06, 2016 Do you want to forgive yourself or someone else, but you just can't seem to get there? Learn how to forgive in this article. _____________________________________________________________________________ It's one of the greatest gifts you can ...
Views: 1069 - ***When You Reach for Help, Are You Loving or Abandoning Yourself? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Discover the big difference between reaching out as your loving adult or as your wounded self. ________________________________________ Dorothy asked an important question: "What is the difference ...
Views: 1060(1 vote) - ***Are You Relationship-Avoidant? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you believe that you want a relationship but never seem to find the 'right one?' ________________________________________ Most people say they want to be in a relationship, yet they consistently do things that keep them from achieving this. If you ...
Views: 1058 - ***The High Cost of Physical Self-Abandonment - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Margaret PaulIf you are not concerned with your physical self-care, have you ever considered the high cost to those around you? I was sitting in the airport at my gate in Chicago, on my way home from the East Coast, having just completed a wonderful Inner Bonding weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA. ...
Views: 1057 - *** If You Learn To Love Yourself, Will You End Up Alone? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 03, 2016 If you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? I had been working with Kathleen for a few months when we had the following discussion: KATHLEEN: I know that the ...
Views: 1056 - A Major Cause of Emotional Suffering - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Margaret PaulIs there one thing that is the primary cause of emotional suffering? Yes! Discover the one choice that underlies your emotional suffering. Is it possible that there is one major cause of emotional pain and suffering? Yes! The major cause of suffering is UNKINDNESS - to yourself and to ...
Views: 1056 - ***How To Trust Again - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 29, 2016 Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work. I received the following question about how to trust again: "My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ...
Views: 1055(1 vote) - *** Loving Yourself Through Heartbreak and Grief - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 05, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to love yourself through heartbreak and grief, rather than continue to abandon yourself in ways that are hurting you. ________________________________________ Take a moment right now to ...
Views: 1054 - ***Managing Challenging Families - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulSometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing. We all know that families can be very challenging! Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ...
Views: 1053 - ***Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully? ________________________________________ Louise asked me: "Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ...
Views: 1051 - ***Kind at the Beginning…Critical Later. Why? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you been mystified when someone who has appeared to be very kind and caring suddenly becomes blaming, critical, or just disappears? ________________________________________ How often have you had ...
Views: 1051 - Whose Feelings Are You Responsible For - Yours or Others? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you believe you are responsible for causing others' anger, hurt, sadness or anxiety? Is this causing you to feel guilty? "My wife is so upset that I have to travel more on my new job," Chuck told me in our phone counseling session. "She feels so alone and lost when I'm gone. When I talk ...
Views: 1049 - ***The Greatest Joy in Life - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life. _______________________________________________________ Take a moment to think about what you ...
Views: 1047(1 vote) - ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Rejected - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 22, 2016 Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now! What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ...
Views: 1044 - ***Embracing Panic - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover how to manage panic in a way that allows it to dissipate rather than escalate. "That's the strange thing about panic – when we lean into it, it loosens it's grip on us." Daniel Siegel, M.D. "The power of reflection allows us to approach, rather than ...
Views: 1040 - ******Filling Up Emptiness From The Inside - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Margaret PaulFor many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief. The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ...
Views: 1038 - ***The Fear of Being Excluded - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph. D. February 01, 2016 ___________________________________________________________ You CAN heal a fear of being excluded and rejected! ___________________________________________________________ Many of us grew up experiencing, in one way or another, the pain of ...
Views: 1025 - ***"Is There Hope For Our Relationship?" - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance. ________________________________________ Lauren asks: "I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ...
Views: 1024 - ***Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn't want to listen to you? ________________________________________ One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard. This is the ...
Views: 1017 - ***Relationship Advice: Resolving Conflict When Someone Is Closed - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 04, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution. ________________________________________ Loving relationships create a safe arena in ...
Views: 1016 - ***Healing Your Inner Cult - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Heal your inner cult with the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. _______________________________________ What do you picture when you think of the word 'cult?' For me, what comes to mind is being involved in a community where you have to follow certain ...
Views: 1007 - ***Making Peace With Lost Time - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you? Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning ...
Views: 1003 - ***"If I Move Into My Power, Will I End Up Alone?" - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be? Yolanda asks: "What is coming up for me is -- if I completely move out of self-judgment and fully take the responsibility to actualize the deepest yearnings of my Soul, I ...
Views: 1002 - ***Who Are You Attracting to Yourself? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you happy with who you are attracting into your life? "Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are." Dr. David Hawkins, Psychiatrist, Physician and Researcher, author of Power vs. Force Are you happy with who you ...
Views: 1002 - ***Managing The Heartbreak of Not Being Seen or Heard - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 02, 2016 _________________________________________________________________________________ Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ...
Views: 1001 - ***Manifesting Your Next Year - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ There is no time like right now to get clear on what you want to manifest in the coming year. ________________________________________ What do you want in the coming year? One of the things I've done for many years is to write down what I want for ...
Views: 1000 - ***What if You Knew That You Are Never Alone - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulYour spiritual guidance is always here for you, but you need to know how to access it. Connecting with Spirit is simple, but not always easy. ________________________________________ What if you knew that you are never alone - that you are always being guided by a personal source of ...
Views: 998 - Relationships: Loving Yourself by Taking The Sacred Pause - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Margaret PaulAll of us have 'triggers' that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you ...
Views: 998 - ***Do You Compare Yourself to Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ How often do you feel one-up or one-down in comparison to others? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, did your parents compare you to others? Were you compared to siblings or other family members? Did your parents ...
Views: 997 - ***Do You Have The Courage to Love Yourself? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 31, 2017 Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love yourself, and why it's so important to make loving yourself one of your highest priorities. Loving Yourself"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more ...
Views: 997 - ***How To Reassure Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ...
Views: 989 - ***Loving Yourself When Public Speaking - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 16, 2017 Has giving talks or presentations been scary for you? Discover why and what to do about it. Michael, one of my clients, asked me for help in one of our phone sessions: "I have to give a presentation to my boss and others on our staff on Friday. ...
Views: 987 - ***Relationships: When Is It Okay To Call It Quits? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 10, 2016 Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits? Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship. Mary asked me: "I married my first ...
Views: 984 - ***How Controlling Others Controls You - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this? "As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert ...
Views: 980 - ***How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 27, 2016 What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now! What does loving self-care really mean? Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means. The wounded ...
Views: 979 - ***Loving Yourself Fiercely and Relentlessly - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 23, 2017 How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly? Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives. "My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a ...
Views: 977 - ***Inner Disconnection = Planetary Disconnection - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. ________________________________________ The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet. ________________________________________ How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes ...
Views: 976 - ***Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy. "Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of ...
Views: 971 - Loving Yourself Rather Than Giving Yourself Up - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Margaret PaulMarina asked: “I often go out of my way and do different things for my fiancé. For example if he wants me to stay and do something with him, I cancel what I have to do and stay with him. But he never does the same. He takes care of whatever he feels he needs to. Then I’m filled with ...
Views: 970 - ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
Views: 968(1 vote) - How Often Are You Aware Of Your Intent? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from Margaret PaulLearn to practice awareness of intent, to move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Those of you who have been practicing Inner Bonding know that the basis of the Inner Bonding process is the intent to learn about loving yourself and others. It is the intent to learn ...
Views: 965 - Each Act Of Loving Yourself Is Healing To Our Planet - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulWhen I was four years old, I had one of those snapshot moments that is clearly embedded into my brain. I was outside by our duplex – at that time kids were safe outside alone - and there were three boys poking a snail with a stick so they could watch it writhe. I was stunned that they could do ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - ***Do You Have Trouble Making Decisions? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Margaret PaulDoes the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision? Do you ever have trouble making decisions? Which rug to buy for your floor? Which couch to choose? What color to paint your walls? What you feel like doing on your days off? What kind of work you ...
Views: 955 - ***Why Racism? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society. I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding. Those of you who have worked ...
Views: 952 - Loving Yourself When Your Partner Is Needy - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulAre you an empathic person who feels others' pain and then takes responsibility for their feelings in an effort to alleviate their pain? Is it hard for you to feel others' pain without trying to fix them? Often, empathic people become caretakers to try to alleviate others' pain so they don't ...
Views: 949 - *** When It's Loving To Share Your Feelings…And When It's Not - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive? How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just ...
Views: 947 - “I Keep Attracting Narcissists” - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Margaret PaulSeema asked me this question during one of my webinars. It’s a question that I‘m often asked. “I seem to attract men who are often narcissistic, selfish, cheating and abusive. As much as I try to not repeat this pattern and learn my lessons and grow, I still find myself with this type of ...
Views: 946 - ***Does Your Life Feel Alive And Meaningful? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Margaret PaulDo you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose? Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a ...
Views: 941 - ***Politicians Need Inner Bonding! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow would our country change if politicians had to learn to love themselves and others before taking office? What if politicians had to be mentally evaluated before running for office? How many of them would pass as being emotionally stable and healthy? What difference might it make ...
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