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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Controlling Behaviour: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Controlling?

For some people, it is a case of either controlling others or being controlled; there is no middle ground. Even so, this doesn’t mean that this is something that goes through their mind. Completely Unaware Instead, one can feel compelled to do whatever they can to control other people. As a result of this, they are not going to think about the effect that their behaviour has on others and, even if they do, it might not have much of an effect on them.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“You Are Wasting Your Money!”

After hearing Dov Baron speak about how important our beliefs are, through an interview I listened to in December 2006, I searched for more information on this topic. Ultimately, I was looking for a way to change or remove what I believed. I spent a little while going over the information that came up on a search engine and, after a little while, I came across a website that stood out. What I had found was a healing technique that would do just that – change what I believed. Tell Me More

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly?

In the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there will be others who don’t. Confusion If someone was to speak to a number of people who don’t have good things to say, and to a number of people who do, they might wonder what is going on. These people are going to live on the same planet, but it will be as if they live different planets.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Why Are So Many People Obsessed With Celebrities?

It could be said that there have more or less always been people who are famous for one thing or another, but what is different about today’s world, is that it is easier than ever before for someone to achieve this aim. There are two main reasons for this, with the first being reality TV and the second being the internet.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Development: Is Harnessing Our Pain An Important Part Of Being Able To Heal?

While some people are given the kind of care that they need in order to grow and develop whilst they are growing up, there are others who don’t have this experience. As a result of this, their latter years can end up being extremely different. A Continuation When one does receive what they need, they are generally going to be able to carry on with the rest of their life. What this means is that they won’t be caught up in the past, and they will feel like an adult.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Does Social Media Create Division?

There are a number of things that have been said about social media, and what is often said is that it connects people. This is something that can’t be denied; it no longer matters where someone is in the world, as they will still be able to talk to their ‘friends’ and family. All Together One can add their ‘friends’ and family to their Friend List, and this will allow them to stay up to date with them. By looking through their wall, one can see what they have been doing, and they can message them.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Victim Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimised By Others?

It could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed. A Different Reality However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, there are going to be others who experience life difference. Consequently, they are not going to have the odd challenge to deal with; their whole life will be a challenge.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

"What Was Cute In Romance May Become Acute In Conflict”

A number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights. When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone through a painful break up. I was looking for answers and I came across plenty of things to think about – and apply - by reading these books. A Few Quotes

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Our Value Is Not Defined By How Many 'Likes' We Get!

I remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body. If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, they would soon end up hitting rock bottom. It was clear that this person had allowed other people to define their value and to control their emotional state. Complete Strangers

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People?

In the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. Having sex outside of marriage was no longer seen as something that was wrong, at least not to the same degree as before. Naturally, there were people who were not on board with what was taking place. A New Era

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Childhood Did Not Have An Effect On Them?

When it comes to the kinds of challenges that one can face during their adult years, it can be normal for them to believe that their childhood hasn’t played a part. What they are going through is then going to be seen as a reflection of what has taken place in their adult years. If they don’t have this outlook, it could be put down to something else, or it could be seen as being the result of a number of different factors. But regardless of whether it is seen as another factor or number of different factors, they are unlikely to be the only ones with this outlook. A Common Outlook

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is There Less Need For Someone To Develop Their Personality When They Are Attractive?

If one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is. On the other hand, if one drives one of the latest sports cars, they may find that people stare at their car. It is unlikely to matter where they go, as the responses could be the same. One Step Further

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Is Criticising Trump A Great Way To Gain Approval Online?

When someone has a social media account, there are a number of things that they can do. Even so, they might just prefer to use it to talk to their friends from time to time. If this was to occur, it could be said that it would simply be another part of their life; it is not going to be something that they depend on. The people who they talk to online could then be people they actually know in the real world. One Side

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

"You Have A Way With Words!"

In September 2005 I ended up studying music technology, and this was due to a number of reasons. Firstly, I was into dance music and wanted to learn how to create my own music and, secondly, I didn’t know what else to do. During this time, I thought I would be spending a lot of time learning how to make dance music. I was sadly mistaken, though, as I had to learn about other areas of music that had very little do to with creating it. I Couldn’t Believe It

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“Shadow Work Is Important!”

The last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up. This was something that came up after he mentioned a self-development video that he had watched recently. It was a video that had been viewed many times and it had a very ‘positive’ message. The Way Things Are

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Are Young Men Being Conditioned To Hate Themselves?

For quite some time now, it has been said that there are plenty young men that are suffering from motivational problems. Unlike a lot of young women, these young men don’t have a lot of drive. But, as so much attention had been placed on young girls, this is an issue that has largely been ignored. What undoubtedly plays a part in this is the fact that, in general, females are seen as being oppressed and held back by the ‘patriarchy’, which is why so much energy and attention is directed towards young girls. Lopsided

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Control How Some People Feel?

Whether someone does something or not can all depend on how they feel, and this shows how powerful their feelings are. There are going to be people who are defined by how they feel, and then there are going to be others who are able to take a step back. A Slave When someone’s behaviour is generally defined by how they feel, it is going to be a challenge for them to determine how they will behave. In order for them to do something, it will often be necessary for them to be in the right mood.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship?

When one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to the fact that they want to put their best foot forward, so to speak. Therefore, if they didn’t do this, it might be harder for them to create right impression. Two Sides

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Fight Instinct: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct?

No matter where someone lives on this planet, they are going to need to be able to stand their ground and to protect themselves. What this will do is stop them from being walked over by other people. Now, this is not to say that everyone who one will come across will have the desire to harm them. There are going to be people out there who would if they had the chance, along with others who have no interest in doing such a thing. Unintentional

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner?

If a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and have a number of friends, but he won’t open up to any of these people. As a result, this is likely to mean that he will end up carrying a lot of stuff. A Heavy Weight

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Image: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have An Enemy?

When it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light. At Times Now, this is not to say that one should always see themselves in this way, as there are likely to be times when this won’t be appropriate. For example, if one has acted destructively towards another, it will be normal for them to see themselves differently.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do?

If one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to take it easy. If one of these people went on holiday, for instance, this could be a time when their mind will be consumed with what is taking place back home.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“I Wanted To Convert People!”

After I had been into self-development for a few years, in the middle of 2005, I learnt about the effect that our thoughts, emotions and beliefs have on how we experience life. I think the first time I had heard about his was when I read ‘The Power of the Subconscious Mind’, by Joseph Murphy. Shortly after this, I read a number of books by Dr Robert Anthony, followed by a CD program called ‘The Secret of Deliberate Creation’. I was amazed by what I heard and wanted to tell other people about it. Inner Conflict

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Do You End Up With People Who Are You Emotionally Unavailable?

I was thinking the other day about how common it is for people to end up in a relationship with someone who is not available. This is something that usually causes them to experience a lot of pain. To go through this once is more than enough, but there are people who have experienced this on more than one occasion. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to believe that they are really unlucky. Despair

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Problems: Does The Need To Look Strong Stop Some Men From Reaching Out For Support?

Both men and women experience emotions, but it is often a lot harder for men to open up about how they feel. Now, if emotions were things that could simply be overlooked, this wouldn’t matter. The trouble is that this is not the case, which is why it can lead to all kinds of problems when a man keeps how he feels to himself. If man was his own island, it wouldn’t be an issue if he didn’t open up. An Identity

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad?

In today’s world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done. Now, that’s not to say that both men and women won’t complain about this; what it means is that this kind of behaviour is tolerated by the media and the education system, for instance. If a man viewed women in the same way, there is a strong chance that he wouldn’t be given a platform. One Big Illusion

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Cause Some People To Suffer From Thinkaphobia?

It could be said that the main purpose of the education system is to give people the guidance that they need in order to be able to think for themselves. Along with this, it will be important for them to receive the tools that they need to stand on their own two feet. In an ideal world, that is what would happen during someone’s time in the education system. This would then allow someone to leave with their own mind and they would soon be able to support themselves. Back to Reality

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Strength: Is Someone Weak If They Can't Control Their Emotions?

Nowadays, it is often believed that someone’s feelings are caused by their thoughts. Thus, if someone wants to change how they feel, it will be essential for them to change the thoughts that are running through their head. The reason this is widely believed is partly due to the self-development industry, with their being hundreds, if not thousands, of books that espouse this view. Thanks to this information, people from all over the world now believe this. The Observer

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Should Someone Delete Their ‘Friends’ If They Supported A Different Presidential Candidate?

Now that the election is over, it has given people the chance to share their views on what has taken place. This could be a time when one is happy about how it is has gone, or they could feel let down. Alte atively, they could wonder what all the fuss is about, and think about how life will go on either way. In this case, it is likely to show that they didn’t vote for anyone, or that they didn’t have to. On The Outside

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Value Of Your Work Is Not Defined By How Many ‘Likes’ You Get!

I was speaking to a friend of mine the other day called, Wain, and he was talking about the work that he had been sharing on social media. He had recently created another page and had put in a fair amount of work to build it up. From what he was saying, it made me think about how it is easy to put in a lot of work and end up with very little in return. There can be the money that someone puts in to increase their ‘followers’ and there can be all the time they put in to create content. Another Approach

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Development: Are You Drawn To A Teacher Because Of What They Know Or Because Of How They Come Across?

If one wanted to change something about themselves in the past, they may have ended up reading a book, for instance. Nowadays, one can end up going onto a search engine and watching a video. But if they were to read something, it could relate to what has been written on a blog. What this emphasises is how the internet has had a big effect on what approach people take when they want to move forward in their life. Visual Creatures

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!”

In a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we have spent time together has just as much of an effect, if not more. There are a number of reasons as to why our conversations are so thought-provoking. A Powerful Question

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Can Someone End Up With Mental And Emotional Problems If They Don’t Eat Meat?

Due, in part, to the amount of attention that the mainstream media give to mental and emotional problems, it can seem as though more people than ever before are in a bad way. In many easy, it is as though it is case of who doesn’t have them, not who does. If this problem is a big as this source of information, along with the government, says it is, there are bound to be a number of reasons as to why this is. At the same time, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is another example of sensationalism, and that these two sources are making a mountain out of a hill.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent?

When someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them the money that they need to survive. Therefore, if they were to just walk away, there life could end up getting even worse.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Inadequate Around People Who Feel Worthless?

When one spends time around the people in their life, they may find that they generally feel good about themselves. And through feeling this way when they are around them, it is likely to mean that they will feel good when their time together comes to an end. Another Outcome Yet, if this is not how they feel, it could show that one is annoyed that their time together had to come to an end. Perhaps one didn’t have enough time to stay any longer, or the other person might have had to leave early, for instance.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Human Doings?

While there are some people who have moments in their life when they take action and moments when they relax, there are others who are practically always doing something. As a result of this, it is going to mean that these people don’t experience life in the same way. One Outcome When someone can relate to the former, they can be more successful than someone who can relate to the latter. This comes down to the fact that they will put in more work, and so they will have achieved more.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Is The Mainstream Media More Deceitful Than Ever Before?

There are, of course, a number of ways to find out about what is taking place in the world, and this is why it is no longer necessary to look towards the mainstream media. Someone can now find out about what is taking place by looking towards the alte ative media. Old Habits Die Hard But even though one no longer needs to rely on the MSM, it doesn’t mean that they will change their behaviour. Yet, if they have looked towards this source of information for most of their life, it is not going to be much of a surprise.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Celebrities Support Open Borders?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards a celebrity for guidance. Consequently, it won’t matter if a celebrity is a good singer, actor/actress, or any else for that matter, as they will be seen as an authority on just about everything under the sun. Now, if someone has elevated a celebrity in this way, it could show that they are at the beginning of their life. This is then a sign that they haven’t developed the ability to think critically, which is why they perceive these kinds of people as modern day gods/goddesses. Human Beings

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine?

In the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is the case.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Worthless?

There are a number of things that play a part in someone being able to live a life that is worth living, and having a sense of self worth is one of them. When one has this in place, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. Through having the ability to feel good about themselves, it will probably be normal for them to experience positive feelings and thoughts. Along with this, one is likely to have a low tolerance for bad behaviour. Self-Respect

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Condition People To Believe That Everything Is Black And White?

When it comes to being informed about the world, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards the mainstream media. There is a strong chance that this is something that has taken place for most of their life. They could find that the people they spend time with also have the same approach, and this can mean that they have the same outlook. For that reason, one could find that their way of looking at the world is no different to these people. The Same Source

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: When Someone Tells Other People How To Live Their Life Does It Show That They Lack Empathy?

When one spends time with the people they are close to, they may find that they are happy to listen to them. This is likely to show that they are there to support them, and their life is then going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. The Perfect Scenario Through being treated in this way, one will see that they value what they have to say, and this is likely to mean that they value them as a person. Still, there is a strong chance that one will also behave in the same way.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Defence Mechanism: What Is Splitting?

When someone experiences emotional pain, and this pain is too strong for them to handle, their mind can end up using a defence to keep it at bay. In this sense, a defence is very much like a water dam, inasmuch as it is there to stop something from flooding in. After a little while, it will be necessary for them to realise what has taken place and to face this pain. This will allow them to reconnect with their feelings and to operate as a whole human being again. Too Much

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day

A little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and this resulted in me signing up to do an instruction day. When the day came for me to take part, I had an open mind and I was curious about what it would be like. Straight In

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe”

Many years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” There was something about it that really pulled me in and I ended up sharing it online soon after. Recently, I heard this quote again and I came to see that there was another reason why it resonated with me all those years ago. The First Time

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this point, at least it won’t have stopped them from reaching out for support. There are bound to be plenty of people who feel too ashamed to do so. Stuck

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Disconnected: Why Do Some People Disconnect From Their Emotions When They Are Around Others?

Ideally, someone will be in tune with how they feel when they are around others; the reason being that it will allow them to function as a whole human being. Through being aware of how they feel, they will be able to connect to how other people feel and to connect to their own emotional needs. Naturally, other people are going to appreciate their ability to connect to how they feel and to empathise with them. And, being in tune with their own needs will allow them to express what is taking place for them and to assert themselves. Fully Showing Up

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The World Needs More Love!

When I was out the other day I saw a paper bag that said something like, ‘the world needs more love.’ This is something that is hard to deny, considering how much suffering and destruction there is. One only needs to watch the news or to pick up a paper to hear about something negative that is taking place. What plays a part in this, of course, is that is that these sources have the tendency to focus on the bad things that are taking place and to overlook the good things. More to It

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Feeling Hopeless Can Be A Good Thing!

If someone feels hopeless, it can cause them to feel down and as though they have no control. And, unless something changes, they could end up feeling even worse - sinking even further down into themselves. It can then seem as though there is no way out, and they may come to believe that the only option they have is to end their own life. This could be how they have felt for a number of months or years, or maybe they have felt this way for as long as they can remember. A Painful Existence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alte ate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’?

While there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s relationship is like or what her relationships have been like in the past, this is likely to be what is normal. If, a woman is with a healthy man or has been with healthy men in the past, this is not going to be a problem.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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