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- Self-Worth: Can Someone Try To Create The Perfect Body When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their life, they may find that they have the need to be perfect in every area of it, or this might only apply to one area. When this is something that applies to all areas of their life, they are likely to experience a lot of pressure. But when it doesn’t, they ...
Views: 995 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Work Themselves To Death When They Don't Feel Good Enough? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone drinks a lot or takes a lot drugs, they can soon be labelled as having a problem. However, if on the other hand, someone has the tendency to work a lot, they can be seen as a model citizen. It is then as though there is nothing wrong with working at lot, as it is something that ...
Views: 850 - Self-Worth: Can Someone’s Inner Child Cause Them To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that are in touch with their inner value and then there are people that aren’t. If someone is in touch with their inherent worth, they are going to know that they deserve to receive things and to be treated well. As a result of this, their life is going to be far more ...
Views: 721 - Self-Worth: Can Someone’s Worth Be Externalised If They Experienced Conditional Love As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone could spend a lot of time doing things and very little if any time relaxing and taking it easy. This could be how they have been for most of their life, though, so it might not be something that stands out. Nonetheless, if they live in a society that is generally focused on the doing ...
Views: 260 - Self-Worth: Do Some People Have To Develop Their Self-Worth Even Though They Were Born With It? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are born with inherent worth, meaning that this is not something that they need to develop or even earn. At the same time, what is often spoken about is what someone can do to develop their own self-worth. Upon hearing both of these views, one could end ...
Views: 731 - Self-Worth: Do Some People Lack A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an entitlement mentality, it can cause them to behave in ways that will have a negative effect on others. Through being this way, one of their main priorities will be fulfil their own needs. One-Sided These are likely to be needs that are seen are being more important ...
Views: 2357 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhood Sets Them Up To Believe That Their Value Is Based On What They Do? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to achieve something, it can be normal for them to look into what they need to do. This can be a time when they will draw up a plan, or they could just look into what the first step needs to be. The next step is then going to be for them to take action, and how ...
Views: 1110 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Human Doings? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments in their life when they take action and moments when they relax, there are others who are practically always doing something. As a result of this, it is going to mean that these people don’t experience life in the same way. One Outcome When ...
Views: 1036 - Self-Worth: Does Someone Need To Develop Self-Worth If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, there are a number of things that can play a part. And one thing that will have a big effect on how they behave is how they feel about themselves. Three Options There are going to be people who generally feel good, others who don’t, and those who ...
Views: 988 - Self-Worth: How Can People Who Are Attractive Act Confident Even Though They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their inherent value, it is going to be a lot easier for them to act in a confident manner. For one thing, they are not going to feel as though they have anything to hide. The Truth Deep down, they will realise that who they are is enough, and this will allow ...
Views: 992 - Self-Worth: If Someone Is Successful Can It Stop Them From Feeling Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who feel good about themselves, there are others who feel worthless. However, even if one doesn’t feel good about themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with how they feel. Disconnected What this comes down to is that one can end up disconnecting from ...
Views: 1051 - Self-Worth: Is Self-Worth Something We Develop? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, it could be said that there is confidence, and on the other side, it could be said that there is self-worth. The first one could be seen as something one can experience at one level, and the other could be seen as something they can experience at another level. Therefore, even ...
Views: 1248 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Good At Everything? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if someone wants to be good at something, they will need to put the work in and to be patent. In addition to the time that they need to put in each week, there can be moments when they will need to change what they are doing. The Next Level Through doing this, it ...
Views: 1043 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless No Matter What They Achieve? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they don’t feel good about themselves, they may decide to take action. What this can come down to is that they could believe that this is something that will change if they were to become successful. An Example One could think about someone who is ...
Views: 1341 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless When They Lose Their Looks? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the modern day world values, beauty and youth may come to mind. And even if other things cross their mind, it will be only too clear how important these things are. One Step Further While it has been this way for quite some time, it could be said that this ...
Views: 1092 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Good When They Are Receiving Positive Feedback From Others? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that it is not difficult for someone to receive positive feedback from others. This is largely due to the fact that this is something that can take place by using social media. It’s Easy The only thing that one will need to have is some kind of device, ...
Views: 1076 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are going to be times when it is possible to please others and times when it isn’t. But while this is just part of life, it doesn’t mean that everyone is able to accept this. One Experience When someone can accept this, it doesn’t mean that they won’t try to ...
Views: 1135 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Wear Designer Labels? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, there were only a small amount of designer brands but, as time has passed, this has gradually changed. Thanks to the internet, there are now numerous designer brands. Still, even though plenty of brands have appeared over the years, a number of the old brands are still right ...
Views: 887 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Take It Personally When People Criticise Their Work? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the only way that one can avoid being criticised is if they don’t do anything. When this happens, one will be in the shadows, so to speak, and it will be normal for people to overlook them. Black and White However, even though this can sound accurate, it could be ...
Views: 1096 - Selfies: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Selfies? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the introduction of social media, people have been able to express themselves in ways that were not available in the past. People can share how they feel, where they are and where they are going, amongst others things. But one is not limited to words when comes to what is taking ...
Views: 1997 - Selfless: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Selfless? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are behaviours that are seen as good and behaviours that are seen as bad, and what usually defines whether a behaviour fits into the first or the second category is the context. For example, aggression can create a problem in one situation but it can prevent a problem in another. When ...
Views: 843 - Selfless: Is Being Selfless Part Of The False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone puts their needs first, there is the chance that they will be described as selfish. Whereas, as if they put other people’s needs first, they may end up being described as selfless. And although these are only two of the options that someone has, they can end up being seen as the ...
Views: 1425 - Selfless: Why Do Some People Always Put Others First? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperPeople who put others first are often revered and are seen as an example of how to live. The fact that they appear to always put others first, is what makes them different to people who appear to always put themselves first. This could be to do with helping a friend, partner or colleague at a ...
Views: 25862 - Sense Of Badness: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Disowned Sense Of Badness If They Were Abused As A child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it ...
Views: 303 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on May 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. So, even if they were to go on holiday, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what they should have done before they left and what they will do when they get back. This will ...
Views: 345 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the ability to give, and, on the other, there is the ability to receive. When someone has the ability to both give and receive, it could be said that they will be in balance. The reason for this is that they will be playing their part by giving or contributing to the ...
Views: 294 - Sense Of Enoughness: Can A Woman Be Obsessed With Her Appearance If She Believes That She Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA number of days, weeks, or months ago, a woman may have experienced a breakup. If so, since then, she might have put in a lot of effort to change her appearance. Now, this could mean that she has bought new clothes and perhaps wears things that she didn’t wear before. Then again, it might go ...
Views: 219 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and they are therefore free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. They could often isolate themselves from others. When they are around others they could typically do what they can please them, ...
Views: 363 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Being Able To Inhabit Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to freely express themselves, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. So, if they don’t feel safe, they are likely to have the need to hide who they are and please others. In this case, their attention won’t be on what is taking place inside and outside of ...
Views: 253 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to freely express themselves. And, to be able to do this, they will need to have a felt sense of safety. By feeling safe in their own body, they will be able to listen to their needs and feelings and then allow what is ...
Views: 320 - Sense Of Safety: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, feeling safe is a normal part of life and something that they take for granted. This doesn’t mean that there won’t have been moments in their life when they have felt unsafe. Throughout their life, there may have been numerous moments when this was the case, yet a moment ...
Views: 729 - Sense Of Safety: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an inner sense of safety, it will be possible for them to be in their body and to express themselves. What this comes down to is that in order for someone to inhabit their body, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. As this component is in place, they will comfortable ...
Views: 658 - Sense Of Safety: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough To Exist? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a life that is worth living, it will be essential for someone to have a felt sense of safety. The reason for this is that this will allow them to be connected to their body, so their needs and feelings, and thus to express themselves. This will mean that they will look ...
Views: 355 - Sense Of Safety: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the need to please others. Thus, when they are around others, it will be normal for them to be who they want them to be. Or, perhaps to be more precise, who they think they want them to be. ...
Views: 120 - Sense Of Safety: Can Someone’s Sense Of Safety Be Associated With Pleasing Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they can find that they have the tendency to feel anxious when they don’t please others. This is going to make it difficult for them to freely express themselves. They could see that they rarely, if ever, do what is right for them and ...
Views: 54 - Sense Of Safety: Can The Need To Feel Safe Consume Someone’s Life If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people on this earth, feeling safe is something that is a normal part of their life. This is not to say that someone like this won’t ever feel unsafe; what it means is that this is something that they will rarely experience. However, even though they probably won’t think about the ...
Views: 536 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Unsafe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a house or a tall building to stay in place, it will need to have firm foundations. Through having firm foundations, the support that the structure needs to exist will be provided. Not only will the building stay in place, but the people that go into the building will also feel ...
Views: 1096 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Sense Of Safety To Others? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual. Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ...
Views: 709 - Sense Of Safety: If Someone Feels Unsafe Does It Mean That They Live In An Unsafe Environment? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter. Taking this into account, the ...
Views: 1443 - Sense Of Self: Are People Easier To Control When They Don't Have A Strong Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a hole in their drive that they wanted to fill, they could end up making a load of concrete. Through doing this, there would be no gaps and the hole would completely disappear. The alternative would be for one to find a few bricks and to try to fill the hole in that way. And while ...
Views: 1409 - Sense Of Self: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense of Self? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone may come across as a strong and as though they have a good connection to themselves. Additionally, they could typically appear to be happy and full of life. But, although they can generally create the impression that they are a well-adjusted adult, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 632 - Sense Of Self: Can Toxic Shame Destroy Someone's Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone experiences life, it is often said that their self-image has a big effect. Therefore, if one wants to feel good and to have experiences that are fulfilling, it will be vital for them to see themselves in the right way. Another way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1319 - Sense Of Self: What Is A Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a sense of self is an illusion and that it is simply an idea. Regardless of this viewpoint and any other point of view that is similar; it is clear that having a sense of self makes a big difference and that ideas are powerful. I wouldn’t describe a sense of self as ...
Views: 2064 - Sense Of Self: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on May 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can change their behaviour if they need to, there are others who are unable to do so. When this happens, they can come across as the same no matter what is taking place. This is not to say that they won’t have moments where their behaviour will change, but ...
Views: 1181 - Sensitive: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Be Overly Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are described as being overly sensitive and highly empathic. And while this does lead to many benefits, there are also many challenges that arise from being this way. They can feel like sponges that pick up anything and everything that is going on in an environment. ...
Views: 1756 - Service: Are Some People Too Undeveloped To Be Of Service To Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s younger years are a time when their caregivers are there to serve them and their adult years are a time when it is down to them to serve others. This could be seen as something that makes sense. As a child, someone is in an undeveloped state and this is why ...
Views: 599 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
Views: 1609 - Sexualised Behaviour: Does Women’s Sexualised Behaviour Cause Aggression In Men? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some things have stayed the same over the years, there are other things that have radically changed. For instance, it could be said that today’s world is far more permissive than it used to be. And this can be seen with how children are raised and how sex is generally viewed. It wasn’t ...
Views: 1532 - Sexuality: Can Someone’s Early Years Have An Effect On What Turns Them On As An Adult? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can believe that the things that arouse them are just the things that arouse them, and that all there is to it. However, what this wouldn’t take into account is the part that their early years may have played in why something in particular has this effect on them. If, ...
Views: 929 - Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry. The Outcome If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they ...
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