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- ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 5 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorChanging patterns of behavior The Latin roots of 'resentment,' re and sentire, mean 'to feel again' -- to feel over and over again the pain caused by the wrong that was done. Letting go of that resentment is a lot of the 'personal work' done in forgiving, and is often what takes so long ...
Views: 1173 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 4 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorLooking deeper If you take a spiritual perspective, assuming that every experience in life is a potential healing lesson, an invitation from your higher self to learn and to grow, then challenges in your life may have a different “feel” to them. This is a major reframing! If someone does ...
Views: 1381 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorBlaming others Scapegoating comes into common practice through processes that have been repeated throughout recorded history – in family, classroom, interracial and international settings. The targets of anger are always dehumanized. These “others” are painted by the blaming group as being ...
Views: 1532 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorAnger expression management Letting it out in acceptable manners is one way to deal with anger. Sports activities provide helpful physical outlets for pent up tensions. When I was under emotional stress in the Air Force during the Viet Nam war, I played racquetball or squash six or seven ...
Views: 1420 - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorEach of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit. William James Introduction Anger is a natural response to being endangered or hurt. Challenges that commonly elicit anger include: Being attacked verbally or ...
Views: 1347(1 vote) - ***Painful Procrastinations are an invitation to look inward with WHEE - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Daniel BenorOnly put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone. - Pablo Picasso Who has never set aside unpleasant, tedious or distasteful tasks, hoping that the need to address them might disappear, or that someone else would step forward to do the ...
Views: 979 - ***Transforming Negative Beliefs and Expectations that Spoil Our Enjoyment of Life - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe expectation that something bad will happen stems from the belief that something bad has happened, neither of which, on the most fundamental level, is true. - Alan Cohen Our childhood experiences often shape the rest of our lives. When we have suffered from neglect, physical or emotional ...
Views: 1440(2 votes) - ***Saying What We're Doing - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Daniel BenorLabels and titles set the tone and direction for our actions. What we call ourselves both identifies and directs our actions. The ways therapists/caregivers identify what they are doing sets expectations for themselves and for the careseekers who come to them for help. Complementary/ ...
Views: 985(1 vote) - ***Mind of Head and of Heart - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Daniel BenorSome people carry their heart in their head and some carry their head in their heart. The trick is to keep them apart yet working together. - David Hare Introduction In wholistic conceptualizations, our primary consciousness resides in spirit and is expressed through ...
Views: 1217 - ***The What and the How - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe work will wait while you show your child the rainbow, but the rainbow won't wait while you do the work. - Patricia Clafford Introduction How we approach each person and each task in life may be as important as the content of how we relate and what we do. This has been ...
Views: 880 - ***The Busy Body - A Sibling of Eckhart Tolle's Pain Body - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Daniel BenorHave you ever noticed that your mind is chattering constantly? Have you ever been able to stop this chatter? Almost everyone answers, "Yes" to the first question and "No" to the second one. I call this part of ourselves the busy body. It is like a restless, frisky kitten, pouncing on anything ...
Views: 1674 - ***10 Ways to Dig Your Hole Deeper - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Daniel Benor1. Assume as an article of absolute faith: There is no possible way to get out of this hole. 2. Blame yourself for getting stuck in this hole and look for the most exquisitely critical things you can say to yourself about your stupidity for ending up where you are. 3. Say "No!" immediately ...
Views: 3000 - ***Calling Each Other Names: Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Daniel BenorThere are many names we give to caregivers and careseekers. These labels often reflect deeply-held, often unconscious attitudes around health an illness. They also may determine the nature of care that is given and received. Varieties of names are reviewed in Part 1 or this article, including ...
Views: 1120 - ***Calling Each Other Names: Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Daniel BenorCaregivers and careseekers We have many terms for those who offer treatments and those who seek them. Each has its own tradition and shapes the relationships of the caregivers and careseekers in subtle but pervasive ways. The first term I suggest for consideration is respant, asking you to ...
Views: 890 - ***The Sweetening Spiral, A New Twist On Your Road to Wellness - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Daniel BenorWhat is the opposite of a vicious circle? Think about it! Isn't it odd that we have no common term for this in the English language? German, Swedish and French have such terms, but we don't. I deal with this issue daily, as I help people release negative, self-defeating patterns of behaviors ...
Views: 915 - ***Networking As Healing - Part 3 - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe Doctor-Healer Network - North America (DHN-NA), scattered geographically across the US and Canada, meets for monthly two-hour telephone conference calls. In the DHN-UK, participants are a mix of doctors who are healers and doctors who work together with healers. In the DHN-NA all ...
Views: 1356 - ***Networking As Healing - Part 1. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorNetworking is often seen to be an activity that promotes the sharing of ideas, activities and sales of products and services. Looking at the concept of networking as energy, networking is an energy exchange. It may be conducted with altruistic or business motives. The altruistic or business ...
Views: 1084 - ***Networking As Healing - Part 2. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe Council for Healing (CfH) The CfH is a non-profit North American organization including representatives from diverse healing modalities. The Council is a hub for sharing healing experiences, training and wisdom that crosses the boundaries of professional training. Too often, caregivers are ...
Views: 1361 - ***Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome - Helpful Therapies - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorFibromyalgia (FM) is an illness syndrome that includes aches and pains all over the body; muscle tenderness; severe fatigue most of the time; mental unclarity and difficulty focusing (often called ‘brain fog’); depression; insomnia; digestive disorders (vague pains, diarrhea); and multiple ...
Views: 1018 - ***Psychotherapy and Spiritual Healing - Part 3. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorI have touched on psychic and spiritual awarenesses that can extend our perceptions well beyond the stage of our life, into the domains of the invisible choreographers and of the Producer. We are told by psychics, healers, meditators and mystics that the pursuit of this awareness is the most ...
Views: 1417(1 vote) - ***Psychotherapy and Spiritual Healing - Part 2. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorHealing can quickly open therapist and client to intuitive awarenesses of underlying psychological problems that may be buried in the unconscious, often brought into consciousness by the unconscious mind through physical and emotional symptoms. Healing facilitates releases of buried emotional ...
Views: 1758(1 vote) - ***Psychotherapy and Spiritual Healing - Part 1. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Daniel BenorThe Names that can be given Are not the Absolute Names. The Nameless is the origin of Heaven and Earth; The Nameless is the Mother of All Things. ---Lao Tsu I find myself in a peculiar position where everything I am going to tell you is inhererntly wrong. Words and linear language are ...
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