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- Victim Behavior and What You Can Do About It - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2003 from David BruceOk, so what do I do about it? Here we go and lets get right down to it! Mental Chatter versus Emotions Victim Behavior is associated with many emotions, Shame is probably the most prevalent. Feeling overwhelmed is another. Feeling shame and being overwhelmed isn't particularly useful- so ...
Views: 7127(1 vote) - Seven Ways to De-Stress Now! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2003 from Barbara Faison1. Disconnect. Pick one day to disconnect from all technology for one hour. Turn off all the phones, pagers, televisions and computers, including email. Once you disconnect,sit and allow yourself to be still. The mind needs time to relax and recharge and it cannot do that with external ...
Views: 1717(2 votes) - Laughter for Stress Relief - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2003 from Susan StewartSummer is here, our days are packed full and we often become stressed. We sometimes have so much going on we think there's no time to laugh and have fun. Wrong! There is good news! Smiling and laughter are really good for your health! And the more you do them the better! From biblical ...
Views: 6370(4 votes) - Zen Mind. A Personal View. - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2003 from Clive TaylorZen mind is the “Natural” state of our beings: No self, no identity, no memes, no beliefs. Any idea of “what is” takes us away from what is – to be in the moment, all ideas need to be gone. There’s not even an “I” to have the ideas. The natural being acts as an outcome of the movement of the ...
Views: 1401(2 votes) - Victim Mentality - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2003 from Barbara BakerIn a previous article I talked about survivors who are unable to move on with their lives and/or having the attitude that everything that is wrong in their life is the result of another person. In that article it was discussed about how important forgiving yourself is so you can move on. So ...
Views: 8067(2 votes) - Learning To Live - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2003 from Julie DonleyDeath. No one wants to talk about it and yet none of us will escape it. When it happens to someone we know, most people don’t know how to handle it. And it’s because people are uncomfortable about it and it’s so final that people fear the most. In fact, there’s only one thing that tops death on ...
Views: 2809(1 vote) - Can Caretakers Take Care of Themselves - by Submitted on May 29, 2003 from Debbie MandelEmotional and physical well being depend on the metaphysical balance between giving and receiving. Both the Jewish mystical work, the Kabbalah, and the Dali Lama’s Book of Transformations assert the same principle: Each one of us needs to establish a balance between giving and receiving. Easier ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - ***10 Steps to Jump-Start Your Life Today! - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Jim Allen1. Now is the time to be honest with yourself and others. If you're trying to revitalize yourself, you have to be honest about what is and is NOT working in your life. Self-deception is like driving around in circles: you're moving, but you're not getting anywhere. 2. The only person you ...
Views: 3863(2 votes) - The Junk In Your Trunk, Parts 1 & 2 - by Submitted on May 24, 2003 from James CantrellPart I From the moment of our birth until the moment of our demise, we are constantly writing our life’s experiences onto the slates of our minds; and when we have finished writing on a slate, it is stored in an imaginary trunk where they remain until such time as they are needed as a reference ...
Views: 1934(1 vote) - Aromatherapy For Stress Relief At Work - by Submitted on May 20, 2003 from Susan StewartMost people work a 40 hour week so we can estimate that we typically spend about 2,000 hours at work each year. And many people work even more than this. Yet we often don’t take the time to ensure that our job setting is a pleasant place to be. Our jobs are often very stressful and stress is ...
Views: 2652(1 vote) - Telling and Re-telling The Dream - by Submitted on May 20, 2003 from David JenkinsHere is a technique for working with your dreams that is so simple and obvious that it hardly counts as a technique and is so powerful that you’ll always want to use it. - Before you interpret your dream… There is a first step to working with a dream. Before you even begin to analyze or ...
Views: 1623(2 votes) - Victim Mentality - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Barbara BakerHow would you answer this question: I am out of my abuse and have moved on with my life. There is something that I have been wondering about. How and when does the abuse stop playing a significant part of my life? I have seen others who have moved on and I would like to know how they did ...
Views: 29392(4 votes) - Recipes For Stress - by Submitted on May 18, 2003 from Charlie BadenhopIt is within your power to reduce the stressful reactions that you have. A key to changing your reactions is being able to track the way in which you generate stress. Recently, a coaching colleague told me a story about his client "Jim" who gets into many arguments and confrontations with ...
Views: 1388(1 vote) - Coping With Chaos - by Submitted on May 09, 2003 from Mary Ann HillierThink over the past few years: the dot.com bust, the Enron scandals, economic downturn, the horror of the Twin Towers, anthrax, Iraq and now more economic hardships. As if this wasn't enough chaos for a lifetime, SARS threatens to spread across the globe. Just reading the above list feels ...
Views: 1120(2 votes) - Emotional Intelligence & Feeling Good - by Submitted on May 07, 2003 from Susan DunnTwo emotions, or ways of feeling, are especially troublesome to most of us – anger management and depression. Depression appears to be epidemic now, globally, and without going into the etiology (the causes), or pinpointing definitions or degrees of severity (they vary; there are many) lets ...
Views: 3016(1 vote) - Adult Attention Deficit Disorder - by Submitted on May 01, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueAttention Deficit Disorder tends to focus predominately on children, leaving the ADD adult population largely under served. Most of the information presented about Attention Deficit Disorder focuses on children, parenting and school issues. All but one ADHD medication currently on the market ...
Views: 4310(1 vote) - Do you have a soft addiction? - by After a tough day, do you come home and flop in your easy chair, grab a bag of chips and zone out in front of the television? Or maybe you compulsively check your e-mail, spend hours surfing the Net or stay up late chatting with strangers in chatrooms. Whether you get lost in cyberspace, over ...
Views: 11022(3 votes) - Mourning Bands - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2003 from Paul VillanuevaThe business world does not recognize mourning in the workplace very well. Once we bury our loved one, we are expected to go back to our jobs to continue, as if we were unchanged by their death. We do not see widows wearing black clothing in the business world, and men certainly do not mourn ...
Views: 6319(2 votes) - HOW TO OVERCOME EMOTIONAL EATING - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2003 from Ellen ShumanI WAS STUCK IN A SELF-DEFEATING CYCLE! I felt out-of-control with food! I was either overeating or dieting. In either mode, I felt I was never good enough. I had willpower and stick-to-itiveness in many other areas in my life. So why couldn't I apply that same resolve to my eating habits? I ...
Views: 14352(3 votes) - Depressed? Wise Woman Ways Offer a Helping Hand - by Submitted on May 09, 2011 from Susun WeedWinter time is depression time for many women. Perhaps it is harder to look at the bright side when days are short, perhaps the holidays and family demands take their toll on us. Of course, depression can also be triggered by lack of thyroid hormone and by use of steroids, high blood pressure ...
Views: 2310(3 votes) - How to Solve Your Money Problems - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2003 from Kathy MillerWhen the bills start piling up and creditors start calling, you might want to crawl under a rock until your circumstances improve. Unfortunately, ignoring the problem by leaving mail laying around unopened and letting the answering machine screen incoming calls will only make your situation ...
Views: 8569(1 vote) - Practical Tools for Reducing Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2017 from Mark FivemanPractical Tools for Reducing Anxiety Using Body-Psyche War, terrorist attacks, a new deadly virus, job and family stress. Let’s face it: most of us have something to be anxious about these days. Anxiety is fear about the future that we keep experiencing for long enough that it ...
Views: 1760(1 vote) - Genuine Tinnitus Relief - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2003 from Charles ValdTinnitus a totally new approach Tinnitus (ringing, whistling, buzzing) in the ears is a very common problem. We all have tinnitus it’s just for the most part not noticeable. 10% of the population suffer from ‘noticeable’ tinnitus. Other people may occasionally get temporary tinnitus after loud ...
Views: 2915(2 votes) - Neuro-Emotional Techniques(TM) - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2003 from Jef Gazley,NETä or Neuro-Emotional Techniquesä is one of the newer “power therapies” that along with TFT, Thought Field Therapy, and EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing have become popular in the last ten years. These therapies seem to work quicker than traditional talk therapies. This ...
Views: 2035(3 votes) - Attention Deficit Disorder - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2003 from Jef Gazley,Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Disorder with Hyperactivity (ADHD) occur as a result of neurological dysfunction in the prefrontal cortex of the brain. This is the newest part of our tri-brain system in evolutionary terms. It is the part of our brain that has executive ...
Views: 3870(3 votes) - How are you dealing with your feelings about the war? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2003 from John GrayIn these trying and troubled times, it can be difficult to get the feelings of “impending doom” out of your head. War, terrorism, the bad economy, you read about it in the newspaper, see headlines on the internet, and watch the war coverage on TV. It’s natural with this level of exposure to ...
Views: 6300(3 votes) - Mountain Climbing over Molehills - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Rhoberta ShalerSomeone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as life-or-death, or do-or-die situations. They put so ...
Views: 1312(2 votes) - What is Stress? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoStress is an interpretation of an event or circumstance which is understood to be a threat. It can be any force or pressure put on a system (living or nonliving) which may result in a need for the system to adapt or change. Stress on human beings is like a rubber band. You also stretch to ...
Views: 2138(4 votes) - How Do You Get Them to Buy-in to Your Idea? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan Dunn“How can I get them to buy-in to this idea?” Anna, a bank manager, asked me. She had an idea for restructuring the department. She knew it would work, but only if everyone would agree to it. She talked about different department members: Bob, who disagreed with anything anyone proposed. ...
Views: 1839(2 votes) - Nutrition as an Attention Deficit Disorder Alternative Treatment: Help is as Close as the Kitchen - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueThe quality of food we eat (or lack thereof) has a profound affect on Attention Deficit Disorder and ADHD. For many people, nutrition alone can effectively work as an ADHD alternative treatment. A growing body of research points to nutritional deficiencies - especially with essential fatty ...
Views: 2383(2 votes) - Communication With The Most Important Person - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Mark ThompsonHe was a student in the 6th grade. He was great in all subjects except Math. His step-father was sent to his room to help him with his Math homework. After a few minutes of silence, a loud yell of anger reverberated throughout the house. His mother came in to after her son was slapped in the ...
Views: 1596(2 votes) - What do you believe ? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2003 from Ian ClarkImagine if you saw the following headline in the mornings paper. How would it make you feel ? ' LANDING ON THE MOON WAS A HOAX ' Virtually all adults not only in the U.S but all over the world accept that Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin on the 20th July 1969 walked on the moon, everyone has ...
Views: 1582(1 vote) - Changing Fear into Excitement - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2003 from Ted SchreddFear scares people. That’s what it’s supposed to do; it’s just a matter of how much and how often do we really need to be scared? Basically, there are two kinds of fear. Real fear allows you to save your butt in challenging situations (like being chased by a predator or facing imminent danger). ...
Views: 9332(1 vote) - Self Talk Shakedown - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2003 from David CameronAs a man thinketh, so is he. Once you realize that your world arises from your thoughts and emotions, that your outer situations reflect your inner state, you start to see a much larger pattern working in your life. You start to understand how your financial, relationship and health situations ...
Views: 1303(2 votes) - Strategies for Eliminating and Managing Stress - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2010 from Michelle CastoTo combat modern day stressors, you need to realize that things are going to go the way they are going to go, so you may as well just relax. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to practice extreme self-care which means putting your own needs first. We have had it backwards for ...
Views: 2061(2 votes) - Mourning the Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAt the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ...
Views: 4363(1 vote) - Traumas as Social Interactions - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - The Malignant Optimism of the Abused - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninI often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every ...
Views: 2086(1 vote) - Facilitating Narcissism - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ...
Views: 1878(1 vote) - The Psychology of Torture - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninThere is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ...
Views: 2187(1 vote) - What is Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAbusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ...
Views: 1726(1 vote) - IN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Pauline WallinIN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D Clinical Psychologist Author, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior" In the weeks and perhaps months to come, the world will be on edge as events unfold in the Middle East and ...
Views: 1592(2 votes) - Calming Tips for Hyperactive Children - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueParents of hyperactive children know the "Would you please just settle down?!" phrase well, and likely use it on a regular basis. There are a number of tips to help parents settle their hyperactive child down. These quick tips and relaxation techniques take the same amount of time as yelling ...
Views: 3454(1 vote) - Eight simple anger management tips - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2003 from David Leonhardt"The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going." One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows: - Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are ...
Views: 6234(1 vote) - Remembering intended actions and future events - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Fiona McPhersonThere is no such thing as a poor memory. You may be terrible at remembering names, or great with names but lousy at remembering birthdays and anniversaries, or terrific at remembering facts you’ve read but hopeless at remembering details about people. These are memory tasks, and there are ...
Views: 2191(1 vote) - Strattera, The New ADHD Medication - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2003 from Jeannine VirtuePlease feel free to reprint this article about the newest ADHD medication to hit pharmacy shelves, keeping author bio and URL intact. Thank you! “Strattera, the New ADHD Medication” The newest ADHD medication Strattera (atomoxetine) is expected to hit the pharmacy shelves this month to much ...
Views: 6016(1 vote) - The Restless Mind - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Remez SassonMost of our body's functions are unconscious activities. Our body breathes constantly, and we hardly pay this function any attention. The blood moves automatically through the veins, and we are hardly aware of its movement. So it is with many other bodily functions. Thinking seems also to be ...
Views: 2747(1 vote) - "Old Agreements" from the Book Healing Shame and Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Paul RandakOLD AGREEMENTS I’ve been trying to make clear to you that the only worthwhile course of action, whether for a sorcerer or an average men is to restrict our involvement with self image, we must shatter our mirror of self-reflection. -Don Juan Matus When we look at the nature of addiction, ...
Views: 3394(1 vote) - Caution your job may be hazardous to your health! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from William PoppenMost products or activities that are considered dangerous are labeled with a warning. Cigarette packages have a warning from the Surgeon General’s office. Stepladders have a warning that the top steps should be avoided. Likewise job contracts should be stamped with a statement that your job ...
Views: 1856(1 vote) - 6 Unique Stress Relievers - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kathy ThompsonToo much driving, too much shopping, too much rushing around, running the kids around--family and work demands have you stressed out. There are many ways to help you control stress. Here are some unique methods I've collected. 1. Yell! But---be sure you are alone. The best place is ...
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