Sex Stats
By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

The next time you’re at a party and there’s a lull in the conversation rather than trying to fill the gap with your knowledge of sports statistics, sitcom trivia or movie tidbits wow your listeners with this amazing array of info on everyone’s favorite subject: SEX!

Mighty Mr. Willie

There’s a great variety in the size of flaccid penises, but there’s less difference when they’re hard because smaller penises enlarge more during erection. The average length for a fully erect penis is 15 cm (about 5 ¾”). Ninety percent of men’s pleasure poles measure between 13 and 18 cm (5 - 7”).
Records for the shortest and longest fully functional penis are a tiny 1.5 cm and a whopping 30 cm!
If you feel the need to see how you measure up first get an erection then, while standing, angle your penis straight out from your body. Extend a ruler from your pubic bone just above the base of your penis out to its tip and count the inches.

Helping Him Grow
Because there are no muscles in the penis that affect size, exercise doesn’t do anything to make your penis bigger. There are techniques for enlargement but they involve serious surgery and can have very unpleasant side effects or complications. No matter what the advertisements say no creams or ointments will help him grow at all

Concerned about the way your equipment stands? There’s no need to be, 25% of all penises bend in some direction. Even when erect some bend downward.

Sperm Production
Several hundred million sperm are produced daily by a healthy, fertile man. On ejaculation between 5 to 15 ml (1 teaspoon to 1 tablespoon) of semen is released, containing about 300 million sperm.

Ejaculation Spasms
When a man climaxes the muscles at the base of his penis contract approximately every 0.8 seconds, expelling semen in up to 5 exquisite spurts.

The Male ‘G-spot’
In addition to their penises men have other highly erotic parts of their bodies. One is the male ‘g-spot’ or more accurately ‘p-spot’ - for prostate gland. Stimulation of this spot, either externally through the perineum, the skin between your anus and testicles, or internally through the anus can result in extremely pleasurable sensation, including orgasm.

“Blue Balls”
The medical term for blue balls is epididymitis, an inflammation of the epididymis, which is in the scrotal sac and where sperm mature. In simple terms blue balls occurs when the epididymis get blocked up with sperm that have left the testis but not the penis. The vas deferns are the conduit for the sperm from the testis to the urethra. When they get blocked you get pain. You can usually relieve this by ejaculating.

The Honey Pot

Women’s vaginas average between 8 - 10 cm in length, about 3 - 4 inches. This expands during intercourse. Including her clitoris, vaginal lips and internal spongy tissue a woman has just about as much erectile tissue as a man, but most of it is inside her body.

Women and Orgasm
At least 70% of women don’t reach an orgasmic climax through intercourse alone, so remember to pay lots of loving attention to her most sensitive genital spot - the clitoris.

Female Ejaculation
During stimulation of the ‘G-spot’, a small area on the upper inside of the vaginal wall about 1 ½ to 2 inches back from the vaginal opening, some women ejaculate through the urethra. One to two ounces of clear, odorless fluid are expelled in a glorious gush.

Baby Making
At birth a woman’s ovaries contain up to 2 million immature eggs. After the onset of menstruation 1 egg matures every month and is released into the vagina just waiting for those millions of sperm to come fertilize it! Sperm can survive in the vagina for 3 to 5 days.

Anal sex and pregnancy
Because sperm can’t travel internally from the rectum to the vagina, technically it’s not possible to become pregnant through anal sex. But beware, after intercourse semen can leak from the anus and drip down to the vagina resulting in ‘splash’ conception. Of those who use anal sex for birth control, every year 8% end up pregnant!

Bodacious Breasts

Small, large, round, pointy, no matter what their shape, men just seem to love women’s breasts. Mammaries are as diverse as the women they sit so prettily on, but here’s some general guidelines:

  • It’s perfectly normal for a woman to have breasts that are different sizes, just as her hands and feet differ slightly in size.
  • When a woman is aroused her breasts swell by up to 25% and her nipples may become very hard.
  • Many women have hair around their nipples.
  • About 10 percent of women have inverted nipples.
  • Breasts are mostly fatty tissue which isn’t very sensitive to caresses and kisses. However, because the nipple itself and the area surrounding it (the areola) are full of nerve endings they’re very sensitive to touch.
  • Men also have many sensitive nerve endings in their nipples and can become very excited by nipple kisses, sucks and twirls.

    “Doing It”

    How Often?
    According to surveys by condom company Durex, the worldwide average for making love is 106 times per year. Canadians fit right in with the ‘norm’, hitting the sheets at an annual rate of 105 times or about twice a week. That puts us behind the French - 141, Americans - 138, Russians - 131, Australians, Brits and Germans - all at 112, and the South Africans and Poles - 109. But ahead of Mexico - 102, Italy - 92, Spain - 82, Thailand - 80 and Hong Kong - 57.
    Every day lovemaking occurs about 120 million times around the world, resulting in 910,000 pregnancies.
    Saturday night is the favorite time for Canadians to have sex and most North Americans do it at 10:34 pm.

    How Long?
    What Canadians lack in frequency we make up in stamina. With an average lovemaking time of 22.7 minutes we place second behind the Americans who carry on for 28.1 minutes. Of that time thrusting intercourse lasts between 6 to 10 minutes. For most Canadian couples foreplay lasts an average of 12 minutes

    All By Yourself
    95% of men masturbate, compared to 70% of women.

    First Time Sex

    Young Canadians start having sex slightly earlier than most. While the global average at which sexually active 16-21 year olds first had sex is 15.9 years, Canadians jumped in at an even 15 years.

    First Time Satisfaction
    While we might be starting younger we may be enjoying it less. 37% of young Canadians indicate that first time sex was more disappointing than they expected while only 19% indicated it was much better than they’d hoped.

    First Time Protection
    74% of young Canadian lovers used some form of contraception the first time they had sex. While 58% used condoms and 16% used other methods a much too large 26% didn’t use any type of protection!

    Was it Good for You?
    On the whole young Canadians are fairly generous lovers, with 64% of women and 65% of men putting their partner’s sexual satisfaction before their own.

    Sexual Fears
    Not surprisingly the top two fears related to sexual activity for young Canadians are fear of unwanted pregnancy - 21% and fear of contracting HIV or other STDs - 44%. But despite these concerns more than one third say that fear of HIV has not changed their sex life.

    Sexual Problems

    Sexual Dysfunction
    More than 40 percent of women and 30 percent of men suffer from some type of sexual difficulty such as no interest in sex, inability to achieve orgasm, painful intercourse, or premature ejaculation.

    Premature Ejaculation
    About 25% of men come before they want to, or before their partners want them to. For men under 40 premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem. The good news is that by strengthening their genital muscles with Kegel exercises and by practicing building up to a climax through masturbation and then stopping to rest and building up again and stopping to rest and building up again and so on… most men can learn to last much longer!

    More Information

    Want to increase your fountain of sexual knowledge? Check out some of these websites: For the straight goods on sexual health and sexual techniques, Canada’s Passion Village is packed with information and carefully chosen links to the best sexual resource sites on the Web. This is a huge site with information on just about every aspect of sexuality. Highly recommended as a starting point for your sex-positive research Uncover some sexy secrets from around the world with Durex’s latest global survey.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.

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