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By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Discover the big difference between reaching out as your loving adult or as your wounded self. ________________________________________ Dorothy asked an important question: "What is the difference between turning to someone and handing my little girl over to them?" The difference is in your intent. Loving Yourself

"Tell me something bad," my client whined. "I love reading your newsletters and reading about your fabulous life and seeing how happy you are with your husband. But sometimes I really don't want to hear about it! Especially when I'm having so much difficulty. So tell me something that's not ...

We'll call him Spike. He was big, tattooed and pierced, on lots of narcotics and, oh yeah, without a job. I was on the team to try to help him turn his life around in 5 weeks. (Did I ever mention my former career was challenging?!) Spike had a pregnant wife. Very pregnant. They had no car and no way to get one. My sister was just about to have a vehicle repossessed when she and her husband split and neither could afford the SUV individually. "Hey, your car is getting old

Despite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I'm grateful. It wasn't always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a PhD, and developing four businesses to do that. I also recovered from an abusive marriage, and now have been happily married for 23 years, and in successful private practice since 1978.

Sadly, there are many dudes who seem to take to hooking up for years without even mentioning the topic of marriage. When it comes right down to it, this leaves women seriously disillusioned because a girl practically never wants her relationship to give out in the dating stage. What makes the whole kettle of fish even more depressing is the point that women tend to blame their male counterparts. Remain aware that, albeit, it is the fella who customarily proposes, a marriage

It can be easy to feel hurt by the strong words your loved ones tell you. You might find yourself wondering why they would say something like that to you? What have you done to deserve that kind of pain? Anyone who has ever been in a close relationship knows that problems can get out of hand ...

One key area of personal development -- distinct from most other key areas -- that can sometimes be hard to improve is "likeability". But just what is likeability? This is simply the extent to which we are liked because people feel (real or perceived) that we are emotionally open and honest ...

Happy New Year! This is the traditional time for making resolutions, which we all know are simple to make, but much more difficult to keep. Resolutions imply change, and making changes requires patience. It's such a valuable component of character that St. Paul considered it evidence that a person was living in faith: "...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control," he wrote to the Galatians.

________________________________________ Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can't seem to find your way out? ________________________________________ Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet as one way of avoiding feeling an underlying pain that they believe they cannot manage feeling. Cheryl asked:

Get My Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Back - Psychological Strategies That Work-New Ideas. Get my Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend back is a common wish of the broken-hearted. If you've recently had the rug ripped out from under your feet with a breakup that you neither wanted nor expected, the emotional fallout can be extreme. It leads to a world of self-doubt or even self-loathing, depression and a lot of negativity towards your own perception and it can even cause you to lose

In one of the families I worked with lately, the father, a very successful director has been working about 18 hours a day and was abroad once a month, leaving the mother alone to cope with their two babies. After two stressful years the company he worked for collapsed. He was subsequently depressed and kept asking himself whether it had been worthwhile being away from the family, and investing all this time and these efforts in work.rnIn general, most of the large companies w

All of us have 'triggers' that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you into your fear or anxiety. Are you triggered by:rn-Another's anger, annoyance, criticism, judgment or rejection?rn-Another's withdrawal or resistance?rn-Another's unhappiness, whining or complaining?rn-A partner leaving on a trip?rn-A partner coming home late and not calling?r

Are you looking for Christian relationship help that will enable you to understand what it means to suffer for good in your relationships? Misunderstanding regarding this teaching leads to unhealthy choices in relationships. First Peter 3:17 says, "It is better, if it is God's will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil" (NIV). Some have wrongly interpreted this to mean that we will be rewarded for enduring mistreatment. The truth is that we will be rewarded for some of the mistreatment we endure; but not all of it.

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Our relationships with the people we are closes to are the most important relationships in our lives. So what do you do when your own wife won't even speak to you? The distance between you and your wife has grown for quite some time now. Your marriage is falling apart and it feels like you have no control over what's happening. If you feel this way, this is where you're wrong because you and your wife have full control of your marriage and relationship.

Here are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help nyou pay the small attentions that are so integral to lasting intimacy. nnnDay One: nSpend 15 minutes kissing. Many married couples report that the simple nact of kissing is the first part of intimacy to disappear. Today, nrecapture the power of the smooch.nnnDay Two:nToday, declare a personal moratorium on criticism. Pay attention to nthe number of negative thoughts you have about the actions of your nspouse

Husband Expects Me To Pay For Everything: My Husband Wants Me To Pay Half Of Everything What's the number one thing that couples fight about? If you guessed "finances," then you are right. You and your loved one are not the only ones fighting over dollar and cents. Nearly every couple around the globe argues about money on occasion. The good news is that you don't have to fight about money if you have a game plan in mind. The following tips will help you out when it comes to

Is my man cheating, you're wondering. Whether it's cheating husbands or cheating boyfriends the warning signs are the same. You suspect that he's cheating on you. You have that awful feeling that he's up to no good behind your back but you just can't be certain since you've got no proof. ...

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Dear Dr. Romance: I am writing because I am surrounded by negative people and thoughts, including my family. I have no support structure. I hide from neighbors so people won't ask questions. During the day I am on the computer being as proactive as I can.

Dear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him? Dear Reader:

The other day I was at my friend’s house while she was trying to feed her two-year, Alexa, a banana. Alexa, looked at the banana for a moment and then said “No”, and went back to her toys. My friend convinced that her daughter should eat a banana tried a few of her tricks. However, no sweet-talking, no promises, not even treats changed Alexa’s “No”. She had made up her mind “No banana” and stuck to it.

Can you remember what your New Year’s resolutions were last year? How did that work out for you? Let’s see, mine were: to be less judgmental, and to slow down and take myself less seriously. No easy task for the hyper-vigilant monster that dwells deep in (and, unfortunately, outside) my subconscious. In the hopes of luring and capturing this beast of burden, I did what I do every year. I ritually wrote, and spoke aloud my resolve to slay whatever dragons that seemed to genuinely threaten my overall peace of mind and freedom of being.

What is a pleasure junky, you ask? A pleasure junky is a person always seeking happiness in short-term, feel good ways. A pleasure junky would choose junk food over good health, casual sex over a committed relationship and impulse spending over long-term saving. A pleasure junky wants to feel ...

If you are pondering on how to get your ex back or may have tried several means to win her back but all effort seems to not to work or pushes her further away from you. This negative responds can be as a result of wrong approach, all relationships can be rescued/save no matter how bad it has got to. every one passed through similar experience, the mistake u or your partner made is not any worst than the ones others made, all you need to know is how to get your ex back. What a

I have a friend who protested she didn’t like the “small talk” required in early dating, and wanted to go straight to a relationship. You can go online, research your prospective date and learn everything you need to know about him, right? Wrong. This is one process that you can’t cut short. Period. It takes time to get to know someone, and while texting, ‘friending’ and ‘liking’ online may give you insight, there is no substitute for face-to-face. Be Authentic

Dear Dr. Romance: My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & mate al grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and loved them was for the money. By the way, it was not a large sum. They told him he was stupid and worthless. His father died when he was about 10.

1. Seek first to understand. If you know your partner's frame of reference, you can speak to him/her within it. 2. Pay attention to how your words are landing. If your companion's response looks off the mark for what you said, check out what he/she is hearing.... 3. Focus on the solution that would work for everyone, rather than who's right or wrong. Only focus on the problem long enough to understand, then switch to what will fix it.

Are you doing everything you can to get your ex back? You might have heard about the No Contact Rule but you're not really sure what it can do to help you get your ex back. The No Contact Rule is actually very reasonable and provides you with a great way of getting your ex back. What is the Meaning of the No Contact Rule to Get Ex Back?

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note: "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."rn-Oprah Winfrey "Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's goi

In my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who've heard the dread phrase, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it's not. And, it's frequently fixable. Couples fall out of love for three main reasons: • They don't understand the difference between infatuation and love,

Learn to practice awareness of intent, to move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Those of you who have been practicing Inner Bonding know that the basis of the Inner Bonding process is the intent to learn about loving yourself and others.

I Am So Miserable In My Marriage: How To Overcome Loneliness In Marriage For Good If you're unhappy in marriage, it's time to do something about it. You don't want to become another statistic. The good news for you is, you don't have to be. Thousands of marriages are saved each year, and it usually just takes a few simple adjustments to how you relate to each other. If you want to have a happy marriage again, here are six powerful techniques you can put to use today that will

Dependence on other people is a kind of addiction and, therefore, fulfills important mental health functions. First, it is an organizing principle: it serves to explain behaviors and events within a coherent “narrative” (fictional story) or frame of reference (“I acted this way because …”). Second, it gives meaning to life. Third, the constant ups and downs satisfy your need for excitement and thrills. Fourth, and most crucially, your addiction and emotional lability plac

If you have never suffered from excessive anxiety, then it may be difficult to empathize with someone who has. Anxious people may seem to be worried about nothing of substance, so it’s tempting to disregard the problem. But the fact is, anxiety—including post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and panic disorder—is one of the most common disorders. About 40 millio American adults are affected per year. How do you deal with someone who seems anxious all the time?

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice on how I should tell her? Dear Reader:

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INTRODUCTION No matter how smart, intelligent, good-looking and “in-demand” you are, as long as you are not successful in developing the relationship you desire it means that there is something you do wrong. Why not make a New-Year Resolution to understand what this “something” is and become empowered to develop the relationship you desire? ARE YOU HAVING PROBLEMS WITH RELAITONSHIPS?

Is it the women who constantly break up with you? Trying to read a woman's mind is usually difficult as they are shrouded with mystery. However, if you're wondering why women dump men, here are some things that might be able to help you. Why Women Dump Men - You're Ignoring Her

Morality is inbuilt in every individual, but sometimes, due to various exte al pressures and temptations, you will be compelled to say a big blatant NO to ethical values and moral sciences. It will be only one night, but the mistake which you have committed for that small span of time may haunt you for ever, and some times, it may even start affecting the quality of your life. You will surely feel the heat of guilt from the feet, and it may burn your whole body and will start affecting the brain in a quite adverse manner.

When someone feels that he or she always has to be right, you can bet that there’s trouble ahead in the relationship arena. It doesn’t take a fortune teller with a crystal ball to predict the future when a person is determined to win every argument or disagreement at any cost.nnAlways having to be right is damaging to relationships because it interferes with healthy communication, shared decision-making, and trust. nnIt is destructive to the self-esteem and self-confidenc

We don’t want to lie. We love our partner. We understand a good relationship is built on trust, and that trust depends on our honesty. But sometimes we lie anyway. Why do we do it? For one thing, we’re not perfect. Our partners expect certain behavior from us (and we from them) and when we fail—because nobody’s perfect—we lie about it. What are our choices? We can tell our partners that we didn’t live up to their expectations, and that would disappoint them. Make them feel bad, and we’d feel bad too. We don’t want to do that so we make something up that’s a more acceptable story. We lie.r

Although online dating seems simple enough, learning how to attract women online, may be just as difficult as meeting the right woman in person. Sure, online dating is easier in the sense that you can set up your likes and dislikes, and get to know someone before you meet; but, if you are not honest, and if you don't use the right sites, it can be difficult meeting women online as well. These are a few tips for men who want to learn how to attract women online, and meet their ideal match. 1. Be honest -

If women could just change one thing, they would find that they could have almost everything they want in a relationship. Of course, I'm talking about women who are married to the average decent non-abusive man. I don't know how often I've heard a woman say, "But I shouldn't have to ask." Frequently, they have all sorts of expectations of their partner and become resentful and angry when he doesn't fulfill those expectations. However, when I ask what he said when they asked f

Does it bug you that your man will turn his head faster than a rabbit being chased by a dog; almost causing himself whiplash when it comes to something that grabs his fancy? However, you would never get caught while looking at some yummy piece of eye candy (and yes we all do it, not matter who we are, after all, only human). How is that possible? Is it because we are more sensitive to our partner’s feelings or is it because we are more refined in our behaviour as ladies? Well it turns out that women have eyes in the back of their heads...well almost.

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________________________________________ Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks and life in general? ________________________________________ Most of us lead very busy lives and it is easy to become overwhelmed with all we need to do. In addition, about 15% to 20% of us are born with highly sensitive nervous systems that are far more reactive to having a lot to do than the general population.

Dear Dr. Romance: I just read your post to the 'nice guy' who asked for advice why he keeps getting passed over for the 'bad boy' types, and he was 100% right in saying women consistently say they're looking for a 'nice guy'.