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- “A Relationship Shouldn’t Stop Us From Realising We Are Alone” - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have often thought that even though I can say something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will actually hear what I’m saying. Or to be more precise, they can hear the words that come out of my mouth, but that might be as far as it will go. Due to the experiences they have had on this ...
Views: 763 - “Are Open Borders A Good Idea?” - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI had arranged to speak to Errol again and before our call, there was something that I wanted to talk to him about. What I wanted to know was what his views were on open borders and if he thought we no longer needed them. This topic was on my mind due to what someone had shared on social ...
Views: 1151 - “Are You Gay?” - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year before I finished school, I remember bringing a girlfriend home for the first time. Before this took place, I wasn’t sure about if it was a good idea, and this was primarily due to how I thought my family would respond. Shortly after this I came to see that my concerns were ...
Views: 1297 - “Are You Happy?” - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere has been times in my life when I have been asked if I was happy, and this has often been followed by me feeling somewhat perplexed. When I have been asked this, part of me has felt as though I should say yes, while another part of me hasn’t wanted to say anything. The reason for this ...
Views: 911 - “Aren’t You A Bit Young To Be Writing About This Stuff!?” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2011 or 2012, I was asked if I would like to go to a talk at a university that was on food. I thought that this would be interesting, so I agreed to go along. If I remember rightly, there were a number of people there who spoke, and a number of them worked for big companies that ...
Views: 1109 - “Changing Your Environment Is The Easiest And Quickest Way To Change Your Thinking!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently went to Stockholm, Sweden, and while I was there I spent time with a friend who I met many years ago. This was Peter, and this was someone who I met when I did a healing course in London towards the end of 2009. After I spent time with him in London, I ended up meeting him again ...
Views: 934 - “Did You Watch The Royal Wedding?” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, while I was waiting for something in a city nearby, I was asked by someone if I had watched the royal wedding. But before I go into what happened next, I want to go into what it was like for me before it took place. The media spent a lot of time talking about what it would ...
Views: 894 - “Do You Ever Experience Anxiety?” - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was reading a book that was written by M.Scott Peck, and this caused me to think about a number of different things. For some reason, I started to think about doing some kind of course at college. As a result of this, I had a look at what courses were on offer at a college ...
Views: 1113 - “Don’t Just Be Another Brick In The Wall!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2003, I went to a number of different countries, and one of the countries that I visited was Australia. But while I was going to another country, it wouldn’t be completely accurate to say that I was going on holiday. The reason I was going away was to mark the first ...
Views: 998 - “He Is A Great Teacher!” - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I got together with a friend and he spoke about a video that he wanted to make on domestic violence. This was one of many that he was looking to put together. I think that the video he made after this was on knife crime, with the next one being about the masks that we ...
Views: 1228 - “He Is A Real Healer!” - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2016, it was clear that I was only getting so far; in fact, it was as though I was actually getting worse, not better. I had worked with people, but some of the changes that I had made didn’t last and I was only getting so far. What also stood out was how I needed to be ...
Views: 1264 - “How Do You See Yourself?” - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver a year ago, I was speaking to a friend called Wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that stage in our life. I think he was working on a few videos and I could have been putting a book together. It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious ...
Views: 1054 - “I Became Extremely Motivated!” - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I was in a relationship that came to an end in the beginning of 2013, I started to write more often. I remember writing about four articles a week and believing that that was enough. Once I had been doing this for a while, I felt the need to write seven articles a week. When I ...
Views: 1097 - “I Came to Accept People From Other Cultures!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen our family guest had only just been opened, a lot of the people who stayed were just passing by or on holiday. Yet, as the years went by and our guest house became more well-known, we started to have people stay from all over the world. This also meant that we had students stay ...
Views: 934 - “I Could No Longer Play The Same Role!” - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a family where everyone had a role, and each person rarely stepped out of that role. My mother was the one who was in control, and this generally took place through making the decisions and keeping people inline through losing her temper. My father, on the other hand, was ...
Views: 1118 - “I Couldn't Believe That He Wasn't Sharing His Views With The World!” - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met Wain in 2015, I thought that our paths had crossed in order for us to make videos together. For a little while before this, I had been looking for someone who made videos. Not just anyone would do, though, as I was looking for someone who would be able to relate to where I was ...
Views: 945 - “I Couldn’t Get In Touch With My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2009 I did a Reference Point Therapy course in London, and the purpose of this course was to heal trauma. In the beginning, the person who was leading the course, Simon Rose, spoke about boundaries, the effect that our time in the womb can have on us and a number of other ...
Views: 1049 - “I Developed Another False-Self!” - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had met a woman who gave readings and did a number of other things, in 2003, I wanted to know more. So, after I had been away for a number weeks, I went to see this woman again. When we got together, my mother and sister would often come along, too, and this was a time when this ...
Views: 1092 - “I Didn't Know What It Was Like To Lose Someone!” - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of my time at school, I would work at a crematorium whenever I didn’t have to go in. There were times when I would tell people about what I did and their responses said a lot about the kind of job that I had. Of course, it wasn’t that these people found it strange that I was ...
Views: 1447 - “I Didn't Realise They Were So Insecure!” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I went to Mexico, in the middle of 2014, I ordered a few copies of ‘A Dialogue With The Heart - Part One: A Collection Of Poems And Dialogues From The Heart’. This was a book that I released towards the end of 2013. The reason for this was that I thought it would be good idea to leave ...
Views: 1051 - “I Didn’t Feel Safe Enough To Cry!” - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first started to face the emotional pain that was within me, in 2013, I didn’t feel comfortable expressing my emotions. So, when I was working with a therapist, it was a challenge for me to express what was going on for me. What didn’t help was that I had chosen to work with a female ...
Views: 1272 - “I Don’t Care If Your Father Is In Hospital!” - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I have said in a previous article, my father had to go into hospital in the middle of 2011, and this was a time when I was under a lot of stress. My mother had had a stroke the previous year and soon my life would change once again. During the time that my father was in hospital, I would ...
Views: 978 - “I Ended Up Getting Defensive!” - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was helping a friend to move house a number of years ago, I ended up meeting someone there who was into self-development. It didn’t take long for me to see that we had a lot in common. Not only this, he also worked as a photographer and made videos. I thought that everything was ...
Views: 1091 - “I Feel Invisible!” - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the article titled ‘I Am The Centre Of The Universe!’, I primarily went into what can happen to someone if they were violated and made to feel insignificant as a child. Towards the end, I briefly touched upon another consequence of being treated in this way. To summarise; when someone was ...
Views: 1081 - “I Felt Depressed!" - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2012 and throughout 2013, I would often feel flat, and at times, it was a challenge for me to get out of bed in the morning. While this was going on, there was another part of me found it hard to accept how I felt. I believed that I couldn’t allow myself to experience ...
Views: 1723 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1612 - “I Felt Recognised!” - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2012, I ended up having a reading, and this took place at a shop that was about 9 miles away from where I lived. This was a time when I was looking for guidance, and this was partly because I had just left where I worked. I ended up speaking to the owner of the shop before I ...
Views: 1059 - “I Felt Suicidal!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWent I went to a new salsa dancing class in the middle of 2010, there was one woman who caught my eye. And while we were dancing together, I asked her about where she was from and what she did, amongst others things. I was pulled in by her appearance, and her easy going and friendly nature ...
Views: 1291 - “I Felt Worthless!” - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had left my job in the beginning of 2012, I needed to take a break. I could no longer handle the amount of stress that I was under and this was one of the main reasons why I had to walk away. Up until this point, I had only written about one or two articles a week. Now that I had more ...
Views: 1161 - “I Found It Hard To Breathe!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I think back to what happened in 2001, I remember that there was a time when I was working out and I ended up finding it hard to breathe. At the time, I just thought that I had a cold coming on. However, after I went to see the doctor, I came to see that it wasn’t a cold. After I had a ...
Views: 1617 - “I Had A Fear Of Being Seen!” - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was growing up there was generally one person who did all the talking when we were around others - my mother. And, as time went by this would include my sister, which meant that my father and I didn’t get the chance to say much. It was no different when we were at home, either, as my ...
Views: 1039 - “I Had Anger Problems!” - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I ended up playing five a side football, and this was a time in my life when I was experiencing a lot of anger. It was during this time that I was involved in an altercation. The person who was there to let the players know when they were going on and coming off lost ...
Views: 1280 - “I Had Severe Learning Difficulties!” - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I had read my first book on self-development, towards the end of 2003, I didn’t really read books. The books that I had read were the ones that I had to read whilst I was at school, and this meant that I didn’t have a choice. Up until this point, I didn’t enjoy reading; which was ...
Views: 1069 - “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent. I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ...
Views: 656 - “I Have To Become Someone Else. I Have To Become Something Else” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround five years ago, whilst I was visiting a friend, I ended up watching a series called ‘Arrow’. I hadn’t heard of it before but I was happy to give it a go and after watching the first episode, there was one thing that was on my mind – to watch the next one. I thought that it was very ...
Views: 842 - “I Kept Having Nightmares!” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of my life, I remember having two reoccurring dreams. In one of the dreams, I would be at the top of a flight of stairs and shortly after, I would fall down the stairs. And in the other dream, or should I say nightmare, it was as though I was surrounded by everyone on ...
Views: 930 - “I knew it was over!” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Australia and Bali in 2003, I started to change quite rapidly. Before I had been away, I had only read a few books, and these were books that I had to read for school. But after being drawn to a book whilst I was in Australia, I was now reading on a regular basis. ...
Views: 1179 - “I Learnt How Dangerous It Was To Have A Closed Mind!” - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, about a year I left school, I wanted to share what I had learnt with my family. But although I was extremely curious and wanted to find out as much as I could, my family were not really interested. After talking about what I had learnt and being put ...
Views: 920 - “I Learnt The Importance Of Self-Discipline!” - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a guest house, and this meant that I had to help my family by doing different jobs. However, it wasn’t uncommon for me to stop doing a job and then to go to my room or somewhere else. This was partly due to me not being given much time to do what I wanted and partly due to me ...
Views: 1146 - “I Meditate In The Sauna” - by Submitted on May 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a call that I had with Errol Campbell, he said that he hadn’t been able to use the sauna the day before due to a minor problem at the hotel nearby. He went on to say that he meditates when he uses the sauna. I thought that this was different, with it being something that I hadn’t ...
Views: 1038 - “I Need To Write About That!” - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of October 2010, a friend and I had decided to go out for the night in a city nearby. There were a number of places where we had gone in the past, and tonight we were likely to go to the same places. The first place that we went to wasn’t very busy, and so we soon left and ...
Views: 1054 - “I No Longer Had A Purpose!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperGrowing up in a guest house meant that there was always something to do; therefore, there wasn’t much time to relax. If I didn’t get up at a certain time or disappeared when I was supposed to be working, I would often be in a lot of trouble. Sometimes I would go out when I got home from ...
Views: 901 - “I No Longer Wanted To Play A Role!” - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before a relationship came to an end, at the beginning of 2013; I had got to the point where I no longer wanted to behave in the same way. Up until this point, I was easy-going and generally came across as happy. It wasn’t that I no longer wanted to be easy-going or to come ...
Views: 1155 - “I Started To Develop Boundaries!” - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround 2014, I no longer wanted to say yes all the time and to go along with what other people wanted. Not only this, there were times when I could stand my ground and say no. For a little while before this, I could see what was talking place but I wasn’t able to do anything about it. I had ...
Views: 1203 - “I Think You Expected Too Much!” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days after my father passed away in august 2011, I went to Ibiza for just under two weeks. At the time I was in two minds about going away: part of me felt I should stay at home, and another part of me felt that it would be good for me to get away. The mentor that I spoke about in the ...
Views: 1101 - “I Thought All Women Were The Same!” - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI started speaking to a woman who was a few years older than me on an online dating site and, before long, she called me up. As we hadn’t been speaking for very long this surprised me, and what also surprised me was that she opened up about her own history. This was something that took ...
Views: 1435 - “I Thought I Just Lacked Confidence!” - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was younger, I often found it hard to behave how I wanted to behave, and I was often described as being ‘shy’. This was something my mother would say, and there were moments when other people would say the same thing. During this time in my life, my emotions were frequently out of ...
Views: 956 - “I Thought It Was All About The Mind!” - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was having hypnotherapy towards the end of 2012, I was told we were all nothing more than a conversation in our head. As a result of this, the way for me to change my life would be for me to change what was taking place in my mind. I remember hearing this and being amazed at what I ...
Views: 1309 - “I Want To Be With Someone Who Makes Me Look Good!” - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard people say that they want to be with someone who will make them look good. Additionally, there have been people who have wanted to take their partner out to “show them off”. There have even been moments in my own life when I have thought that being with woman ...
Views: 973 - “I Want To Help A Billion People!” - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out earlier I saw someone who reminded me of someone I spoke to a number of years ago. We spoke about a number of things, and one of the things I remember clearly is how they wanted to make a difference in the world. But, this was not something that they hadn’t really thought ...
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