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- Abuse: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years there has been an understanding that child abuse is very often passed from one generation to another. And as to how far back some of these cycles of abuse go is anyone's guess. It is then not surprising for one to be left confused and astounded, at how something so pernicious, ...
Views: 5711(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2141(1 vote) - Actors: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Actors? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film ...
Views: 3467(1 vote) - Addictions: Are Addictions A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to current societal problems, the word addiction is often mentioned. And there are certain things that are generally spoken about, when it comes to what people are addicted to. These are often: drugs, alcohol and gambling for instance. And due to the exposure that these ...
Views: 2390(1 vote) - Anger: Is It Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word anger and the behaviour that it creates is not something that is typically looked upon with acceptance or positivity. Anger is often portrayed as a troublesome emotion; an emotion that leads to destructive and abusive behaviour. And there is no denying that anger can be extremely ...
Views: 2542(1 vote) - Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This ...
Views: 635(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to maintain their sense of self when they are around others, there are going to be other people who are unable to do so. However, even though this is what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that someone realises what is happening. Part of Life For example, if ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Take On Other Peoples Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the need to live their own life, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can find that they have the tendency to get caught up in what is taking place around them. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to ignore their own feelings ...
Views: 1336(1 vote) - Boundaries: Do People Need To Have Good Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries, there are others who don’t have them, and this is going to cause them to experience life differently. However, although one doesn’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can simply carry on with their life and continue to put ...
Views: 1437(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe That They Always Have To Say 'Yes'? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who say ‘yes’ from time to time, and then there are others who more or less always say it. One way of looking at this would be to say that the people who fall into the second group are going to be in a better position. This is because they can be seen as people who ...
Views: 1337(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Have No Boundaries? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means to be vulnerable and so it is incredibly important that we look after ourselves and don’t allow people to compromise who we are. Physically we are vulnerable and this also applies to our mental and emotional sides. Each one of these needs to be looked after and protected from ...
Views: 3840(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 1971(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - Creativity: Is Creativity A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently came across a link that was called - 'creativity 'closely entwined with mental illness'. This was from the bbc website about a recent study that has connected creativity with mental health problems. The link can be found on the bbc website. And after reading all that was said, I ...
Views: 2204(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Can Someone's Negative Energy Have A Destructive Effect On The Planet? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a lot has been said about the planet and how it is not in a good way. On one side, there is a focus on what is going on with the weather, and on the other, there is a focus on what is happening on the ground. And although the media has spoken about the weather for a ...
Views: 716(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Ignorance? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be ...
Views: 619(1 vote) - Depression: Is It Easier For Someone To Get Depressed When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has a problem with their car, it can be normal for someone to ask them what is wrong with it. Through asking this question, they might be able to fix the problem for them, or they could tell them to go to a garage and get it fixed. However, even if they were to fix their car, they are ...
Views: 1324(1 vote) - Emotional Abuse: The invisible Killer - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe name of this article might sound a bit extreme and over the top, however I thought it was relevant to create awareness around this often overlooked area. This is a general description of Emotional Abuse, which is based on my current awareness and observations. Physical Abuse Very ...
Views: 2606(1 vote) - Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them ...
Views: 675(1 vote) - Emotional Insecurity: What Are The Signs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often ...
Views: 7631(1 vote) - Emotional Problems: Do Some People Only Want Attention When They Talk About Their Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about what is taking place in their life, it can be due to a number of reasons. Perhaps they just want to let other people know about what has been going on for them. This can then be seen as a normal part of life and what happens in human relationships. As if this didn’t ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Emotional Problems: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They Have Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a lot going on internally and they are finding it hard to settle down, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to do something about it. As if they were to simply put up with what is taking place, they will end up suffering unnecessarily. The Logical Approach ...
Views: 1317(1 vote) - Emotionally Needy Parents: What Are Emotionally Needy Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the psychological development of a child, the needs of the child are of the upmost importance. And not only are they important in the child's journey to becoming a functional adult; as extreme as this sounds, they can also be the difference between whether a child lives or ...
Views: 8496(1 vote) - Emotionally Unstable: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Easily Triggered? - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf an ornament was put outside, it might be able to handle the elements. This doesn’t mean that its appearance won’t change as time goes by; what it means is that it won’t end up falling apart. However, there is also the chance that it won’t be long until it does start to fall apart. It will ...
Views: 543(1 vote) - Entitlement Mentality: Can An Entitlement Mentality Cause Someone To Sabotage Their Success? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to people who are successful and those who are not, there are often a number of differences in how the behave. Some of these differences might stand out straight away, while others could take some time to appear. Clarity One thing that successful people often have in common ...
Views: 1361(1 vote) - Films: Are Films Created To Condition People? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to take it easy, they could decide to go and see a film or to watch one at home. This could also be something that they will do if they have some free time, with this being seen as a good way to spend it. Education Alternatively, they might have the desire to find out about ...
Views: 1182(1 vote) - Happiness: Can Someone's Need To Be Happy Cause Them To Be Unhappy? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find people who are still at school and to ask them what they want out of life, a number of them may say that they want to be happy. And even if someone as to say that they want to do well in a certain career, it could still be because this can be seen as something that will lead ...
Views: 1260(1 vote) - Happiness: Do Some People Criticise Others When They Are Unhappy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is happy, they can feel the need to share how they feel with others, and this can take place in a number of ways. Perhaps one will be more complimentary than they usually are. It can then be normal for them to say how good someone looks, or they might talk about how they appreciate ...
Views: 1393(1 vote) - Help: Why Do Some People Have Trouble Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that no one is their own island and each one of us in interdependent. This not only applies to people; it also includes the earth that one lives on, the air they breathe and the sun that creates light and gives off energy for instance. There is always going to be people who ...
Views: 2254(1 vote) - Indifferent: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the opposite of love is hate and, therefore, if one doesn’t love someone, they are going to hate them. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and that will be the end of it. A Closer Look However, if one was to take the time to think about how ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Inner Conflict: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people work together and are all on the same side, so much can be achieved. If there is disharmony amongst people, problems can appear and this can lead to things being slowed down, or stopped completely. One example that comes to mind here is a sports team. When everyone in the team ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Jealousy: Why Do Dome People Have The Tendency To Feel Jealous Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis. It might not ...
Views: 530(1 vote) - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 1952(1 vote) - Offended: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to stay up to date with what is taking place in the mainstream media, they may have come to see that it is not uncommon to hear about people who have been offended by one thing or another. This may cause them to wonder why people have become so sensitive in today’s world. At ...
Views: 1104(1 vote) - Offended: Should Someone Apologize If Another Person Is Offended By Them? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might have the desire to speak their mind, it doesn’t mean that they will end up doing so. If one was to take a step back and to reflect on why this is, they could find that it’s because they don’t want to lose other peoples approval. Fitting In Their priority is then going ...
Views: 1188(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement. It might then sound as though they have multiple ...
Views: 564(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Smothered When They Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to intimacy, it could be said that there are at least three types of people. There can the ones who want to experience it, the ones who do experience it and the ones who do everything they can do avoid it. And whether one has fulfilling relationships can all depend on which one ...
Views: 1326(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who ...
Views: 555(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Crave Love? - by Submitted on May 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is likely that just about everyone on this planet enjoys receiving love and affection. Along with this, just as many people are likely to enjoy expressing love and affection. When this takes place, someone can give another person their full attention. Thus, this can also be a time when ...
Views: 507(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1624(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Lack Empathy When They Tell Other People To Smile? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be moments when one is happy and moments when they are not. And if they were to reflect on their life, they may see that they spend more time in one state than they do in the other. This can be how their life has always been, or it could just be down to ...
Views: 1549(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Be Careful Who They Let Into Their Life If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case. Interdependent In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ...
Views: 1630(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Warn Others If They Have Been With Someone Who Is Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ...
Views: 1256(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Spirituality Allow People To Romanticize Their Issues? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. This could be a time where one will end up feeling like a victim, and they could then suffer in silence. One will then continue to live their life in the same way, and this can mean ...
Views: 1060(1 vote) - Relationships: How Should Someone Respond When Another Person Is Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can be friends with people who put in as much effort as they do, there is also the chance that this isn’t the case. It could then be said that some of their relationships will be out of balance. And not only might this apply to their friends, it could also be something that they ...
Views: 4011(1 vote) - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 1934(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Someone Displaying Real Empathy When They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be there for others from time to time, this can also be something that consumes their whole life. It is then not going to matter what is taking place in their life, as they will be only too happy to put it to one side. Self-Neglect Due to this, it can be normal for one ...
Views: 1108(1 vote) - Relationships: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - Relationships: The Healing Power Of Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhether it is relationships with friends, acquaintances or spousal for example; they all have the potential for healing and consequently growth to occur. Opportunities are presented for one to integrate and process those parts that lay dormant; that are waiting to be realised. We are also ...
Views: 2333(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Criticize People Who Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be in a position where they always find people to criticise, this might only take place from time to time. When it comes to what they can relate to, it could all depend on what mood they are in. As a result of this, the people around them might prefer to keep their distance ...
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