Anger Management Articles

I sent out an email about my upcoming show, The Illusion of Anger, and was met with an angry response. "Anger is NOT an illusion! People die from anger!" he wrote. I am well aware of that. However, that is not the illusion I'm speaking of. According to Webster's dictionary, anger is a feeling of displeasure or discomfort brought about by feelings of helplessness or powerlessness. Powerlessness - feeling weak and vulnerable. I don't know anyone who is comfortable feeling helpless or fragile. It is natural for humans to want to feel safe.

These days most of us could use help with an anger management class. As the political debate gets more polarized it may even behoove our politicians and certain TV news pundits to take it down a notch. Because living with someone can be stressful at times, anger control is particularly relevant for couples.

I recently read an article that described depression as "a psychological reaction to the violent deformities of the modern world." I found that statement deeply provocative and began to ponder it's meaning. "Anger turned inward" doesn't satisfy me anymore. I do not subscribe to the belief that depression is a disease nor am I of the mindset that depression, or any other health issues, are heredity (a belief shared with some of the greatest minds in the mind/body/spirit arena).

Is it really difficult to make changes or are we just accustomed to believing change is difficult? Good question. Regardless of what we would like to change, most of us have a host of excuses that we use that actually keep us from accomplishing what we would like to achieve. This is silly and yet we all have very strong beliefs of why we should avoid making changes. Perhaps it’s because we have a fear of the UNKNOWN. Think about it… If we had no fear or resistance, making changes would certainly be easy to approach. If we believe change is difficult, we are perpetuating that reality.

According to the FBI's UCR report, the state with the highest shoplifting rate currently is Virginia. Back in 1929, the US government sanctioned a report which was called the UCR (Uniform Crime Reporting). It was prepared by all the chiefs of police together in order to present to the nation a uniform and reliable report on crime statistics. Government officials were pleased with this report and so in 1930, the FBI was brought in to it and making of this report was handed over to them. They were responsible for the collection, publication, and archiving of the records.

Conversations can be risky at times. The more sensitive the topic, the more delicately we need to approach it while maintaining a truthful and honest demeanor . The subtle balance between being blunt and abrasive or being effectual is one that many are not equipped to navigate.

When you think about stress management, what do you think of? Do you picture white sandy beaches and azure blue oceans? Do you think of soothing music, candles, and a warm tub? Or perhaps you are picturing yourself laying on a plush leather couch while you free-associate about your childhood. ...

One thing an anger management class should help you to understand is that we all use mental shortcuts that oftentimes are very helpful, but sometimes end up fooling us into misunderstanding a situation and getting angry because of it.

People often ask me if they should say something to someone or make a particular life decision. My response to them is, "Why would you and how are you planning to?" Motive (intent) is a key factor in determining the validity of any decision. "No one likes my sister-in-law and I'm going to tell her." While I'm not opposed to addressing this issue, I question the reasons. Is it to hurt her feelings, put her in her place, make yourself look wonderful? Or is it to help her understand why her relationships aren't working, thereby giving her the opportunity to improve them?

When I have acted in anger I have sometimes done very good things such as writing a letter to the editor, donate money to help those who are oppressed and so on. However in my personal life when I have acted in anger it has almost always caused problems. And when I have expressed myself in words on paper or in email it has potentially opened me up to law suits besides creating more misunderstandings. There are many times that I wish I had listened to my father's advice of "Ne

Forgiveness is oftentimes misunderstood and difficult to put into action. For some, when another offends or betrays them, moving beyond the anger and the need to get even can feel impossible.

Your mind is not your friend. Your mind is in the business of keeping you controlled, captive and negative. Your mind wants you to think you are owned by it. One of its tools is guilt. What value is the feeling of guilt? How does it help you? How does it make you feel better? How does ...

Last week, I spoke before a group of business professionals about dealing with difficult people. It seems that no matter where we are in life, whether at home with our families, in social settings, at work, or just out and about, we encounter challenging and obnoxious people. The first issue we must identify, however, is who the insufferable person is. Look in the mirror. Is the reflection one that others would label demanding, obstinate, stubborn, unmanageable or irritable? While it is not always easy to recognize our own imperfections, it is absolutely critical that we do so first.

If your brother said something hurtful to you, how would you respond? If your best friend betrayed you, what would you do? If your neighbor damaged your property and failed to make restitution, how would you handle it? Some seek revenge. They subscribe to the adage, "Don't get mad. Get even!" After all, "an eye for an eye" is fair, right? Even Donald Trump said that, in business, if someone cheats you cheat ‘em back. Why would one believe that revenge is an appropriate response?

Children are in general available on the subject of confessing feelings and emotions. A kid may be burdened with feelings of pain and guilt however you would never learn it from a dialogue. A kid's feelings are typically display within the behavior. When a child is sad they could keep to themselves or have very little to say. When a kid feels guilty they might avoid individuals and stay in their room. When a child is livid they could break their toys, cry or throw a tantrum.

“The mind is its own place, and in itselfnCan make a Heav’n of Hell, a Hell of Heav’n.nnJohn Milton Paradise LostnnnMuch of the time you are what you think. Your thoughts whether positive or negative define how your day will go. Catching and breaking into negative thoughts is a series of ideas called Thought Stoppage. The famous psychologist William James said “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Ducks, dishtowels, and doorbells: one wouldn't think they're connected to anger in any way. Cake, on the other hand, is a no-brainer: when upset, eat some. Plain and simple. No one can be angry when stuffing their mouths with a confectionery delight topped with butter cream icing and sugar roses. Yum! As tempting as it may sound to consume a sugary treat when angry that's actually not what I'm suggesting. Let me explain.

In regards to anger, I have good news and some bad news. First the good news: there is nothing wrong with being angry. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It is even necessary for justice to preside as well as for our very survival. The bad news is that it is not ok to express it whenever and however we want. Letting it out can prove to be detrimental to our health, well-being, safety, and even our very lives. According to a study at Stanford University, explosive outbursts can lead to the formation of blood clots. And we know all-to-well that one clot to the heart or brain can be deadly.

"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People are inherently good but each of us at times acts out in an obnoxious or difficult manner. As you know, I do not make excuses or condone bad behavior but I do practice being understanding and non-judgmental of it.

After infidelity the pain can be excruciating, but it is not always so. A lady who owned a brothel had a married boyfriend whose wife did not mind him sleeping at the brothel. When customers called the lady sometimes left her boyfriend's bed, briefly hired out her body and then returned to her lover.

Living in the Now is a must if you’re going to be happy. For one thing, Now is all you ever have. Now is where life is happening. If you’re somewhere other than Now, you’re missing out on life.

Let’s face it–if we are stressed about work, we are also stressed in all areas of our life. Unless we change what we are holding in mind, we will continue to experience stress. Stress is an unnecessary choice that we are fueling by holding the wrong things in mind.

There have been times in our lives when most of us have struggled with issues of guilt or shame. I have. The night my mom and I put my dad into a nursing home was by far one of the worst moments in my life. To a great extent this was due to the extreme guilt I was feeling over my perceived abandonment of the father who loved and cared for me for the sixty years of my life. Diagnosed with Alzheimer's several months earlier, we kept him at home with my mom for as long as we could. But he required far more care than we were capable of giving him.

For more than a month I posted her picture on my social media sites. "Please open your heart and adopt 'Odette'. She is a precious yorkie/poodle mix rescued from a puppy mill." Her photo didn't do her justice. She sat huddled in the back of her cage at RBARI shelter in Oakland, her tortured life reflected in her body language. I posted and reposted but to no avail. I inquire if there had been any interest in her. "No", the shelter explained. "Dogs like her are hard to adopt out. They have been severely abused and are terrified of humans.

Personal Power Path announces the latest update to their online manage anger program.nn"If individuals tend to express their anger outwardly, alcohol will 'turn up the volume,' so that such a person will express anger more frequently and more intensely," says Amos Zeichner, Ph.D., University of Georgia*.nnAlcohol enables anger. Pent up or repressed anger can surface after a couple of drinks. Inhibitions are released, thus enabling anger to build as the conversation overheats.

Conflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and exte al. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the basis which leads to one outwardly expression of it, manifests for several reasons: 1) We are not living authentic lives - our values and beliefs.

Let’s face it, parenting can be a challenge. One can be highly educated, financially well-off, and a have a huge support network and still find it difficult to raise children. Most parents are conscientious and want to do what is best to help their children develop into smart, stable and well-behaved individuals. Parents have different styles of parenting or raising their kids often based on how they were raised. Sometimes they try to go the opposite path that their own parents took, or they respect the way they were raised and want to stick with the same rules and tactics.

Don’t Waste Your Anger…Use it! You’re feeling irritated, annoyed, outright angry, or even furious. So, you handle your anger in your usual way and then you go back to whatever you’d been doing before your anger erupted. Does this sound familiar? It’s what so many people do, and it’s what I call wasting your anger. Anger is more than an expression of how we feel. It’s also a guide that can lead us to a deeper understanding and appreciation of ourselves. It’s a guide that can

Forgiveness: so many misconceptions and misunderstandings; so many who believe forgiveness is reserved for a chosen few or must be preceded with an apology. Still others feel at times that it is impossible or worse, that there are those not deserving of its graces. And so they suffer...all of them, when healing is clearly within their reach. Please take a moment and reflect on a letter from the Father expressing the importance and necessity of His sacred gift of forgiveness. A Letter From God With Love My dear children,

Coping with infidelity may be difficult, but it can be accomplished if you refrain from making common errors. Couples may fix the destruction caused by the extramarital relationship by following certain methods. This process may reinforce the bond between you and your partner, enhancing your marriage in aspects that were never present before the infidelity occurred.

One of the questions I am most frequently asked is what makes for successful marriage counseling. Naturally the training and background of the therapist is very important in making for a successful marriage counseling experience. However, I am going to focus on that in a separate article which addresses specifically what you should look for in a marriage counselor.

I'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who never experiences stress. Most of us become frustrated when things don't go the way we planned or when others don't comply with how we want them to be or behave. A sense of losing control triggers feelings of uncertainty within us. Mild anxiety, or sometimes full blown fear, propels us to seek to regain power over the situation or individual. Yet authentic power is never about exerting authority over others but rather demonstrates our ability to remain unaffected adversely by our exte al environment.

If you’re expecting good things most of the time, please stop right in this moment and give yourself a pat on the back! Bravo to you! Realistically we should all be expecting good things at all times. Truth appears that most times, most folks tend to expect somewhat unfortunate outcomes. Think about this for a moment… Perhaps you have used phrases such as, “Too expensive… too good to be true… I can’t… I don’t know how… and the list goes on and on. Without realizing, these limiting statements are actually projecting what we are holding in mind.

Oh goodness! If we are trying to figure something out, it is without a doubt that we are not releasing. What we are doing is asking the mind questions. Our questions are indicating that we haven’t been able to resolve something regarding an area of our lives. Our trying to figure something out is our holding in mind “not having” an answer. Therefore, we are allowing our ego to keep us from receiving better results.

Conflict is a natural and even healthy aspect of life. It enables us to see another perspective of an issue, to creatively discuss and seek solutions to our differences, to learn to be open-minded and flexible, to practice the fine art of compromise or in some instances to graciously concede to the other party's wishes. On many levels, it can be a very useful tool for our personal growth and development enabling us to better get along with one another. Yet for a large portion of the population, conflict spells f-i-g-h-t, from which we either prepare our defenses or flee the scene in haste.

When I was fourteen, my godparents gave birth to a baby boy after twenty years of marriage. The most joyful day of their lives was shattered by the devastating news that their son had Down's Syndrome. Fifty years ago Downs was a death sentence and Robert was no exception. Three weeks later they buried their only child. I was deeply impacted by the response from my aunt, a woman of deep faith, when questioned about their loss.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could actually win when arguing? For many, disagreements are viewed as a battle of intelligence between two opposing forces. Each having what they believe to be a strong and valid position on a topic, they engage in verbal and intellectual warfare determined to prove themselves right and their opponent wrong.

I begin each day in prayer. It is a vital part of my life. Mine are not the typical "gimme" prayers. I have matured beyond the childish requests of wanting my every wish granted. (With the exception of - I'm still praying for that pony for Christmas!) I've learned that what I'm seeking may not always be in alignment with Divine Will. My prayers now consist mostly of gratitude*, awareness, and alignment**. When praying for others, I ask only that they open their hearts and minds to God, allowing Him to guide them, heal their pain, and restore them to wholeness.

I'm blessed to have parents who, early-on in life, instilled in me the importance of forgiveness. "They didn't mean what they said." "Your friend is probably just having a bad day." My mom was, and still is, one who always saw the best in people and chose compassion over anger. So it has always felt very natural for me to let go of unpleasant feelings I've had towards those who have been hurtful or offensive. Throughout my life, this practice has served me well.

When anger boils within it could become explosive and painful to ourselves and individuals the anger is directed at. You will find lots of expectations and deadlines in nowadays's world that the strain can amount quickly. Typically it takes only a slight criticism or deed to bring the anger to an outburst that translates into disagreement and the employment of inappropriate language. Learning to handle our anger helps build peace within and robust associations in our planet.

I've never been one to feel sorry for myself. When bad things would happen in my life I never asked "why me?" I would, instead, inquire "why not me?" I learned early-on that bad things happen in everyone's life and I was not exempt so I developed a mindset of quiet self-resignation - I simply accepted life's misfortunes.

At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was thirty minutes earlier. As adults, we attribute this behavior to immaturity and expect that as children grow and develop this rationale will make way for a more judicious way of thinking . Sadly, many people carry this mind-set with them well into adulthood.

What do you perceive necessary in order for you to be inspired and successful? Well let’s begin by looking at inspiration. Inspiration is anything that generates a willingness to accomplish something in a wonderful way. It includes “Only the best outcomes” and is leaving all doubts aside. What is most important regarding inspiration is that it invokes an attitude of “I can do this!” Or something like, “I am going to do this!”

It is a well-known fact that one of the most common reasons for people to seek divorce is anger. Like it is been said "anger destroys and rarely reforms". As a result of anger and bitter upset, many marriages have been torn apart. When one party expresses too much anger, while the other been meek, the outcome is usually less, but if both parties are bird of a feather, then the whole house will never cease from boiling. However, one question is paramount; how can marriages be saved from the blows of anger?

Here are several things that you can easily do to begin feeling happier each day. You will be as happy as you decide to be. In deciding to do nothing, that is exactly what you will accomplish — NOTHING. Your life is, and always will be, a reflection of what you are holding in mind. Involving yourself in positive activity will allow you to continuously feel happier.

At times, human beings can be incredibly compassionate towards one another. A family member going through a difficult time is encouraged to take extra care of themselves. A teen struggling with adolescent challenges is given support and encouragement. We offer our assistance to a neighbor who's spouse is seriously ill. When others are at their worst, humanity is at its best. And yet, we are sometimes remiss in extending to ourselves the same tender care we offer to others.

It seems by the time November 1st comes around everything is playing to the tune of “beat the clock.” The end-of-the-year has a lot to do with hustle and bustle. Businesses are trying to make plan, so bonuses can be distributed. Retailers are promoting holiday sales by incenting people to shop around the clock in order to get the best savings.