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- Early Deprivation: Can A Man Reject His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man has a masculine element, it doesn’t mean he will be in touch with this part of himself. If this is the case, he is unlikely to be rooted in his body; instead, he is likely to live in his head. The outcome of this is that he can be very intellectual or even ‘spiritual’. ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Not Be Supported When They Talk About Their Abusive Childhood? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has gradually become consciously aware of the fact that their childhood wasn’t very nurturing, they can have the need talk to some of the people in their life about it. Now, this can be a time when the friends and/or family members that they tell are very understanding and ...
Views: 1 - Suicide: Why Would A Man Rather Die Than Reach Out For Support? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not common to hear about a man who has taken his own life. At times, this can mean that he will leave behind family and friends, and at others, it can go further than this, with him leaving behind a girlfriend or wife and even a child or children. For those who are left ...
Views: 1 - Depression: Can Depression Be A Defence Against Pain? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone might have been able to function and perhaps function very well for most of their life, it could now be very difficult for them to do so. The reason for this is that they could generally have very little, if any, energy. If so, it won’t just be a challenge for them to do ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Be His Mother's Emotional Regulator? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and often thinks about her when he is not with her, he is going to be directing a lot of his time and energy toward her. Thanks to this, he might not have much of a life. And, if he is dating or in a relationship with a woman, he might ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would Wouldn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Able To Accept That He Is Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperA man can not only be overly focused on his mother, but he can also be oblivious to how caught up he is in her world. However, even if this was pointed out, it doesn’t mean that he would be able to see clearly. If, then, he were to end up dating a woman and she were able to see what was going ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: How Can A Narcissistic Parent Behave If Their Adult Child Cuts Them Out Of Their Life? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been mistreated as a child and as an adult, someone might decide that it is best for them to no longer talk to or see their abusive parent. However, it might have taken them a long time to arrive at this point. One reason for this can be that, although this parent is having a ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Did An Abusive Parent Have A Form Of Psychosis? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about their early years, they could remember some of the moments when they were mistreated. This may have been a stage of their life when they were often ignored, rejected, put down, humiliated, and even physically harmed. Therefore, the person or people who were ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Blame Mother-Enmeshed Men To Avoid Her Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a woman may have been with a man who was overly focused on his mother. And, now that it is over, she could feel tired and confused, but also greatly relieved. This is because she is likely to have given a lot while receiving very little, and yet, no matter what she did, it ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Energetically Unavailable If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks or months ago, a woman may have been with a man who was overly focused on his mother. Due to this, he would have directed a lot of time and energy toward his mother, having very little time for her. At the beginning, though, he might have spent less time doing things for his ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Act Like A Father Figure In A Relationship If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is currently in an intimate relationship with a woman, he could find that he spends a lot of time giving but very little time receiving. Due to this, he can often feel weighed down and drained by her needs. And, no matter what he does for or gives her, she might often criticise him ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Unable To See Beyond Her Own Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who has the inclination to focus on and meet his mother's needs, were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he is ignoring himself. He can see that unless he is asleep or working, he is often doing things for her. What he can also see is that if he is not ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Settle For Emotional Breadcrumbs In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could be dating or in a relationship with someone, but it might not be very fulfilling. So, they might rarely hear from them or see them, and when they do see them, they might typically be emotionally absent. Furthermore, when they do spend time together, they ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Make It Hard For Someone To Experience Self-Control? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they find it hard to stick to things and often say things that they later regret. As a result of this, they can have endless goals that they haven’t achieved and have fallen out with a lot of people. Due ...
Views: 4 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Attracted To Emotionally Unstable Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship, when he is around his girlfriend, he could find that he has the tendency to be on edge, to be focused on her moods and to do what he can to please her. This can be because she is often emotionally unstable and unpredictable. Thus, by not relaxing around her, ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Had Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that it is difficult for them to make it clear when they don’t want to do something. Instead, they can find that they have the inclination to go along with things that they don’t want to do. They might see that ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Mans Mother Projected Her Disowned Darkness Into Him? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels worthless, down and even has moments when he thinks about ending his life. He might see that he has only started to feel this way in recent years, or he might see that he has been this way for as long as ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: Why Would A Man Have Had A Devouring Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to think about what his mother is like, he could think about someone who is controlling, critical, cold and domineering. Therefore, when he is around her, he is not going to feel free, supported, loved or valued. Due to this, he might think that he needs to spend as little time ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: What Can A Man Believe About Relationships If His Father Was Abused By His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, he can be with a woman who is typically emotionally distant and has very little interest in how he feels, seldom listens to what he has to say, regularly puts him down and humiliates him, and she might even ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Devouring Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he finds it hard to stand on his own two feet, stand up for himself, and feel good. As a result of this, his life is unlikely to be very fulfilling. He might see that he has been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be An Emotional Caretaker If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own feelings, needs and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, they can typically come across as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when it comes to the ...
Views: 4 - Early Deprivation: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Process A Loss If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to experience a breakup, lose a pet or loved one, they might face and experience how they feel. This doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to live their life. However, due to the impact that a loss has on them, they might not be able to live in the same way as they did before. ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, were to reflect on how he behaves, what might enter his mind is how he is more like his mothers parent than her son. This is because he won’t just be there for her from time to time; his life will revolve ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Have Had A Cold Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what their mother was like during their early years, they might not think of someone who was emotionally attuned, affectionate and supportive. Instead, they could think of someone who was emotionally distant, was seldom affectionate and was unsupportive. Along ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Does A Man Need A Developed Feminine Aspect To Have A Developed Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man finds it hard to be assertive, take action and be emotionally centred, for instance, it can seem as though he has an underdeveloped masculine aspect. This is because this part of him will seemingly give him the power that he needs to stand up for himself, get things done, and provide ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Experience Self-Pity If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they often feel, they can find that they have the inclination to feel sorry for themselves. When this takes place, they can have thoughts that relate to them being a victim and life not being fair. They can see that, once they go into this inner ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have An Underdeveloped Feminine Aspect If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man doesn’t have a woman in his life, and he were to step back and reflect on how he feels, he can find that he feels empty. Additionally, he can find that it doesn’t feel supported. After this, he can conclude that the sooner he has a woman in his life, the better. As a result, it might ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Dehumanised Him? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel low and even depressed, and he might even have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As for what his life is like, it is likely to be anything but fulfilling. So, he can have a job that is soul-destroying, or he might have a job that is ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Crave Attention Over Intimacy If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have a strong need for attention. Their need for intimacy, on the other hand, can be more or less nonexistent. As a result of this, they will like having other people’s eyes on them and on what they ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Hide Themselves If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, it can be as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when they are around ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Being Seen With Being Trapped If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that, when they are around others, they tend to play a role. Therefore, instead of freely expressing themselves, they will go into a fixed way of behaving. So, their focus will be on pleasing others, and they can ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emasculated If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man can find is that it is difficult for him not only to feel settled, but to also feel good about himself. If this is the case, what will be normal is for him to feel anxious and fearful, and worthless and ashamed. Now, if he were to think about why this is, what might enter his mind ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Is Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that, when he is around his mother, he becomes someone else. So, he can lose touch with his needs and how he feels and focus on her. As for his mother, she can typically talk about what she has been doing and what is ...
Views: 25 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Conditioned To Sacrifice Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man acts as though he is an extension of his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, what can be clear to an outsider is that he is out of balance. The reason for this is that he is a separate human being who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead. Therefore, by behaving ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Unworthy Of Being Seen And Heard If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to be in the background in life. So, this can mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Then again, they might not spend much time by themselves and could spend a lot of ...
Views: 26 - Manifestation: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Manifest Something If They Feel Unworthy? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to attain a thing, meet a certain type of person, or have a certain experience, they could do what they can to manifest what they desire. So, what they can do is use a visualisation technique where they imagine that they have already achieved what they want to achieve. This ...
Views: 26 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Feel Responsible For His Mothers Moods? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that when his mother feels down, he usually does what he can to make her feel better. For example, he might call her if he is not free, but if he is free, he might go and see her. If he does go and see her, this could be ...
Views: 23 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Doesn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Respect His Boundaries? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not at work, and even if he is, there can be moments when his mother expects him to be there for her. After she has contacted him, he could soon be on his way to see her and do what she wants. What this is likely to show is that his mother's needs come first, and his needs are of ...
Views: 24 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to feel low and be depressed. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Assuming that this is so, it can not only seem as though they were simply ...
Views: 32 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Not Realise Her Son Has A Self/Soul? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is caught up in his mother’s world, were to reflect on how he lives his life, he could see that it’s as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. He could see that he spends a lot of time doing things for her and very little time, in comparison, doing things for ...
Views: 31 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have Sex To Receive The Love He Missed Out On As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have spent a fair amount of time learning about how to please a woman sexually. So, he might have watched videos, read articles and books, and had numerous conversations with other men in order to improve this area of his life. Along with this, he might have had sex ...
Views: 31 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Look For A Mother Figure If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to describe the type of woman that he is looking for, he could say that he is looking for a woman who is understanding, affectionate, caring and feminine. Over the years, he might have been with a number of women who were like this. Or, to be more precise, he might have been ...
Views: 31 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Look For A Father Figure If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to describe the type of man that she wants to be with, she could say that she wants a man who is emotionally strong and can lead, protect and take care of her. Over the years, she might have been with a number of men who were like this. In fact, the last man that she was with ...
Views: 35 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A ‘Not Good Enough’ Program Running If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that it doesn’t matter what they do, as they don’t feel as though they have done enough or are good enough. Thanks to this, they are likely to spend a lot of time doing and giving, but very little time being ...
Views: 37 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have Two Selves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone looks like one person on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they will be one person on the inside. The reason for this is that there can be the self that they are aware of, their conscious self and then, there can be the self that they are not aware of, their unconscious ...
Views: 35 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Feel Vulnerable After Her Abusive Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a woman’s father may have passed, and this may have left her in a very bad way. However, thanks to what her relationship was like with her father, she might not just be grieving his loss. No, in addition to this, she can also feel exposed and as though she is no longer as safe a ...
Views: 36 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Withdrawn True Self If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, they can come across as though they are merely an extension of others. Assuming that this is the case, when they are ...
Views: 37 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide How They Feel If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a wide range of feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will come across in this way. Instead, they can typically come across as though they only experience a few feelings or only positive feelings. So, they can have the inclination to come across as though everything is fine ...
Views: 40 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is entangled in his mother’s world and his life largely revolves around her needs, he might not see it. However, if he were to end up dating a woman, the woman could soon see that he is out of balance. Not only this, but she could see that his mother is not grateful for what he does ...
Views: 40 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Sexualise Herself If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may find is that she has the tendency to present herself as an object that exists to be desired by men and perhaps women. As a result, when she is out in public, she can typically not wear much or wear clothes that are very ...
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