For a number of years now, some people have used different labels to describe themselves. This is something that can be observed by looking at the profiles that some people have created on different social media sites.
When it comes to the labels that someone might use on social media, it ... Views: 454
Just because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down ... Views: 615
When it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing.
What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs ... Views: 498
If someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things.
In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ... Views: 631
How someone behaves around others can be in alignment with who they are, or it can be a reflection of their false-self. However, even if it is not a reflection of their true-self, it doesn’t mean that other people will realise this.
An Act
One is then going to behave in a way that doesn’t ... Views: 945
When the term ‘true-self’ is mentioned, it can sound a bit air fairy, and it could be said that this it to be expected. One thing that can come to mind for someone is that human beings don’t have a self that is fixed.
It Doesn’t Exist
It is then not as of it is going to be possible for ... Views: 971
On the one hand, there is going to be how someone behaves and, on the other; there is going to be how someone feels on the inside. At times, what is taking place within them will be expressed through how they behave.
An Authentic Human Being
In this case, one is generally not going to put ... Views: 782
In order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them.
The Two Levels
It could be said that, as a human ... Views: 866
There are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life.
Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ... Views: 661
As far as some people are concerned, the purpose of life is to be happy; whereas for others, it is to live a meaningful life. When it comes to the former, it is going to be all about feeling good.
Pleasure or Pain
So, when someone has this outlook, they may believe that the alternative is ... Views: 923
While some peoples early years were a time when they were given the support that they needed to develop into a well-adjusted adult, there are others that don’t have the same experience. This could mean that they were supported from time to time, or it may have been something that rarely, if ... Views: 953
Although there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm.
Multifaceted
Ultimately, how one will ... Views: 844
There is a strong chance that there has been moments in one’s life when they have been told to ‘be themselves’. This could be something they have been told before they had a job interview, or before they were going to meet someone for the first time.
Letting Go
The other person may have ... Views: 1057
According to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well.
This will mean that ... Views: 153
In general, someone could find that they have the need to keep people at arm’s length, preferring not to get too close to them. They could find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember.
By being this way, they are unlikely to share a great deal about themselves. When ... Views: 97
If someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step.
Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do ... Views: 698
Although everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ... Views: 1727
One could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic.
Irrespective of who it relates to, one ... Views: 514
When it comes to what someone’s life is like, there are at least two things that will play a part. Firstly, there will be what is taking place in their mind, and secondly, there will be their behaviour.
Nonetheless, what is taking place in their mind will be the most important part, as what ... Views: 342
Just because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it.
For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ... Views: 133
If someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended.
Being in a relationship that was ... Views: 43
If someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger.
That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ... Views: 552
When one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ... Views: 3465
While some areas of the planet are far from safe, there are other areas on the planet that are the complete opposite. And due to what the media covers, one can end up coming to the conclusion that the whole world is unsafe.
Now, this doesn’t mean that one’s safety will be guaranteed if they ... Views: 1310
If someone wasn’t treated like they were wanted during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this now that they are an adult. Yet, if this is not something that they are aware of, what took place is still likely to have a big impact on how they experience ... Views: 52
If human beings were independent, it wouldn’t matter if other people validated them or not. They would be their own island and they would be able to give themselves all the validation they needed.
But as human beings are interdependent, it means that they need to be validated by others. ... Views: 24490
If someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being.
What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ... Views: 623
What someone may find, that’s if they were to reach out for external support, is that they have what is classed as a ‘victim mentality’. This is what they could be told if they were to open up about what is going on for them and how they experience life.
When it comes to what is going on for ... Views: 349
When it comes to someone’s self-image, there is the chance that it is having a positive effect on their life. How they see themselves is then going to allow them to feel good about themselves and to fulfil their needs.
Two Parts
What this shows is how much of an effect one’s view of ... Views: 827
It could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed.
A Different Reality
However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, ... Views: 916
In today’s world, it is not uncommon to come across someone who has a victim mentality. And while it would be easy to believe that this is kind of mentality that someone has if they are not doing well in life, this is not always the case.
For example, plenty of people who go to university ... Views: 1193
For a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims.
This is ... Views: 601
If someone is unable to see that they have an effect on their life, they can have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. Other people are then going to being in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them.
Through experiencing life in this way, it is likely to mean that their ... Views: 524
When one gets to the end of their day, they might look back on what has happened, and this could be a time when they will see what good and bad things have taken place. Even so, they could believe that this is simply part of life.
One Step Further
If they were to engage in this process ... Views: 1659
There is nothing like a good victim story to get people’s attention. The media routinely covers a certain event or situation where one person or a group of people are labelled as victims. And based on what happens in these situations, it is often very difficult to disagree with the ... Views: 2000
If someone has the tendency to believe that the world is against them and that they play no part in what takes place in their life, it is likely to show that they have a victim mentality. Through having this outlook, one is going to be nothing more than an observer of their life.
Their life ... Views: 467
Nowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination.
It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ... Views: 711
One doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world.
And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ... Views: 1686
It is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable.
The image that they present to the ... Views: 1377
It has been said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, but this doesn’t mean that a being from another planet would be able to see this if they came down to earth. This being may come to conclude that although there are some people that are, there are others that aren’t.
This could be ... Views: 490
It could be said that in order for someone to grow and to develop, they will need to feel comfortable with being vulnerable. The reason for this is that if someone has the need to protect themselves, they are not going to open themselves up to life.
Their main priority will be to do ... Views: 742
To be human is to be vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean that accepting this is therefore easy.
To surrender to this truth can be an incredible challenge; that is if one even wants to. And as a way to avoid this truth, one can create all kinds of walls and defences. But while this may allow one ... Views: 1587
Earlier on I caught up with my friend, Wain Gordon, and we touched upon a number of topics. One thing that I spoke about was a how-to guide that I had put together to assist others in finding their purpose.
He asked me a few questions about this and then he said that one of the ways that ... Views: 677
There is a strong chance that someone will have heard, at least once, that they shouldn’t judge others. If they are into self-development/spirituality, they may have heard this more times than they can remember.
One way to look at this would be to say that this is sage advice. For one thing, ... Views: 526
I was talking to someone the other day who was finding it hard to get through to another person in their life. They could see that this person was unable to make progress in an area of their life and this caused them to offer their advice.
But while it was their intention to assist them, ... Views: 782
If someone was to look in the mirror, it would be clear that there is only one of them, and this is something that every other person on the planet would say. The only time that this wouldn’t take place is if they have at least one identical twin.
However, although they will only have one ... Views: 374
The Weight loss industry is one of the biggest in the world and takes in billions every year. This affects both men and women and while sometimes it can be for health reasons, at other times it is for aesthetic reasons.
People can lose weight through: eating differently, exercising, taking ... Views: 1790
In today’s world, there are all kinds of things that someone can do when they are carrying a few too many pounds. When it comes to what one will do to lose weight, it can all depend on their personality.
Active
If one has a lot of energy, they might decide to engage in some kind of ... Views: 1272
In the past, it was generally women who were concerned about their weight, and this is partly because of how much pressure they had to face. Men on the other hand, were not under the same amount of pressure.
However, this has all changed, and while it could be said that the amount of ... Views: 1196
From the moment that someone wakes up until the moment they fall asleep, their attention will be on all kinds of things. And, it could be said that even when they are asleep, their attention can still be on different things thanks to the dreams that they may have.
When they are awake, they ... Views: 108