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- Playing with Other People’s Lives - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Willie HortonFirst of all, we all know what the title means – children’s lives toyed with by teachers, children bullied in the schoolyard and employees bullied in the workplace. We’re all aware of domestic violence, psychological violence in the home and the workplace and the manner in which Governments ...
Views: 1922(5 votes) - Looking for Love - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Willie HortonI Googled "dating" this morning - Google came up with 268m results. Whether it's online dating, speed dating, lunch dating or singles holidays, events for singles... actually I Google gave me even more results for singles - 288m. Lots of people are looking for something that's missing in ...
Views: 1588(15 votes) - A Clear and Present Mind - Meditation and Flow - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2009 from Willie HortonMost people lead normal lives. Those lives are, generally speaking, repetitive - where anything spectacular rarely happens. Of course, the normal life is punctuated by the spectacular - falling in love, marriage, the birth of a child, the odd special holiday. But, generally speaking, ...
Views: 3636(4 votes) - Are You a Leader - Or Are You a Loser? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Willie HortonI was recently asked the difference between a "Leader" and a "Manager or CEO". A very important question at a time when those with real leadership qualities will outshine the "normal" people who've risen to a position for which, in reality, they are ill-equipped. Which leads me to the title ...
Views: 1764(4 votes) - How to Cope with Stress - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonI’ve just spent a couple of days with a client here in the French Alps – someone who regards his personal development as of paramount importance in his life, someone who has altered his daily routine, going to bed one hour earlier to ensure that he has an extra hour each morning for meditation. ...
Views: 2336(2 votes) - How to Stay Positive in A World Gone Mad - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Willie HortonSpend a few moments glancing at the websites of any of the major international news services - it is little wonder that so many of my clients have been emailing me to tell me just how difficult it is to stay positive at present. And these are people that I've been working with for some time - ...
Views: 2407(6 votes) - Personal Development and Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Willie HortonHow do you achieve lasting peace of mind? Well, the answer is in both the question and the title of this article. You find it within, in your mind, where else would you expect to find it! It doesn’t matter what is going on around you, what is happening in your life or who is doing what to ...
Views: 2724(2 votes) - Personal Development: Energy and Success - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Willie HortonThe ground-breaking science of quantum physics explains to us that you and I – indeed, everything in our world and in our universe – are energy. Nothing more, nothing less. And the manner in which we manage our energy has a direct moment-to-moment impact on our lives. Every action that you ...
Views: 1787(2 votes) - Some Self Help Alternative Medicine! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2010 from Willie HortonFor many years, Eastern medicine – acupuncture, Vedic medicine – was termed “alternative” by a Western society whose medical traditions could only be described as youthful or adolescent by comparison. As an Ayurvedic surgeon from Cambridge said to me last Autumn, “If I’d studied conventional ...
Views: 1568(4 votes) - Self-confidence, Presence and Leadership - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Willie HortonYou know the old expression - "They're a born leader!"? Is there any such thing - or can we all be leaders? Is there any secret that can be learned - that we can all learn? Or are some "leaders" and most of us "followers"? Well, first of all, let's get a few facts straight. Most people ...
Views: 1783(9 votes) - Personal Development and the Curse of Useless Thought - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Willie HortonI’m writing this article on a Friday morning. A couple of years back, I did a breakfast seminar – a short discussion on effective personal development – for a large organization in Dublin. Early on in my presentation, I mentioned that fact that I was greeted at the door by a particularly ...
Views: 2356(12 votes) - Want Nothing - Prefer to Have it All - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Willie HortonA number of years ago, a friend of mine asked me if I was happy. I replied that I was 100% happy at the time, to which she responded "Oh, that's very sad!" I went on to explain to her that one finds happiness within (where else would you expect to find it?) and that my being happy didn't mean ...
Views: 1736(10 votes) - Overcome Your Fear to Achieve Effortless Success - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2010 from Willie HortonOver the last year, increasing numbers of regular readers of my weekly Ezine have pointed out that, in the current economic environment, it is very difficult to “keep your head” whilst everyone around you is losing theirs. (I should point out that they’re grateful to me for the weekly ...
Views: 1605(8 votes) - Cosmic Ordering and the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Willie HortonAsk and you shall receive! The concept of so-called “cosmic ordering” apparently works along these lines – definitions of cosmic ordering suggest that you write out your wish list (which is somehow cast out into the cosmos) and wait for it to happen (wait for the cosmos to respond). This is ...
Views: 4000(9 votes) - Crazy Parents - Crazy Children - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2009 from Willie HortonThe vast majority of people raising children are ill equipped for the job. Now, we all know the general comments like “How come they don’t teach you about this at school?” or “Why is there no training to be a parent?” But that’s not what I’m talking about. Those of us who are parents know that ...
Views: 3084(6 votes) - How to Make a Great Impression - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonIf you’re worried about making a good impression, you can be damn sure that you’re not! You see, the normal mind is split – part of you is there with whoever you’re trying to impress, part of you is thinking that you’re not as impressive as you would like to be and part of you is evaluating ...
Views: 2004(3 votes) - The Essence of Leadership - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Willie HortonWe’re all called upon to be leaders – if you have children, people reporting to you at work, friends who confide in you – leadership is required of you. You mightn’t call it that, but that is what it is. Above all, we’re called upon to lead our own lives. Yes, we’re called upon to be leaders ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - What Normal People Want - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Willie HortonI know that people are constantly striving to get more out of life. I know that many people wish for, hope for, want for more success, more happiness, more wealth. But wishing, hoping and wanting something is simply a useless mental activity - a waste of energy - because the only thing that ...
Views: 1845(4 votes) - Boring Minds, Boring Lives - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Willie HortonOver seventy years of psychological research proves conclusively that we live automatic lives. "Automaticity" is what psychologists call our extremely efficient ability to perform routine tasks without paying attention to them. Stop for a moment to reflect on how much attention you paid, this ...
Views: 1945(7 votes) - Choose Happines and Success - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Willie HortonWhat kind of a day are you having today? Because, it doesn't matter what day of the week it is - Monday or Friday - it's a beautiful day. If you're not having your perfect day today, then you're wasting the only opportunity you have right now to be effortlessly happy and successful - doesn't ...
Views: 1756(2 votes) - Crazy People – Crazy Reality - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonStop watching the news! Stop reading newspapers! Indeed, we have to keep up with important developments in the news but, beyond that, normal people wallow in bad news, love discussing bad news and being the first with bad news. And, unfortunately, you know what they say, bad news sells ...
Views: 2265(1 vote) - Does Positive Thinking Really Work? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Willie HortonJust a couple of weeks ago, I spent a day with a dozen "old-timers" clients with whom I've been working for years. Early on in the discussion, as we chatted about how psychology and quantum physics proves that you get what you expect, so that, if you expect something different, something ...
Views: 3198(3 votes) - Happiness Beyond Belief - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Willie HortonHere’s a question that you may have never seriously asked yourself. Are you happy with yourself and with your life? The chances are that there are things that you would like to change about both you and your life – I have rarely met anyone who is truly happy, they are few and far between. ...
Views: 3264(4 votes) - How to Deal with Fear, Stress & Anxiety - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Willie HortonI spent some time with a client last week who talked of his fears for the state of his business, how he was afraid of what others would think of him if his business collapsed and how he was afraid of where is marriage was going as a result. Although he believed his problems to be unique, the ...
Views: 1786(1 vote) - How to Live Life to the Full - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2010 from Willie HortonEver wonder what you’re doing here – what life is all about? Ever wonder why life’s ups and downs toss you around like a piece of driftwood – why life seems to go swingingly for some people but not for you? Ever wonder will there be an end to stress and worry – whether, some day, you’ll be able ...
Views: 1693(1 vote) - Inspirational Leadership - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Willie HortonIt only takes one person to believe. That statement is littered across so many texts, over so many centuries - from spiritual literature, to the chronicles of the great explorers and inventors, to the field of professional sport. That belief may sometimes be described as single-mindedness, ...
Views: 2002(5 votes) - Is There a Personal Development Quick Fix? - by Submitted on May 16, 2010 from Willie HortonWouldn’t it be wonderful if you could flick a switch to change your life? What if you could simply press a button to achieve your hopes and goals? Well, if you look around the internet a little – not much searching required, you will find personal development websites that suggest that ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - Leading Yourself Out of Recession - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Willie HortonI simply don't know how many clients have said to me, over the last few months, that they crave leadership. The current global economic has found national and international leaders wanting. Governments have often scrambled, like headless chickens, to implement sticky-plaster solutions to a mess ...
Views: 1420(3 votes) - Learning How to Control Yourself - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2009 from Willie HortonNormal people are out of control. This is not an observation, a theory or an opinion. This is a statement of scientific fact. Decades of research, all the way back to 1936, prove conclusively that the normal person is not in control of themselves, rather they are controlled by their ...
Views: 2084(2 votes) - Mind Body Spirit and the Power to Achieve Happiness and Success - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Willie HortonVery often I find it difficult to explore some of the key concepts in what might loosely be described as personal development or self improvement, given that ordinary language and words prove wholly inadequate. For example, do the words ‘universal energy’ adequately capture the reality that you ...
Views: 1930(4 votes) - No More Stress - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Willie HortonMost people will always find something to stress them out – their job, their boss, their financial situation, their husband, their wife, their boyfriend or girlfriend, their teenage children, their health, their golf, their holidays! I have one client who telephoned my one day a few years back ...
Views: 1586(2 votes) - No More Stress or Depression - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Willie HortonThe World Health Organisation believes that stress will be the biggest killer of the 21st century. UK Government statistics indicate that over 15 million workdays were lost in 2008 due to stress. In the US, the National Institute for Occupational Safety predicts that depression will be the ...
Views: 1626(4 votes) - Personal Development and the Normal Mind - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Willie HortonNothing is more frustrating than trying to better yourself and being constantly beaten backwards. Embarking on the adventure of personal development can sometimes seem similar to trying to scale Mount Everest and finding that, every time you make a little progress, you suddenly start sliding ...
Views: 2770(6 votes) - Personal Development: Familiarity Breeds Contempt - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Willie HortonFamiliarity breeds contempt – so the old saying goes – and, indeed, there is considerable psychological evidence to back this up. Many years research has proved that the normal mind performs its routine tasks in a mindless manner, without paying what is being done any attention at all. This ...
Views: 9207(2 votes) - Personal Development: Take Real Action to Change Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Willie HortonLots of people don’t like where they’re at in their lives. Some regret their missed chances – my grandmother used to repeatedly tell me that she wished that she was 18 again! The male “mid-life crisis” sees many such disillusioned people trying to re-find their youth – often with the help of a ...
Views: 1781(1 vote) - Practical Tips to Focus Your Mind - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2010 from Willie HortonOnce our day gets going it is the easiest thing in the world to get swept away by the routine, the urgent (which, by the way, is quite different from the important), the latest minor crisis (which probably seems major at the time) or, most common of all, the endless stream of useless thought ...
Views: 2198(4 votes) - Ready, Steady, Die - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonAlthough most of my clients are business people, because of my personal development work with young aspiring sports people, I often get to spend quite a bit of time with people who have not yet grown so inward looking that they miss out on the joys of life. The psychological facts are plain, ...
Views: 1521(1 vote) - Seeing Sense in the Here and Now - by Submitted on May 19, 2010 from Willie HortonIf your life isn’t all that you want it to be or if you’re unhappy with yourself – what you think is going on has nothing to do with reality! Decades of research prove that the normal subconscious mind quite literally makes up your reality for you. This personal version of reality has absolutely ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - So Many Self Help Books... So Little Change - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonI spent a couple of hours recently with a client for whom basically everything has gone wrong over the last couple of years – marriage in a mess, business heading down the tubes, in the middle of a couple of court actions, finances shot – and, seemingly no way out. However, the very first thing ...
Views: 2197(1 vote) - Strategies for Effortless Business Success - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Willie HortonWhat a strange title for an article given all the gloom and doom that's doing the rounds at present! Most interestingly, how did the word "Effortlessly" get into the title? Surely, hard work is a virtue, God loves a try-er and you have to work hard to be a success. All these statements are ...
Views: 1499(3 votes) - Successful Living and the Thin Veil of Thought - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Willie HortonYou may find yourself dissatisfied with your life. You may find yourself trying to find a way to break away from stress, uncertainty, insecurity and anxiety. Or you may have simply reached a point in your life when you know there must be so much more to be had out of life – beyond the ordinary ...
Views: 1569(2 votes) - The Fine Art of Effective Communication - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Willie HortonOn many of my workshops, I quote a piece of well known research into the effectiveness and impact of communication. The effect on those with whom we communicate is dictated by body language, tone of voice and our words. Body language accounts for an enormous 56% of the overall effect, tone of ...
Views: 2014(3 votes) - To Change Your Life You’ve Got to Change Your Life! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2010 from Willie HortonMost of us want more out of life. This is not to say that you’re unhappy with what you have. Indeed, the secret to happiness is wanting what you already have! But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be constantly striving to scale higher heights of happiness and success because there is no ...
Views: 2221(1 vote) - Why Approval is Worse than Crack (and how to quit) - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Willie HortonThink about it, there's nothing nicer than someone saying something really nice to you - or about you. It makes you feel better about yourself. And what that means is you're giving other people the power to make you happy. And, if you give others the power to make you happy, by definition, ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Work Hard, Go to College, Get a Good Job - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Willie HortonThis is the conventional “wisdom” that has been foisted on so many children during their formative years – when we all formed our view of the world, how it works and our place in it. It suggests that hard work will be rewarded and that you have to work hard to be a success. It suggests that ...
Views: 1688(1 vote) - You Simply Need to Turn Yourself On! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Willie HortonThe average person goes through their adult life in a daze. Research indicates that they are incapable of devoting any appreciable level of attention to anything. It suggests that they only experience what they expect to experience and that the routine tasks of everyday life are done completely ...
Views: 1577(2 votes) - Do Self Affirmations Work? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Willie HortonDo positive self-affirmations actually work? The short answer is ‘No’ – unless you have a few years to spare and a heavy-duty supply of perseverance. The problem is that self-affirmation is directed at the conscious mind and, unfortunately, your conscious mind has absolutely nothing to do ...
Views: 2787(7 votes) - Personal Development - Get Out of Your Trance State! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Willie HortonThe normal mind is anaesthetized. I’ve come across people who do things they know they shouldn’t be doing but they appear not to be able to help it. I know people who insist on reading every single email the moment it arrives even though they’re supposed to be in the middle of something ...
Views: 5773(6 votes) - Has a Self Help “Guru” Ripped You Off? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from Willie HortonWe have recently witnessed the furore over the deaths of three people in a “sweat lodge” in Arizona during a “Spiritual Warrior” retreat run by self-help guru James Ray who has now been charged with three counts of manslaughter as a result. Allegations from participants in the retreat include ...
Views: 1988(4 votes) - How to be Wealthy - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Willie HortonNormal people are obsessed with money and ways and means of getting their greedy little hands on it. The vast majority of self-help websites focus on making money, trebling your income, achieving financial freedom, becoming “wildly wealthy – fast”. They simply feed the normal frenzy for more ...
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