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- Recognize Your Life So Far to Enjoy a More Meaningful, Fun One - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2019 from Kare AndersonHow we cobble together the incidents in our lives and create a narrative thread reflects that spin, revealing our hidden personalities and our tendencies suggests psychologist Dan McAdams, author of The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By. Writing of her secret life as a prostitute, a ...
Views: 93 - Recognize Your Life So Far to Enjoy a More Meaningful, Fun One - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2019 from Kare AndersonHow we cobble together the incidents in our lives and create a narrative thread reflects that spin, revealing our hidden personalities and our tendencies suggests psychologist Dan McAdams, author of The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By. Writing of her secret life as a prostitute, a ...
Views: 52 - How We Can Have Fun and Learn Faster Together - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Kare AndersonFun Way to Learn Faster Together As a kid I spent much of one summer, sitting on the curb in front of my home, watching Mike, the cute boy across the street, riding his bike on daring ramp jumps in his driveway. (My “surprise” bike wouldn’t arrive until my birthday). Then Mike would speed out ...
Views: 98 - Passive Men and Wild, Wild Women - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Kare AndersonIn his novel, Something Happened, Joseph Heller wrote “I try my best to remember on what terms (my wife) and I parted this morning, or went to sleep last night, in order to know if she is still angry with me for something I did or did not say or do that I a no longer aware of. Is she mad or is ...
Views: 196 - How We Destroy Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Kare AndersonWhen things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other’s feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that’s vital to re-grouping and resilience. These blinding mindsets make us feel dumb, ...
Views: 73 - How You Reveal Yourself Unwittingly By What You Display - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Kare AndersonDid you know that young males with organized college dorm rooms that have a sports décor tend to be conservative? Or that liberals are more likely to have messy room? Or that displaying inspirational posters sometimes signals a neurotic?” Those are just some of Sam Gosling’s fascinating ...
Views: 230 - How Do You Want To Live Your Life Now? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Kare AndersonTo support you on your path towards greater mental toughness, former Navy Seal and Rhodes Scholar and author of Resilience, Eric Greitens shared this with me: “If I sat down in your living room and placed a giant bag of jigsaw puzzle pieces on a table in front of you and asked you to put all of ...
Views: 62 - See Kindness As Your Inoculation Against Anger - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2018 from Kare AndersonWhatever behavior we praise we encourage to flourish in others – especially when they are around us. Whatever we criticize or “simply” snub goes deeper into their consciousness however. Hint: Speak to their positive intent, especially when it appears they may have none. That may be the best way ...
Views: 215 - Your Surest Path to Greater Success and Friendship - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Kare AndersonI got this strange idea in eighth grade. To run for student body president is not a surprising decision for most outgoing, popular people. But I was neither. In fact I tended to daydream, read books that were not on the required list, and sit in the table at the far corner of the cafeteria with ...
Views: 131 - Your Surest Path to Greater Success and Friendship - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Kare AndersonI got this strange idea in eighth grade. To run for student body president is not a surprising decision for most outgoing, popular people. But I was neither. In fact I tended to daydream, read books that were not on the required list, and sit in the table at the far corner of the cafeteria with ...
Views: 235 - The Key to a Happier Longer Life + 3 Ways to Cultivate It - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Kare AndersonIn the longest study of what led men to live happily and successfully to a ripe old age, guess what trait they were most likely to have in common? The lives of 268 men who entered Harvard College in 1937 were tracked for seventy-two years in The Harvard Study of Adult Development. Those who ...
Views: 221 - More Helpful Than New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2018 from Kare AndersonForget making New Year’s resolutions this year. They are notoriously hard to keep. Instead start down a concrete path to make your work and life more meaningful and satisfying. How? Begin by “finding the thread that ties your story together” suggests Pamela Slim in her new book, Body of Work. ...
Views: 408 - More Helpful Than New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2018 from Kare AndersonForget making New Year’s resolutions this year. They are notoriously hard to keep. Instead start down a concrete path to make your work and life more meaningful and satisfying. How? Begin by “finding the thread that ties your story together” suggests Pamela Slim in her new book, Body of Work. ...
Views: 173 - Proven Way to Make Most Any Bad Situation Better - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2018 from Kare AndersonWhen told to tackle the widespread child malnutrition in Vietnam in 1990 as an employee of Save the Children, Jerry and Monique Sternin could easily have become overwhelmed. Plus the country’s foreign minister told them, “You have six months to make a difference.” Instead of looking at the ...
Views: 124 - Proven Way to Make Most Any Bad Situation Better - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2018 from Kare AndersonWhen told to tackle the widespread child malnutrition in Vietnam in 1990 as an employee of Save the Children, Jerry and Monique Sternin could easily have become overwhelmed. Plus the country’s foreign minister told them, “You have six months to make a difference.” Instead of looking at the ...
Views: 124 - What Holiday Tradition Will You Co-Create This Year? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Kare AndersonSome startled neighbors who were out walking or at their window yesterday asked why we were carrying a fully-decorated Christmas tree up our steep street in Sausalito, when it was just November. Upon hearing our story, Martin, Jim, Ingrid, Julia and Jacob, joined us, carefully picking up the ...
Views: 105 - Gain Greater Impact With & For Others - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Kare AndersonAttract and serve unexpected allies with different talents and life and work experiences and you are more likely to gain insights that lead to your greater success – and theirs. Bad collaboration is worse than no collaboration,” Collaboration author, Morten T. Hansen emphatically concluded, yet ...
Views: 133 - Five Ways Meeting Planners Optimize Their Speakers’ Value - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Kare AndersonAs a full-time paid speaker, I offer these six proven suggestions for meeting planners to optimize to value and visibility of the speaker — for their attendees and for the speaker: 1. After you hire a speaker, ask that presenter to submit three actionable tips, with titles (under 100 words ...
Views: 190 - Avoid Seeking Confirming Evidence to Make Smarter Decisions - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Kare AndersonThis trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we ...
Views: 190 - Avoid Seeking Confirming Evidence to Make Smarter Decisions - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Kare AndersonThis trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we ...
Views: 163 - Don't Worry, Be Happy (Managing Stress) - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Kare AndersonHere are five fairly simple to take some of the stress out of your life. They don’t always work, yet what does? 1. Problems seldom exist at the level they're expressed. To resolve some conflicts, look for the problem that underlies what you're discussing. Ask yourself where the actual ...
Views: 206 - How Many Personalities Are Inside You? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Kare AndersonThat irritating co-worker you’re stuck sitting by (again!) sees a decidedly different side of you than your best friend does. That’s because you have many people inside of you (no they’re not imaginary). That’s what veteran science writer, Rita Carter discovered as she ...
Views: 1005 - Easy Way to Organize Gatherings for Those Who Share Your Interest - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Kare AndersonYour hobby or work expertise or belief may be unusual, yet it’s likely that people near you share your interest. Or they may just want to have fun. How can you find those kindred spirits? By hosting an ever-better MeetUp. Also consider start a MeetUp to create a profit center for yourself. Or ...
Views: 1134 - Is Your World “Me” or “Us” Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Kare AndersonWe instinctively experience situations as individuals or as part of a group. As David Brooks suggests today, the world is divided into those with an individualist or a collectivist mentality. Guess which group is larger. Freedom to succeed. That powerful American dream attracts millions of ...
Views: 1093 - How We See Ourselves - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Kare AndersonAt a wedding I attended last Summer on the most southern island of Greece, an American was marrying a Greek woman he met at graduate school. People traveled there from 20 countries. Of the 90 or so guests, all under 30 years of age had visited at least five countries, often for study, work or ...
Views: 1055 - Your Gut Instincts & Ability To Get Along, A Quiz - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from Kare AndersonWhy do we instinctively like some people and find others irritating or worse? What makes us agree, buy, help . . . or not? Do your gut instincts help or hinder your “LQ” – Likeability Quotient? From an expert on gut instincts, gain insights about how to say it better next ...
Views: 1289 - Want Others To Listen? First, Ask Yourself This Question - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2008 from Kare AndersonI don’t know about you but sometimes I take too long to get to the point. Instead of listening, my captive audience goes on a mental vacation. They feel talked “at” rather than “with. “ Especially if something is really important to me or I know too much on the ...
Views: 1038 - Bring Others Closer by Praising What You Want to Flourish - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2007 from Kare AndersonWhen the priest was moved to a new parish he approached he asked his superior to ask for permission, “Would you mind if I smoked while praying?” and was, not too surprisingly, turned down. Some wise people instinctively know they can gain approval by how they ask. Set the stage for people to ...
Views: 1299 - What Are You Telling the World? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2007 from Kare AndersonThe secret is all in understanding a code. It is a most elaborate code that is written nowhere, known by none, and yet understood by all. That secret is how we tell each other, without words, what we really feel. How do other people perceive you, especially upon first meeting you ...
Views: 1211 - Keeping Cool While Under Fire - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2007 from Kare Anderson"Keeping Cool While Under Fire" by Kare Anderson Imagine. The number one reason people get fired in the U.S. is anger, andthe number one problem people say they have at work is they do not feelheard and respected. How do we make people feel heard when they are difficult to be around -- and ...
Views: 1763 - The Personal Cost of Shyness - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2007 from Kare AndersonHas someone nearby been sending you emails rather than calling or meeting you face-to-face? When you do get together, does she or he stand back, avoid holding eye contact, or speaking up? While there are many possible reasons for their behavior, that person may, in fact, be a victim of what ...
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