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- ***What Difference do Differences Make? - by Submitted on May 17, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYou have worked side-by-side with your team for quite some time and the good news is that it has been truly enjoyable. You get along, you work hard together and you laugh hard together. Lucky you, this might even be an example of a high performing team. You assumed it was because you had so much ...
Views: 1168(2 votes) - Legal Processes Of A Lawyer- Construction Accident Issues - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2012 from Mae Sta. MariaWe all know that one of the most dangerous place in the community is the construction site. That's why people who are working there are required to wear helmet and some protectors. There is also a person that continually checking the safety of the construction workers as well as the safety of ...
Views: 1174(1 vote) - Conversations with V! - How You Can Enjoy an Enriching, Enduring Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeodIn consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - We should all live for others - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne Kehl"Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.” Albert Schweitzer Albert Schweitzer was perhaps, one of the greatest minds of the twentieth century. He lived from 1875 to 1965. During the course of his long life he was a doctor, an ...
Views: 7361(2 votes) - Why whining is important - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Nandita MishraMake no mistake…whining is important. Each one of us has, at some time or the other, felt trod upon, unappreciated, been pushed around and/or taken for granted. We’ve experienced moments in which everything seems just too difficult to handle; moments in which we’ve felt helpless or even ...
Views: 851 - ***Bringing it ALL to Work - by Submitted on May 05, 2010 from Margaret MeloniI remember it like it was yesterday. I still remember this supervisor looking at me and yelling, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WOULD NOT CHOOSE THE MINISTER?” Ok, Ok – this is a pretty old memory (from the late 1980’s), so it could be that I don’t have the details quite right. Maybe she did not really ...
Views: 1270(4 votes) - ***YOU are a Role Model - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2010 from Margaret Meloni“To observe people in conflict is a necessary part of a child's education. It helps him to understand and accept his own occasional hostilities and to realize that differing opinions need not imply an absence of love.” … Milton R Sapirstein When children can see others disagree and disagree ...
Views: 1350(4 votes) - Reminiscence - Impacting Brain Fitness, Lifelong Learning, Healthy Aging, and Wellness - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Beth SandersFor thousands of years, people from diverse cultures around the world have passed on their traditions, beliefs, and advice through the telling of stories. These stories have explained the following: • Lessons of life • How to survive in difficult circumstances • Why things have happened ...
Views: 1872 - ***Don’t Give in Without a Fight - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Margaret MeloniSometimes conflict cannot be avoided and that is not a bad thing. When you and your team or you and a colleague resolve a conflict together, you build a better working relationship. When I say to you, ‘Don’t give in without a fight’; I don’t mean go have an ugly nasty altercation. I mean don’t ...
Views: 2154(5 votes) - Overcoming Workplace Bullying With Support From Others - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever tried reaching out for your workmates or colleagues and close friends to tell them regarding your situation or experience with being bullied at the workplace, but they were not there for you? And Why Does This Takes Place? There are top 3 reasons why sympathy and support might not ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - ***All that People Stuff - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Margaret Meloni“I am too busy doing the work to worry about all that people stuff”, said one of my students. “I am busy managing the project and updating the schedule and budget and making sure people don’t miss their deadlines, you know – doing the real work”, he continued. I wish I could tell you this was ...
Views: 1352(6 votes) - H.B.I.T.S. Syndrome - The Silent Killer - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockH.B.I.T.S. is more widespread than originally thought, mainly because it goes unreported. The reason for this is that on the surface, it doesn't seem to be all that serious. But as a matter of record, H.B.I.T.S. could be called the silent killer. One of the major symptoms of H.B.I.T.S. is a ...
Views: 1674(5 votes) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 3311(6 votes) - Dealing With Other People's Anger - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a very revealing verse in the Bible that helps define the psychology of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with. But for many ...
Views: 4071(3 votes) - ***Fight Fair, Here’s How - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Margaret MeloniThe time has come. You have a conflict and it cannot and must not be avoided. Not everyone agrees on the solution and arriving at an approach that moves you and the team forward is absolutely necessary. Now what? This really does not need to be a big deal. But you do want to set the stage for ...
Views: 1293(5 votes) - Depression: Acupuncture & Chinese Medicine - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2010 from Ben Arnold"Depression is Rage Turned Inward" This expression best illustrates Depression in its most common form. For while you may feel tired and depressed, your energy is all but gone. What has happened, through time, is you have learned to redirect your energy poorly within the body. That is to ...
Views: 1887(4 votes) - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
Views: 1565(6 votes) - ***Conflict Takes Courage - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Margaret MeloniLast year there was an unfortunate incident at a military base in the United States. I am talking about Fort Hood. An individual started shooting people. Within hearing range of the shooting a graduation ceremony was taking place. Attending the graduation were medics and other trained personnel. ...
Views: 1334(2 votes) - ***Can You Schedule Conflict? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Margaret MeloniRecently we have discussed steps to take to when you decide to step in and step up to conflict resolution. In ‘You Decide to Resolve a Conflict’ Part I and Part II one of the underlying assumptions was that you had time to plan your actions and the steps you would take to resolve the ...
Views: 2217(4 votes) - ***You Decide to Resolve a Conflict, Now What? – Part II - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Margaret MeloniIn You Decide to Resolve a Conflict, Now What? (http://blog.melonicoaching.com/?p=818) we discussed some steps to take when you decide to step in and help resolve a conflict. These steps were designed to help you when you know in advance that you will be facilitating resolution. Today we are ...
Views: 1137(4 votes) - ***You Decide to Resolve a Conflict, Now What? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYou have observed a conflict between some of your team members and you realize you are the right person to help them reach a resolution. How do you KNOW this? You have carefully considered the situation, perhaps using “Can You SHOULD You Help Resolve the Conflicts Around You?” as your ...
Views: 1378(5 votes) - ***Can YOU, SHOULD YOU, help resolve the conflicts around you? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMaybe you've mastered conflict resolution and you like to help others. Maybe you are the one that others come to for help when they have a conflict or you work in an environment where conflict occurs regularly. But somehow you find yourself stepping in and helping to resolve the conflicts around ...
Views: 1301(5 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonThe secret to dealing with difficult people is to take the necessary action before they become difficult. Like everything else in life, if you deal with something before it becomes a problem, you’ll never have any major problems to deal with. The problem is, of course, that in the ordinary ...
Views: 1699(4 votes) - ***Can't We All Just Get Along - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Margaret MeloniNo, we cannot all get along all of the time. It is unrealistic to think that all team members will absolutely agree with you or with each other all of the time. If every time you are together, there is never any disagreement, look out - you have problems. Sure, maybe the first time you meet you ...
Views: 1666(4 votes) - Taking the Power Out: when you think what you have to say may be taken the wrong way - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from James HendrixHave you ever tried to tell someone something that you knew they would be hurt by or take the wrong way? Of course you have, and so have I. Being misunderstood is a common pariah. We all hate it and yet we often can’t finish a sentence without the other person: falling apart, or jumping in, ...
Views: 1989(4 votes) - ***Collaborating Over Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMary Carol had a difficult decision to make. Her team had an important and risky system upgrade to complete. The upgrade definitely needed to occur over a weekend. The schedule was tight and many of the team members felt that the upgrade should occur over an upcoming holiday weekend. This would ...
Views: 1580(2 votes) - Angry? Overwhelmed? Flooded? 10 ways to tell if someone needs to cool off! - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from James HendrixI have talked about getting people to listen, time outs and the rules of engagement. Today I am going to give you ten signs that the person you are talking to is flooded or overwhelmed and if they don’t calm down there may be trouble. They are at least not listening to you. Some of these you ...
Views: 4974(4 votes) - ***Make YOUR OWN Paradise - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMy husband turned to me and said, "Everyone here is so nice and so relaxed and so happy". I thought about it for a minute and replied, "Well if you can't be happy here, where can YOU be happy?" The HERE in "Well if you can't be happy here..." was one of the most beautiful tropical islands in ...
Views: 1444(1 vote) - ***Should YOU AVOID Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMost of the times you do not want conflict to go unaddressed. It is your job as a leader to ensure that your team engages in healthy and productive conflict and to make sure that conflict is not ignored. After all desperately hoping that an issue will just go away is a great way to turn a small ...
Views: 3145(7 votes) - Anger Problem? Learn All About Techniques & Counselling - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Associated Relationship & Marriage Counsellors SydneyDO YOU NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS, TECHNIQUES & ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELLING? Do you often feel agitated, angry or aggressive, or do you often feel 'shut-down' yet seething with anger on the inside? You may be suffering from an anger management problem. ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES ARE ...
Views: 2870 - What Do You Know About Health And Happiness - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Thomas LechnerLet us first find out, what does it actually mean, when we say "Happiness" and "Health". There might be some misunderstanding floating around. For sure the happy, or unhappy born person doesn't exist, the same it is with the overall health. To become a happy person, can only have to do with ...
Views: 1010(2 votes) - ***Stop the Shoulding! - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniThe women next to me in line said to her friend, "I am so tired of people telling me what I should do. I just want to yell, STOP SHOULDING ON ME!" I could not help but smile a bit. Not at her annoyance and frustration, but at the phrase, 'stop shoulding on me.' I thought, "What a great ...
Views: 1859(5 votes) - The Greatest Gift of All? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Tim DamgaardYet another new year has arrived and is waiting to unfold its adventures, challenges and blessings. Many of us get inspired to set new goals and intentions aiming to improve ourselves, our health and our lives. The top three New Year’s Resolutions in my part of the world are: to stress less, to ...
Views: 944(1 vote) - How to Resolve Self-conflicts in Eating Disorder Sufferers. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2010 from Dr. Irina WebsterEating disorders are rooted in emotional struggles. These struggles are deep emotional conflicts within the sufferer, these are called self-conflicts. How the conflicts started in the first place? This process begins by fantasizing at a very early age. People fantasize a script, for ...
Views: 1616 - ***Why YOU avoid YOUR Resolutions and What to Do About it - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2010 from Margaret MeloniHere is a New Year’s resolution you almost never hear: “This year I vow to keep everything the same, I am going to weigh the same, exercise the same, talk to all of the same people and be exactly the same.” New Year’s resolutions are about change and sometimes change is difficult. Let’s ...
Views: 1095(2 votes) - ***Building Your Conflict Resolution Skills? Consider these tips. - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Margaret MeloniFor many of us becoming comfortable with conflict is part of our continued personal development. Here are three tips for you to work with as you continue to make peace with conflict. 1) Take time to learn and understand the various conflict resolution modes. What are the conflict resolution ...
Views: 1494(1 vote) - ***3 Ways Your EQ Resolves Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYour Emotional Intelligence can help make or break you. After all your Emotional Intelligence or EQ is your ability to handle yourself and others. It is all about your ability to get along with others and build relationships. In today’s world it is not enough to be good at the technical aspects ...
Views: 1913(2 votes) - ***What are the Five Conflict Resolution Modes? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2009 from Margaret MeloniAnd which one do you use most often? When you understand how you handle conflict, you can begin to understand when your approach is effective and when it is not. Then you can learn to adapt your behavior and draw from different conflict resolutions styles as-needed. There are five conflict ...
Views: 7057(2 votes) - ***How Am I Supposed to Do That? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Margaret Meloni“Margaret, you share with us these great tips for treating people with compassion. You make sense when you remind us that other people’s behavior is about them. But how are we supposed to really do this in the real world? Especially when someone is right in my face and I just want to yell at ...
Views: 1229(3 votes) - Truth - Yours or Mine? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Lauren Kennedyby Lauren Kennedy - http://laurenpkennedy.wordpress.com "Knock. Knock." " Who’s there?" " Truth." " Truth Who?" " Mine or Yours?" And there in lies the dilemma. And the source of immense conflict. We like to think that truth is absolute, explicit, definite, unambiguous and ...
Views: 1453(2 votes) - ***How a Cup of Coffee Can Ruin Your Day - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniDanielle left the house with just five minutes to spare. It would have been better if she had left ten or fifteen minutes early because she wanted to stop and buy a cup of coffee. She decided that she could probably get in and out of the coffee house within seven minutes and that being just two ...
Views: 1555(3 votes) - Conflict in, conflict out - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Norman CsarniBad as it is, conflict is a fixed part of society. It does not only destroy, but builds and improves human relationships. Conflicts rooted from simple and complex causes. They are either caused by misinformation or differences in values and interests or structural flaws or a mix of the ...
Views: 2157(1 vote) - How to Become Strong Enough to Forgive and Smart Enough Not to Get Hooked - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from William StoneAnger is a completely normal and healthful emotion. It helps us focus our awareness on situations that require our attention, and helps us rouse the energy needed to protect ourselves from harm. But when anger is frozen into cynical hostility or resentment, it robs us of our natural capacity to ...
Views: 2152(3 votes) - ***The Face of Conflict - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniOne of the more common definitions of conflict is that it is a clash between two (or more) opposing groups or that it is a power struggle or a battle between opposing forces. When you think of conflict, you may think of it as a negative (think power struggle or battle) or you may think that ...
Views: 1560(9 votes) - ***Seasoning our Behavior - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniHi Everyone, The item below is not a new post, but it has become an ‘old favorite’ and it is appropriate for this time of year. Once again I bring you ‘Seasoning Our Behavior’. This week marks the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. There are many traditions that surround this holiday ...
Views: 1239(3 votes) - How to Be Less Defensive - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Lynne CoonDo you lash out when you feel criticized? Everyone can get defensive in certain situations, but if you're getting defensive most of the time you feel criticized you may be damaging your relationships or your chance for raises and promotions at work. There are several things you can do when ...
Views: 9039(3 votes) - Happy Family at Holidays? Not So Fast - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantFor many people, family gatherings during the Happy Holidays aren't so happy. While most of us enjoy getting together at holidays, mixed feelings of love, anxiety and confusion often collide. But why in the world would family holidays cause consternation or anxious feelings? Why would family ...
Views: 1874(5 votes) - #71 of 101 Ways to Love Your Job: Being Right---What Price Do You Pay? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Stephanie GoddardRecently I had the opportunity to speak with several employees about their views on conflict, dealing with difficult people, and how to get things done when others aren't cooperating. You know--the usual stuff at work that we all cite as some of the most common stressors. I was surprised by ...
Views: 1658(2 votes) - ***Be Honest about YOUR Boundaries - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniIs this you? You start working for somebody new and you want to make a good impression. Maybe you start carrying your BlackBerry with you everywhere and you answer them all night and all weekend. Every time they send you something, you answer them whether or not you are on call. As time goes ...
Views: 1307(3 votes) - Essential Definitions for People Trying to Gain Assertiveness Skills - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Peggy FergusonAlthough most people have some pretty clear-cut notions about what assertiveness is and isn't, assertiveness is often confused with aggression. Assertiveness is not necessarily about having your will prevail over the will of others. That is actually more descriptive of aggression. Especially ...
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