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- Relationships: Why Do Some Men Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men will have certain standards when they are in a relationship, there are going to be others who don’t. As a result of this, not every man is going to have same experience when they are with a woman. When it comes to the former, a man like this is not going to get carried ...
Views: 1400 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Suffer In Silence When They Are Abused By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone thinks about abuse, there is a strong chance that they will think about what some men do to women or how some parents treat their children. But if this is not the case, they might think about men who are abused by women. The reason they are more likely to think about this kind ...
Views: 1339 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Try To Save Women? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men out there women are seen as people who need to be saved or rescued from what is taking place in their lives. And so it doesn’t matter how big or small these women’s challenges are, as this type of man is only too happy to get involved. So this also means that unless a woman has ...
Views: 6413 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man looks like a man, it doesn’t mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally. Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it ...
Views: 712 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ...
Views: 5465 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves at the beginning of a relationship can be different to how they behave as time goes by, and while a certain amount of change is normal, it doesn’t mean it is normal for someone to completely change. This could mean that as time passes they end up becoming someone else, or it ...
Views: 1360 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When They Don't Get What They Want? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human, and while the ideal might be to always have them met, this is not how life works. There will be times when it is not going to be possible for one to have their needs met. During these moments, one will have to tolerate frustration, and while it may only ...
Views: 1315 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Like A Victim When They Have Done Something Wrong? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are going to be moments in everyone’s life when they do something wrong. When this takes place, one could see if there is anything they can do to put it right. The Next Step If it becomes clear that they can do something about what has taken place, they might ...
Views: 1550 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperBefore one goes out into the world, they can wonder who they are going to come into contact with. Perhaps they will think about if they will see one of their friends, or it they will make a new friend. As a result of this, they are going to look to forward to going out, and this can be a ...
Views: 1101 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Attract People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance. As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ...
Views: 1624 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others When Their Relationships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors. For one thing, people move around more than ...
Views: 1524 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame The Opposite Sex For Their Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not. So depending on what their current situation is, ...
Views: 1503 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Criticise Their Friends? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can spend time with people that they appreciate, they can also spend time with people who irritate them. As a result of this, not everyone is going to feel the same when they are around their friends. When it relates to the former, one could find that they have the same values ...
Views: 1197 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always End Up With People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a description about what it means to have a healthy relationship, they are unlikely to come across the importance of one person controlling the other. If they were to come across the word ‘control’, they may hear about the importance of self-control. This is because there ...
Views: 1660 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1971 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1658 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesn’t mean that this is what always happens. There will be some ...
Views: 2641 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract Friends Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ...
Views: 1657 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4471 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1768 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can’t love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ...
Views: 1751 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed When They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else. Also, there are still ...
Views: 861 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was ...
Views: 5042 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that this will actually take place. Instead, they could find it incredibly difficult to find someone to share their life with. As a result of this, this area of their life could end up overshadowing just about every ...
Views: 1332 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are not enough, it can end up having a big affect on just about every area of their life. One area in particular that this can impact is their romantic relationships. However, just because someone has this view of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are aware ...
Views: 665 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is being treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will realise what it taking place. This might be hard for some people to believe though, and this is because of how they experience life. For example, if one is in a position where they have been treated badly for a certain ...
Views: 1408 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Have To Do What Other People Want In Order To Be Accepted? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of human nature to want to be accepted, and this is something that human beings need during the beginning of their life. When this takes place, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to function when they are older. Self-Acceptance The reason for this is ...
Views: 1029 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Cheat? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing why some people cheat, it is certainly not a black and white answer. So based on my current level of awareness and intelligence; I will do my best to give some answers to this question. Three Experiences I believe that in order to understand or at least try to ...
Views: 2338 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Come On Strong And Then Go Silent? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has met someone for the first time, they may find that they continue to show a lot of interest in them. And there is also the chance that they behaved in this way before they even met them. Another Option If this was the case, it is likely to show that they met them on an online ...
Views: 1401 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People They're Not Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality. One could meet someone ...
Views: 1655 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not As Developed? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together they often find that they each bring something different to the relationship. So while one person might be really good at something; the other person might not have the same ability. But this doesn’t mean that this will apply to everything, as there is a strong ...
Views: 1410 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1669 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When ...
Views: 1012 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 2006 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 1947 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Emotionally Unstable If They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can handle life regardless of whether they are with someone, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are going to have a radically different experience when they are not with someone. Two Experiences When one is able to handle ...
Views: 1391 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are. And when they are not in a relationship, ...
Views: 3242 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Needy When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is in a relationship or not, they may find that they don’t feel needy. What this can show is that one has a strong centre, and this is why they are able to function. One Experience Therefore, if one is not in a relationship, they are not going to be in a position ...
Views: 1176 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11149 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile reaching out to others and experiencing intimacy is normal for some people, there are others who experience life in a very different way. When someone can reach out to others and experience intimacy, they could be in a fulfilling relationship. However, even if they are not with someone ...
Views: 1218 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship where one feels a healthy sense of love from another, is one of the most important elements of having a fulfilling relationship. Love can mean different things to different people, but generally this can include: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch, care and ...
Views: 8847 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1897 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1806 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find That Other People Are Never There When They Need Them? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them. And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1826 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1772 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 1074 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6301 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
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