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- Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Hyper-Independent? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it ...
Views: 158 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If Their Parents Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life is that they don’t have a good connection with how they feel or their needs. They could then see that their life is largely driven by their need to please others and what is ‘right’. Consequently, their life is not ...
Views: 158 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother Enmeshed-Man’s Mother ‘Play The Victim’? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is not living his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can have the need to speak to her about what he is going through. He can hope that if he talks to her, she will be understanding and supportive. Naturally, her responding in this way will ...
Views: 158 - Therapy: Can Someone Unconsciously Look Toward A Therapist To Complete Them If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter struggling mentally and emotionally for quite some time, someone could look for a way to change their inner experience. This can mean that they will look for answers online and/or they could look for a therapist to work with. Once they have found someone suitable, they could arrange an ...
Views: 158 - Breakups: Can A Man Punish Himself After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her ...
Views: 157 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Should A Mother-Enmeshed Man Stay Single? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be said, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, is that he should stay single. The main reason for this is that as he is not emotionally available, he is not going to be able to fully be there for a woman. Therefore, if he starts dating a woman ...
Views: 155 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear is that, if a man is caught up in his mother’s life, he won’t be able to be there for himself. He will be acting more than an extension of her than a separate human being. From the outside, it can seem as though he is simply giving and is not receiving anything in return. ...
Views: 154 - Emotional Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a thinking and a feeling self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. Instead, they can typically be in touch with the former but not the latter. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they don’t have a very ...
Views: 153 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Embodying The Neediness That He Had To Disowned? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is not working, he could often be doing things for his mother. It might not occur to her, either, that there are things that he needs to do and that he might be too busy to do something for her. Therefore, thanks to how caught up she is with her own needs, it will seldom if ever ...
Views: 153 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Experiencing An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have had a physical birth, it doesn’t mean that they had an emotional birth. When it comes to the former, this is something that would have taken place automatically. However, when it comes to the latter, this would have largely depended on how emotionally available ...
Views: 152 - Relationships: Why Do Some Attractive People End Up With People Who Mistreat Them? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is physically attractive, it can be normal for some people to have an idealised view of them. They are then going to be a human being but they can be seen as being perfect and even godlike. When this takes place, it won’t be possible for another person to see them clearly. In ...
Views: 152 - Healing: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Needs Stop Them From Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer ...
Views: 151 - Self-Ownership: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused ...
Views: 150 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Conditioned To Ignore Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will have his own needs and life to lead, based on how he behaves, it can be as though he doesn’t have any needs or only a few basic needs and doesn’t have his own life to lead. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his own life will pass him by. It can be hard for ...
Views: 149 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Be Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often fear that they will be left and end up alone. It could go further than this, though, as they may have the sense that they will die. This can show that they have a number of close friends and are in a ...
Views: 147 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Women If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might enter his mind is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could then think about how this is because he has had many experiences with them that haven’t been very positive. So, when it comes to the experiences that ...
Views: 147 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Man Become A Mother-Enmeshed Man Because His Father Wasn’t Around? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is caught up in his mother’s world and is neglecting himself in the process, he can end up looking back on his early years. During this time, he can see that his father was rarely around and even when he was, he was rarely emotionally available. He can ...
Views: 146 - Critical Thinking: Has The American Election Result Unlocked Some Peoples Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that it is clear who the next president of America will be, some people are pleased with what has happened and some are not. This can be seen as a natural outcome as only one candidate can win and not everyone will have voted for the same candidate. When it comes to the people who are ...
Views: 145 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have A Fear Of Being Dominated? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he is overly focused on his mother, is that his mother undermined both him and his father during his formative years. Thus, instead of doing what she could to build him up and support his father, she did the opposite. After realising this, he could come to the ...
Views: 145 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unable To See His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself in the process, he might be aware of what is going on. As a result of this, he can do what he can to gradually change his life. This will allow him to live a life that is worth living, as opposed to a life where he has turned ...
Views: 142 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Unconsciously Create A Depriving Life If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be the life that someone wants to live and then, there can be the life they have. So, they can want to have a life where they are surrounded by people who value and love them, be in an intimate relationship with someone who also values and loves them, and have a career that is deeply ...
Views: 141 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Unavailable If He Had A Depriving Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his behaviour, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be attracted to women who are not available. So, this can mean that he has dated and been in a number of relationships with women who were out of reach emotionally. Along with this, he may ...
Views: 140 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Mother’s Possession? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man’s life revolves around his mother and meeting her needs, is that he is more like an extension for her than a separate being. Consequently, he will be turning his back on himself. But, although he will be depriving himself by living in this way, this can just be ...
Views: 138 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Lose Herself In A Mother-Enmeshed Man If She Has Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is currently with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could spend a lot of time feeling frustrated, angry, and drained. But, if she has given a lot to him and received very little, this is to be expected. He will be directing most of his time and energy toward his mother ...
Views: 137 - Therapy: Is Therapy A Waste Of Time? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, therapy is seen as something that is essential when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional issues. For others, it is seen as a waste of time and money. When it comes to the former, it is not uncommon for a woman to have this view and when it comes to the latter, it is ...
Views: 136 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Sense Of Self Be Built On Pain If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a body, it doesn’t mean that they will typically inhabit their body. Instead, they can live in their head, with them having a weak connection with their body. As a result of this, they are going to live on the surface of themselves and they won’t have access to all of ...
Views: 135 - Emasculation: Why Would A Man Allow A Woman To Emasculate Him? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is in a relationship, were to think about how his girlfriend typically behaves, he could find that she is not very supportive or respectful. He could see that she has been this way for a while. When it comes to how she behaves, what can be normal is for her to be critical and ...
Views: 135 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has been dating a woman for a little while, he can become emotionally attached to her. However, while part of him can feel comfortable with this, another part of him can feel very uncomfortable. If this other part of him is not as strong, it might not stop him from being able to ...
Views: 134 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Impress Others If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have achieved a lot, but, no matter how much he has achieved, he can have the need to achieve more. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is just part of being human. Being driven and having the need to grow and expand is then normal and not ...
Views: 133 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His True Self If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around others, it can be normal for him to play a role and do what he can to please them. As a result of this, he won’t freely express himself and his own needs will be overlooked. This can be something that just happens without him consciously choosing to behave in this way. If ...
Views: 132 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Turn Into An Enabler If She Stays With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother. She may have been with him for a few weeks, months or even years. Either way, she can believe that if she stays with him, he will change sooner or later. If she has been with him for a few weeks, there is a ...
Views: 132 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Being Able To Face Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one or a number of areas of someone’s life might not be serving them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Instead, they can block out what is going on and continue to behave in the same way. And, if this is what takes place, it is unlikely to matter if there are ...
Views: 131 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man The ‘Empath’ And His Mother The ‘Narcissist’? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and his mother expects him to be there for her, it could be said that they are both out of balance. This is then going to be different to when a man is focused on his mother and his mother wants him to be there for himself and live his own life. In ...
Views: 131 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother A Reflection Of What He Needs To Resolve? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself, he could believe that his mother is the problem. Therefore, if it wasn’t for her, he would be able to live his own life. Due to this, he could come to the conclusion that until she ...
Views: 130 - Emasculation: Why Would A Woman Emasculate Men? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that when she is dating a man, she has the need to break him down. So, she might see that it doesn’t take long before she is critical, tries to embarrass him and is controlling. He will then be someone who she is ...
Views: 129 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has been with a number of women who didn’t treat him very well. This could show that he has been in a number of abusive relationships. Now, if he were to think about one of these relationships, he might end up feeling angry and very ...
Views: 128 - Self-Doubt: Can Someone To Suffer From Self-Doubt If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone can be good at something, but that doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. When it comes to what this relates to, it can be what they do for a living. Thanks to this, instead of being able to move forward, they can end up staying in the same position. If so, they will have ...
Views: 127 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: What Is A Mother-Enmeshed Woman? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may find, if she were to step back and reflect on her life, is that even though she is a grown woman, she doesn’t act like one. Instead, she is more like a little girl who is dependent on her mother and incapable of living her own life. This could mean that she still lives with ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop A Man From Being Able To Assert Himself? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on how he behaves, is that it is hard for him to stand up for and express himself. In fact, he might see that this is something that seldom takes place. As a result of this, it will be normal for him to be mistreated and to do what ...
Views: 124 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had A Controlling Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find is that even though he wants to have a relationship with a woman, he pulls away from a woman as soon as things get serious. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this happens as soon as he starts to become emotionally attached to a woman. He could then think about all the ...
Views: 122 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who have let him down and even betrayed him. Thanks to this, he might be very cautious when it comes to women. So, he might keep them at a distance both emotionally and physically or just emotionally. When it comes to the former, he ...
Views: 122 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Stay In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be with a woman who is not right for him. Then again, it could go further than this as he could be with a woman who is greatly undermining him. If this is the case, it can be normal for him to be criticised, humiliated, controlled and even hit by her. This ...
Views: 122 - Critical Thinking: Can Humanity Change The Outer World By Changing Their Inner World? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to all of the bad things that are taking place in the world, it can seem as though there is very little that the average person can do. Thanks to this, the only way anything will really change is if the people in power do something about what is going on. Someone can then want ...
Views: 120 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Engage In Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOne or a number of areas of someone’s life might not be very fulfilling. The reason for this is that they might not have been able to make much progress, with them being stuck at the same level. They might have been in this position for a number of months or years. There is even the chance ...
Views: 120 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A ‘Submerged Personality’? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically act as though they are an extension of others. Therefore, when they are around others, they can to do what they can to please them and be easy-going. They are then going to ignore their own ...
Views: 120 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give A Woman The Need To Be Worshipped? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if a woman wants to be adored and elevated by men, it might not take much effort for her to achieve this goal. For example, she only needs to create a social media profile. By creating a profile or a number of them and uploading pictures of herself, she can end up with hundreds, ...
Views: 120 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone’s From Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to live a very restrictive life. This can mean that they have had the same job or done the same thing for years, might rarely venture beyond where they live, and when they see their ...
Views: 120 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Part Of Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone will look whole and compete, but that doesn’t mean they will be whole and complete on the inside. Said another way, it doesn’t mean they will be in touch with all of their consciousness. However, if this is just what is normal, they can be oblivious about what is ...
Views: 120 - Sense Of Safety: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the need to please others. Thus, when they are around others, it will be normal for them to be who they want them to be. Or, perhaps to be more precise, who they think they want them to be. ...
Views: 120 - Anxiety: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find is that they often feel anxious. When this takes place, they can feel tense, their breathing rate can increase, and it can be hard for them to think clearly, among other things. This might be something that only ...
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