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- Relationships: Why Are Some Men Only Interested In Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won’t be carrying too much baggage. So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able ...
Views: 1446 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Emotionally Unstable? - by Submitted on May 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, being in a relationship with someone who is unreliable, unpredictable and who has the need to keep them on edge and in a place of uncertainty is not going to interest them. If they were in this position, it might only be a matter of time before they walk away. Being with ...
Views: 749 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Clingy In Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops. For the person on ...
Views: 1947 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, their body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange. But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship ...
Views: 8465 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship with someone who is available, they might also find that they are with someone who is unavailable. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how fulfilling their relationship is. One Experience If one can relate to the former, they are ...
Views: 1227 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one. This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ...
Views: 3996 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Needy? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means that it is not something to be ashamed of. Yet, just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs, and this can cause them to come across as being needless. They then act as if they don’t have needs ...
Views: 2380 - Relationships: Why Can't Some People Maintain Eye Contact? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships. And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ...
Views: 3060 - Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out. By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate ...
Views: 765 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men and women are both human, they are often portrayed as being radically different. It is clear that they are different on the outside, but what is not as clear is that there are differences when it comes to their brain structure. One outlook is that these differences are due to ...
Views: 1728 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Feel Powerless With Women? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a human need to feel a sense of power; with the most important power of all said to be based around having a sense of personal power. This is more of an inner power, where one is generally in control of themselves, as opposed to being in control of others. And when it comes to the area ...
Views: 4397 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Only Attract Women Who Are Dependent On Them? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality. If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ...
Views: 1251 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves at the beginning of a relationship can be different to how they behave as time goes by, and while a certain amount of change is normal, it doesn’t mean it is normal for someone to completely change. This could mean that as time passes they end up becoming someone else, or it ...
Views: 1346 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Attract People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance. As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ...
Views: 1593 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others When Their Relationships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors. For one thing, people move around more than ...
Views: 1506 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame The Opposite Sex For Their Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not. So depending on what their current situation is, ...
Views: 1490 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always End Up With People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a description about what it means to have a healthy relationship, they are unlikely to come across the importance of one person controlling the other. If they were to come across the word ‘control’, they may hear about the importance of self-control. This is because there ...
Views: 1640 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1940 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract Friends Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ...
Views: 1633 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1748 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed When They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else. Also, there are still ...
Views: 834 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that this will actually take place. Instead, they could find it incredibly difficult to find someone to share their life with. As a result of this, this area of their life could end up overshadowing just about every ...
Views: 1312 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Come On Strong And Then Go Silent? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has met someone for the first time, they may find that they continue to show a lot of interest in them. And there is also the chance that they behaved in this way before they even met them. Another Option If this was the case, it is likely to show that they met them on an online ...
Views: 1376 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1619 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1645 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When ...
Views: 990 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are. And when they are not in a relationship, ...
Views: 3204 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Needy When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is in a relationship or not, they may find that they don’t feel needy. What this can show is that one has a strong centre, and this is why they are able to function. One Experience Therefore, if one is not in a relationship, they are not going to be in a position ...
Views: 1153 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11115 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile reaching out to others and experiencing intimacy is normal for some people, there are others who experience life in a very different way. When someone can reach out to others and experience intimacy, they could be in a fulfilling relationship. However, even if they are not with someone ...
Views: 1193 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship where one feels a healthy sense of love from another, is one of the most important elements of having a fulfilling relationship. Love can mean different things to different people, but generally this can include: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch, care and ...
Views: 8812 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1873 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1738 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 1048 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6275 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
Views: 3680 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Interest When Another Person Treats Them Well? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had the desire to be in a relationship, they might think about what they can do to find the right person. This could then be a time when they will join at least one dating app and/or they might start going out a few times a week. Now, this is not to say that they will end up going ...
Views: 1228 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life. Through being together, certain parts of their life are ...
Views: 1126 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can find that they can function whether they are with someone or if they are by themselves, there are others who are not in the same position. In this case, one can find that they struggle when they are not with someone. On the other side, one could find that they it is not ...
Views: 1198 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Play Games In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is often the intention to have a relationship that is free from games and all the drama that they can create; this does not always mean that one will avoid them altogether. And as a result of this, one may come to the conclusion that they have absolutely no control as to whether their ...
Views: 2348 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them. And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships ...
Views: 2765 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Shame Others For Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who embrace their inherent vulnerability, there are others who do everything they can to come across as invulnerable. This is not to say that these are the only options available, as there are likely to be people who alternate between the two. There will then be ...
Views: 1994 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Who Have Empathy End Up With People Who Don't Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to empathise with others, they might expect to attract people into their life who are the same. But while they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is what will take place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who are the completely opposite, ...
Views: 1539 - Relationships: Why Do Some People With High Self-Esteem End Up in Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that if one wants to have a healthy relationship, they will need to have high self-esteem. Through being this way, it will then allow them to be with someone who will treat them in the right way. And, if one doubted this, they would only need to pay attention to the people ...
Views: 1403 - Relationships: Why Do Some People's Relationships Come To An End When They Start To Work On Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are. As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ...
Views: 1877 - Relationships: Why Do Some Relationships Come To An End When One Person Has Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of a relationship, everything can be going fine, and then as it progress certain issues can appear. This can then cause one of them to wonder how the other person could have changed so much. In fact, it could be as if the other person has ended up becoming someone else, and ...
Views: 1410 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Aloof? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman has the tendency to end up with men who are unavailable, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on her wellbeing. Her desire to be with a man who is available is not going to be met, so it is to be expected that this won’t be something that she can simply overlook. If ...
Views: 840 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women End Up With Mother Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who have a strong sense of self, there are others who don’t, and this can be due to what took place when they were younger. Another way of looking at this would be to say that this is due to what didn’t take place. Neglect In order for someone to develop into an ...
Views: 1330 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a woman wants to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. However, while there will be some women who realise that this is because they fear intimacy, there are going to be others who are unaware of why they are unable to experience it. In the first ...
Views: 2480 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Sabotage Healthy Relationships with Men? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can say to herself and others that she wants to be in a relationship with a man who is healthy and functional, it doesn’t mean that she will be attracted to a man who is like this. This can relate to woman who can’t seem to attract a guy that is healthy and for women who do attract ...
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