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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Hide Their True-Self In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship, it could show that they are with someone who they share every part of their being with. What this means is that they will talk about what is taking place in their mind, reveal what is taking place in their heart and share their body. As a result of this, every ...
Views: 822(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are often seen as two people sharing who they are with the other each and with both of them being on the same level; this doesn’t always take place. And when this doesn’t happen, one of the reasons can be due to one person trying to rescue the other. Now, in order for ...
Views: 6256(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Believe That All Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go online and to look for information on the women’s movement, they are likely to come across all kinds of views and opinions. In fact, this could also take place if one was to simply find people who were part of this movement in their local area. University For example, if ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Self Image: Why Do Some People Take Things Personally? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who take just about everything personally and this doesn’t have to be the words that other people say. It could relate to how another person looks at them and what one experiences in the world around them. This can also relate to specific situations where one is being given ...
Views: 10828(1 vote) - Self Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperSelf Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone I believe that the journey one embarks on to understand who and what they are; is one that could be classed as an individual journey. There will of course be many people who one encounters during this journey. And the amount of time that ...
Views: 3190(1 vote) - Self-Development: Do Some Peoples Childhood's Set Them Up To Reject Their Masculine/Feminine Side - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can find it easy to be assertive, they could find it hard to be vulnerable and to open up about how they feel. Alternatively, one could find it easy to open up about how they feel, but it could be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, they are going to ...
Views: 1036(1 vote) - Self-Esteem: Is Self-Acceptance The Key To Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves or simply wants to feel better than they do, they can end up trying to change one area of their life. At the same time, they may try to change a number of areas of their life. When this happens, someone is likely to believe that they will feel ...
Views: 924(1 vote) - Self-Image: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Incapable? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they ...
Views: 698(1 vote) - Self-Neglect: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People’s Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone focuses on other people’s needs and does what they can to make sure that they are taken care of, they can end up being seen as a ‘good’ or ‘selfless’ person. One can behave in this way when they are at work and when they are around their friends and family, for instance. By ...
Views: 811(1 vote) - Selfless: Do Some People Only Help Others Because It Makes Them Feel Good? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of things that one can do whilst they are on this planet, and while some things are frowned upon by society, there are other things that are encouraged. For example, one can choose to commit crime, but this will typically lead to a negative outcome. It could be said that ...
Views: 1327(1 vote) - Selfless: Why Do Some People Say That They Are Selfless? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can only focus on their own needs, they can also focus on other people’s needs. But although there is another way to experience life, these are often seen as the only options that are available. Outlook If one only focuses on their own needs, it can be normal for people to ...
Views: 1355(1 vote) - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Groupthink? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks to people over social media, it is not going to be the same as talking to them in person. It could be said that this is pretty obvious, and that it is not something that needs to be pointed out. What this primarily comes down to is that one is going to be using a device to ...
Views: 3163(1 vote) - Social Media: Does Social Media Make It Easy For Someone To Create The Impression That They Are A Good Person? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to display their personality in the past, it would have been necessary for them to be around others. However, in today’s world this is no longer the case, and this is primarily due to social media. It is now possible for one to display their personality no matter where they ...
Views: 1053(1 vote) - The Ego: Is The Ego A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not working in life, it is common for blame to appear. And this can be towards: things, individuals and organisations. The opposite of this would be to take responsibility and to find out what the problems are and then to take the appropriate action. Through doing this, ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Focus On Donald Trump’s Behaviour To Stop People From Seeing The Big Picture? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people talk about how bad Donald Trump is, and they could have a number of different reasons as to why they have come to this conclusion. In fact, they might not even feel the need to go into why they have this outlook. It’s Obvious As far as they are concerned, ...
Views: 1300(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Repetition To Control People? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, one would have watched TV, listened to the radio or read a paper if they wanted to find out what was taking place in the world. Nowadays, this is no longer necessary, and this is because they can simply go online. And, providing they have a Smartphone, they can do this no matter ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Media Creating Our View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the ...
Views: 1839(1 vote) - The Media: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Back Up Their Arguments When They Listen To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone believes about what is taking place in the world, they can be heavily influenced by the mainstream media. Alternatively, they may have a different approach. One might be in a position where they rarely pay attention to this source of information, or they could ...
Views: 1136(1 vote) - Therapy: Why Do Some People Judge People Who Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a problem with their car, there is a strong chance that they will end up taking it to a garage. And this is likely to take place without one spending a lot of time thinking about whether this is the right decision or not. No Pressure This is because one won’t be doing ...
Views: 1230(1 vote) - Victim Energy: Do Some People Have A Victim Energy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that the whole world is against them, while there are others who have a slightly different outlook. When it comes to the latter, someone will have at least one area of their life where they feel powerless. However, if another area of their life started to ...
Views: 1284(1 vote) - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel like a victim from time to time, there are others who pretty much always feel this way. When one can relate to the former, it is unlikely to be something that will have an effect on how they see themselves. Momentary But if it does have an effect on ...
Views: 1057(1 vote) - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 1162(1 vote) - You Are Not Broken - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen Errol Campbell and I were doing live videos about a year ago, he said that it wasn’t just about us giving advice. While this was part of it, he also said that we were there to hold the space so that the people on the call could find their own answers. At the time, I found it hard to get ...
Views: 830(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 772(1 vote) - Black And White Thinking: Is It good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can think in ways that will enhance their life or at the very least not cause any harm, they can also think in a ways that will limit their quality of life. And the mind is like any other kind of tool out there; with one needing to know how to use it, in order to utilize its ...
Views: 2020(2 votes) - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2111(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Losing Themselves In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. ...
Views: 2473(2 votes) - Toxic Shame: What Is Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is said to be two types of shame. One is described as normal and healthy and the other is said to be abnormal and dysfunctional. Healthy Shame This shame is part of having a healthy conscience; with certain behaviours and actions being kept in check by this feeling. And when ones ...
Views: 4228(2 votes) - Critical Thinking: If Someone Is Psychic Does It Mean That They Are Self-Aware? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world who have the ability to pick up information about others without needing to use their five senses. It is then as though part of them tunes into another person’s field or energy and shortly after this, their conscious mind is aware of this information. A Good ...
Views: 1405(3 votes) - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3222(1 vote) - Assertive: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Assertive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough assertiveness is largely described as the ideal, what is often found is either submissive or aggressive behaviour. So if submissive behaviour was at one end of the spectrum; aggressive behaviour would be at the other end of the spectrum. This means that assertive behaviour would be ...
Views: 3273(2 votes) - Associations: Do Associations Create Our Perceptions Of People? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard of the saying ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ and yet this is generally what happens. We see that someone is wearing a certain item of clothing, looks or acts a certain way and a judgement is made. This judgment is automatic and is a consequence of the unconscious ...
Views: 1872(1 vote) - Being Exposed: Why Do Some People Have A Fear Of Being Exposed? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak. Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then ...
Views: 3980(1 vote) - Brands: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Brands? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where brands are everywhere and there is more or less a brand for everything. From branded water; to branded clothes and anything else that one could imagine. Part of the brand experience is that it creates sense of trust for people; that they can rely on the brand to ...
Views: 11562(1 vote) - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2157(2 votes) - Controlling Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Controlling? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that to some degree all mothers are controlling and that they have to be. From the very beginning a child has to have the right discipline and guidance to develop. However, what happens when this control is taken to the extreme and the child is taken advantage of? A ...
Views: 4773(1 vote) - Disconnected: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be someone to spend most of their time living in their body. There will then be times when their awareness leaves their body and goes into their head, but this won’t be the norm. When this does happen, it could be because they are using some kind of ...
Views: 754(1 vote) - Emotional Pain: Can Emotional Pain Build-Up If Someone Doesn't Have A Strong Connection With Their Body? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced loss, they could end up experiencing emotional pain. When it comes to how severe this pain is, it can all depend on who has passed on. So, if a family member has passed on, the amount of pain that they are in could be unbearable. Through being in so much pain, ...
Views: 786(1 vote) - Free Speech: Do Some People Try To Silence Others Because They Can't Handle Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could experience a negative reaction if another person was to say something bad about them, this could also take place if they were to express their views. As a result of this, it could be a challenge for them to feel at peace within. No Escape One could then spend time with ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - Intelligence: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Stupid? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can be good at something but not realise it; they can also be intelligent but not realise it. As a result of this, the view that they have of themselves is not going to match up with reality. One of the ways that this can affect their life is that they might not ...
Views: 653(1 vote) - Interviews With Successful People - Ben Wright – Professional Stuntman And Actor - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having interviewed a number of DJ’s and producers, I thought that it would be a good idea to interview someone from another profession. So after hearing about a stuntman from someone I know, I thought that it would be great to interview him. Through typing his name into Google, I was ...
Views: 2174(1 vote) - Mother Enmeshed Men: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what enmeshment is, it helps to look at what boundaries are. Boundaries are what create a sense of individuality between people. And although we are all physically separate, it does not mean that we are emotionally separate from another person. This becomes what ...
Views: 23862(2 votes) - Objectification: Why Do Some Women Objectify Their Bodies? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling good is something we all want to experience and there are many ways to achieve this. One way this takes place is through receiving attention from other people; with this attention being positive. It is easy to feel down and unattractive when the attention from others is negative and/or ...
Views: 1822(1 vote) - Our Value Is Not Defined By How Many 'Likes' We Get! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body. If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - Relationships: Are Boundaries Important In Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperA big part of being intimate involves being able to share ones reality with another person. Here, one will share what they are feeling, thinking and sensing. And while this may sound clear enough to understand, it is not always the easiest thing to do in a relationship. One of the primary ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they ...
Views: 651(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the ...
Views: 1632(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Surrender To The Wrong Men? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are women in the world who will be only too happy to surrender to a man, while there are women out there who won’t. As a result of this, these women are going to have radically different expectations. Therefore, there will be what the first group of women look for and then there are ...
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