What To Do When There Is Friction Between Your Family And Spouse

We all dream of having a perfect life, where people we love get along and help each other out. But unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. As much as we wanted to bring harmony and balance in our life, some people just can’t get along. Now, we really don’t mind when other people around us will shred each other apart, but when the friction is between our family and spouse, then that’s when things become tricky.

Nothing can be more frustrating than being caught in the middle of the people you love and care about. This is one friction that you just can’t ignore, because these people are the “China and America” of your life. Though, it’s not easy to form a peaceful treaty between them, there are ways you can keep the cold war from escalating.

Here are what to do when there is friction between family and spouse:

* Be the peaceful mediator (as if you have a choice). When you are the peaceful mediator, try to find some alone time with them, where you can peacefully talk about the problem. Listen to what each one have to say and find out what’s causing the conflict. If you can figure-out the issue between them, you might find a way to get them into the same page.

* Draw the line. Drawing the line is to let them know the value of respect. Yes, they may hate each other’s guts but when they are in the same room, they should learn to act civil, especially if there are children around. Moreover, never tolerate when a family member/s talk ill about your spouse, let it be known that you’re willing to listen to their rants as long as it’s not too sordid and unethical... and the same goes with your spouse. This is about asking to respect your place and your feelings.

* Seek outside help. If you can’t bring your family and spouse together, seek for outside help. This another mediator should be someone who they both respect, look up to, should be in authority and is not too involved with the two parties concerned. Having this kind of figure to mediate them can create a peaceful and happy medium. Now, this may sound too drastic, but you have to consider that these people are important to your life and bringing them together is not just good for you, but for them as well.

* Never choose sides. This can be very difficult to do especially if you are aware of who is the wronged party, but choosing one over the other can only create more havoc and ruin the possibility of having peace in your life.

* Never carry the guilt. This means you should never take the blame if your family and spouse cannot get along. You don’t have control over other people’s feelings. When your parents cannot stand your spouse, it’s not your fault. You should not feel guilty or allow other people to blame you for the friction between your family and spouse, they are adults, and they are the ones accountable for their actions and reactions.

Family feud is one of the most stressful things that can happen to a person. The best that you can do is to become the bigger person in this situation and do what you can to bring reconciliation without stepping on everyone’s toes.