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- Self-Development: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take their car to a garage, it could be due to a number of reasons. On one hand, it could be due to something minor, and on the other hand, it could be due to something major. However, regardless of why they have taken their car there, the main thing is that they have taken ...
Views: 1414 - Self-Development: Can Self-Development Condition People To Feel Guilty For Being 'Negative'? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self–development, there is a strong chance that they will have come across information that emphasises the importance of being ‘positive’. This may mean that one has read a few books and/or it could mean that they have taken part in some kind of course. Having said that, there ...
Views: 1246 - Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be aware of why they are doing something, they can also be completely out of touch with this reason. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Two Levels One can have a clear idea as to why they want to do something, and this ...
Views: 981 - Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, there are number things that can take place. One of the things they can do is to embrace how they feel, and to allow what is taking place within them to define their life. Disempowered When this takes place, one is going to spend a lot of ...
Views: 1195 - Self-Development: Can Someone Look Outside For Answers If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Body? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for people to buy self-help books, with the hope that they will provide them with the answers that they are looking for. Perhaps they lack direction and/or they may not know how to behave in a relationship. But while this will be as far as it will go for some ...
Views: 659 - Self-Development: Do Some People Get Into Self-Development In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one didn’t want to face how they were feeling or what was taking place in their life, there are going to be a number of things that they can do. The reason for this is that there are plenty of options in today’s world when one wants to avoid reality. It could be said that this is because ...
Views: 1334 - Self-Development: Do Some People Only Judge Others If They Haven't Faced Their Own Issues? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people who are into self-development, it could be said that they all have one thing in common. What they all want is to do is to grow and to make their life better in some way. With this in mind, it is going to be a good idea for these kinds of people to spend time ...
Views: 848 - Self-Development: Is Being Curious An Important Part Of Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a TV that stopped working, there is a strong chance that they would want to know why. This comes down to the fact that if they were to simply ignore it, they wouldn’t be able to watch anything. Being curious about what is taking place is then going to have a positive effect on ...
Views: 1064 - Self-Development: Is Harnessing Our Pain An Important Part Of Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are given the kind of care that they need in order to grow and develop whilst they are growing up, there are others who don’t have this experience. As a result of this, their latter years can end up being extremely different. A Continuation When one does receive what ...
Views: 1040 - Self-Doubt: Can Someone To Suffer From Self-Doubt If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone can be good at something, but that doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. When it comes to what this relates to, it can be what they do for a living. Thanks to this, instead of being able to move forward, they can end up staying in the same position. If so, they will have ...
Views: 104 - Self-Empowered: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Be Empowered? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an empowered human being, they are going to believe that they have control over their life. Along with what they believe, there is going to be how they behave in their day-to-day life. Another way of looking at this would be to say that their behaviour is defined by what they ...
Views: 1036 - Self-Esteem: Can Toxic Shame Cause Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across something that grows into the ground and has a big trunk, there is only going to be one word to describe what it is – and that is a tree. And the same can be said when it comes to describing other things on this planet. However, when it comes to how one sees themselves, ...
Views: 2374 - Self-Expression: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Voice? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when ...
Views: 285 - Self-Expression: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is on this planet to express themselves, so that their life can be an expression of their true self, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable doing this. Instead, what can feel comfortable is going along with what other people want. Therefore, they are going to be ...
Views: 311 - Self-Expression: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take the time to reflect on their own behaviour, what they may find is that it is a challenge for them to express themselves. This is not to say that this won’t ever take place but what it could mean is that this rarely takes place. Furthermore, they may generally only be ...
Views: 566 - Self-Expression: Can Someone Have A Fear Expressing Themselves If They Were Abandoned As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of acting like an individual, it can be normal for someone to typically act like they are an extension of others. Therefore, when it comes to how they behave, it can all depend on who they are with. Consequently, they are rarely going to freely express themselves and this is likely to ...
Views: 220 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Truth? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s truth, this could be seen as their thoughts, beliefs, feelings and what they sense, among other things. It is then something that relates to what is actually taking place inside them. In other words, this will include the things that are part of their own experience ...
Views: 668 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a strong need to please others, it is going to be difficult for them to express themselves. Their main priority will be to do what they can to do what other people want and what they think they want. Therefore, instead of being aware of what their needs are and doing what ...
Views: 638 - Self-Harm: Do Some People Suffer In Order To Avoid Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are designed to seek pleasure and to avoid pain, and while there is no denying this; it would be inaccurate to say that they will always try to seek pleasure. There are times when people experience pain and instead of it being something that encourages them to ...
Views: 1369 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to feel good about themselves and to live a life that is worth living, it will be necessary for them to be in touch with their inherent worth. When this connection is in place, they will be able to feel good about themselves without needing a reason. Therefore, they won’t ...
Views: 734 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they struggle to feel good about themselves, their life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be. For one thing, they are seldom going to experience positive feelings. As a result of this, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling low and they ...
Views: 370 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that it is often a case of one step forward, two steps back. In other words, it will be difficult for them to make much progress. This could be the case when it comes to all areas of their life, or this might ...
Views: 429 - Self-Hate: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Own Self-Hatred? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIs someone hated themselves, and they were to embrace how they feel, it would undoubtedly have a negative effect on their wellbeing. In the same way that filling a boat up with water would cause it to sink, embracing their self-hate would most likely cause them to sink. It would end up being ...
Views: 887 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to reflect on their life, is that they are rarely treated well by others. Just thinking about this could make them angry and then they could feel down. To make matters worse, this could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember, ...
Views: 443 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of how they see themselves, it doesn’t mean that this won’t be something that will have a massive impact on every area of their life. They can be so caught up in their own self-image that they won’t even realise that it is just an idea that they have of who ...
Views: 807 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what someone went through as a child and even before they were born, they can believe that they don’t deserve to be on this earth. However, while this core belief, along with others, will be defining their life, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of it. Like a fish in water, how ...
Views: 460 - Self-Image: Do People Become Irrelevant When They Get Older? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is often more attention is given to people who are at the beginning of their life than there is to those who are going towards the end of it. Yet, it might be more accurate to say that people are often overlooked before they even get to this stage. Youth What this ...
Views: 1221 - Self-Image: Does Someone Need To See Themselves Through Their Own Eyes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to reflect on how they see themselves, is that they don’t have a very empowering view of themselves. They might find that they see themselves as worthless, unlovable and even useless. Having this view is likely to mean that they will have suffered over ...
Views: 321 - Self-Image: Is Our Life Defined By How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a car, for instance, there is only going to be such much that it can do. So, how fast it can go or where it can be driven will all depend on what type of car it is. If someone wanted to change how fast a car can go or where it can go, it would need to undergo a number of ...
Views: 752 - Self-Image: Is Someone Who Feels Inferior More Likely To Get Help Than Someone Who Feels Superior? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a challenge in their life, they can think that they don’t need to put in a lot of effort or they may think they need to put in a lot of effort. It can all depend on what part they believe that are playing in what is taking place. However, just because one is playing a part in ...
Views: 1185 - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel safe in their body and as though they deserve to exist, there are others that don’t experience life in this way. However, regardless of whether someone fits into the first category or the second, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. Yet, even ...
Views: 779 - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have An Enemy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light. At Times Now, ...
Views: 1023 - Self-Knowledge: Can Self-Development Stop Someone From Developing Self-Knowledge? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, self-improvement is a big part of so many people’s lives, and perhaps the internet is the primary reason why this is so. The internet has made this type of information readily available, and this has made it easier for people to promote this type of lifestyle. For example, people ...
Views: 736 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Addicted To 'Negative’ Feelings If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked if they would rather feel good or bad, they would probably choose the former. This would make complete sense as it is far better to feel good than it is to feel bad. Nonetheless, although this is what they are likely to say, it doesn’t mean that this is what typically ...
Views: 793 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Victimised By Their Own Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to day-to-day life, if someone’s inner world is mentioned it is likely to relate to what is going on in their conscious mind. Also, if one was to reach out for external support and ended up working with a counsellor/therapist, the same thing could take place. It can seem as ...
Views: 648 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone Feel Like A Victim If They’re Out Of Touch With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn both mainstream society and the self-development world, it is not uncommon for the focus to be on the conscious mind. In both of these areas, what is taking place in this part of ones being can be the only thing that matters. For example, let’s say that someone wanted to improve their ...
Views: 735 - Self-Knowledge: Does Society Stop People From Developing Self-Knowledge? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, there is a strong chance that they spent a lot of time being told what to do and what to think. There would then have been the conditioning that they received while they were in the education system. A Few More Years After this, one may have got a job, ...
Views: 898 - Self-Knowledge: Does The Past Only Exist In Someone’s Mind? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the self-development world, it is often said that the past only exists in someone’s mind. Therefore, if they often think about what they have been through and this is causing them to suffer, they just need to change what is taking place in this part of them. Now, what can’t be denied is ...
Views: 170 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Childhood Did Not Have An Effect On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kinds of challenges that one can face during their adult years, it can be normal for them to believe that their childhood hasn’t played a part. What they are going through is then going to be seen as a reflection of what has taken place in their adult years. If they ...
Views: 1044 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Have The Tendency To Demonise Others? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch an old black and white film, they could describe it as being a bit one-dimensional. There will be two colours, black and white, and there will even be some grey, but that will be it. After this, they could end up watching a film that has recently been released, with it ...
Views: 684 - Self-knowledge: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To The Darkness That Is ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ...
Views: 215 - Self-Love: Can Someone Love Themselves Conditionally If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they are often hard on themselves. They are then only going to be kind and loving to themselves from time to time. What this is likely to show is that they only feel comfortable being nurturing towards ...
Views: 194 - Self-Love: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Make It Hard For Them To Feel Good About Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to talk to themselves in a positive manner, it is going to be a lot easier for them to feel good. This is similar to how one is likely to feel better if they are in the company of someone who treats them well. Through being around this person, they can feel good in their ...
Views: 866 - Self-Love: How Can Someone Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a person gets to a certain age, there is a strong likelihood that they will attend some kind of school. During this time, they will begin to learn about different areas of life and the kind of subjects that will allow them to function in today’s world. While their time in education may ...
Views: 3181 - Self-Made: Is Anyone Self-Made? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one may have only heard the term 'self-made' recently, that doesn't mean it is something that has been created within the past few years. It is a term that has been around for many, many years and the word 'man' is often added at the end. In today's world, it not just something a man ...
Views: 1609 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Like Other People’s Possession? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is the owner of their own body and mind, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. At this level, they can see themselves as nothing more than an object that other people have control over. They are then going to have their own body and mind but it ...
Views: 467 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Self Ownership? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though it could be said that someone owns their body and mind and that no one has a right to control them or make them do something that they don’t want to do, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they actually realise. Thanks to this, they could often be controlled by others ...
Views: 286 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Sovereignty? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ...
Views: 340 - Self-Ownership: Can Someone Believe That Other People Own Their Body If They Had Intrusive Parents? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they don’t believe that they own their own body. It can be as though this part of them is owned by others. They are then going to own their mind, but that will be as far as it will go. What they might also see ...
Views: 38 - Self-Ownership: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused ...
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