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- Mirroring: Is Mirroring Important To Someone's Development? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is a baby and then a child, they are completely dependent on their parent’s responses to them. Through their caregivers responding, one will be able to have their need for food and nurturing to be met. And this also goes on to include one’s self image and how they view themselves. ...
Views: 1778 - Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 6035 - Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ...
Views: 5084 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4459 - Letting Go: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Letting Go? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is constantly changing and never stays the same. But while this is the truth about reality, it doesn’t mean that letting go and going with the flow of life is necessarily easy or straightforward. The outer world is constantly changing and transforming, and yet the inner world and what is ...
Views: 1615 - Pain: Is Pain Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that are part of the human experience, and pain is one of them. Pain can come in many different forms and is not limited to one form. This can be: physical mental and emotional. On one side it can be seen as nothing more than a problem and something that one must try to ...
Views: 1665 - Self Control: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Self Control? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControl is something that everyone not only wants, but needs to a certain degree. To have no control would make life a real challenge and could make one question their will to live. This doesn’t mean that the control in question here is the control of others. The type of control this relates ...
Views: 1566 - False Self: Can Trapped Emotions Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMany names have been used over the years when it comes to describing that part of someone that is not real or authentic. And one of those names is the false self and many others have also been used such as: the mask that someone wears, the pseudo self and adaptive behaviour for instance. ...
Views: 1840 - Gravity: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe trailer to this film really caught my eye and stood out like very few films do. And while some are quiet engaging and interesting, this was gripping and instantly pulled me in. It soon became apparent that George Clooney and Sandra bullock were in the film. After watching it, I mentioned the ...
Views: 2263 - The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1658 - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 1994 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1705 - Self Harm: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Self Harm? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be said to be two ways that one can be harmed in this world. One of these is through external means and what other people do to them. And the other is what one does to themselves. What goes on externally can be noticed and as it is observable to others, they can come to ones ...
Views: 1749 - Beliefs: Do Our Feelings Create Our Beliefs? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is behaving in a certain way or not attracting what they want into their life, it is often said to be a result of what their beliefs are. And so one then needs to change what they believe, in order to act differently and to attract what they want into their reality. A large part ...
Views: 2911 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2825 - Self Talk: How Do You Talk To Yourself? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night. But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ...
Views: 1583 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1875 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3128 - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2123(2 votes) - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2614(1 vote) - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1691 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1694 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1920 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2286 - Siblings: Do Our Siblings Shape Our Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb. And while the ...
Views: 1754 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ...
Views: 7252 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
Views: 1596 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2207 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
Views: 2079 - Physical Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences some kind of physical pain or tension it can be normal to just see it as the body reacting to something and that some kind of external solution is needed to deal with the pain. And this is a natural consequence of seeing the body as separate from the mind and something ...
Views: 1788 - Truth: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Speak Their Truth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ...
Views: 1881 - Defence Mechanism: Justification - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what defence mechanism is being utilised, they all have the same purpose. And that is to stop one from being overwhelmed by what they are experiencing. They are used when the pain that is arising is too much for someone to handle. And as pain is part of life and therefore can’t be ...
Views: 2337 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3354 - Love: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone would like to love and appreciate themselves, it doesn’t mean that one finds this easy or even possible to do. But, this love is not an adaption and what appears when one doesn’t love themselves. Here, something known as unhealthy narcissism can appear; with one having ...
Views: 3003 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2143 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1638 - Happiness: Is The Purpose Of Life To Be happy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a ...
Views: 1637 - Blame: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor change to take place and progress to be made, there needs to an element of responsibility. And this applies to all areas of one’s life; without it, something might stay as it is or simply get a lot worse. But while this is evident, it doesn’t mean that someone will take responsibility ...
Views: 4125 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 2019 - Listening: Do You Listen With Your Head Or Heart? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is an essential human need to be listened to and truly heard by others. This leads to a sense of validation and the experience of being mirrored. From the moment one is born this need is there and it will stay there until the moment they pass. Although this need is essential to ones ...
Views: 1981 - Permission: Do We Need Permission In Life? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may have the desire to act in a certain way or to achieve a certain goal, there can be challenges that get in the way. And one of those challenges is the need to gain permission from others. Now, this is not necessarily something that one looks for at a conscious level, it could be ...
Views: 1538 - Emotionally stuck: Does Society Keep People Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now it has been said that women grow up faster than men. And in some cases, they say that men are about ten years behind when it comes to emotional development. This is obviously not the case for all men, but there is often clear evidence to support this viewpoint. Now there ...
Views: 2381 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to be in positions of great power and responsibility. They often have more control in their career and relationships and are not as limited as previous generations were. This is not to say that this sense of inner empowerment has become the norm for ...
Views: 1986 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
Views: 3109 - Sensitive: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Be Overly Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are described as being overly sensitive and highly empathic. And while this does lead to many benefits, there are also many challenges that arise from being this way. They can feel like sponges that pick up anything and everything that is going on in an environment. ...
Views: 1749 - Dependency: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Dependency? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances. This is something that can relate to every need ...
Views: 2137 - Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the ...
Views: 1639(1 vote) - Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only ...
Views: 7065 - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 2056(2 votes) - Help: Why Do Some People Have Trouble Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that no one is their own island and each one of us in interdependent. This not only applies to people; it also includes the earth that one lives on, the air they breathe and the sun that creates light and gives off energy for instance. There is always going to be people who ...
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