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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***Living a Passionate Life of Purpose

As I was driving down the road with my 16 year old son I noticed him more glum than usual. "What's up?" I ventured. "I just don't know what to do with my life," he replied. "I don't know what I could possibly do to make a living that I would be good at." " You'll spend most of your adult life at work," I advised, "so do something you love." "I don't know what that is. I don't know what I like to do that I could make a living at."

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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***Letting Go to Receive

One of the things that keeps us from moving forward in our lives is our tendency to hold on to things that no longer serve a purpose. This can be in any aspect of life--certain activities, thoughts, feelings such as worry, relationships, jobs, objects, your past.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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***Expressing Your Divine Purpose by Valuing Yourself

One of the most pervasive feelings that stops people from stepping up to living their highest calling--their Divine Purpose--is the feeling that what they have to offer the world is not of value. We are our own worst critics, and as we look at what those who have come before us have accomplished, we wonder how we could do it or say it any differently. Thoughts like, “Who am I to be doing this?” or “Who would ever want to hear what I have to say (do business with me, utilize my services--you fill in the blank for yourself),” come up when we think of putting ourselves out in the world.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Is There Life After the Kids Have Launched?

This is the time of year when many of you have dropped the last child off at college. Many feelings are no doubt swirling around inside you. You may feel proud of your child and excited about the new possibilities that await him or her. You may also be feeling anxious about your child's adjustment and yours. While this is not, by any means, the end of your relationship, this is a change in the nature of that relationship, so it is a bittersweet time. I remember my own feelings as I dropped my one and only child off at school.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Why People Don’t Live Their Purpose, Part 5: Beliefs

One of the biggest blockages people face in moving forward with living according to their passions and purpose is belief, both conscious and subconscious. Our beliefs determine what we attract and what we allow ourselves to receive in life. When we start from a place of limiting or flawed premises it will hold us back from achieving our goals and desires. Common limiting beliefs include things like: “I’m too old to start something new.” “You can only get what you want by working hard and struggling.” “Only the few really talented people achieve what they want.”r

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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5 Reasons People Don’t Live their Purpose: Part 1, Clarity

As Henry David Thoreau famously said, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” He was explaining how most people are slaves to their work and to those who employ them. They become resigned to this state of affairs which Thoreau called “confirmed desperation.”

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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5 Reasons People Don’t Live Their Purpose, Part 4: Fear

Welcome to part four of my five part series on why people don’t take the steps to live their highest purpose! So far I’ve covered lack of clarity on what they are passionate about, the idea that they don’t have the time or can make the commitment, and money conce s. Today I’d like to address that big looming specter called Fear. Fear stops so many people in their tracks before they even get started. Taking a step in a new direction brings up many images in our minds of “what if…”. Do any of these sound familiar? “What if I fail?”

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***What Story Are You Telling?

So, you’ve been trying out the law of attraction and it just isn’t working for you. You are wondering, “What’s going on? Why is it taking so long?” You begin to think this stuff just doesn’t work, or maybe it does for other people, but somehow you’re special and it just doesn’t work for you. Here is one area you might explore.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***Are You Keeping Those New Year’s Resolutions?

Have you made your New Year’s Resolutions for this year? How’s it going? How has it gone in past years? If you are like most people, you start out with the best intentions and then gradually you revert back to old habits. Studies show that only 8% of people actually reach their goals! So why is that? Why do we always seem to return to our “default” behaviors, even when we know changes would benefit us? Take heart! It’s not because we’re all lazy or incompetent except for the shining few. The answer lies in our subconscious. Our Conscious and Subconscious Minds

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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5 Reasons People Don’t Live Their Purpose, Part 3: Money

In the past two articles, I’ve covered the obstacles of not knowing what you are passionate about and time or commitment issues. This article will cover the topic of money. Once you have identified the direction you want to go and have committed to the time to focus on it, an issue that comes up for many is having the money to make the transition from what you are doing now for income to what you what you are passionate about and see as your purpose.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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5 Reasons People Don’t Live Their Purpose Part 2: Time and Commitment

Many people say they just don’t have the time to pursue making a change in their lives. The idea of going in another direction, however appealing, just seems too overwhelming. Some get as far as exploring getting some help with this, but then back away. There is a lack of commitment to doing what it takes to moving into a more fulfilling life because it looks like too big a task. They worry about obligations to other things that are indeed important, like family and the current job that’s supplying income.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***What is Our Life Purpose?

Each person on the planet is born with a higher purpose. Our purpose--which is to say, our soul’s purpose--is to grow, to evolve, and to experience joy. The soul chooses to experience and create in the physical world in order to know itself better. Higher purpose is about serving in some way or growing spiritually. You are Unique

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Beyond the Law of Attraction: How Understanding the Other Universal Laws Can Help You

I’m sure you know about the Law of Attraction, which is simply “that which I put my energy, attention and focus on, I attract into my life.” But did you know there are many other universal laws at play? The Law of Attraction is an umbrella overshadowing the other universal laws that are all connected and work together. Understanding how these laws work can greatly increase your awareness and success in life. What are universal laws, or as they are sometimes called, spiritual laws?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***Follow Your Passions

When I was a teenager, it was my ambition to become a professional ballet dancer. I began lessons around the age of eight for fun and exercise and by twelve I was a serious student. My parents were very supportive, driving me to classes several times a week and allowing me to spend a summer at the National Ballet of Canada studying with top teachers. At the age of sixteen, after auditioning and gaining acceptance, they gave their blessing for me to enroll in a year round ballet boarding school in Buffalo with schoolwork sandwiched in between morning and afte oon dance classes.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

7 Misconceptions About Life Purpose

There are many misconceptions about life purpose. Those misconceptions cause a lot of people to needlessly twist themselves into knots trying to figure out what they’re here for. Below are some common misunderstandings about purpose that I hope to clear up for you. 1. Not everyone has a life purpose. We are all born with a purpose. Purpose is something that comes from the heart. It’s what you love to do. Rest assured, there is a reason you’re here. The fact that you’re reading this and are thinking about life purpose is your indicator that you have a purpose!

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Bridging the Vibrational Gap Between the Job You Have and the One You Want

If you’re feeling stuck in a job you don’t like and are looking to move into something more in line with your purpose and what you love, here’s the catch—you need to be in the vibrational vicinity of what you want before it can manifest in your life. There’s a saying that you can’t leave something until you love it. That simply means you have to stop complaining about how much you hate your current job and find things that make it more enjoyable. Focus on what you can find to like about where you are while holding the vision of where you want to be.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to Overcome Indecision and Doubt

I used to be caught in indecision about nearly everything in my life. I even had a poster in my dorm room in college that was a quote from Harvard professor Harvey Cox: "Not to decide is to decide.” I put it up as kind of a joke about how indecisive I was and my boyfriend at the time (now my husband) just rolled this eyes.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***Coaching vs Therapy vs Consulting: How Do You Choose?

For people seeking help with their lives and careers there are, fortunately, a variety of choices. Coaching, consulting and therapy all provide valuable services. The question is, how do you decided which type of help is best for you? The professional you choose depends upon what you are seeking to change and where you are starting from. Knowing the difference in the types of service provided is crucial to choosing a good match for you. Since I’m a coach, I’ll start by comparing coaching with consulting, and then coaching with therapy. Consultants vs Coaches

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

3 Steps to Manifesting with Intention

The act of setting an intention is your declaration to the universe of what goal or outcome you want to experience in your life. It is born of having a vision of what you want–which is the result of experiencing the contrast, or what you don’t want.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

6 Signs You Are Ready for a Career Change

Have you been feeling out of sorts at work and wondering if you need to make a change, but not sure if now is the time? It’s important to self-reflect on a regular basis and not simply drift through life and career without awareness. Paying attention to the synchronicities and signs in your life, and understanding your passions, values and long-term goals will guide to to your best choices. You deserve to live the life you want. Here are some signs you need a change: 1. Energy depletion or boredom-r

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Change Your Story to Change Your Life

Do you remember that movie called “Stranger Than Fiction” starring Will Farrell and Emma Thompson? In it, the main character begins to hear an author in his head narrating his life. He eventually realizes she is writing a story in which he, the main character, will die in the end. So, he sets out to find her and change the ending. It’s a fun and thoughtful movie.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

What is Life Purpose? Part 1

Many people are asking the question, “What is my purpose?” It’s not something that was talked about several years ago but has now come into the collective consciousness. The first thing to consider when exploring your purpose is to understand what purpose really means. Most of the people who come to me for coaching are conce ed about finding meaning, joy and impact in their work, which is certainly a question of purpose.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

***Living From Unconditional Love

February is the month of love! We’re just past Valentine’s Day, when our thoughts and attention are on romantic love. Many people feel that romantic love is the highest form of love. While it certainly feels good, is healthy and rewarding, there is actually a higher, more certain love that comes from within us and enhances all of our relationships, including the one with ourselves. In her book Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love, Marci Shimoff talks about the difference betwee “love for good reason” and “love for no reason”. She states:

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

7 Steps to Discovering Your Life Purpose

Discovering your life purpose is a journey into knowing yourself. Your life has been guiding you to your purpose all along. It’s just matter of knowing what the signposts are. Here’s a fun acronym to help you learn and remember the steps to purpose: P = Passions: What do you love to do? What makes time fly by? What is important to you? Your purpose will be aligned with what you are passionate about. U = Utilizing your natural talents and learned skills. What comes naturally to you that may not to other people? What skills have you acquired that you enjoy using?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

What is Life Purpose? Part 2

Do you feel like something is missing in your life? We are all born with a purpose. Each of us is unique and we all have a special role to fill, that no one else can do. When we discover, acknowledge and act on that, we feel fulfilled. When we don’t, we feel as if we are wandering through life, just going through the motions. And that’s what feels like something is missing. In my last article, (What is Life Purpose? Part 1) I wrote about life purpose as the path to your spiritual growth. In this article I’ll explore life purpose as your life’s work, or contribution.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Is it Easier to be Unhappy or Happy?

This was a question that was put before me recently and I thought it an interesting one. For many people the answer is its easier to be unhappy, because unhappiness, struggle and complaint are their default beliefs and behaviors. For others, happiness seems to come easily. We all know those people who seem just naturally happy, no matter what. They bounce back from setbacks and keep going along their merry way. So why is that?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Four Steps to Stop Others from Derailing Your Life Purpose

One of the barriers to living on purpose and doing what you truly love is the expectations of others. It may be that your parents had fears that what you wanted to do wouldn't pay the bills, or wasn't considered a sophisticated enough calling and they set the expectation that you would follow a certain path through your education and employment. That can be a powerful influence in the direction you take. You didn't want to disappoint them, after all! Later, a spouse may have fears about you taking a risk and making changes.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Why Setting Goals Doesn’t Work

Goal setting doesn't work. OK, so that’s a pretty bold statement. We’re taught to set goals. Goals arise from our desires and give us a direction and a destination.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How Do You Stay Motivated: Passion or Productivity?

I recently read an article that really got my attention. It asserted that in order to move forward in life and be successful, don’t rely on passion–in fact, the author went so far as to say passion as a force to keep you moving in a successful direction is a lie. His premise was that passion fades quickly and that productivity is what keeps us going through the challenging times.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Connecting to Unconditional Self-Love: 7 Tips

When we think of love, especially on Valentine’s Day, we think of romantic love. Romantic love is great and we all want it! It’s necessary to keep the species going and so it is hard wired into us.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Being in Silence—7 Benefits to Unplugging and Getting Quiet

There is much talk today about mindfulness and meditation has made its way into many workplaces and even into schools. Today we experience more stimulation from our outside environments than ever before. We have more noise and we are more accessible than ever before. More demands are placed on us in our busy lives. I'm often told by clients that they don't have time to meditate or to relax. One thing I like to help them with the idea that it doesn't take a lot of time to really recharge and relax.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to Stop People Pleasing and Start Living Your Life

Do you: * Say yes to things you really don’t want to? * Put everyone else’s needs before yours to the point of exhausting yourself and neglecting your own self-care? * Go along with things you’re not really comfortable with just to keep the peace? * Say no, but you make a lot of excuses for why and feel guilty?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

6 Benefits of Living a Purposeful Life

“The great courageous act that we must all do, is to have the courage to step out of our history and past so that we can live our dreams.”rn — Oprah Winfrey We all have a calling in life. We are here for a reason and the dreams we hold inside us give us direction. But so often we push those dreams to the background, afraid to make a change. But when you have the courage to live according to your passions and purpose, you live a more meaningful and joyful life. Here are some of the many benefits of knowing your purpose: 1. It gives you clarity:

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

New Year Resolutions--Getting Into the Right Mindset

Are you one of the majority of people who, with the best of intentions, set new year resolutions, only to have them fading into distant memory by the end of January? Research from the University of Scranton found that just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals. So, what is the difference between people who achieve their goals and the vast majority who don’t?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

What Does Being Successful Mean to You?

“Success is not what you have, but who you are.”rn ~ Bo Bennett When we think of the word “successful,” most people think of wealth, fame, influence, a certain job title, accolades and awards. These are the things society tells us we need to achieve in order to be a success. Most people go through life trying to achieve these things without really stopping to think about what success looks and feels like to them. They set out blindly in a direction that society has prescribed as the path to success, only to find that they aren’t happy or fulfilled.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Life Purpose After Retirement

Julie had been a middle school teacher for 35 years and, while she loved her work, she was happily anticipating retirement. A few months into it, she found herself at loose ends, with no real motivation or focus. Something was missing. And that something, she realized, was a sense of purpose. She enjoyed the freedom of retirement, but needed a reason to eagerly get out of bed in the morning . She needed something that felt meaningful and fulfilling in her life.

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to Create What You Want

“Energy is the currency of the universe. When you ‘pay’ attention to something, you buy that experience. So when you allow your consciousness to focus on someone or something that annoys you, you feed it your energy and it reciprocates the experience of being annoyed. Be selective in your focus because your attention feeds the energy of it and keeps it alive. Not just within you, but in the collective consciousness as well.” ~ Emily Maroutian I love this quote from Emily Maroutian because it’s so clear on how the law of attraction works. Energy flows where attention goes.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

5 Simple Tips to Become More Self-Confident

Lack of self-confidence is one of the biggest blocks to pursuing your passions and purpose. It’s certainly something that I’ve struggled with. Each time you put yourself out to the world, it feels like a risk. But unless you do take that risk, you don’t allow yourself to make your dreams a reality. Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities and judgement. So, how do you build that trust in yourself?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

10 Benefits of Knowing Your Purpose

“To love what you do and feel that it matters—how could anything be more fun?” ~ Katharine Graham What is so important about having a purpose in life? Increasingly, people are looking for something more than just “making a living.” They’re realizing that there seems to be something missing in their lives and they’re experiencing an inner sense of dissatisfaction. Many outwardly successful people describe feeling “off-track” in some way or a sense of being incomplete. That missing something is a sense of purpose.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to "Try On" a New Career Before You Choose It

Are you unhappy with your career but afraid to make a change because you’re not sure you’ll like it? You may have an idea about what you’d like to do next, but how do you know it’s the right choice?

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to Say "No" Without the Guilt

How many times have you said yes to something you didn’t really want to do? This can be simple things like doing a favor when your plate is full or accepting an invitation you don’t enjoy. It can also be around larger issues. Many people don’t pursue their life purpose because of pressure from parents, spouses or other significant people in their lives. These people often have the best of intentions, but not following the path you know is right for you can lead to a whole lot of regret and resentment down the road.

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Turning Self-Doubt Into Self-Confidence

“Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself. Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for.”rn — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart Starting something new can seem daunting. It’s natural to experience some self-doubt at the beginning. Many of us have been told, in one way or another, that we’re “not enough.” That thought can rear its ugly head when we want to pursue our purpose and move in the direction of our dreams.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

How to Craft Affirmations That Work

Affirmations can be a big help in creating the things, experiences, relationships, careers, spiritual growth and bank accounts you want. But, if done incorrectly they can come back to bite you. The important thing to remember about affirmations is imagining you already have what you want and tuning into the feeling that brings you. Here are some guidelines to help you get the most from your affirmations: 1. Keep them short. Getting too wordy becomes unwieldy. You want your affirmation to be clear and unambiguous. 2. Use the present tense.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Laughter and the Law of Attraction

One of the things I really enjoy in my relationship with my husband is how we make each other laugh. It feels great to laugh and that cheery feeling lasts well beyond the actual laugh. Laughter is one of the best ways to get and keep a high vibration. And we know that when we’re in a high vibe we’re in a place to let in all the good stuff we want to manifest. Even if you’re down pretty far on the emotional scale, letting in a chuckle will help to raise you up a bit. Then, keep going from there! Interesting Science Facts:

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Having an Abundance Mindset

What is the difference between having an abundance mindset and having a scarcity mindset? A scarcity mindset is a fixed mindset. It is focused on lack and a belief that the supply is limited. An abundance mindset is a growth mindset. It allows for possibilities, growth and understands we live in a limitless universe. Many people have a scarcity mindset because that’s what they’ve been taught. The good news is you can create an abundance mindset and enjoy more of what you want in life. Here are some steps to move from thinking scarcity to thinking abundance:

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Tuning In to Your Soul's Purpose

"If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there the whole while, waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living.” —Joseph Campbell When you tune into your soul’s purpose you feel fulfilled and have a clear sense of direction in your life. You are more in the higher flow of life and you let go of the struggle, enjoying the bliss that Joseph Campbell is talking about. Your soul knows your purpose.

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How to Make Positive Changes in Your Life

One of the things that holds us back from making positive changes in our lives is the fear that things will be worse in the future than they are now. We cling to the ideas and circumstances we’ve already created, even if their purpose is finished. But if we don’t lovingly let go of the old, we can’t bring in the new. We stay stuck in old patterns.

Primary topic: Life Purpose

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By Estra RoellRecently published1 topic

Having an Abundance Mindset

What is the difference between having an abundance mindset and having a scarcity mindset? A scarcity mindset is a fixed mindset. It is focused on lack and a belief that the supply is limited. An abundance mindset is a growth mindset. It allows for possibilities, growth and understands we live in a limitless universe. Many people have a scarcity mindset because that’s what they’ve been taught. The good news is you can create an abundance mindset and enjoy more of what you want in life. Here are some steps to move from thinking scarcity to thinking abundance:

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