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- Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Care What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one hadn’t learnt now to drive and they had to rely on someone else to drive them everywhere, their life is going to be a lot harder than it would be if they could drive. This is because they won’t be able to go out when they want; they will only be able to go out when the only person is ...
Views: 1664 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1664 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Think They Are Superior To Men/Women? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world. One could then see that there are things that they can do that ...
Views: 1662 - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could say that they hate a certain type of food, for instance, they can also say that they hate the opposite gender. It one could relate to the first example (or if they hated something similar), it is unlikely to have much of an effect on their life. However, if they were in ...
Views: 1661 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Entertainment To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for one to watch TV or to go to the theatre in order to be entertained; the only thing they need to do is to have some kind of device. This then gives them the chance to watch something no matter where they are. So if one is in a position where they have a ...
Views: 1661 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always End Up With People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a description about what it means to have a healthy relationship, they are unlikely to come across the importance of one person controlling the other. If they were to come across the word ‘control’, they may hear about the importance of self-control. This is because there ...
Views: 1660 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1659(1 vote) - Escapism: Can We Run Away From Our Past? - by Submitted on May 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again. If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before ...
Views: 1658 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1658 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract Friends Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ...
Views: 1657 - Indifferent: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the opposite of love is hate and, therefore, if one doesn’t love someone, they are going to hate them. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and that will be the end of it. A Closer Look However, if one was to take the time to think about how ...
Views: 1656(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1655 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People They're Not Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality. One could meet someone ...
Views: 1655 - Indecisive: Can Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Indecisive? - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones. If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ...
Views: 1654 - Expectations: Do The Expectations Of Others Define How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people like to view themselves as being independent and that other people have no affect on who they are, this is nothing more than an illusion. Human beings are interdependent and this means that one’s self image is influenced by other people. One might not be aware of this ...
Views: 1653 - Music: Can The Music We Listen To Stop Us From Being Able To Let Go? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where one is from on this planet, what colour their skin is or their social standing, they’re likely to listen to music. Very few things have the power to bring people together and this is one of the reasons why music is so powerful. The fact that there are different styles can ...
Views: 1653 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1653 - False Self: Can Someone Use Self Development To Decorate Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a mark on a wall in their house they could find out why this mark has appeared or they could simply paint over it. What they decide to do can all depend on whether they know why the mark has appeared and/or if they are into home improvement. One may decide to just paint over the ...
Views: 1652 - Hollywood: Is It A Surprise To Hear About How Immoral Hollywood Is? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has paid attention to the news recently, they might be aware of the fact that a certain film producer has been accused of sexually harassing, assaulting, or raping a number of women. Then again, this could be something that they are not even aware of. This could show that they ...
Views: 1652 - Trapped Emotions: What Happens When We Have Trapped Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions need to flow and to be expressed during moments when it is appropriate; they are often inhibited and denied the chance to be expressed. Now, there will always be times in ones life when it is not appropriate to express them and yet when one is in a different environment, it ...
Views: 1652 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1651 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them. Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ...
Views: 1649 - Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the ...
Views: 1649(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhood's Set Them Up To Attract Submissive Men? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women who attract men who are in touch with their masculine strength, while there are others who don’t. As a result of this, their experiences with the opposite sex are going to be very different. One Experience If a woman is used to being with men who are in touch with ...
Views: 1649 - Happiness: Is The Purpose Of Life To Be happy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a ...
Views: 1648 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1645 - History: Can You Control People By Controlling History? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what most people know about history, there is a chance that the majority of what they know was picked up whilst they were at school. Along with this, there can be what they have learned through watching films. On the other hand, there are the people who have taken matters ...
Views: 1645 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1644 - Relationships: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Painful Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be to have relationships that are always harmonious and are free from pain, during and even when they come to an end, this is not how life works. All relationships have some kind of conflict and if they don’t, there is probably a lot of repression taking place. And what ...
Views: 1644 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Go Off Sex When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore a man has even got to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman, there is a strong chance that they will already be having sex. If this is not the case, it could show that he is religious. Conversely, it could be a sign that he is more traditional and wants to take his ...
Views: 1643 - True Self: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Hide Your True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone comes across is not always in alignment with who they are and while this could be something that happens from time to time, it could be a regular occurrence. This then means that their true self is being covered up from time to time or it is something that always takes place. If ...
Views: 1643 - Celebrities: Do Celebrities Always Know What They Are Talking About? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are plenty of people who follow a celebrity or a number of them, and it is easier than ever before for this to take place. This is primarily because of the internet and how one can follow them on social media. Before this option was available, one would have had to ...
Views: 1641 - Invisible: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the desire to be seen is part of being human and as human beings are interdependent, it is a vital part of not only being able to survive, but to thrive. If human beings were inherently independent, then it wouldn’t matter if they were seen by others or not. One’s ability to survive ...
Views: 1641 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Lose Respect When A Man Expresses His Emotions? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how important it is for men to open up about how they feel and to embrace their inherent vulnerability. It could be said that it is a good thing that this has been taking place. However, although a lot of men have been exposed to this message, it ...
Views: 1641 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Delude Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image. However, although one’s ...
Views: 1638 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1638 - Relationships: Will The People That Someone Attracts Online Be Different To The People They Attract Offline? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need. And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered ...
Views: 1638 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Lonely? - by Submitted on May 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves. What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ...
Views: 1636 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, experiencing intimacy will be a normal part of life, and it is then not going to be something that they will need to worry about. If this wasn’t the case and they were unable to experience intimacy, it could be something that ends up consuming their whole life. Their need to ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1635 - Critical Thinking: Does The “#MeToo” Movement Show How ‘Privileged’ Women Are? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after the allegations were made about Harvey Weinstein, the “#MeToo" hashatag went viral on social media. This gave people the chance to speak out about the sexual assault and harassment that they had experienced in the workplace. In The Beginning It has been said that the ...
Views: 1634 - Anger: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked about how people can suffer mentally and emotionally, they could end up talking about depression. This could be because they have suffered from it themselves, or it could be something that one of their friends has experienced. However, there is also the chance that they ...
Views: 1633 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1633 - Self-Made: Is Anyone Self-Made? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one may have only heard the term 'self-made' recently, that doesn't mean it is something that has been created within the past few years. It is a term that has been around for many, many years and the word 'man' is often added at the end. In today's world, it not just something a man ...
Views: 1632 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1631 - Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1629 - “I Found It Hard To Breathe!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I think back to what happened in 2001, I remember that there was a time when I was working out and I ended up finding it hard to breathe. At the time, I just thought that I had a cold coming on. However, after I went to see the doctor, I came to see that it wasn’t a cold. After I had a ...
Views: 1629 - Relationships: Is Being Curious An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go and see their doctor, there is a strong chance that they would be the point off focus. This is primarily due to the fact that one is likely to be there because they have a problem and the doctor is there to assist them with what is taking place. One way of looking at this ...
Views: 1629 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Letting Go Of Grudges? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when one looks back and remembers someone who treated them well and then there are going to be moments when this isn’t the case. This could mean that one looks back and ends up feeling angry and this may not only relate to one person, it could relate to a number of ...
Views: 1628 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
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