I have been pushing past my point of comfort for a long time now. It doesn’t come easy to me but somehow I need to keep doing it.

Two parts live in me: The Unstoppable Go-Getter and The Rocking Chair Woman.

The Unstoppable Go-Getter is the one who dreams the dreams and carries them out. She has the compelling visions of what and where I could be…who I could become. And she knows how to get things done too, big time. When she is in charge my intuition is strong (you may call it ‘your gut feelings’; it’s the same thing). I try to follow the guidance I’m getting from inside myself.

The Rocking Chair Woman just wants peace and quiet. She wants to retreat from the world into a comfortable life of couch potato-ing and nature walks.

Both are, of course, valid parts of me, and of all of us. It’s the old balance idea again. My Go-Getter still predominates, and I imagine she will for a long time. As a friend who is an intuitive said to me about three years ago, ‘You’re too young to sit in the rocking chair yet!” So I guess she’s right.

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We’re at different stages at different times of our lives. We may go back and forth through being out in the world and being inward. They’re not just age-related. Although my Go-Getter predominates now, she didn’t during perimenopause, during that time of extraordinary changes within. They were in my body, my mind, and I think even more importantly, they were taking place on a spiritual level.

I know this has been said before, but it’s come to me again recently, strongly: I don’t think we listen to our intuition enough. We do a lot of things that aren’t in our best interests, that aren’t for our higher good, if you will.

Often we work too much and do way too much for too many people. Or sometimes we do things because we feel or think they’re best for our businesses or our health.

I invite you to just step back next time you consider doing something – anything small or large. Take a deep breath and ask yourself if this is right for you in this moment of time.

Then follow your intuition.

Author's Bio: 

Ellen Besso writes for & coaches midlife women as they transition through the challenges of this stage. Her holistic book for caregivers, "Surviving Eldercare: Where Their Needs End & Yours Begin" will help women caring for aging parents to care for themselves in healthy ways. Read the 1st page of each chapter here:

Ellen Besso, MA, Reg'd Counselor & Coach
ellenbesso.com