If a man is in a position where he does a lot for his mother and very little for himself, he is going to be more like his mother’s parent than her son. As with a parent-child relationship, he will be giving a lot but he won’t receive a great deal back.
Now, of course, if he was her parent, ... Views: 22
Intermittent fasting (IF) has been studied for its potential benefits on various aspects of health and cognition, including neuroplasticity and neurogenesis.
Several studies have suggested that intermittent fasting can promote neuroplasticity, which is the brain's ability to adapt and ... Views: 22
Exercising your body has long been associated with physical health, but did you know that it can also be a powerful source of happiness?
Studies have shown that regular exercise releases endorphins, the “happy hormones” in our bodies and minds. And when we are feeling good, it is easier to ... Views: 18
Happiness and joy are two of the most sought-after states in life. But sometimes it can feel like they’re just out of reach, no matter how hard you try to grab them. Fortunately, there is a way to cultivate more joy in your life: mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention ... Views: 18
Inner peace is an important part of a fulfilled life. It comes from within, and it can be cultivated with practice and dedication.
To begin your journey towards inner peace, there are four essential components to keep in mind: awareness, acceptance, balance, and compassion. ... Views: 20
What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their early years, is that they were often treated as though they had no value and were worthless. So, they might have often been physically harmed and verbally put down and largely been deprived of the emotional nutrients that they ... Views: 22
Peace is an elusive feeling that many of us strive to find in our lives. It is often seen as the absence of conflict, but true inner peace goes beyond just being free from turmoil.
It involves a state of mental and emotional balance where one can truly enjoy a sense of harmony and ... Views: 18
Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed.
Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. ... Views: 19
1. If you feel a strong calling to pursue something, don’t wait for others to help you. Seek out those who share your vision and are called to support you. Trust that God has placed the right people in your path.
2. Go-getters are successful because they actively pursue their dreams, rather ... Views: 20
After suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together.
No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and ... Views: 25
What is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked.
From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there ... Views: 22
If a woman is in a good position in life and she has been with a number of men who are overly focused on their mother, she can be well and truly fed up. But, as she will be a woman who has continually ended up with men that are more like boys, this is to be expected.
This area of her life is ... Views: 22
In general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. And, if they were to take a step back and relax, they could soon end up feeling tense and agitated.
Thus, even if they were told that they need to slow down by a friend or a family ... Views: 21
What someone could find, if they were to speak to the parent who mistreated them during their formative years – assuming it was only one - is that they are unable to make much headway. Based on how this parent responds, it could be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t actually there ... Views: 25
If someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened.
However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that ... Views: 29
Medication has traditionally been viewed as a tool for treating physical and mental health conditions. However, medication can also facilitate self-growth, enabling individuals to achieve their full potential and reach their goals. In this article, we will explore how medication of Drug ... Views: 24
We all have the power to make a difference in someone else’s life. Whether it is donating money, volunteering our time or simply offering an encouraging word, giving to others can bring us joy and satisfaction.
But did you know that generosity also has many benefits for the giver?
That’s ... Views: 24
Creativity is a fundamental aspect of the human experience. It enables us to express ourselves in unique and meaningful ways, and brings beauty and inspiration to the world around us.
However, for many of us, the creative process can feel like a daunting and intimidating task. We may feel ... Views: 22
Spirituality is often thought of as a way to find peace and joy in life. But what if it’s more than that? What if there is a deep connection between joy and spirituality?
In this article, we will explore the connection between these two concepts, looking at how they can be used together to ... Views: 25
We all crave meaningful connections with others. Whether it’s a spouse, partner, family member or friend, having strong relationships is essential for our mental and emotional wellbeing.
But often in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we forget to take time to nurture these ... Views: 23
If a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others.
However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being ... Views: 22
Insomnia, or difficulty falling or staying asleep, is a common problem among individuals who have experienced a traumatic brain injury (TBI), even many years after the injury occurred. While it can be frustrating and disruptive, it may or may not be a sign of trouble, depending on the specific ... Views: 27
Take a breath right now, and notice how abundant the air is, full of life-giving oxygen offered freely by trees and other green-growing things. You can't see the air, but it's always available for you.
Love is a lot like the air. It may be hard to see - but it's in you and all around ... Views: 18
Someone doesn’t need to have read a book on psychology let alone be a psychologist to see that, if a man is overly focused on his mother, something is not right. What can be clear is that he is behaving more like his mother’s father or mother than her son.
And, as he is this way, his own life ... Views: 28
Seven Crossroads
by
Bill Cottringer
“If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” ~Yogi Berra.
Self-consciousness compellingly temps us into falsely believing we have a unique identity as “I, me, and myself,” which is a stand-alone person distinctly separated and different from ... Views: 25
If a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though.
No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate ... Views: 24
Drug and alcohol addiction is a serious problem that affects millions of people in the United States. For those struggling with addiction, seeking help can be a difficult and overwhelming decision. However, with the right treatment and support, recovery is possible.
California is home ... Views: 26
If someone was to look back on their early years, what could soon stand out is that they grew up in a family that was very close. Therefore, if it was put forward to them that they were neglected, they are likely to dismiss what is said.
They could say that this is not true as their family ... Views: 32
Photo by Kat SmithStress is a part of life, and it affects everyone at some point or another. However, when stress takes over your life, it can be difficult to manage. The constant worry and anxiety can make it challenging to focus on your work or your relationships, and it can take a toll on ... Views: 35
Sleep is a fundamental aspect of our lives that plays a crucial role in our physical and mental well-being. It is during sleep that our bodies go through essential processes such as tissue repair, memory consolidation, and hormone regulation. However, with the hectic pace of modern life and ... Views: 24
Self-care is a buzzword that has been gaining popularity in recent years, with more and more people recognizing the importance of taking care of their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. While self-care often involves activities that are focused solely on oneself, such as meditation or a ... Views: 26
A Serious Limitation with Words
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Bill Cottringer
“Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.” ~Rumi.
Ever since being a young acolyte in the Episcopal Church studying the Bible and doing a book report on it for English class in high school, I have always been ... Views: 25
If someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted.
Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of ... Views: 33
Even if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ... Views: 28
As someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it will be essential for them to be able to assert themselves. This will allow them to make it clear when something is not right for them and thus, protect themselves and their well-being and do the things that are right for ... Views: 27
As a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good ... Views: 30
Let's say you've had an interesting idea or moment of inspiration, the thought of a new project, or felt some enthusiasm bubbling up inside you. Your notions are not fully formed and you're not really committed to them yet, but they have promise and you like them and are trying them on for size. ... Views: 19
In the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part.
Now, this is something that will give ... Views: 27
Problem-Solving in Our VUCA World
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Bill Cottringer
“I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Alan Greenspan.
The new virtual VUCA world we are part of today requires a new set of problem-solving ... Views: 31
In order for a man to live a life that a worth living, he will need to be in tune with his own needs and feelings. Along with this, what is going on inside him will largely need to define how he behaves.
Being this way will allow him to live in a way that is in alignment with who he is. This ... Views: 28
Dangers of a Divided Mind
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Bill Cottringer
“Warning: A divided mind misses half of everything but deludes you into believing you have the whole truth. So, if you want to get twice as much done in half the time in finding the whole truth, rejoin your divided mind.” ~The Author.
I ... Views: 28
If someone was brought up by at least one parent who was emotionally unavailable and lacked the ability to attune to their needs and feelings, they can be in a bad way now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have been born with a fully developed sense of self; they ... Views: 29
Two Illusions That Spoil Reality
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Bill Cottringer
“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~Søren Kierkegaard.
There are two persistent and compelling illusions that help spoil Kierkegaard’s version of reality. These are: (1) the strongly sensed ... Views: 32
Featured photo: How to Help a Partner with Anxiety: Advice for Couples - a photo of a couple hugging
Having anxiety and dealing with it on a daily basis is difficult – people who have it will agree. But helping your loved one deal with it can also be a difficult task, especially if you ... Views: 32
It is part of the human experience to need others but, that doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept this. In general, they could act as though they don’t need others and this could be something that they feel quite proud of.
They might often criticise those who do make it clear that they ... Views: 28
If a man missed out on the love that he needed to grow and develop in the right way during his formative years, it is not going to be a surprise if he behaves like an extension of his mother now that he is an adult. He will no longer be a powerless and dependent child, but, as he was deprived, ... Views: 29
You know what's worse than stubbing your toe on a coffee table? Suffering a personal injury. Sure, the physical pain can be excruciating, but what many people don't realize is that the emotional impact of personal injury can be just as devastating.
From anxiety and depression to ... Views: 34
The mental health crisis in the black community has been a silent epidemic that requires urgent attention. Sequoyah Sherrill, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Washington, DC, is a passionate advocate for mental health in her community, highlighting the importance of black ... Views: 34
Life gives to each one of us in so many ways.
For starters, there’s the bounty of the senses – including chocolate chip cookies, jasmine, sunsets, wind singing through pine trees, and just getting your back scratched.
What does life give you?
Consider the kindness of friends and family, ... Views: 22
Ideally, someone will have received the love that they needed during their formative years in order to experience an emotional birth. In other words, they will have been able to form a strong sense of self and develop a felt sense of enoughness, worthiness and being lovable.
Thanks to this, ... Views: 43