Are you happy with your relationship right now? Why? Is it because of the romance? Or because of the sex?I'm sure it's not because of that! Lovers won't be happy with sex alone and won't be satisfied with romance alone. We become happy when we achieve both sex with romance and romance with ...
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I'd like to share an e-mail I received recently from a nreader of my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him." She asked me a question about her relationshipnthat I think many women can relate to. Here it is:nn>>>>Question: Hey Christian, how are you? I purchased a copy of your ebook yesterday! ...
If you asked almost any overweight person, "Do you really want to lose weight?" the answer is likely, "Yes, I would love to lose weight." If most overweight and obese people would so love to lose weight that they spend billions a year on trying to lose weight, why is our country growing fatter? Why aren't people losing weight when they say that this is what they want to do? Because, as much as they say the want to lose weight, there is something they want even more than losing weight: they want to fill their emptiness and avoid their painful feelings.
Maybe you are looking at a sea or green change, career change, further education, having a child, or something else. Regardless of what changes you have in mind it helps if you take time to consider the consequences of this change, particularly if you are in a relationship and have children – when it really is no longer just about me. nnnWhatever you decide to do there will be consequences and they may not be in your highest good. nnnFor instance you decide to accept a
We all have gone through the stage when we meet a girl and then get totally tongue-tied right after. It's crazy. Most men, no matter how hard they practice to impress a female and get attracted, they always ending up messing around and saying the wrong things. Meeting girls online is a great outlet to train your nerves when it comes to the female species but what happens when you get "tongue-tied" online too? That's like, double the torture. So to keep things light and away f
During my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in marriages. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy. There is a very good reason why ...
Where is your power center? Is it in you or in other people or circumstances? Paradoxically, controlling people often believe that they don’t have control over their lives or even themselves. Control is important to codependents.
There is a distinct difference between courtship and dating, though many people are not quite aware of it. In fact, many people are not even aware that a courtship even exists. Why should they? Our society has fallen into a habit of dating, then suddenly marrying. Divorce runs rampant, and many people think of marriage as disposable. That being said, it is important for us to understand what a courtship is, and why it is important to pursue one at some point in time. First we will talk a bit about dating so that you understand precisely what it is.
Being irresistible is something that's supposed to be natural --- you stride in and you easily get everybody's attention just by the power of your presence. Now, what happens if you're practically attracted and smitten with your best friend? That's something new, and would probably require a much bigger effort. But don't worry --- being friends with her can be an advantage --- you just have to make her see in a different light. Most friends end up as lovers and they're usuall
Angelo had been married to Serena for 15 years before divorcing. In his marriage, Angelo was a caretaker, always trying to please Serena, always trying to get her approval and avoid her disapproval. Serena was a taker - handing responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him when he didn't do what she wanted. Inside, Serena was deeply insecure, too insecure to even work, so she completely relied on Angelo financially. Angelo felt very lonely in his marriage, which is what led to his decision to divorce.
Your ex-boyfriend was so angry with you when you broke up that you are certain that you will certainly not see your ex-boyfriend again. However, love someone have for you can not just vanish into tin air, its not something that comes on and off at once, thus if your ex-boy-friend still love you, the signs showing your ex-boyfriend still wants you are visible - it's left for you to observe them. Apparently you may not be able to detect these signs yet because - you are still h
Have you ever wondered why women spend so much time talking about relationships, while men seem to rarely give it a thought? Often, it is the woman that is considered the “keeper or caretakers of the relationship. This happens naturally because women generally measure their own self-worth based ...Have you ever wondered why women spend so much time talking about relationships, while men seem to rarely give it a thought?
I want to be happy. Do you want to be happy? I don’t know about you, but whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, wouldn’t you like to be happy? I know it is cliché to say, but one way to be happy is to be happy with YOU first! Yes, psychiatrists and psychologists know exactly what they are talking about when it comes to this and those extra dollars you are paying, is not for nothing…lol.
Your Ex Boyfriend - Why He Lies; After a breakup, it might seem that your ex boyfriend is speaking in another language. He will say he loves you, but then he won't answer your text, emails or phone calls. This shouldn't surprise you if you think about all of the times he has said things when you were a couple that left you wondering what he meant. You might have asked your friends, but if they are female the same as you they won't be able to help you. A complete solution to h
Many people feel that the first sign of a deteriorating relationship is a loss of passion and sexual energy. As a relationship matures, a couple may find that they do not have the same sexual energy as they did throughout their honeymoon phase of the relationship. However, dwindling passion does not mean that a relationship is over. Instead of calling it quits or seeking satisfaction outside of the relationship, couples should work to restore the passion in their relationship and renew their sexual energy.
Men and women alike often try to change their partners. They believe that “only when” their partners will think, feel, react and behave the way they themselves do – the relationship will be satisfying. But how often does it happen that just because they try to change their partners their relationship is getting worst and worst? Just because they think they know better how their partners “should be, think, feel and behave” they find themselves in endless conflicts and quarrels? Why would anyone want to change his/her partner?
"Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother." But what if your father and mother didn't honor you? What if instead of loving and honoring you they physically, sexually and emotionally abused you? What if you were scared every day of your growing up years? And what if, when you finally grow up and start to face the fact that your family of origin abused you, and through some therapy finally gain the courage to confront them with the abuse, they completely deny it and tell you that you are crazy? Do you stay in that family system or leave it?
Trying to get back with your girlfriend can be hard especially if you have no idea how to pursue the problem. If she was the one who broke it off and you didn't communicate since then, chances are you have no idea how you stand with her right now. Before trying to win her back, you must first find out your chances of being successful. Following are some signs she wants you back that you can try watching out for. Although she will not be forward to you of her feelings, she wil
Just like others that have found themselves in your circumstance, you might be asking yourself "precisely how in the world am I likely to get my hubby back?" You can be confident that you're not alone and that lots of couples, amazingly, reconcile every single passing day. Aided by the appropriate strategy, recognizing what you need to do and to never do, you can be sure of getting back together with your hubby. Because of the mental makeup of ladies, a separation really can
In a loving relationship, sometimes your words do not have the impact that you intend. When there is a disconnect between what you intend to communicate and the impact of your words, you are not communicating clearly, and this leads to problems in a relationship. In good communication, the intention and impact are the same. In miscommunication, the intention is not the same as the impact. What are the best ways to communicate with your partner so your intentions are aligned with your impact?
Make An Ex Boyfriend Interested In You Again â Get His Attention These Steps; You can use Psychological and Expert Tips to get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back in your life; directions on what to do to get effective expert relationship advice. A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation. Relationships usually end because of misunderstandings. You are on top o
Writing can be an incredible outlet to expressing your emotions, feelings, and desires without necessarily causing an argument, feeling frustrated, or having your thoughts come out wrong. This article contains some tips on how to express yourself in writing. WHEN TO WRITE A LETTER
Oh, yes they do! Now, let’s see how this works. I understand that it is a generalization, but we are generally either men or women, so this would apply to all of us to a larger or smaller degree whether we are aware of it or not. Everyone knows what a man’s agenda is, at least at the beginning of a “romantic” relationship. It’s sex, loud and clear. We men of course will not admit it out loud, but that’s what we dream of when we encounter a woman we “like”. Women know that as well and they use it, consciously or not, to attract men.
Strengthen Values. Synonyms for the word “values” are; principles, standards, morals, ethics, ideals… just to name a few. These are the qualities that DEFINE US AT THE CORE OF OUR BEING. Without these things YOU would not be YOU. It’s useful to know what your values are because they help you make choices about what you commit to in your life as well as what you commit your life to. If you commit your life and energy to something that really violates or even neglects one of your core values, you may start to feel resentful and frustrated.
I have worked with individuals and couples for the past 42 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?" Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn't want to have sex.
The question that we get asked most frequently is how we managed to survive infidelity in our marriage. Is it really possible to get over it at all, let alone end up with a much stronger relationship than before? How do you forgive, and how do you start to trust again? Well there's a whole ...
New York Swingers have a huge following and may even be your neighbor next door. It might sound a bit strange, but you probably notice a swinger every day. However, you don’t realize it until you come across him or her in one of the top New York swingers clubs. Chances are high that your colleague at work or neighbor is a swinger. People who are sexually free are easily found in every demographic and community. In modern times, lifestyle is reaching a whole new level all the time.
When you get involved in any kind of a relationship, that connection comes with a few responsibilities. In fact, in many connections there are loads of responsibilities. Trouble presents itself when someone engages with another person with the intention that the interaction is all about them.
"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions. Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making friends. Yet there are many people who seem to be able to make friends wherever they go. What is the difference betwee Isabella and these people who easily make friends? Actually, there is a big difference.
What if there really is ONE major cause of relationship problems, one issue that if you address, would change everything? The good news and the bad news is - there is! The good news is that it makes it easier to understand why you might be having problems in your relationship. The bad news is that to resolve the issue takes a deep personal commitment to heal. The one cause is - self-abandonment. Let's take a look at what self-abandonment is and why it causes almost all the problems in relationships.
Psychological Help, Tips and Advice, learn how to get your Ex Boyfriend, Girlfriend, husband, wife or spouse back. How To Get An Ex Girlfriend Reconciled To You; Steps that you can follow to have more success in your relationship to get reconciled with an ex, Making a successful and promising contact with your Ex is the first aspect of getting back your ex and it's also a great step on the road to reverse the break up. In order to write a love poem with the intention of getti
My definition of emotional freedom is being free from feeling like a victim of and controlled by our emotions. We are emotionally free when we know how to learn from and manage our feelings so that we are not reactive to them and they don't control us. How Do We Attain Emotional Freedom? Emotional freedom is the result of learning how to take emotional responsibility, i.e., responsibility for our feelings. What does this mean and how do we do it? There are two different kinds of feelings: wounded feelings and core feelings.
Reconcile With Ex Boyfriend After Breakup; The mistake most women make after a breakup is telling your ex boyfriend how much you love him and want him back. This is understandable because that is the way you feel. However, trying to make your ex boyfriend feel sorry for you will not get him back in your arms. You have to do the things that will make your ex want you back and the best thing you can do is use male psychology. You can use Psychological and Expert Tips to get you
"I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don't know why this upsets me so much." "My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What's the point of being together if she's always gone a couple of nights a week?" "My wife wants to go back to school now that the children are older. She doesn't need to work, so why does she want to do this? It's going to take up way too much of her time."
It's no surprise to learn one of the sexiest places in a house is the kitchen; the delicious smells, the beautiful colors, the way everything simmers together, tempting our senses into complete and utter abandon... Unfortunately most of us never get the opportunity to fully explore all of the ...
"I keep getting into more and more debt, but I can't seem to stop. I do great for a while, and then I just have to go shopping and buy stuff. This is going to ruin my life if I don't stop, but how do I stop?" Mary Beth is addicted to spending. What does this mean and how can she stop?
What To Do And Say When Talking To My Ex Boyfriend Again; Calling your ex boyfriend, or receiving a call from an ex boyfriend is no easy task. Especially if there are still feelings involved and your nerves are at an all time high. You will have to get over this discomfort though if you want it to be a success. rnA complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation. rnYou h
It is important to transfer your values to your children. They won't pick up on them unless taught. But for some reason we fear to do so or we don't know how. Read on to discover how you can transfer those good values to your children. “Praise the Lord! I Found One!” These are the words spoken by my 5 year old and a 3 year old as they rummage through a toy box looking for leggos. In a society and generation where God takes a back seat to political correctness and social humanism, it is refreshing to hear children reference God with such eager excitement.
If we could all sit down and be honest with ourselves, we would more than likely admit to the fact that at some point or another, we fantasized about adding an additional person into our monogamous relationship. This is not something you should feel ashamed of or embarrassed about, because having a fantasy about someone else, while we are in a relationship is normal. This is especially true for couples that have been together for several years, whose bedroom life may not be as exciting as it used to be. Statistics demonstrate that sexual boredom is one of the leading causes of divorces.
Have you heard of the âNo Contactâ rule that many people say you should follow following a break up? What is this rule and how can it help you heal after a break up or even win your ex back? Thatâs what weâre talking about today. What is the No Contact rule? Itâs fairly simple really. Just donât contact your ex. Fall off their radar and just go silent. The ideal amount of time to do this for is about 3 or 4 weeks. This gives you enough time to heal and put some di
In our natural, loving state, we are turned on by select individuals and by life in general. As we encounter others, we recognize that each person has a unique quality that enlivens us. Learning a safe, elegant way to play with this enlivening attraction is part of putting conscious flirting into action. Let’s face it; it’s fun to flirt, especially when it serves to enhance both others and us! When we are not in a primary relationship, we can follow our own intuition in how we express the juiciness we feel with another. However, what are our options if we are in a primary relationship?
This very simple and easy to follow procedure will help you develop strong conversation skills with people you know and people you don’t know. This skill is meant to help you build lasting connections with people and feel at ease while doing it regardless of your knowledge of the subject or topic. Proverbs 15:23 - A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! The secret, if there is one, lies in the quality of a good question. I’ll explain in a moment, but first there is another factor that must be addressed.
Have you ever taken the time to watch a child? Children are spontaneous. They move around quickly, running from place to place. They take joy in just being alive. We take life far too seriously. We all need to have more fun and play in our lives. Life is a blast it is time to experience it fully. Children wake up rested and usually have no worries at all. They get fed when they are hungry (for the most part) and laugh when they are happy.
We are all human beings, and as such have strengths and weaknesses. One of the benefits of being human is the ability to work on our own weaknesses and improving our own lives and others around us. There are numerous “self help gurus” whose basic principle is improving how you view yourself to improve your own life. Of course it is easy just settle on our expectations of yourself and others instead of making changes, but it is the complacency that will affect who we are as an individual and how we are viewed in our partners eyes.
The questio I probably get asked the most from my female clients and participants is "Why do men have such a hard time with commitment?". Men actually don't have any problem with committing to a woman. Without women, men really aren't up to much. Yes, they work hard at their jobs, put more ...
What to discuss with my ex girlfriend - You can’t manufacture natural love; my famous relationship guru by the name of Charles Knox once said, “Attraction isn’t a choice.” It would be nice to be so ridiculously attractive that you could just pick and choose any girl you wanted to have a long, lasting, and loving relationship with. You can use Psychological Tricks and Expert Tips to get your ex boyfriend back – links to my blog on what to do to get effective expert relationship strategies to reconcile with your ex is at the last paragraph of this article.
Are we our feelings, or we just have them? Sometimes it seems that we are made of them. Feelings pervade our every day lives. How do we manage them and how we use them or abuse them? We have good feelings and bad feelings. When we feel good we appear to be a totally different person than when we feel bad. How do we manage them and how we use them or abuse them? This is the subject of today's article.
Do you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that ...
________________________________________ Discover why you might be obsessing about an ex and how to stop. ________________________________________ "How do I stop allowing my ex to consume my thoughts?" asks Tammy. "Is your ex consuming your thoughts, or are you consumed with your ex?" I ask. "What's the difference?" Tammy asks.
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