What is lack? Lack is you noticing that you don’t have what you want. It is the belief that you will be okay if and when you receive what you want. Lack is a focus on the absence of what you want. Affirming. praying, and visualizing are made less effective when we offer them from a place of ... Views: 1480
Changing our thoughts from a predominantly negative to a predominantly positive orientation has physical implications. According to brain research expert, Dr. Pat Wolfe in Brain Matters: Translating Research into Classroom Practice, the brain is the only organ that sculpts itself. Our ... Views: 1235
It is a human tendency to categorize each other. We place labels on people and tell ourselves that is who they are. Once we create a label we look for evidence to continually prove that the label is correct. That comes from another tendency-- the need to be right. If you step back from your ... Views: 3288
Hope is the ability to see a brighter future. It inspires us to to keep on making the effort, to keep on living. Hope is the stuff that movies on the Hallmark Channel are made of. Throughout history people have been encouraged to have hope. There are seasons and reasons to have hope. Hope is ... Views: 1109
“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.” Dennis Wholey
Everyone has expectations. We expect people to treat us a certain way. As leaders we expect people to perform well and ... Views: 2352
Ego is your self image. It is how you see yourself in relation to others and the world. Ego also includes the compulsion we feel to defend the image. The ego is not real. It is a concept, an idea. We have these thoughts and urges within us and we call it "ego". For something that is not real, ... Views: 7859
Great leadership is about power, yet it is not about power over others. The power of a great leader is to create an environment where others are empowered to offer their best. This is not working through people where others become extensions of you, the leader. This is dedicating yourself to the ... Views: 4447
Have you ever felt that the people around you were acting like children and you were the only real adult in the room? It could be at work, or at a family gathering, a community meeting, or reading some blog. Maybe you listened to people gossip, share opinions as if they were facts, or watched as ... Views: 2625
In my city of East Lansing, Michigan, I always get great service at Lou and Harry's Grill. Lou and Harry's has three locations and mostly employs college students. You would think that with an extremely transient workforce that service and quality would be inconsistent. I have probably dined ... Views: 1135
Who rules your mind? If you are like most people, it probably isn't you. That would require clarity. That would require discipline. Thoughts are powerful. They determine your experience, and they influence the experience of others. You can choose to be clear and to discipline your mind. The ... Views: 1742
You are a center of influence. You are a nucleus. Everything you think, feel, say, and do has a ripple effect. Your effect ripples outward and affects the world. You affect the people in your life--in your family, in your workplace, in your community--you have an effect.
Unfortunately, most ... Views: 1125
I have read that baby elephants in captivity are chained by one leg to a post. They try hard to free themselves but are unable. After awhile they give up. When they grow up, they believe they still can't free themselves, even though they have the strength to break free at any time. If the story ... Views: 1269
It seems that the mind never stops thinking. Dr. Deepak Chopra wrote that we think upwards of 50 thousand thoughts per day, and 90 % of them are the same thoughts we had yesterday. Yet, what passes for thinking in our minds isn't really thinking at all. We spend most of our time replaying ... Views: 853
You already know you are responsible for your own behavior, thoughts, feelings, and your life. You know that it is not what others do, but your interpretation of what they do that creates your reaction. You know these things, and sometimes you forget these things. When you find yourself blaming, ... Views: 1146
Becoming an adult is a sorting out process. We put away the aspects of ego that no longer serve us, and we nurture those aspects that do serve us.
At one point in my life I put away sarcasm. I thought it was humorous and fun, but it was hurtful to other people. In the past, sarcastic ... Views: 1681
If you are reading this article you probably think you are an adult. You may very well be an adult, yet, the odds are you aren't. Yes, most of us are walking around in adult bodies, but that doesn't make us adults. Add to that the fact that it is very difficult to become an adult. The reason it ... Views: 1116
Do you ask yourself this question: Am I better off now than I was then? By what criteria would you measure your response. You have more money? You have better health? You found the love of your life? You found a great job? I would suggest that these are not the ways you measure your life. I ... Views: 1082
You cannot reduce dreams and goals to your size. If you dream of being a high level manager, yet your main goal is to please your boss, it is unlikely you will achieve your dream. If you dream of being wealthy, yet resent those who already have money, it is unlikely you will achieve wealth. ... Views: 1307
You are a light to the world. You are a living example of what all of us can achieve. Your personal transformation helps to transform all of us. People who are helping to transform the planet are called light workers. They are bringing light, a higher energy, into life on earth at this time. ... Views: 998
Belief in God: (Or not?)
A friend of mine told me he was an Atheist. I asked him what that meant. He said: "It means I don't believe in God."
I asked him: "What do you mean by God?"
He said: "A divine being who created the world and who judges us."
I responded: "I don't believe in that god ... Views: 1112
Every professional relationship has a purpose, and often we don't really know what the purpose is. We may think different relationships have different purposes. The purpose of a relationship with a potential customer may seem to be to sell a product or service. The purpose of a manager-staff ... Views: 1552
Every relationship has a goal, yet we often don’t know what that goal is. If the relationship is personal, we might think the goal is happiness. If it is professional, we might think the goal is to be profitable or to help each other (teamwork/cooperation). It seems that goals such as happiness ... Views: 1458
We read about the Law of Attraction and it seems so simple. Change your thoughts and you change your life. What could be simpler? Most of us discover that it may be simple, but it isn't easy. We find it difficult because it is about more than just changing our thoughts. The Law of Attraction ... Views: 950
Perhaps nothing is as dangerous as a leader who is certain he knows what he is doing. Often so-called leaders and experts believe they know all there is to know, and that their knowledge is so complete, that they cannot make mistakes. The ego is a know-it-all. It likes to be right. Yet there is ... Views: 1178
In human groups culture is always at work. Whether it is a workplace organization, school, spiritual center, community, club, or family, there is a structure that guides behavior. The structure is based on choices made over time by various leaders in the group. It becomes "The way we do things." ... Views: 1757
Peace is something we choose. At any given moment we may choose peace or conflict; peace or struggle. The moment you find yourself angry, upset, or stressing, you can choose peace. There is a beautiful verse from A Course in Miracles that reads: "I could choose peace instead of this." The ... Views: 1679
I define an adult as someone who takes 100 % responsibility for his or her life and situation. This article and you tube series will explore what it means to be an adult. These times are calling for leaders to be adults. This is Part One, Moving Beyond Blaming.
Every blaming thought you hold ... Views: 1255
"...the servant views any problem in the world as in here, inside one's self, not out there. And if a flaw in the world is to be remedied, to the servant, the process of change starts in here, in the servant, not out there."
from Servant Leadership by Robert K. Greenleaf
Every waking moment of ... Views: 1232
When you blame you are usually fearful, angry or hurt. Blaming robs you of your ability to think clearly. Emotional awareness is the key to freeing yourself from the restrictions made by blaming.
Emotion is energy. It can be both constructive and destructive. A passion for the possible drove ... Views: 1678
Years ago I went horse back riding with a friend. I had never been horse back riding. I was nervous, but I seemed to be doing okay. Suddenly, my friend’s horse took off running and so mine followed. I was scared to death. All I could think was, “Get me off this horse!” I got my wish. I fell off ... Views: 1324
I feel naked. As I am writing this I am actually wearing clothes. It’s thirty degrees outside. I just published my first novel—Human Adulthood: A Spiritual Romance. I have written and published four non-fiction books. There certainly is a level of vulnerability with those, especially since I ... Views: 1320
Recently I attended my high school class reunion. Back in high school there were groups,
just as there are in most high schools today. I was on the fringes of the group that
included most of the popular kids. I was shy and didn't really feel a part of that group.
When I think about it, it wasn't ... Views: 1069
Many people talk about changes occurring in late 2012. Call it a celestial speed-up, a shift in mass consciousness, awakening, or evolution in consciousness, but don't get too excited about it yet. If it is happening now, it's for adults only.
The Divine cannot change what you refuse to let ... Views: 1281
Forgiveness is logical. It isn't something that you should do. It is a practice that makes sense. When you forgive you improve your well-being and influence others to improve theirs. When you forgive you empower yourself. Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself and to the world.
To ... Views: 1727
It's true. If it weren't for gravity, you might not notice so much when you gain weight. During the past couple of months I noticed that I had gained about ten pounds this year. And ten pounds the year before! My waist size didn't increase in my pants--I just started wearing my pants a little ... Views: 1387
Often people are moody, cranky, or critical and it can be distressing. When you find that people around you are acting in ways that are difficult keep in mind that it's not about you. I find this quote from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, to be most helpful: "Don't take anything ... Views: 965
Most intelligent people are willing to say: “I am responsible. I am accountable.” To say and mean this is the first step. The second step is to add the word “completely”.
“I am completely responsible”. This is difficult for most. When something goes wrong we tend to say: ”I am responsible ... Views: 976
You have a purpose. You have specific gifts, talents, and abilities that are uniquely yours. At the intersection of “what you love to do” and “what you are good at” you will find your purpose. Do you know your purpose? Do you know why you are here on this planet? If not, then it’s time to ask ... Views: 978
To polarize is to divide into sharply opposing groups or sides. We sometimes see polarization as a problem, for example in politics. People have opposing views in the areas of gun control, abortion, gay marriage, and health care. The polarity that we see is not a problem once you understand that ... Views: 1454
To polarize is to divide into sharply opposing groups or sides. We sometimes see polarization as a problem, for example in politics. People have opposing views in the areas of gun control, abortion, gay marriage, and health care. The polarity that we see is not a problem once you understand that ... Views: 1171
Think for a moment. How do you see yourself? What opinions do you have about yourself? If you are like most people, you have some critical opinions. These opinions have grown and been maintained over time.
Any negative opinions you have about yourself are opinions based on thoughts of ... Views: 1686
Think for a moment. How do you see yourself? What opinions do you have about yourself? If you are like most people, you have some critical opinions. These opinions have grown and been maintained over time.
Any negative opinions you have about yourself are opinions based on lack. The opinions ... Views: 4979
Recently I have begun a process to extend my work, to get it out to more people. Some of you have read my blogs. Some of you have read my books. I decided it was time to play bigger, to take more responsibility, and to shine the light that is within me.
I am not special. You have a light to ... Views: 1273
Success for organizations takes single mindedness. Determine what you want and then take unwavering action toward it. Leaders in organizations who talk about treating people right, but in reality treat people with disrespect, create pain and resentment. People see the gap between what is said ... Views: 1096
Two people work in a retail environment. It is small and employs about six people. Customers visit throughout the day. One of these people is the manager. The other person handles issues regarding credit and group sales. For the past three years they have not spoken to each other. The manager ... Views: 1364
Many of us speed through the day without much awareness. The whole day is about doing and then doing more. For others of us, we feel lost in our day, directionless, not sure what to do next. By the time the day is finished we often feel frustrated. We didn’t get enough done. We didn’t meet our ... Views: 1749
One of our presidential candidates (Barack Obama) wrote a book entitled: The Audacity of Hope. If you are feeling down and things look bleak, hope tells you, “This, too, will pass.” Hope tells you that things can get better. Yet, when we hope that things will turn out for our best ... Views: 1138
What drives you? What do you want to come of your life? These are essential questions for each of us.
Many cannot answer them. Yet, if you want to have meaning in your life, you need to answer these questions for yourself. Consider creating a core idea.
A core idea is an idea that is central ... Views: 2219
At this time of year many of you give gifts. The definition of a gift is: "something given willingly to another person without payment." True giving is without expectation of a return. We give for the joy of giving. As you spend time searching online or in the malls for your gifts to give, I ask ... Views: 1376
THIS IS THE PART where the hero (me) is unmasked. I play the role of leader. People see me as William or Bill. I'm the man with the answers.
I'm the man who is in control. I have it all together. People speak around the table and then they look at me. They look at me as if to say: "What do you ... Views: 1162