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- Early Deprivation: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that when he is attracted to a woman, it doesn’t occur to him that she is a human being. She is then not going to be someone who has her own needs, feelings, preferences, insecurities and fears, for instance. Instead, he ...
Views: 39 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Was Sacrificed By His Father To Appease His Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s formative years, he needed to feel safe and secure and be loved. This would have allowed him to stay connected to himself and connect to his mother and father. Thanks to this, he would have been able to gradually go from a dependent to an interdependent human being. This stage ...
Views: 48 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have Unrealistic Relationship Expectations If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, someone may have been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. So, they might have gone in with high hopes at the beginning, only to end up feeling frustrated and angry as time passed. If they have spoken to at least one trusted friend about this area of ...
Views: 47 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Narcissistic Parent Believe In The False Memory Syndrome Theory? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone who was abused as a child were to speak to their abusive parent about what happened, they might not get very far. This parent could deny what they say and even accuse them of making it all up. If this is the case, they will continue to behave in a way that is very similar to how ...
Views: 43 - Child Abuse: Why Won’t A Narcissistic Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they may have the need to speak to the parent or parents who abused them. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say will be validated and they will be supported. However, while this is what may happen, it might also be a time when the opposite ...
Views: 45 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Fear Of Being Seen If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he steps back and reflects on his behaviour, is that he has the inclination to play a role when he is around others. So, he can see that when this happens, he comes across as though everything is fine. It then won’t matter if this is actually the case, as he won’t open ...
Views: 47 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Grew Up With A Father Who Had Been Emasculated By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be passive, put up with bad behaviour and be depressed. Assuming that this is the case, he can see that he has been this way for most of his life. What he might wonder is why he lacks energy, rarely ...
Views: 53 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Feel Comfortable With Emotional Distance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks, months or longer, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Due to this, he can seldom be physically available, let alone emotionally available. She is then rarely going to see him, and when they do spend time together, they typically talk ...
Views: 55 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Associate Receiving Attention With Being Humiliated If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he does what he can to avoid attention. As a result of this, he can typically stay in the background and not be seen by others. He might see that it doesn’t matter if he is around men or women, or he might see that he ...
Views: 56 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Find It Hard To Leave A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a while now, a woman may have been with a man who is emotionally unavailable and is often physically out of reach. As a result of this, she can not only experience a fair amount of anger and frustration, but she can often feel exhausted. However, although she might have been in this ...
Views: 48 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Mother Abused his Father During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he may find that he doesn’t have a very positive or empowering self-image. He can see that he sees himself as being worthless and unlovable. After he thinks about this, what can enter his mind is that he is this way because of ...
Views: 60 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mother's Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. Instead, he can have the sense that he is merely an extension of his mother. And, while he will have his own inner world, it also doesn’t mean that he will realise this either. The reason for ...
Views: 53 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Attracted To Abusive Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been in a number of relationships where the woman was anything but supportive, loving and kind. Instead, the woman might have done just about everything that she could to undermine him. However, it is unlikely the woman was like this at the beginning, as she ...
Views: 56 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Take On The Suffering Of The World If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could pay a lot of attention to what is taking place in the Levant. Along with this, they can pay a fair amount of attention to what is taking place in Eastern Europe. They might not just see and hear about what is happening, feel a variety of different feelings ...
Views: 63 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Believe That She Is Not Enough If She Had A Critical Father? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her love life, she could think about how this area of her life is not very fulfilling. This is because she might have been with a number of men who were not really into her and were distant. She could think about how she did a lot to try to make ...
Views: 51 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Emotionally Unavailable If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother and has very little time for himself, let alone her. And, when she does spend time with him, he could be largely out of reach. Due to this, she will be in a relationship, but it can be as if she is single, as very few of ...
Views: 59 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Adapt To Others If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could be in a relationship with someone who is not right for them. But, although this is the case, they can have a strong need to stay with them. What they can also find is that when they are with their partner, they have the inclination to lose themselves. They ...
Views: 64 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Erase Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what they were like when they last spent time around others, what might enter their mind is that they didn’t show up. What they can find is that it was as though they were wearing a mask and acted as though they were not a separate human being. The reason for ...
Views: 65 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To See That A Mother-Enmeshed Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks or months, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Then again, she might have been in this position for over a year. Either way, as a result of this, he is not going to have much time for himself, let alone have much time for her. So, if she ...
Views: 54 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Self-Expression With Being Disconnected If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to hide their needs and how they feel. What can then be normal is for them to do what they can to please others. However, this is not to say that they constantly think about what they can ...
Views: 68 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Turning His Back On His Mother If He Breaks Away? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has been focusing on his mother and doing what he can to please her, and this has been going on for as long as he can remember, it is not going to be a surprise if he is unable to just live his own life. Due to how long he has lived in this way, living in this way is likely to be what ...
Views: 57 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Motivated If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a while now, someone might not have been able to do something that they want to do. When it comes to what it is that they want to do, they might want to join a gym, travel or move to a different area, for instance. Now, they might have wanted to do something for a few weeks, months or ...
Views: 59 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone might want to do something, it doesn’t mean that they will take the next step. Instead, they can continually put it off; with them wondering what it would be like if they do do it. There might not just be one thing that they continually put off - there could be a number of ...
Views: 65 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Outsource Their Assertiveness? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they may find that it is hard for them to stand up for themselves and take action. Consequently, it can be normal for them to keep their views to themselves, do things that they don’t want to do and be walked over, among other ...
Views: 55 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 52 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 51 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have An Outer-Directed False Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to focus on others and do what they can to please them. This can be something that just takes place without them having to think about it. So, when they are around another person, they ...
Views: 50 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Environment Where They Had To Appease Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s childhood, what they needed was an environment where they felt safe and secure and were loved. However, they might have grown up in an environment that wasn’t anything like this. If so, if both of their parents were around, one of them might have been abusive, while the other ...
Views: 60 - Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis cover all aspects of human transformation; including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, t - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can want to freely express himself and live his own life, he can find that he is unable to do so. Instead, he can have the need to focus on his mother and meet her needs. As a result of this, he will act more like an extension of her than a separate human being who has his ...
Views: 60 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Identity Crisis When He Breaks Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is behaving as if he is an extension of his mother and is ignoring a number of his own needs, he can feel a strong need to do less for her and do more for himself. Then again, it might go further than this, as he might not want to do a great deal for ...
Views: 67 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Desirable If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been attracted to a number of women who were not interested in him. Along with this, he might have dated a number of women who lost interest in him before long. Also, he may have been in at least one relationship that came to an end because the woman was no ...
Views: 66 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emotionally Dependent On A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man doesn’t have a woman in his life that he is seeing or in a relationship with, he may feel as though he is missing something. As a result of this, he can feel a strong need to be with a woman. He can believe, for instance, that he is meant to be with a woman, and this is why he ...
Views: 66 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back His Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels low. Along with this, he might also have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As to how long his life has been this way, he may find that it has been this way for as long as he can remember. ...
Views: 56 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Grieve The Mother He Never Had? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around meeting his mother’s needs, he is going to be neglecting himself. However, although this is so, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Instead, if he does think about how he behaves, he can believe that he is doing the right thing and even ...
Views: 59 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back Their Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone needed a mother who was able to see and reflect their worth back to them, it doesn’t mean that they had a mother who did this. However, if this were the case, they might not realise this now that they are an adult. Yet, if they are not aware of what this stage of their ...
Views: 56 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As An Object? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not at work, it doesn’t mean that he will focus on his own needs. Instead, he can typically be doing things for his mother and overlooking his own needs. So, he could be taking her somewhere, buying things for her, doing a job for her, or listening to her problems, for instance. ...
Views: 62 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Be Abandoning His Mother If He Broke Away? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will just be able to change his life. The reason for this is that part of him can have the need to behave in the same way. This part of him can be far stronger than the part of him that wants to experience ...
Views: 65 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Instead, they can typically feel as though they are an incapable child who is unable to handle life. The outcome of this is that they can have the tendency to look to others to make decisions for them and guide ...
Views: 57 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Feeling Supported? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a physical body and will, thus, have the physical support that they need, it doesn’t mean they will feel supported. Now, this can mean that they rarely exercise and their muscles are not very strong, but this might not be the case. Regardless of how physically strong ...
Views: 57 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has Mother Enmeshed-Mans Conscience Been Outsourced To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man can find is that when he does what his mother wants, he feels good about himself. Or, at the very least, he notices that he feels settled and is able to focus on what he is doing. However, when he doesn’t do what his mother wants, he can find that he doesn’t feel good about ...
Views: 56 - Sense Of Safety: Can Someone’s Sense Of Safety Be Associated With Pleasing Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they can find that they have the tendency to feel anxious when they don’t please others. This is going to make it difficult for them to freely express themselves. They could see that they rarely, if ever, do what is right for them and ...
Views: 66 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will generally act like one. What can be normal is for them to do what they can to please others and what they think will please others. But, as this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of how out of balance they are. ...
Views: 49 - Early Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Freely Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they are typically focused on other people's needs and do what they can to please them. Therefore, they typically won’t be connected to their own needs and do what is right for them. They might see that ...
Views: 66 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If Their Parent Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being, and has needs, feelings and inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can typically act as though they are an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. The outcome of this is that they will typically ignore a number of ...
Views: 52 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 57 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Like A Chameleon If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they more or less always adapt to others. So, when it comes to how they behave, it can depend on who they are with. For example, what can enter their mind is how they play the role of someone who is happy when ...
Views: 53 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 53 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Been Used By His Mother From A Young Age? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, there is a big difference between a man being there for his mother from time to time and more or less always being there for her. The former will allow him to have his own life, while the latter won’t. But, although there is a big difference between these two scenarios, if a man is ...
Views: 59 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Life? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability ...
Views: 57 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
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