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- Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1534 - Fame: Can Childhood Neglect Make Someone Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was well-known in the past, it may have been because they had achieved something significant or it may have been the result of a crime they had committed. In today’s world, this has all changed and one no longer needs to have done either. This was something Andy Warhol alluded to ...
Views: 1533 - Grieving: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Grieving? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of things that separate human beings, they are also plenty of things that bring them together. For instance, no matter what someone’s gender is or where they are from on this planet, they are still part of the human race. There are of course many other ways in which ...
Views: 1532 - Procrastination: Is Procrastination Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about something they have been struggling with as of late or for most of their life, procrastination is often mentioned. This could be something that is having an impact on every area of someone’s life in extreme cases or it could be something that just appears in certain ...
Views: 1532 - Mindfulness: Can Mindfulness Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one reacts to what is going on externally or to what is going on internally, they are not experiencing self control and at times, this is to be expected; human beings are not robots after all. However, when one experiences no self control whosoever, they are going to find it difficult to ...
Views: 1530 - Shameless: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Shameless? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is possible for an emotion to enhance one’s life, it is also possible for an emotion to have the opposite effect. If one feels angry, it could be a sign that they have been violated, but if they always feel this way it shows that something isn’t right. It could mean that one is ...
Views: 1530 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to lie down in a crowded place, there is a strong chance that they would end up being walked over. And it wouldn’t matter whether someone wanted to walk over them or not, as they wouldn’t have much choice. However, this is not to say that one needs to do this in order to be walked ...
Views: 1529 - The Media: Does The Media Cause Apathy? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take too much effort to notice that today’s media outlets have incredible influence over so many people’s lives. And that this influence can result in all kinds of consequences taking place. Now, some of these are consequences that are clear to see and are highly visible. And ...
Views: 1529 - Happiness: Is The Purpose Of Life To Be happy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a ...
Views: 1528 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1526 - Invisible: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the desire to be seen is part of being human and as human beings are interdependent, it is a vital part of not only being able to survive, but to thrive. If human beings were inherently independent, then it wouldn’t matter if they were seen by others or not. One’s ability to survive ...
Views: 1524 - Music: Can The Music We Listen To Stop Us From Being Able To Let Go? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where one is from on this planet, what colour their skin is or their social standing, they’re likely to listen to music. Very few things have the power to bring people together and this is one of the reasons why music is so powerful. The fact that there are different styles can ...
Views: 1524 - Childhood Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people on this planet who always have enough and then there are others who never have enough. And it doesn’t matter what state the economy is in either; as there will still be the haves and have not’s. When one thinks about people to have what they want, they may start to ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1523 - Entitlement Mentality: Is The Law Of Reciprocity Being Phased Out By The Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is given something, they can feel the need to give something back. This doesn’t mean that they will give something back straight away though; as they could return the favour at a later date. So as time passes, one may give something to the person or the company who gave them ...
Views: 1521 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With People Who’re Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who typically eat food that is unhealthy, there are others who typically eat food that is healthy. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. A Big Effect When one can relate to the former, it could mean that they have the tendency to eat a ...
Views: 1521 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Being Able To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach experience that one has in life is going to play a part in how they feel. In some cases, how one feels will reflect what has taken place and at other times, it won’t. And this is because what has happened externally has triggered feelings from the past. This inner experience could ...
Views: 1520 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Letting Go Of Grudges? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when one looks back and remembers someone who treated them well and then there are going to be moments when this isn’t the case. This could mean that one looks back and ends up feeling angry and this may not only relate to one person, it could relate to a number of ...
Views: 1519 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Taking Responsibility For How We Feel In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ...
Views: 1518 - Impostor: Why Do Some People Feel Like Impostors? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has worked hard to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they feel as though they deserve it. The ideal would be for someone to feel as though they are worthy, no matter what they accomplish. However, there are some people who are unable to accept their achievements. ...
Views: 1517 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them. Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ...
Views: 1517 - Smothered Or Abandoned: Do You Alternate Between Feeling Smothered And Abandoned? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have the need to reach out and to connect and the need to pull away and be by themselves. This is normal and the amount of time that is required with another and by oneself is naturally going to vary from person to person. It can come down to what is going in their life and how they ...
Views: 1517 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1515(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1514 - Feelings: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Showing Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences something, there is likely to be what is going on in their mind and what is occurring in their body. And if one is unable to experience both sides, it might make it harder for them embrace what is taking place and it may cause them to come across as being out of ...
Views: 1512 - Social Media: Is Social Media Eroding The Meaning Of Friendship? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask a group of people who have been on this planet for over thirty years and another group who have been here for less than twenty years what their definition of friendship is, the feedback they receive might end up being completely different. This could be put down to fact that ...
Views: 1512 - Pain: Is Pain Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that are part of the human experience, and pain is one of them. Pain can come in many different forms and is not limited to one form. This can be: physical mental and emotional. On one side it can be seen as nothing more than a problem and something that one must try to ...
Views: 1511 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Get Over An Abusive Man? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman who has been with an abusive man it is not always easy to move on. And this can be due to the following factors; how severe the abuse was and how the woman responded to the abuse. But no matter what took place or how a woman was able to respond to the abuse that was taking ...
Views: 1510 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1509 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1509 - Breathing In Is Masculine, Breathing Out Is Feminine - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year ago I went to a health and wellbeing centre and had a little look around the entrance, but I didn’t go any further. However, a few weeks ago I felt the urge to go to this place again, and this made me look at the website. I found out that there would be a free guided mediation ...
Views: 1507 - Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1507 - Loss: Should Someone Let Go Of Another Person's Possessions After They Have Passed On? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one losses someone, they may feel the need to let go of their possessions soon after. Or if they don’t feel this way, the people around them may encourage them to have clear out, so to speak. It could be said that the reason this would be seen as a good idea is that when something is ...
Views: 1507 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1505 - Inner Conflict: Can Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one knows exactly what they want to achieve or to experience, there will be clarity. And as result of this, one will be able to take the steps that they need to take to make their goal a reality. This doesn’t mean that it will be a straight forward process though; as there are likely to ...
Views: 1504 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a house or owns a piece of land, they’re going to know how important it is to have a fence or some kind of sign to mark where their property begins and where it ends. So not only will this let other people know where they shouldn’t go without permission, there will also be a ...
Views: 1501 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1501 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People They're Not Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality. One could meet someone ...
Views: 1501 - Letting Go: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Letting Go? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is constantly changing and never stays the same. But while this is the truth about reality, it doesn’t mean that letting go and going with the flow of life is necessarily easy or straightforward. The outer world is constantly changing and transforming, and yet the inner world and what is ...
Views: 1500 - Relationships: Has Internet Dating Made It Easier For People To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to achieve something, they can end up imagining what their life would be like if they were to achieve it. On one hand, they could believe that it will have a small impact on their life, and on the other hand, they could believe that it will have significant impact on ...
Views: 1499 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Delude Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image. However, although one’s ...
Views: 1498 - Relationships: Do People Know When Their Partners Are Having An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one is unable to see what is taking place around them and during these moments, it will be important for them to reach out to others. This is not necessarily because the people on the outside have something they don’t; it is because they are not emotionally involved. ...
Views: 1498 - "I Felt Accepted!" - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Bali and Australia, towards the end of 2009, I was no longer the same person. What had also played a part here were the experiences that I had when I was on a course in Belgium, which took place just before I went away. Ultimately, I wanted to continue from where I ...
Views: 1496 - Relationships: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Painful Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be to have relationships that are always harmonious and are free from pain, during and even when they come to an end, this is not how life works. All relationships have some kind of conflict and if they don’t, there is probably a lot of repression taking place. And what ...
Views: 1496 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1495 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1495 - Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the ...
Views: 1494(1 vote) - Guilt: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be moments where one’s emotional experience reflects reality, there can also be moments when it doesn’t. In this case, it could be said that there is no reason for one to feel the way that they do. However, even though there will be moments where it isn’t necessary for one ...
Views: 1492 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhood's Set Them Up To Attract Submissive Men? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women who attract men who are in touch with their masculine strength, while there are others who don’t. As a result of this, their experiences with the opposite sex are going to be very different. One Experience If a woman is used to being with men who are in touch with ...
Views: 1491 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
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