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- Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 1945 - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 1945 - Defence Mechanism: Repression - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRepression, as I see it, is denying a situation of any expression or exposure, until it has gone from our awareness or rarely takes up too much of our attention. This can be brought about in two ways, which depend on the subjective severity of the experience. The first one is by the use of ...
Views: 1945 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 1945 - Smartphones: Can Smartphone’s Cause People To Be Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to use the internet, they no longer need to sit in front of a computer; the only thing they need to do it to use a Smartphone. This means that one can go online no matter where they are or what they are doing. As a result of this, going online has become a normal part of ...
Views: 1942 - Healing: How Does Healing Work? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy current outlook to healing and processing is that, along with the individual's willingness to process their past, the other important element to releasing our patterns is to be assisted by someone who has achieved a certain level of presence. And that the processing (healing) technique alone ...
Views: 1941 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is nothing like a good victim story to get people’s attention. The media routinely covers a certain event or situation where one person or a group of people are labelled as victims. And based on what happens in these situations, it is often very difficult to disagree with the ...
Views: 1941 - Self-Talk: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere is how one is spoken to by others, and then there is how one speaks to themselves. And what is taking place internally can often be known through what is taking place externally. This means that how one allows other people to talk to them is often a reflection of how they talk to ...
Views: 1940 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Reveal Our True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRevealing who one is to others is not always easy and I believe that this can be due to two reasons. Firstly this can come about through not knowing who one is and secondly through the feeling that it is not safe for one to reveal who one is. Both of these reasons can be the result of ones ...
Views: 1934 - Dependency: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Dependency? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances. This is something that can relate to every need ...
Views: 1931 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to find out that a woman is unable to handle life and needs other people to prop her up, he could soon come to the conclusion that it would be better for him to move on. It will be only too clear that being with a woman like this is going to be more trouble than it’s worth. Two ...
Views: 1930 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent times, people have become more aware of how powerful their thoughts are and while the power of one’s thoughts is nothing new, it was not something that was as well known in the past. And the reason more people are aware of the power of their thoughts is partly down to the internet. ...
Views: 1929 - Success: What Does It Mean To Be Successful? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word success is widely used in today’s world and it is something that is sought after by many people. People from all backgrounds and walks of life are driven to attain success. And through the media and other means, we are constantly exposed to people who are successful in certain ...
Views: 1928 - Self Image: Is Our Self Image Secondhand? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years I have been focusing on and asking myself about my own identity. Is the way we see ourselves the true expression of who we really are or is it the result of something else. And will we be comfortable with the same Identity our whole lives. Most of us have heard how the way we ...
Views: 1920 - Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 1917 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
Views: 1908 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 1907 - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 1906 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 1900 - Communication: Is It Good To Be Curious? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard the saying ‘’curiosity killed the cat’’ and this has lead to all kinds of meanings being constructed. For some people it will have been interpreted to mean that being curious is dangerous and others may simply dismiss it as just an old saying. But regardless of this ...
Views: 1899 - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 1897 - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 1895(2 votes) - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 1893(1 vote) - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 1880(2 votes) - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling. For instance, one could be in a relationship and ...
Views: 1877 - Closing Westgate Hall: The Psychological Consequences - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe fact that the Westgate Hall in Canterbury is under threat, is not news to me. I have known this to be the case for over 6 months or more, and I will admit that I didn’t think much of it at first. So, you may be wondering at this point, what has made me finally take notice and reflect on the ...
Views: 1873 - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 1872(1 vote) - Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 1871 - Needs: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNeeds are something each and every one of us have; they are part of the human experience. And although this may be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will always be fulfilled. At times, one will have to go without having their needs met. This may not be a problem for some and this could be ...
Views: 1871 - Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 1870 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 1870(2 votes) - Sense Of Self: What Is A Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a sense of self is an illusion and that it is simply an idea. Regardless of this viewpoint and any other point of view that is similar; it is clear that having a sense of self makes a big difference and that ideas are powerful. I wouldn’t describe a sense of self as ...
Views: 1870 - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 1869(2 votes) - The Mainstream Media: Where Perspectives Become Truths - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges I have with the mainstream media, is that what is shown is largely portrayed as the truth. It could be said, that all forms of critical thinking are gradually eroded by exposing ourselves to it. Of course, it could be argued that it is down to the individual to use their ...
Views: 1865 - Emotional Neglect: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one generation passes onto the next, genetics are at the forefront. Some experts say that whatever one generation has, the next are certain to have the same. However, others, through their understanding of epigenetics, have said that their needs to be a trigger in order for ...
Views: 1863 - Man Up: Is Saying 'Man Up' Sexist? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is far less pressure on men and women to conform to certain roles, and this has made it easier for them to be themselves. However, change doesn’t happen overnight, and while so much has been archived, there is still work to be done. In the past, men had to be ‘strong’ ...
Views: 1860 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 1856 - Abandonment: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Control Your Life? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal is for someone to live their truth, this is not always possible. And one reason why this is not possible is when they have a fear of being abandoned. Their choices and decisions in life are then going to be defined by this fear and what is actually right for them is going to be ...
Views: 1855 - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 1855(1 vote) - Intimacy: Can Emotional Repression Sabotage Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the need to experience intimacy is one of the strongest needs that someone can have, it doesn’t mean that this is a need that will always be fulfilled. For some people in the world, intimacy will be part of life and something that is simply taken for granted. And as long as they can ...
Views: 1853(2 votes) - The Environment: Is Our Dissociation Destroying It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where there is intense focus and even an obsession when it comes to our environment. In many ways, I believe that this is a good thing. The questions that arise for me are; what causes us to act in ways that are so destructive to the environment? And at the same time, why is it ...
Views: 1852 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 1850 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 1849 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Susan Winter - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self-awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Susan Winter. This is someone who is a professional love and life mentor who is based in New York. Searching In the beginning of 2013, ...
Views: 1847 - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 1845 - Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can ...
Views: 1845(1 vote) - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 1844(1 vote) - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 1840 - Self Realisation: Running And The Journey - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt occurred to me how running is a great metaphor when it comes to the journey of removing the images and projections we have of reality and seeing reality for what it truly is. Something that can also seem to be, two steps forward and one step back at times. When we first start running it ...
Views: 1840 - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
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