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“Purebred” schizoids shrug off their disorder: they simply don’t like being around people and they resent the pathologizing of their lifestyle “choice” to remain aloof and alone. They consider the diagnosis of Schizoid Personality Disorder to be spurious, a mere reflection of current social coercive mores, and a culture-bound artefact. Narcissist, as usual, tend to rationalize and aggrandize their schizoid conduct. They propound the idea that being alone is the only logical

How does gratitude work? What's the point of it? Will this new craze of daily gratitude be something that changes my life? If it did, what would it change, how would I be different? Isn't gratitude some kind of religious thing? Like meditation, gratitude has been sidelined with religious beliefs to be practiced once a week, if you attend some religious facility. However, is it really? I recovered a note from a friend from 1998: Thoughts for this week: Abundance:

Some people are naturally more intense than others. They are often told that they are ‘too much,’, ’too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional. People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their best, they can be exceptionally perceptive, intuitive, and keenly observant of the subtleties of the environment. Yet they are also overwhelmed by the constant waves of social nuances and others’ emotional and psychic energies.

Some people feel more than others. They are often told that they are ‘too much,’ ‘too intense,’ ‘too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional. People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their best, they can be exceptionally perceptive, intuitive, and keenly observant of the subtleties of the environment. Yet they are also overwhelmed by the constant waves of social nuances and others’ emotional and psychic energies.

Rapid Eye Oscillation Technique (REOT) is a technique that can be used for reducing excessive ruminations and worry, to calm a racing mind, and for general relaxation. It can also help eliminate meditatio "monkey mind" -- the problem with unwanted thoughts entering your consciousness during meditation. The technique is simple. You simply close your eyes and move them back and forth fairly rapidly when unwanted thoughts disrupt your equanimity. One oscillation every half seco

People’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to exte al stimuli than the general population. They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their best, they can be exceptionally perceptive, intuitive, and keenly observant of the subtleties of the environment. Yet they are also overwhelmed by the constant waves of social nuances and others’ emotional and psychic energies.

Kelechi Uchendu is a fashion entrepreneur turned published author. In the recent release of her heartfelt non-fiction book, Bully Friends, Kelechi touches on her personal encounter with childhood bullying and provides relevant advice to students, educators, and parents. According to Pacer, 20.2% of students report being bullied in the form of name-calling, physical violence, insults, rumors, or cyberbullying. 70.1% of adolescents experience verbal and physical bullying due t

Trauma is something almost everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Some people go through traumatic experiences as children, while others make it all the way to adulthood before experiencing trauma. Regardless of when we went through our individual traumas, we all have something in common: we can become a prisoner to what happened if we don’t work through it. In order to have the greatest happiness we can in life, we need to overcome our pasts. Here are five sign

The root of any addiction or compulsion is deprivation. Deep-seated,buried, chronic deprivation. The link is often not apparent at first, and the idea of losing the need to control to gain control might seem too contradictory to fathom- especially when we are in the midst of a painful addiction. If we were to peel back, one layer after another, to the root of what now seems to be an unruly beast, we often find a tiny, fragile, tender seed of deprived need. Sometimes, the link is clear.r

IDENTIFYING PTSD FROM CHILDHOOD ABUSE And 3 STEPS TO BEGIN HEALING Bettina “Sparkles” Obe uefemannnr I’ve learned during the past 20 years that almost all of us on planet earth have experienced some kind of trauma or loss, now more commonly recognized as POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD).

“Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood. “ Anxiety is a normal part of being in an intimate relationship. It usually comes in two forms- the fear of abandonment, and the fear of engulfment. Part of us worries that if we dive in to love, we will be abandoned; On the flip side, we fear that if someone gets too close, we will be swamped or never able to leave.

“MY CBT therapist told me those were ‘irrational thinking,’ which made it worse- now I just blame myself.” “ I have gone through my childhood trauma many times, but when I argue with my partner, I still behave like a five-year-old!” It is not as though we didn’t try- Many of us have gone at length to fix, heal, and better ourselves. Through studious reading, diligent personal development work, reflections, and therapy, we often gain the necessary insights.

What is Your Emotional Awareness About Your Past? Identifying Unexpressed Emotion To find out if you are having trouble letting go of the past, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you have painful childhood memories that you have yet to deal with? Do you often feel upset, unbalanced, uncomfortable, or even cut off from your emotions? Do you have a habit of ignoring or burying your most uncomfortable feelings? Do you always show a happy face to the

My mom was a single mother. I don’t necessarily think this was a bad thing. I was born in the 60’s, and while it appeared my mom was pretty self-sufficient, where I lived in the working-class neighborhood of Brooklyn it was considered a faux pas to give birth to a child out of wedlock. My mom knew this and she found a guy who was willing to be listed as the father on my birth certificate. I didn’t know this at the time, but my mom had been married two times before I was born.

There certainly is importance regarding modern sciences’ attainments and advancement. None can challenge its requirement and utility value. Yet one can say that we truly benefit from it only when it encourages desirable creativity. Regarding destruction sciences’ achievements have always proved to be perilous. Today’s era is meant for all round progress. In that arena the brilliant people in the field of science lead world society. Governments of various countries have

Imagine it is your 18th birthday. A well-dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday. Hey! That is today. You jump up and down. Cry, get excited. Dance. Think of everything that you will buy. Think of all the people that you will buy great things for.

TOP SECRET ABOUT CHILDHOOD PTSD Are you experiencing too many PTSD Triggers? Do you still get “startled” or “react with rage or suffer other symptoms? I have shocking news for you. You haven’t fully released all your childhood demons or core PTSD issues.

Do you know that you can be living with a brain aneurism and might not even know it? An article released by ABC News called “8 Everyday Ways to Have a Brain Bleed” says that if you “[smoke], [have] hypertension, [are] female or [have] a family history of an aneurisms,” you have a higher risk factor of developing aneurisms yourself. What is worse, these aneurisms can result in brain hemorrhages—“brain bleeds” that can cause vision loss, mental incapacity, and oth

People are looking for ways to improve their lives and create more success. Many methods focus on changing thoughts and behaviors. Releasing emotional wounds from the past is another option. Could this option be right for you? What causes emotional wounds?r

Is motivation a problem for you? Do you feel stuck in some area of your life? Are you discouraged because motivation tips have not worked for you? In this article we are going to explore your personal motivation style. Each of you has a way of motivating yourself that works for you. Why aren’t you already using your motivation style? For many of us, it is outside of our conscious awareness. We are going to explore seven styles. Some of these may be more important to you than others. Use the ones that work for you.

Experiencing emotional trauma can be one of the hardest moments of your life. As you replay the events in your mind, it can seem overly difficult to focus on anything else. To get relief, you can participate in these five different strategies below. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) This is what’s commonly known as talk therapy. It’s a highly recommended treatment plan that works for trauma like PTSD, depression, and anxiety. Via the direction of your therapist, you’ll

The funeral was lovely. It was packed with friends paying their respects. But once everyone else has gone back to normal routines, close family and dear friends still grieve for the lost loved one. They may feel that the world has passed them by and feel very alone. Now is a perfect moment to make a difference to a grieving friend. If you can, reach out and show you care. • Spend time together . Take grieving friends out for a cup of coffee or lunch. Or, attend a game or go

Changing the Way You Talk to Yourselfr Randi G. Fine, Authorr From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “inner dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. Since it has always been such a consistent part of our waking lives, most of us do not even realize it is there. Our inner dialogue controls everything we do. It shapes our perception, make

Combat soldiers are placed in a very precarious position once they join the military. While they were civilians, soldiers were taught that violence and murder were both morally wrong, and should refrain from committing such acts against others. However, on the battlefield, these same soldiers receive just the opposite message—in order to win, and more importantly, live, they must learn to hurt and kill. But how hard is it to strip someone of their morals a-la basic training

Is your past still affecting you? Are painful emotions from childhood holding you back? How do you know if your past is still affecting you? Some people are very aware of how their past affects their present. For example, being a child of divorce can create insecurity and worry in present day relationships. Growing up with an alcoholic parent can leave a variety of emotional scars. If you are not sure, here are some signs your past is still affecting you: 1. You have stronger reactions to problems than other people.r

One of the most direct ways to transform your life is to let go of the past. Many people try to let go of painful memories or forget the past. Another option is to let go of emotional wounds from the past.

How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? It is simple. By not asking the right questions. One day my son went to a classmate's home for a Halloween costume party. When I picked him up a few hours later I could tell by the ear to ear grin on his face that he had a great time. As we were about to leave, I was standing at the door with his little friend's father and grandmother. Both adults were giving me a great report about my son's behavior. I was a relieved parent. Thank goodness. No issues. No worries. I quickly scooted my happy kid in the car and drove home.

It hurts. Rape and sexual abuse are a scalding kind of pain. Still, it is possible to heal. Even from this pain. 1.Celebrate your survival. You’re here and you’re alive. You made it. You may be a bit frayed around the edges, but who wouldn’t be? In spite of all that you’ve been through, you showed up another day to fight again. That’s a champion. That’s a Survivor.

Operating a motorcycle involves different skills than driving a car. They’re far less stable on the highway and less visible to other drivers. The openness of the vehicle itself also makes motorcyclists far more susceptible to injury and vulnerable to conditions than other drivers. In fact, it’s estimated that motorcyclists are about “28 times more likely than passenger car occupants to die in a crash.” In 2016 alone, more than 5,000 people died as a result of a motor

We all know that traumatic events from our past can continue to haunt us and make us miserable long after the event is over. Did you know that painful emotions can affect your physical health as well? How do we experience emotions? Our language tells us a lot about how we experience emotions. We might say, “my heart was broken” or “I’m carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders” or “she stabbed me in the back”. For positive emotions we might say, “there is a song in my heart” or “that warmed my heart” or “I’m bubbling over with laughter.” These are not just poetic descriptions.

Memory Lane “No!” “Nobody kisses me! Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold. It was a list we agreed on together. See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and yelling, was my son. He was playing with a ten-year-old girl a few yards away from me. I didn’t see what happened, but apparently, she must have kissed him. He liked her. But, he had just met her within the last hour. So she wasn’t on the list. He didn’t know her.

Speaking about social change and social justice can have dangerous consequences. It can be dangerous if you speak out as someone who is or has been affected by the injustice. People laugh at you. They try to ignore you. They try to say that “something is wrong with you”. They try to say that you are exaggerating or seeking attention. They try to silence you and if they think they can get away with it, they try to kill you.

I can’t count the number of times I heard, or read: « I really don’t know why I am so depressed / anxious / in pain ; I was raised by a loving, ordinary family and nothing terrible ever happened to me; the problem is just me”. Or another slightly different version “ I really don’t know why I am so depressed / anxious / in pain; I know my father had quite a temper (read he was physically abusive), or people in my family really knew how to party (read I was brought u

Experiencing an accident can do a number on your car, your body, and your mind. The last one is quite often overlooked when we think about recovering from an accident. However, the trauma of an accident can have long-lasting effects. You need to be honest with yourself about any need for help with recovery. These are four tips for mentally recovering after an accident. Meditate After an accident, you’re likely to have your mind going in all sorts of directions. It can be fu

According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the 10th leading cause of death for Americans. In that year, someone in the country died by suicide every 12.9 minutes. I read an article online about a young accomplished woman who died of suicide. In was so disappointed to read the comment section. You know, in usually when you read about the death of someone you expect to read expressions of grief, empathy for the family, or even disbelief. Not for this young lady.

Once again, reader’s discretion is advised. Also, due to the personal and intimate nature of the story, some names have been withheld. At the beginning of the year 2016, we got an email and then (when we asked her) a call from a woman who was residing near Dallas, Texas and who had undergone a few surgeries on her thyroid (due to cancer diagnosis). And as a consequence, Ms. Schilling ended up not only with a paralyzed vocal cord but also with a hole in her throat due to a ve

We never know when and where, but accidents are everywhere. Generally, we don't wish to encounter such incident but it will come in our most unexpected settings. There are lots of accidents that happen everyday and the most common one is a car accident that nearly result to a severe physical injury. Therefore, it is important to have an aid from a car accident lawyer who will be your companion as you are reaching for the justice. You may be accompanied by your spouse, relativ

We’ve become a society accepting the high level of stress in our lives. We struggle to pay bills, keep up with our children and their activities, and work in jobs with diminished rewards. A general feeling of malaise adds even more to our loads. How long can we carry our burdens without some repercussions? How heavy does life get before knees begin to buckle. I’m reminded of a woman who was speaking to an audience on stress management. She held up a glass of water and ask

Being burgled can be psychologically devastating for victims, not just because of the value of stolen items, but for the greater loss of treasured memories associated with keepsakes whether or not they are insured. Many people report sleep loss, feelings of impotent rage or personal invasion as well as weakened self-esteem following break-ins and losses to thieves. Reactions vary with the individual – sometimes the psychological trauma takes a while to set in but can cause

What is trauma? We hear the word bandied about in the mental health community or at 12 step meetings, but what is trauma anyway? Simply put, it's someone's subjective experience of a disturbing life event. It overwhelms a person's ability to cope and leaves them feeling as if they'll be harmed by someone, or that they'll loose their mind. You don't have to have someone validate a traumatic experience for you to know when you've been traumatized. Your body and mind start sendi

When we are in the midst of life trauma it is very difficult to feel anything but the pain, hurt and disappointment related to that time in life. But very often, looking back in hindsight, we can find meaning, relevance, valuable lessons and insights that were the direct result of that drama. Without that life-altering event we would not become the more aware, compassionate and wise person we are today. Many people look upon that result as the “gift” they received from th

Immediately after a traumatic event, it is common for people to feel stunned and not being able to accept what has happened, as such events could arouse a lot of disturbing feelings in a person, giving rise to mixed emotions of stress, fear, anger and agitation. But things usually settle with time. Now that one and a half year has passed and you can still not stop thinking about it, let us first and foremost try to find out what is the reason for this. And attaining Self-Real

Treadmills are an important a part of any health club, as they simulate two of the very best sorts of exercise there are: strolling and running. When you may just as well go for a walk or run outside, a treadmill allows you to do it in a comfortable, controlled setting, where you'll be able to precisely set the pace you need and the way long you need to run for, and measure your performance against the final time. As a result of the treadmill is aware of all of the conditions

How to stop obsessive thinking? If you are like me and go through seasons where your brain gets stuck in obsessive thought patterns, you know the deep frustration. You may also be aware of the anxiety this obsessive thinking causes and even the link with depression. We need to be able to break the cycle and stop feeling like we have no control over our brains! There is help to get rid of obsessive thought patterns, but it takes work to kick the uncontrolled ruminating to the curb. Take Every Thought Captiver

It may seem counterintuitive to have any trust when it comes to business ventures during this time of crisis. This may be especially true if you have suffered setbacks that are related to somebody that you trust who is not coping well with current circumstances. The importance of patience and trust during this time of crisis is paramount.

Do you ever feel like you’re spinning in circles with too many goals? Are most of them conflicting? The good news is, you’re not the only one who feels that way. It’s ubiquitous, but you can solve the problem. You can narrow down your goals. Indeed reviewing last year’s goals I had set for myself, I saw by March I had crossed off two of my goals. These were goals that I really do want to accomplish. But in reality, I had set my too many goals that were time-consuming. Too many goals? Narrow down your goals thoughtfully.r

In this video, Todd Creager shares a success story of how EMDR therapy helped an individual process, heal and move on from childhood trauma. PTSD infiltrates people’s lives, their work, and relationships, often limiting them. Watch the video and listen to Todd tell the story of Sue who had a big fear of loss and abandonment. This was affecting her present relationship and with EMDR therapy Todd was able to find the memories that were triggering the fears and process them. V

The mourning process can be one of the most difficult things in the world, period. There are few experiences in life that can be as hard as dealing with the passing of someone who was important to you. If you’re trying to get through grief, then there are a number of things that can help you in a big way. Speak to a Grief Coach There are many types of professional coaches out there. Some focus on careers. Others focus on the grieving process. If you want to learn how to gri

Everyone's life is filled with ups and downs, but it can sometimes be difficult to bounce back and find your way after hitting a low point. Whether you're struggling with a divorce, job loss or the death of a loved one, it's easy to feel alone and lose sight of your goals and dreams. Here are four resources for directional life advice when you feel like you've hit rock bottom. Therapy or Counseling A psychologist, counselor or other mental health professional is a great resou

How to let go of regret? Letting go of regret can be a long and difficult process. However, it is so worth the work! There is hope on the other side of regret! Acknowledge the regret. Most of us have developed the habit of stuffing our feelings down from childhood. We think this will make us feel better when in truth, it makes us ill. It can be detrimental to our physical, mental, and spiritual health.