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We have in the previous chapter mentioned a few possible need conflicts. We unfortunately seldom communicate very clearly and objectively in these cases, and this lack of effective communication adds to the problem often resulting in conflict.
A classic example is a couple I remember who had ... Views: 3164
Professional standards are strong guidelines for how you treat yourself within your business or career. They can include a code of ethics, guarantees, how many hours you work, etc. Professional boundaries are about how you want your clients to treat you within your business. They can include ... Views: 980
“There is no honor in hard work?was a statement hurled at me many years ago by a hippie-type. I, of course, dismissed it, considering the source, despite the fact that the young man who favored me with that piece of his mind traveled world-wide, and did pretty much as he pleased, while I ... Views: 2595
CHAPTER 1
THE POWER OF CONTROL
Man is still responsible. He mast turn the alloy of modern experience into the steel of mastery and character. His success lies not with the stars, but with himself He must carry on the fight of self-correction and discipline. -Frank Curtis Williams
In today's ... Views: 4196
Life is one great adventure after another for those who will try something new. There are those who consider life a success if they can tip-toe from birth to death and no one notices them. There are others who not only accept challenges, but actively solicit them. Those in the last group are the ... Views: 986
Many years ago, I ran a part-time resume service out of my New York apartment. My client showed up on time for her first appointment, nervously clutching her old resume.
"Can we just talk for awhile?" she asked.
"No," I said firmly, amazing myself. "If you want me to work on your resume, ... Views: 1100
Nanny Diaries has achieved the dazzling height of Number One in book sales on amazon.com. The authors serve up delicious pseudo-gossipy scenes of a dysfunctional Park Avenue family, "Mr. and Mrs. X."
From the perspective of a career coach, Nanny is an independent contractor -- a very small ... Views: 1235
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Life Lessons - by Life Designs Coach Julie Fuimano, MBA, BSN, RN
Submitted on May 12, 2007 from
"A life spent making mistakes is more useful than a life spent doing nothing." ~ George Bernard Shaw
Some people say there are no mistakes in life, only lessons to be learned. When we get clear of the lesson, we grow. When we don’t learn the lesson, then it will repeat itself over and over ... Views: 986
It scares us more than anything except death.
Being alone.
For some it is a little death. Our fear of solitude is so ingrained that given the choice of being by ourselves or being with others, we opt for safety in numbers, even at the expense of lingering in painful, boring or totally ... Views: 4587
Breathing is something we do more than 14,000 times every single day. Yet the breath is something we rarely devote any attention to, and breath is one of the most powerful ways to develop awareness of our physical dimension. Breathing provides a link between our physical dimension and ... Views: 2440
My goodness! Where has civility gone? Is it still here? Is it in hiding or has it been stomped on so much that it can't get up and function? Perhaps it is all of these. I believe civility is still here but only practiced on those occasions when we want to present ourselves in a good light. Then ... Views: 1475
If you suffer from Bipolar disorder,you can try the following six steps to daily heal yourself from within. "Quotes Added".
1) Self-Discovery= I spent many years not knowing who or what I was. Any type of discovery takes knowledge and time.
Once you receive the knowledge you need about your ... Views: 1005
One of the most important skills we can learn that will help us manage and fulfill our priorities is to say "No." Once we get there, it becomes easier and easier, but initially it can be extremely awkward and unpopular with others. Knowing the stages we’ll go through can help us realize that ... Views: 9305
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life. Define yourself."
~Harvey Fierstein ~
Why do you allow people to talk to you like that?
Is there a sign on your forehead that gives people permission to talk to you in an ... Views: 16195
BE ASSERTIVE AND GET WHAT YOU WANT!
We all desire to attain the best out of life. In order to do that, we must begin with knowing what we desire and being assertive in going after our goals.
1. It all starts with passion. What do you like to do? What are your interests?
2. Now ask yourself ... Views: 1074
Question: I’m not a very assertive person. How do I learn to say No to people who ask me to do things I don’t really want to do? I have this problem not just with my colleagues but with my boss too.
Answer: Don’t think you’re alone. We all find ourselves in situations where we say “Yes” to ... Views: 2402
In your journey through life are you the "driver" or the "passenger"?
Let me be perfectly clear what I mean about this statement. In other words,do you take charge of your own life? Do you make the judgment and set the goals for what you want your life to be like? - Or - Do you let others do ... Views: 1029
Imagine a very muscular guy, surrounded by lots of weaker people. He's just finished lifting his weights. He's feeling strong and confident, ready to take on the world.
On his way out of the gym he finds a giant boulder in his path. He must get past it. It's in his way. He's got places to go, ... Views: 1194
Tell me if this sounds familiar -- someone asks you to do something that you really don’t want to do or you honestly don’t have time for. It might be a church bake sale, a school fundraiser, participating on a committee, or even just working late. But you feel like you will let the other person ... Views: 26931
“You must do the thing that you fear until the fear of that thing becomes no more.”
- Brian Tracy
One day, not too long ago, I was in the middle of a 5 day fast. I was looking for spiritual answers to some situations that I was facing. On the third day, I got hit with the truth. ... Views: 12104
[This is a follow-up article to last week's issue on asking. If you haven't read it yet, you may want to view on our homepage, http://www.ordinarywords.com.]
Does asking really work? Is it "that" simple? Did you try it?
Some people tried it on me! A few subscribers wrote and asked me if I ... Views: 1351
Imagine a store that doesn't bother putting together any policies or procedures. No one has ever decided what their business hours will be, so the customers don't know when the shop will be open -- it could be 10-2 one day and 6-6 another day. No one has decided what the store will sell, so ... Views: 2110
The way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can ... Views: 3809
Consider this: Your world is created as you wish it to be. If you believe that you are a victim of circumstance, then you will always be a “victim”. There is a benefit to being victimized. You will always have people around you who will support you and feel sorry for you. That is ... Views: 1152
Has anyone ever spoken to you in an inappropriate manner? Often people are caught off guard and are not prepared to handle these challenging situations. But, as a leader, whenever you are in a situation that’s uncomfortable, it’s imperative that you speak up; the person needs to know that the ... Views: 7280
Have you ever had anyone speak to you in a tone that made you feel uncomfortable? And yet, you said nothing. Have you ever done something for someone or with someone that you really didn’t want to do? And yet, you did it anyway, only to become resentful later.
Every time you say nothing, every ... Views: 1008
You're the new secretary and your boss asks you to become a Notary Public. He then walks back into his office and you can hear him on the phone talking about a contract he wants out of, and the fact that he's going to falsify a date and signature -- "No problem, my secretary will do it."
It ... Views: 6374
Have you ever had anyone speak to you in a tone that made you feel uncomfortable? And yet, you said nothing. Have you ever done something for someone or with someone that you really didn’t want to do? And yet, you did it anyway, only to become resentful later.
Every time you say nothing, every ... Views: 1710