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- Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1626 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1633 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2194 - Relationships: Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away. And, if someone ...
Views: 909 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Focusing On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that having needs is part of being human, and this means that everyone has them. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. A Difference Experience When someone does feel comfortable with their needs, it will ...
Views: 1271 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to buying a new car, someone could go for a car that looks the best or they could take their time and see what car they prefer to drive. If they were only buying a car to put on display, it could be said that the first approach would be the best one to take. However, as they ...
Views: 1411 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Will Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that thanks to social media, how someone looks is even more important than ever before. The average person can feel the need to look their best regardless of if they are in the real world or online. Fortunately, it can be relatively easy for someone to look their best ...
Views: 1173 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Help Others Because They Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can assist others in a direct manner, they can also do this indirectly. As a result of this, it is not necessary for one to work in the helping profession, for instance, in order to make a difference. However, even if one was in a position where they didn’t help others ...
Views: 1237 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people ...
Views: 794 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Rescuing Others? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one generally ignores their own needs and focuses on other people’s needs, they can be described as someone who rescues others. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to neglect their own life. Out of Balance It could be said that while it is good thing that one ...
Views: 1201 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Listen So That They Can Talk? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one says something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will listen to what they have to say. What they could do is focus on what they have to say and wait until one has finished talking. In One Ear and Out the Other As a result of this, one may as well have been talking to ...
Views: 1183 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Talk To You When They Want Something? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships can be based on give and take, they can also be out of balance. When this happens, one person can give and another person can take, and this is going to lead to problems. Normal However, this is not to say that either of these people will realise that they are out ...
Views: 1273 - Relationships: Do Some People Put Up With Dysfunctional Relationships In Order To Avoid Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who end up in relationships that are fulfilling, there are others who don’t. This is going to mean that not everyone is going to know what it is like to be in a fulfilling relationship. Unfulfilling When one is used to being in relationships that are not as ...
Views: 1489 - Relationships: Do Some People Reject Others To Avoid Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted. And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ...
Views: 3710 - Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 2018 - Relationships: Do Some People Try To Understand Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the tendency to attract people who are not right for them, it can cause them to suffer. This can be something that will consume their whole life, and it will then stop them from being able to experience a fulfilling existence. Alternatively, they could end up turning their ...
Views: 1423 - Relationships: Do Some People Use Dating Sites For Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to buy something in the past, they would have had to go out and get it; nowadays, this is no longer necessary. The only thing one needs to do is to go on their device, and once they have found what they want, there is a strong chance that it will even be delivered. As a result, ...
Views: 1406 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Close Their Heart? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while there are people who are in touch with how they feel, there are those who are not. As a result of this, there is going to be a big difference when it comes to how they experience life. A Whole Human Being When one is in touch with how they feel, it is likely ...
Views: 963 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Feel Comfortable Around People Who Are Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one ends up with people who are not right for them, it can be a sign that they end up with people who are self-centred. This is then not going to be something that has taken place on one occasion; it will be a regular occurrence. So when they end up in a relationship like this, it is not ...
Views: 1492 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Love With Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that some car journeys can be peaceful and obstacle free and some can be noisy and full of obstacles, relationships can also fall into one of these two categories. What is clear is that it is going to be far healthier for someone to be in a relationship that falls into the fist ...
Views: 822 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go shopping and they were to speak to someone who works in a store, it is highly unlikely that they will expect them to treat them like a close friend would. In fact, they might not know what to expect from them. This is something that can all depend on how they are treated by ...
Views: 1194 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1786 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional. There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And ...
Views: 1589 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With People Who’re Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who typically eat food that is unhealthy, there are others who typically eat food that is healthy. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. A Big Effect When one can relate to the former, it could mean that they have the tendency to eat a ...
Views: 1672 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Safe With Abuse? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who are in healthy relationships, there are others who aren’t. As a result of this, some people are going to be with people who have a negative effect on them. Zero Tolerance If someone is in a healthy relationship, or if they have had them in the past, ...
Views: 1053 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are the people who come across as needy and, on the other hand, there are those who attract these people. It could then be said that these people are going to have a radically different experience when to comes to this area of their life. If one is used to being needy, ...
Views: 1138 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1588 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their last relationship, what they may find is that they started to lose themselves when they first started meeting the other and had more or less completely lost themselves once they were together. There is the chance that this has taken place on more than one ...
Views: 810 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men/Women? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments when they get angry with the opposite sex, there are others who always feel this way. In this case, it could be said that it would be more appropriate to say that they hate them. As a result of this, it might not be possible for them to settle ...
Views: 1600 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk on Eggshells? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone can express who they are their life is going to be far more fulfilling than it would be if this wasn't the case. Here, one will be able to listen to themselves and they will be able to allow what is going on within them to come out. This will enable them to authentically connect ...
Views: 810 - Relationships: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can give people a helping hand from time to time, they can also try to do everything for them. When this happens, other people may not see them as someone who is there to give them support from time to time; they can see them as someone who is responsible for their life. Their ...
Views: 1494 - Relationships: Do Some Websites Condition People To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is incredible easy for someone to learn about something, and this is largely due to the internet. The only thing they need in order to access all the information they could ever need is to have some kind of device. Once they are online, one can go straight to a website ...
Views: 1370 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhood's Set Them Up To Attract Submissive Men? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women who attract men who are in touch with their masculine strength, while there are others who don’t. As a result of this, their experiences with the opposite sex are going to be very different. One Experience If a woman is used to being with men who are in touch with ...
Views: 1632 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Dependent On Men? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman is an individual, she will be able to pay attention to her own needs and feelings. Not only this, she will have good boundaries, meaning that she will generally have a strong sense of herself. What this will do is allow her to live a life that is in alignment with who she is, as ...
Views: 1250 - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing a woman may find, when it comes to her relationships, is that she has the tendency to be drawn to men who are not very pleasant. As a result of this, she could struggle to understand what is going on. Due to the experiences that she has had with a number of different men, she may ...
Views: 675 - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could say that they hate a certain type of food, for instance, they can also say that they hate the opposite gender. It one could relate to the first example (or if they hated something similar), it is unlikely to have much of an effect on their life. However, if they were in ...
Views: 1638 - Relationships: Do We Judge Others In The Same Way That We Judge Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that just about everyone on this planet judges others from time to time. However, one of the main differences is that some people are more judgmental than others. The Difference Along with this, not everyone judges others in the same way. What this means is that one ...
Views: 939 - Relationships: Do We Only Allow People To Treat Us As Bad As We Treat Ourselves? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who was in an abusive relationship, they might believe that this person is a victim. And, if this is the case, the person they are with is naturally going to be the perpetrator. Assistance One could speak to them about what they go through when they are ...
Views: 1107 - Relationships: Do We See Others As We Want Them To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that in the very beginning of a relationship, one doesn’t see the other person for who they are, what they see is their own projections. So here, one will create all kinds of associations in their mind and attach these to the other person. The other person may even posses one ...
Views: 1820 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other Adults To Fulfil Your Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ...
Views: 2001 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other People To Accept You Or Reject You? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to talking to people that one’s knows and gets on with, there is not going to be any thought as to whether one will be accepted by them. And this is because at a deeper level they know that the other person accepts them. So unless there is so kind of tension or something ...
Views: 1596 - Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2897 - Relationships: Do You Hide Your True-Self When You Are Around Your Friends? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their career, they may find that they do something that really matters to them. And if they were to think about what their relationships are like, they may also find that this area of their life is just as fulfilling. It could be said that this will be the ideal ...
Views: 1336 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Accept You For Who You Are Or For What You Do? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that human beings need in order to live a fulfilling life is to be accepted for who they are. But while they have this need, it doesn’t mean that it is always met. And even when one does feel as though the people around them accept them for who they are, it could be that they only ...
Views: 1484 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Bring Out The Best In You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ...
Views: 1771 - Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because ...
Views: 1814 - Relationships: Does A Lot Of Relationship Advice Encourage People To See Themselves As Powerless Victims? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of ...
Views: 231 - Relationships: Does A Woman Lack Self-Awareness If She Believes That All Men Are The Same? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women in today’s world who believe that all men are the same, and it could be said that this is nothing new. It might not be inaccurate to say that this is how it has always been, but it has certainly been this way for a little while. However, what is different nowadays is ...
Views: 1448 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
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