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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Why Do I Always Have Sex on the First Date?

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been one date situations, for whatever reason and on the occasions that the woman is interested in me, we usually end up having sex.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I Do My Best to Stay in My Loving Heart

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: She cannot forgive all the hurt I have caused her

Dear Dr. Romance

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to resent my wife

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm struggling with dismissing bad behavior

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: My husband's one-night-stand is pregnant

Dear Dr. Romance: I read an article of yours on Divorce360 about affairs the end with a pregnancy. My husband had a one night stand three weeks ago. He told me about it. We've been going to counseling for several months and were doing great. We just found out she's pregnant. I love my husband, but can I work through this? Dear Reader:r

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange?

Dear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't approve. I feel happy sometimes but suddenly I do not like to be with anybody, even my close friends or loved ones. I just want to be alone.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

The Fine Art of "Squirrel Hunting"

Dr. Romance writes:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends

Dear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying not to appear creepy and such. Luckily, she wanted more than friendship and we briefly dated (maybe a month), until she told me that she "didn't want to go out with with anyone".

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance: Make your Marriage Work

Relationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help. 1. Don’t hold a grudge. Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. Ask clearly for what you want, and let your partner know why it’s important to you. If you can’t find a way to agree, go for a counseling session. Resentment will destroy your marriage – for the price of one session, before the problem gets too large, you can save it.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage

Relationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go: 1. Your partner keeps going out of bounds.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Are You The One Who Wanted It To Work?

3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped. 1. DO put it in perspective: If you're dumped, it hurts, but count your lucky stars. You don’t have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. 2. DO understand that there were problems already:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him

Dear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from overseas. We fought numerous times and patched up. Now we are planning to get married this year. He will be coming to my place as I have a stable job.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize

There Are Four Steps. Are You Doing All Of Them? Are you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of punishment or rejection –- apologizing makes it easier to be forgiven. 2. Don’t be afraid to admit you're wrong.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to be the Victim of any Jezebel

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Baby Boomer? Getting Divorced?

Two Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a Baby Boomer or beyond and you're getting divorced after a long marriage. 1. Get emotional support.r

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: She doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job.

Dear Dr. Romance: My wife she wil get angry very easily. Even for simple things she gets very angry. She always tells me to leave her and she wants to live her family especially with her mother. She tells me she doesn't want to live and mostly she hurts her self. The biggest problem is my job. I earn very small salary and I'm trying to get a good job but she doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I just miss her a lot

Dear Dr. Romance: I found your article about women dating younger men. So, here I'm in a middle of a crisis... hope you can read it and hope you can give some advise. I'm 30, with a promising carreer and a stable job.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents but they did nothing. I used to cut myself and cry at night.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Four Secrets To A Happy Marriage

Save Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other.r

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really long time.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent

4 Real Ways To Make It Work Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each other before you moved in together, but the transition to living comfortably together can take time. 2. Have family meetings weekly.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child

Infidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger

Dear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other relationships to me.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Wanted: Older Men

Seniors today are still of a generation that doesn't want to seem to plan for sex. And there's no need for birth control, so that motivation for condom use doesn't exist. Also, senior men may not have as inevitable erections as they did when younge, so that may make them reluctant to use condoms. However, female condoms are available, and unless you and your partner are both tested, don't assume you're safe.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: He Spends More Time with His Friends Than Me

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I am the one who becomes unbalanced

Dear Dr. Romance: I am married 19 years and my husband and I have two children. We have a good marriage in so many ways yet we continuously cycle to a low point every couple of months primarily due to my change in mood and feelings about the relationship. A bad case of ambivalence on my part. We recently had a nice break from one another with my travel for work. We decided to let go of the past negatives we know about one another and our relationship and start fresh. I really like this idea.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Want To Stay Married? 4 Must Do's

Number Four Is A Must In Any Relationship 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. You should talk about frustrations, sex, anger, disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be off limits. Learn to listen and communicate instead of fighting. Fighting is childish, and you want a grown-up relationship. 2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up: Be a team, create a partnership.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: She Slapped My Face and Departed

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on: Intuition or Inner knowing

Dr. Romance writes:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: How to Deal with an Annoying Boyfriend

Guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in arguing about who's right, rather than focusing on what will work.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: Repairing a Dysfunctional Mother/Daughter Relationship

(Watch the video here: http://youtu.be/1Fp55ZFayeU) When you hit your teens you and your mom had a bad time, and you still are. Maybe she's not the mother you always wanted, but she's yours. How do you bury the hatchet and repair your connection? This will also be helpful for moms trying to repair relationships with daughters. You may never be best friends, but you can learn to appreciate each other and get along.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships

Many people ask me, "How will I know if I'm in love?" Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together greatly increases the chance that you'll make it as a couple. When I'm counseling couples on the verge of divorce, it's amazing how establishing mutuality allows the love to come back. Mutuality Prevents Heartache

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Self-Reliance and Independence

"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls?

Dear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself.

Dear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I will always have a mental and physical reminder of this. I need to "let this go" and I am having trouble. Any suggestions as to how I can forgive myself? Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on: No Cooperation? Solve It Yourself!

Dr. Romance writes: What do you do after you have tried everything and your partner, friend, child or colleague still won't negotiate?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear. Dr. Romance: Every Time We Talk, I'm in Tears and He's Mad

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: Guidelines for Co-Parenting after Divorce

(To view video, click here.) No matter how angry or hurt you may be after a divorce, if you have children, you’ll still share a lifetime with their other parent, your ex. Dr. Romance offers guidelines for moving past the anger and hurt, and finding a way to co-parent your children that is good for everyone.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: Is there a right way to ask for more sex?

To watch the video click here: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Creating a Sexual Agreement: * Set up a problem-solving session: * Having a time to talk about sex will help you create trust and sexual openness which makes finding solutions much easier. * Begin with reassurance and good will, reminding each other of your love and of your desire that your sexual relationship be fulfilling for both of you.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?

Dr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite because it's new and exciting.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Domestic Violence

As a Psychologist, Dr. Romance knows that when we're surrounded by images of violence, it becomes "normalized" and we stop seeing it as unusual. Anyone who watches the news is becoming aware that we live in a violent society: According to the Peace Alliance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance's Newest Ebook: The Real 13th Step

Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step Programs Dear readers:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: On Dating in the Workplace

To view the video, click here. Work can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. Dr. Romance helps you figure out the right and wrong ways to do it. Dr. Romance on Dating in the Workplace

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I want my wife to be my lover

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Although I had to let go, I still care a lot.

Dear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I Love Him to Death But Can't Find a Solution

Dear Dr. Romance,

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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