Relationship Advice Articles

When I was in school training to be a psychotherapist, one of my professors introduced me to a concept that I find very valuable: "bad faith." We are in bad faith with ourselves and others when we are out of alignment with what is true for "who we really are." Who we really are - who is ...

By Jim Hague It is long believed in western culture that concept behind Soul Mates pertain to lovers only. But the dictionary defines soul mates as two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. This does not necessarily imply lovers. Us spiritual people define soul mates are two souls, created to support each other as they journey different worlds throughout the many incarnations (or lifetimes). Soul mates account for one another, makin

It started as white lies at first about small things then on to more serious things. She is not a very good liar and exposes herself with inconsistent stories and I’m just about fed up. For instance, she was talking to a few guys before me, and lies about them not calling her. There are a more ...

Rebound relationships: We've all seen them and many of us have had them. These are relationships that are entered into a short period of time after one (or both) person has been through a breakup, separation or divorce. A rebound relationship can look like any other love relationship. The big difference is that the person who is on the “rebound” may still be in a raw emotional place from the relationship experience he or she just got out of. For the most part, rebound relationships have been painted in a negative light.

Are you like millions of other people who've endured the frustration of relationship breakdown? Perhaps you're disillusioned with love because relationship after relationship never lasts. Here are 5 reasons as to why many relationships breakdown to help you form lasting, happier unions. nnEffective communication between lovers is a cornerstone of every successful relationship. Communicating wants and needs clearly to each other reduces misunderstandings and confusion and brin

Valentine’s Day should be every day in dating and relationships. Though it is nice that a day is set aside to celebrate love for someone, February 14 should not be the only day. As the song by the late Teena Marie says ‘365 is a year’ and that’s how much you should love your dear.

Which statement do you believe is the most true? Happiness brings you financial successFinancial success brings you happinessYou might be surprised to learn that research suggests the first statement to be the most true. Again, which statement to you believe is the most true? Happiness is ...

For years, as a Pastor and counselor, I've had to figure out how to save someone's marriage. Here is a short formula that I use to find out where the problems may truly lie, and knowing them, I can recommend a plan on what needs to be done to fix the broken relationship. You can follow it for yourself right now. This process is best done with an impartial third party, whose sole interest is your marriage, not taking sides. However, if there is no one to do that, the couple could follow this procedure separately and then trade results.

There are many reasons why people are being dumped. You would never know if a relationship can last as it may look fine at the moment. But whatever may be the reason, you need to get over the bad experience as soon as you can. Life presents its own challenges to face in different forms. This is just one of the challenges that you need to face to get over it. These challenges would ultimately make you a stronger person thus you should face them boldly. You should think that wh

Everybody of us in our lives has experienced a break up. We sure don't think about break-ups when we start a new relationship. We target the positive and happy times when a relationship is fairly new. With time, issues may occur in any relationship. Here are several tips that can help you in case your boyfriend wants some space. You're probably asking yourself, space? What does he mean space? There might be a few reasons why your boyfriend may need space. It doesn't necessarily mean there's something you're doing wrong , it might just be he's having private issues.

If you've just broken up with your ex, you are at the place. I understand if you are depressed, angry and frustrated at the moment. This is a natural reaction to what is likely to be one of the emotionally toughest experiences you'll go through, especially if you and your ex had a strong bond with each other. However, there is no need to panic just yet. Regardless of the circumstances that led to you breaking up, there is a strategy you can start applying immediately to recon

Habits. We've all got them. Some of our habitual ways are beneficial and others can limit or even harm us. Couples can also fall into habits or tendencies in their relationship. It might be the assumptions you each tend to make about one another. It could be the habitual ways you two usually ...

Ever feel that way? Do you feel that everyone hates you? As a pastor and counselor, I have encountered many people who feel this way. In looking into it, I have pinpointed a variety of causes and effects for this discouraging feeling of rejection. In knowing the causes, you may be able to combat it. Rejection is one of the leading causes of depression. People just don’t do well when they feel isolated, ostracized, and alone. In fact, it is nearly a primeval need to have human companionship or acceptance from within the circles we walk. More than that, it is a God given need.

When we were growing up, we experienced many life situations that caused us deep heartbreak. Any time we lost someone we loved, or we were yelled at, ridiculed, shamed, ignored, not seen or connected with, physically or sexually abused, or treated in any other unloving ways, our little hearts broke. But we could not manage this intense heartbreak, so we had to learn various addictive ways of managing the feeling.

Is shyness or insecurity keeping you from meeting your soul mate? Here’s a simple way to become more confident and start having more fun. Men agree that one of the most attractive qualities in a woman is when she’s self-assured, likes herself, is comfortable with who she is, likes how she looks and most importantly, she’s happy. And one of the sexiest things about a woman is one who loves her body… not how skinny she is. It’s impossible to be all those things when you’re shy

How Do I Tell My Ex Boyfriend I Still Love Him And Want To Start A Family With Him. My ex boyfriend and I broke up in October 2012 (long story why we broke up). On December 22, 2012 he sends me a text out of the blue saying that he misses me and that he still loves me. Problem is I met a new guy, but I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend. When I think of my ex boyfriend I lit up like a Christmas tree (I mean I glow because I love him so much). It’s a good question to as

Are you suffering from a painful breakup? Do you feel broken inside? A breakup can leave you feeling shattered inside. If your boyfriend recently broke up with you and you want to get him back before he moves on with his life without you, please keep reading. Tips On Getting Him Back # 1: Give Your Man Some Time and Spacer

It seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken heart is to isolate yourself 100% from every human being on the planet. It will be people who break your heart. However, attempting to stay away from people, leads to an even greater problem: A cold heart.

If you're a guy and starting to wonder "is my girlfriend losing interest in me or our relationship?" then let me offer you my warmest praise. You see, most males try to ignore relationship problems until they become too big. Following are questions usually asked regarding this topic.

Do you want to know how to get your girlfriend to come back to you, even if she has just ditched you? Depending on whether you still love your ex-girlfriend you should try to get into her mind and work out what makes her tick to win her back. Follow these guidelines to assist you with dealing with this tough time. Tip #1 - If the man is looking desperate this is the last thing a woman wants. Refrain from emailing, phoning and texting her at every given opportunity as soon as

My 18 year old daughter, Kelly, calls me in a panic. Her ex best friend has text her because she’s heard rumors that she believes Kelly has been spreading about her. She wants to come down from college and confront Kelly. Kelly is upset because she says she hasn’t said a bad word to anyone about this girl and she feels extremely frustrated because she doesn’t know how to prove that she’s done nothing wrong. I listen, as any good mom would do. I allow a little silence after she finishes telling her side of the story, as any good life coach would do.

You haven’t had a date in three years. You haven’t attended a party or other social event in two years. You work, go home, watch television or spend time on the computer, go to sleep, get up the next day and do it all over again. In short, you’re in the singles rut. A friend persuades you to go ...

How compatible are you really with your partner? Down deep, where it really counts? How would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets certainly does NOT mean you'll have a happy, blissful, long-term relationship. Do you know why your mate does or doesn't attend church? ...

What happens when men don't act masculine and women don't act feminine? But first, what is masculine and what is feminine? Masculine and feminine are terms often equated with the biological equivalent of male and female, or social equivalent of man and woman. But in realty, the distinction ...

Celine, an only child, was 7 years old, her mother died tragically in a car accident. She and her father were devastated. However, unlike so many of my clients who lost parents and no one was there for them, Celine's father was completely there for her, even while dealing with his own grief and heartbreak. Celine could call him anytime at work and he would talk to her or come home to lovingly hold her. Because he was so completely there for her, her feelings of grief, heartbreak, sadness and sorrow did not get stuck in her body.

Love is that miracle that keeps us as one. Sometimes it turns out to be extremely odd. We unknowingly fall in love, the relationship grows and all of a sudden it split up for some reasons that are unavoidable. However, true love doesn’t change even after a split up. Do you still think about your ex lover? Do you time and again regret for the relationship coming to an end? Don’t worry. Be patient. If you still love your ex and wish him or her back in your life, in that cas

Finally meeting a girl online and getting to get to know each other is like dating but not really. Of course, the real challenge happens when you finally meet each other for real and feel if there's chemistry between the two of you. To be able to do that, you must peak her interest and get her attracted to you --- one of the best ways to do that is to know a few sweet things to say online. Women are very vulnerable to sweet guys and they often find it appealing if you know ho

One of the toughest challenges we face today is maintaining a positive perspective, especially after splitting with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Every day we are facing challenges, and circumstances that can either work for us or against us. Now it's up to you what sort of perspective are you going to set for yourself , are you going to permit negative thinking or positive thinking? Positive thinking and allowing yourself to feel confident about your situation will allow you to make smart calls.

Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do? If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility. Do you often do things because you think you "have to"?

Are you trying to figure out your boundaries with your adult children? Then you will benefit from these lessons from the prodigal son. In Luke 15:11-32, a son asks for his inheritance early and then leaves his home to spend it foolishly. When he hits a bottom and realizes he needs to come home to survive, he returns to find his father running to meet him and subsequently throwing him a party to celebrate his return. Instead of being treated like a servant, he was treated as a son.

Have you ever wondered why some people make friends so easily? Do you wonder why they are popular and act as friendship magnets? Do you wonder what you're doing wrong? If you're not making friends easily, it might not be your clothing style, or your financial status that is to blame. It might not be that you're too fat or too thin. The real problem might be that you are not making eye contact effectively with other people when you talk to them! It might be hard to believe tha

Are you ready to be your own person? Are you ready to move beyond neediness and into emotional freedom? Are you ready to stop needing others to make you feel that you are okay? Are you ready to learn to fill yourself with love and define your own worth? I hope so! Being emotionally dependent is a very hard way to live.

Does the No Contact Rule work for those who try it in on their breakups? If you want to fix your relationship then it's time you find out if whether or not No Contact Rule works for people and just how important it really is. For those who are having problems nursing a broken heart, learn more about the No Contact Rule below and how it could ultimately help you.Here are some common question i hear when it comes to the No Contact Rule. Q: How exactly does the No Contact Rule work and what could it do for me?r

May December affair is a romantic affair between two people having significant age difference. The age gap can range between 5- 40 years. May December affair have been going on since the dawn of time. We are usually use to seeing men with younger women. It is a perennial occurrence when men go for younger women. It’s an ego thing. Naive, aesthetically shaped, younger girls are considered as trophies for older men. Generally, having a younger partner means a sign of great vi

There are a few ways of re-attracting an ex-girlfriend back into your life. I have found out what works and what doesn't work from my years of dating experience and this is why today I can show you this article which hopefully will help you to move forwards with your attempt to reignite your relationship with your ex. 1. Stop contacting her A very funny thing happens when you decide not to contact your ex anymore. They wonder where on earth you went, and this curiosity usua

If you are the one—male or female—who is always the first to ask for sex, you may begin to think your partner doesn’t want it. But there can be all sorts of reasons why he or she is more reticent than you. They could be medical, psychological, relational or just that you’re off kilter. Your natural interval between sexual intimacies may be shorter than your partner’s, so you are always ready sooner. You may have to use super self-control to wait for your partner to be absolutely ready. A nice sensual massage that doesn’t lead to sex might get your partner thinking.

Actions vs. Words!nnMen react to actions rather than words. They don’t like it when a woman says, Let's talk, men freak out and get on the offensive before you even say a word.nnLet's talk about words first. When women talk to long about a subject concerning there relationship, the man looses you after about the first paragraph. It's not that he is being disrespectful he's just that way. He gets lost in your words. Men don't use words to get there point across as much a

If someone asked, "What is the truest expression of love", my answer would be "commitment". Of course the perfect answer would be "dying for another" but the reality is that there aren't that many opportunities for each of us to die for another to demonstrate our love. In terms of love ...

Chemistry is the sense that you get that you and another person are meant to be together when you're both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other. And while chemistry in relationships can’t be created, it does not mean you can’t develop it. In fact, let me show you 4 simple things you can do to fan the flames between you and a potential mate. rnBuild A Good Rapport A good rapport between two people is the foundation upon whic

It might have been your best friend, your partner, your boss, your brother or even your lover. It burns deep inside. You can’t sleep for the anger, the shock and dismay. You may find yourself still not believing it’s happened to you. But it has! nnWhen those we have entrusted with our money, our plans, our strategies, our loyalty or even our love betray us, we feel violated deep inside. We feel crushed. We wonder if we can ever recover from this. nnIt is at this moment of

For anyone who has been focusing on how to get their fiancé back or to get back with their love or partner can probably relate to the song called “Nothing Compares To You” by Sinead O’Connor. The song really captures the intensity of the despair, the longing, the loneliness and desire to be given that second chance.

Do you struggle with setting Christian boundaries? Difficult relationships require you to set boundaries, yet the complicated relationship dynamics make setting boundaries hard to do. To make it worse, there are common misunderstandings about what the Bible says about boundaries that cause us to be too passive and willing to tolerate unacceptable things. You can use these five guidelines to help you set scriptural boundaries in your difficult relationships. 1. Boundaries should help you take care of yourself.

It seems to be a silent but growing epidemic of miscommunication between people in any kind of relationships. If you read forum comments, help requests are popping up everywhere, and the hurt from miscommunication seems to be a shared national pain. Several factors have contributed to the prevailing attitude of non-confrontational, evasive behavior we can finally call passive aggressive. What happened to old fashioned personal, deep dialogue? People are now more used to accept loneliness; we don't know how to manage confrontations with love and respect;

What does it mean to emotionally heal? It means that you know what you are thinking or doing that causes fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, fear, anger, jealousy, and so on, and how to learn from and heal these painful feelings. It means that you no longer turn to addictions to avoid loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, sorrow or grief because you know how to manage and release these painful feelings. It means that you do not feel like a victim of others' choices and instead operate from a place of personal power, taking loving care of yourself rather than being reactive.

Finding your ex girlfriend is dating someone else can be devastating especially if you're just getting over the break up. While you are still struggling with your emotions, it's hard not to want to bash the guy's head with your fist. So what exactly are your options when you ex girlfriend is dating someone else? You can try talking about what you feel to help solve it. Talk about the situation with a friend to make you feel better. You might not think its macho but it could a

Whether you just met the man of your dreams or are casually dating, here are ten simple dating principles to maintain a healthy dating mindset. No matter if he considers you relationship material or just a coffee date, the most desirable women in a man’s mind are the ones who take responsibility for themselves, are confident, and are fantasy free. Be willing to accept what your date has to offer and if you want more than he has to offer, it is okay to move on. You are too valuable to settle or compromise. Remember there is only one person to represent you in the dating world and that’s…you.r

Does your man always get what he wants? Do you think it's always about him and never about you? Is it a sign that he doesn't love you anymore? This happens to millions of women world over. You are not alone but just like other women, you need to do something about this situation. Do you want to know how to make him beg for you love? Do you want to see him down on his knees once you're through with him? Women like you do not deserve this kind of treatment. There are a lot of w

Why do some relationships fail while other relationships stay strong? Why do some people seem so happy in their relationship while other people are miserable and bicker all the time? The number one reason for it is expectations, or what they want or desire to happen in the relationship. Everyone has their own expectations in a relationship whether they know it or not. Those expectations are formed from their parent’s examples or other people’s examples that they have experie

Some say that the purpose of life is to seek happiness. Is happiness the purpose, or is happiness the result of another purpose? Is happiness the meaning of life, or is happiness the result of discovering what has heart and meaning for you? There is not one right answer to this question. The ...

We all have many addictive ways of avoiding feeling our painful feelings and taking responsibility for them. Some of the ways are obvious, such as using substances and processes. Some of the ways can be very subtle.