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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1948 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesn’t mean that this is what always happens. There will be some ...
Views: 2626 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract Friends Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ...
Views: 1642 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4452 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1754 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can’t love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ...
Views: 1742 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed When They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else. Also, there are still ...
Views: 839 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was ...
Views: 5021 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that this will actually take place. Instead, they could find it incredibly difficult to find someone to share their life with. As a result of this, this area of their life could end up overshadowing just about every ...
Views: 1320 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are not enough, it can end up having a big affect on just about every area of their life. One area in particular that this can impact is their romantic relationships. However, just because someone has this view of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are aware ...
Views: 641 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is being treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will realise what it taking place. This might be hard for some people to believe though, and this is because of how they experience life. For example, if one is in a position where they have been treated badly for a certain ...
Views: 1381 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Have To Do What Other People Want In Order To Be Accepted? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of human nature to want to be accepted, and this is something that human beings need during the beginning of their life. When this takes place, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to function when they are older. Self-Acceptance The reason for this is ...
Views: 1016 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Cheat? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing why some people cheat, it is certainly not a black and white answer. So based on my current level of awareness and intelligence; I will do my best to give some answers to this question. Three Experiences I believe that in order to understand or at least try to ...
Views: 2316 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Come On Strong And Then Go Silent? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has met someone for the first time, they may find that they continue to show a lot of interest in them. And there is also the chance that they behaved in this way before they even met them. Another Option If this was the case, it is likely to show that they met them on an online ...
Views: 1381 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1627 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People They're Not Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality. One could meet someone ...
Views: 1648 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not As Developed? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together they often find that they each bring something different to the relationship. So while one person might be really good at something; the other person might not have the same ability. But this doesn’t mean that this will apply to everything, as there is a strong ...
Views: 1394 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1649 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When ...
Views: 996 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 1982 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 1937 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Emotionally Unstable If They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can handle life regardless of whether they are with someone, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are going to have a radically different experience when they are not with someone. Two Experiences When one is able to handle ...
Views: 1382 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are. And when they are not in a relationship, ...
Views: 3215 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Needy When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is in a relationship or not, they may find that they don’t feel needy. What this can show is that one has a strong centre, and this is why they are able to function. One Experience Therefore, if one is not in a relationship, they are not going to be in a position ...
Views: 1161 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11123 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile reaching out to others and experiencing intimacy is normal for some people, there are others who experience life in a very different way. When someone can reach out to others and experience intimacy, they could be in a fulfilling relationship. However, even if they are not with someone ...
Views: 1200 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship where one feels a healthy sense of love from another, is one of the most important elements of having a fulfilling relationship. Love can mean different things to different people, but generally this can include: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch, care and ...
Views: 8822 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1880 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1783 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find That Other People Are Never There When They Need Them? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them. And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ...
Views: 1551 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1810 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1746 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 1056 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6284 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
Views: 3687 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Leave A Relationship When The Other Person Grows? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons why one would want to be in a relationship with someone, and while they might be aware of these reasons, there is also the chance that they won’t be. At the same time, they might be aware of one of the reasons why they want to be with someone else. In Touch ...
Views: 1392 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 2056 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Interest When Another Person Treats Them Well? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had the desire to be in a relationship, they might think about what they can do to find the right person. This could then be a time when they will join at least one dating app and/or they might start going out a few times a week. Now, this is not to say that they will end up going ...
Views: 1234 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life. Through being together, certain parts of their life are ...
Views: 1133 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Message Others And Then Say They Are Busy When It Comes To Getting Together? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not longer necessary for one to be with someone in order to speak to them. It could be said that this is nothing new, as it has been possible to speak to people over the phone for a quiet some time. However, what is relatively new is that this doesn’t need to take place ...
Views: 1181 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Need Others To Tell Them What To Do? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people. This is what will be ...
Views: 1708 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Neglect Their Own Needs When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could pay attention to their own needs when they are single, this could be something that changes when they are in a relationship. It could then be said that one will have a sense of self when they are single and end up losing their sense of self when they are not. Two ...
Views: 1430 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Feel Good About Themselves When They're In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may find is that they are able to feel good themselves, even if they are not in a relationship. It will then be clear that they are not going to be dependent on anyone else in order to experience positive feelings. Being this way is most likely going to stop them from starting a ...
Views: 863 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Rescuing Others? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being there for others, there are some people who can’t help but extend themselves. It might not matter what is taking place in their life, as they can be happy to put it to one side. What someone else is going thorough is going to be seen as something that is far more ...
Views: 1261 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can find that they can function whether they are with someone or if they are by themselves, there are others who are not in the same position. In this case, one can find that they struggle when they are not with someone. On the other side, one could find that they it is not ...
Views: 1202 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Play Games In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is often the intention to have a relationship that is free from games and all the drama that they can create; this does not always mean that one will avoid them altogether. And as a result of this, one may come to the conclusion that they have absolutely no control as to whether their ...
Views: 2356 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Put Up With Bad Behaviour When Someone Is Attractive? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is not going to matter what someone looks like as they won’t put up with behaviour that has a negative effect on them. Therefore, if they have just met someone or if they are in a relationship, their behaviour is not going to change. But if there is a difference, they ...
Views: 1325 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 2166 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them. And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships ...
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