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- ***Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together? ________________________________________ On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work. "I read a ...
Views: 1952(1 vote) - ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1087(2 votes) - ***Do You Have Problems Bringing Up Issues? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you get stuck in not being able to resolve conflicts because you don't know how to bring up issues in a way that works? Bringing up difficult issues is often a major challenge in relationships. Laurie wrote to me about this issue: "My biggest trigger in relationships is bringing up ...
Views: 1032(1 vote) - ***Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior? Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ...
Views: 1279(1 vote) - ***Do You Isolate? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often have clients who tend to isolate as a way of protecting against their fears - especially their fears of rejection and engulfment. They are so afraid of being disliked, disapproved of, attacked or having demands made on them, that they choose to avoid ...
Views: 2324(3 votes) - ***Do You Know How To Love? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love. ________________________________________ We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ...
Views: 1100(1 vote) - ***Does a Hot, Sexy Voice Matter? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2010 from Nancy DanielsIf the numbers are correct and 37% of the image you project is the sound of your speaking voice, then without a doubt, having a hot, sexy voice that exudes warmth and sensuality is a turn-on. For both men and women, deeper voices are much more attractive to the listeners’ ears than a ...
Views: 4746(1 vote) - ***Does Trust Matter In Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Being honest and trustworthy is at the heart of all the best loving relationships we have studied. In our thousands of interviews with happily married couples, we are always struck by their undying trust in each other. They literally trust each ...
Views: 1320(8 votes) - ***DOMESTIC ABUSE: Why Does She Stay? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Grace Chatting“The psychological impact of subordination to coercive control may have many common features, whether that subordination occurs within the public sphere of politics or within the private sphere of sexual and domestic relations ...... the psychology of the victim is shaped by the ...
Views: 4273(1 vote) - ***Effective Communication: Listening Vs. Complying - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Dr. Neill NeillLately you’ve been finding yourself stewing about how you’ll handle your last child leaving home, and you need to talk with your husband about it. You start to tell him what you’re feeling, but his eyes glaze over and he tunes you out. You wonder how it came to this and if it’s fixable? You ...
Views: 2103(1 vote) - ***Enhancing Our Brains Easily - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Barbara SteppAt 75 years of age and working with Brain Enhancement as a teacher, author and coach for 45 years, it has been and continues to be a delight to enhance my brain and help others do the same. It is really fun too! Don’t you love brain games? A little over a year ago, I had a rare and ...
Views: 3753(1 vote) - ***Expert List for Narcissistic Survivors - Youtube Video - Laney Zukerman Empowerment & Relationship Coach, Best-Selling Author ~ Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Selfgrowth Friends, Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video. I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ...
Views: 3453(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Balancing Your Logic and Your Emotions - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How do I "fall in love using my head and not my heart?" A: Most of today's grandparents heard the love lesson "use your head not your heart" long before they looked with interest at the opposite sex. But just what do these words mean--and how do you apply it to your love life? Consider ...
Views: 2480(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Caregiver Burnout - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My ailing mom has come to live with me, and it's taking a toll on my marriage. How can I find a balance? A: Medical advancements have allowed us to live longer but not ...
Views: 2067(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Create Your Own Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: It's Valentine's Day, and I'm single and miserable. Is there anyway I can turn it around? A: I don't know about you, but I'm really not very fond of those fake, business-driven holidays such as Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. (Okay. I admit, I do like Halloween because I love seeing all ...
Views: 2677(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Dating Again After a Major Break Up - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How long should I wait before dating again after my divorce? A: Most of us have heard this advice about looking for love after you've just ended a marriage or intimate partnership: "Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire." In other words, to avoid re-bound love, take time off from ...
Views: 2178(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Grudges and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIf you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the ...
Views: 3320(4 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: How to Overcome Difficulties in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Happy marriages and long-term relationships are not happy every day. John Gottman, a pioneer in marital research, discovered that even in mutually satisfying marriages, ...
Views: 2297(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: How to Recover from a Bad Mood - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIn a column about relationships, it's easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you ...
Views: 2908(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Making the Most of Meeting the Parents - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: I'm about to meet my partner's parents. How can I make a good impression? A: Okay, you're ready. You've fallen in love and gotten "serious" about someone who feels the ...
Views: 2070(1 vote) - ***Family And Career: Tips For Women On Career Success*** - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen Laurel’s boss overlooked her for a promotion, she was stunned. She had received high praise for her market analyses and team cooperation and was sure she’d be selected for a major project. Tip #1: Get Feedback Rather than wallow in disappointment, Laurel sought from her boss ...
Views: 3985(1 vote) - ***Fear of Anger - Yours and Others - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you terrified of others' anger? Are you afraid to open to your own anger for fear of getting out of control?If you grew up in an angry or violent home, there is a good possibility that you have a fear of both your own anger and others' anger.Fear of Others' AngerI grew up with a very angry ...
Views: 3194(1 vote) - ***Finding a Co-Author for Your Life by Marrying the Right Guy - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Anyone who gets married and doesn’t understand that their life will be altered in an unalterable ways, henceforth, doesn’t know love – doesn’t understand love. Love and marriage changes everything. Love and marriage changes everything about your ...
Views: 1367(7 votes) - ***From Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Moving On to Create the Love Life You Deserve by Samantha Burns, LMHC - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Ixia PressEmotional Roller Coaster Forget period cramps, bad hair days, hangovers, breakouts, getting fired, the guilt you feel after you’ve eaten a half-dozen donuts by yourself, or even a fight with a dear friend—few things feel worse than the way you are likely feeling right now. Newly single has ...
Views: 3512(1 vote) - ***Getting a Jump on Thanksgiving Jitters - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Colin TippingAs Thanksgiving looms, a familiar queasiness in the gut may be forming as you contemplate the annual family get-together. But I doubt your concern is about what dishes people are bringing for the table. Rather, my bet is you are worrying about the emotional baggage that everyone, including ...As ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - ***Happy Family Research: Grieving Loss Of A Husband*** - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDivorce and death of a husband is a top life stressor. Learn about this grief from the following quiz. Choose one answer that best describes your belief. 1. Jennifer and her husband divorced after one year. Five months later, Jennifer has gone out on three casual dates. ___A. She was only ...
Views: 2709(1 vote) - ***He's Trying To Control Me - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2007 from Margaret Paul"I know what's coming when Robert says that we need to sit down and have a talk," Maryann told me in our phone session. "He wants to tell me everything that is wrong with me. It's not about talking - it's about wanting to have control over me. Last time he did this it was all about how I spend ...
Views: 2819(5 votes) - ***Healing Envy - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but ...
Views: 4340(2 votes) - ***Holiday Survival Tips For Divorced Families - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2007 from Carolyn EllisFamily holidays are supposed to be relaxing and stress-free, but often they aren't. Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can take you back in time to when you were a family with both parents living together under one roof. Holidays that have a strong cultural tradition of "family" can ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - ***How Energy Shifting Improves Your Relationship And Attract Your Spouse Back - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangOne of my best male friends was looking for me on IM feeling totally desperate because his wife was seriously talking about divorce now. They have been on that route before but this time she was totally serious. They have been having a rocky marriage as long as I can remember. So I went ...
Views: 12258(2 votes) - ***How Relationships Can Be Easy – 4 Keys to Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think! _______________________________________________________ As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ...
Views: 1176(1 vote) - ***How to Break Up – Test Your Break Up Smarts - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishSometimes you just have to end the relationship. But what are the best ways? Test your Break Up Smarts and take this quick quiz. Break Up Quiz 1. Suzanne knows it’s not going to work out with Ron. They’ve been dating for a few months, and she already sees that Ron is ...
Views: 1179(1 vote) - ***How to Build More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCultivate Your Intimacy! The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ...
Views: 1305(2 votes) - ***How to Experience a ‘Mindgasm’ - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2012 from Allura JoyOrgasm is truly all in your mind, however you need to let go of all thoughts and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations without distractions. It is, in a sense, a meditation to practice and ultimately master. In fact, it is possible to bring yourself to a powerful ...
Views: 6855(1 vote) - ***How To Find Love Again - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As the old song goes, “Breaking up is hard to do” – whether that breakup is due to death or falling out of love – the pain is still not minimized. It is hard to start over. It is downright challenging to find true love again. After interviewing ...
Views: 1398(16 votes) - ***How to Find Love Again - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Following the death of a spouse or the loss of a spouse through divorce, many individuals are “thrown on the street again” when it comes to finding love. And let’s face it; finding love again can be very, very challenging. Finding love the ...
Views: 1275(6 votes) - ***How To Talk About Serious Issues With Your Spouse - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When serious issues occur, successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate with each other. They attribute their marital success first and foremost to the fact that they have honed their communication ...
Views: 1498(16 votes) - ***How To Trust Again - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 29, 2016 Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work. I received the following question about how to trust again: "My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ...
Views: 845(1 vote) - ***How Unusual Are Your Sexual Fantasies? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Valeria ChubaSexual fantasy is a vital, exciting, and natural part of our sexuality. Almost everyone fantasizes about sex, which means that the human brain can be legitimately considered a sexual organ in its own right. We fantasize about sex pretty much any time: when we masturbate; when we have partner ...
Views: 6581(1 vote) - ***HUFFINGTON POST NEWEST ARTICLE BY LANEY ZUKERMAN EVERYDAY HEROES - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachCheck out my newest article on THE HUFF POST Everyday Heroes and How to Make an Extraordinary Difference WE NEED MORE EVERYDAY HEROES AND YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR OWN COMMUNITIES RIGHT NOW. LEARN THE SIMPLE YET POWERFUL WAYS YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD ONE PERSON AT A ...
Views: 1862(1 vote) - ***Intimacy and Connection - The Aliveness of Life - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas Moore, author, Care of the SoulMost of us would love to have intimacy and connection in our lives, yet we often ...
Views: 2417(1 vote) - ***INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE: POLITENESS IS THE KEY - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Bisi AdewaleMany couples lack some basic courtesies needed to build intimacy in marriage. Rudeness, careless words, disrespect for one's spouse, criticisms, public embarrassment do not portray politeness. Before the wedding, most singles ensure they are courteous as they put their partner ahead of ...
Views: 1914(1 vote) - ***Intimacy is Scary – Are YOU Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneMost of us believe that we want to have a loving and intimate relationship with a significant other. But we may not realize what that actually means. We may not be ready to deal with and reveal our own inner demons, those parts of our self that cause us to feel hurt, insecure, ashamed and ...
Views: 4362(5 votes) - ***Is the Seven Year Itch in Marriage Real? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Seven-Year Itch is real according to the U.S. Census Bureau. There were a number of interesting highlights reported in the U.S. Census Bureau’s press release entitled “Most People Make Only One Trip Down the Aisle, But First Marriages Shorter.” ...
Views: 2204(10 votes) - ***Living Alone Can Kill You - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Loneliness is a huge problem in our society. It doesn't have to be this way. ________________________________________ A study "followed nearly 45,000 people ages 45 and up who had heart disease or a high risk of developing the condition. Those who ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - ***Love and Inspiration in Morocco! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have often wondered over the years if the “stuff” that makes marriages work in the Judeo-Christian tradition around the world applies to marriages in predominately Muslim countries. Our first country in which we interviewed married Muslim couples ...
Views: 1266(7 votes) - ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
Views: 754(1 vote) - ***Machiavelli’s 4 Universal Dating Tips for Men - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Machiavelli and his book, The Prince, may be among the most notorious and derided authors and works in history - attacked by the church from day one, and to this day, synonymous with deception and cloak-dagger-politics, espionage and subversive trickery. A closer read may reveal something ...
Views: 6361(1 vote) - ***Make Valentine's Day 365 Days a Year - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today, we were on an hour show with a “blow-torch” radio station, talking about love, relationships, and Valentine’s Day. We had a blast! It is always fun reaching the folks with our positive message about our more than 30 years of research on ...
Views: 2127(10 votes) - ***Managing Career Setback - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishNo matter how seasoned and successful you are, you still may experience disappointments and setbacks. Here are tips to empower you. Read this several times: No one is immune from experiencing career setbacks, disappointments and regrets and making mistakes big and small. Setbacks come in ...
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