The most impassioned, powerful time of a physical interaction with a woman is early on in dating, when you don't even know each other as more than strangers. Ironically, it is also the most fickle, fragile, and potentially confusing time - one of missteps and miscommunication because it is so ... Views: 4400
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Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together?
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On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work.
"I read a ... Views: 2133
Discover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ... Views: 1505
Do you get stuck in not being able to resolve conflicts because you don't know how to bring up issues in a way that works?
Bringing up difficult issues is often a major challenge in relationships.
Laurie wrote to me about this issue:
"My biggest trigger in relationships is bringing up ... Views: 1399
Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior?
Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ... Views: 1538
In my counseling practice, I often have clients who tend to isolate as a way of protecting against their fears - especially their fears of rejection and engulfment. They are so afraid of being disliked, disapproved of, attacked or having demands made on them, that they choose to avoid ... Views: 2511
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Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love.
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We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ... Views: 1303
If the numbers are correct and 37% of the image you project is the sound of your speaking voice, then without a doubt, having a hot, sexy voice that exudes warmth and sensuality is a turn-on. For both men and women, deeper voices are much more attractive to the listeners’ ears than a ... Views: 5199
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Being honest and trustworthy is at the heart of all the best loving relationships we have studied. In our thousands of interviews with happily married couples, we are always struck by their undying trust in each other. They literally trust each ... Views: 1879
“The psychological impact of subordination to coercive control may have many common features, whether that subordination occurs within the public sphere of politics or within the private sphere of sexual and domestic relations ...... the psychology of the victim is shaped by the ... Views: 4819
Lately you’ve been finding yourself stewing about how you’ll handle your last child leaving home, and you need to talk with your husband about it. You start to tell him what you’re feeling, but his eyes glaze over and he tunes you out.
You wonder how it came to this and if it’s fixable? You ... Views: 2564
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***Enhancing Our Brains Easily - by Barbara J. Stepp, Master Trainer of NLP, DHE®, No Fault Psychology™, Other than Conscious Communication™, Clinical Hypnotherapist
At 75 years of age and working with Brain Enhancement as a teacher, author and coach for 45 years, it has been and continues to be a delight to enhance my brain and help others do the same. It is really fun too! Don’t you love brain games?
A little over a year ago, I had a rare and ... Views: 4350
Hi Selfgrowth Friends,
Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video.
I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ... Views: 3930
Q: How do I "fall in love using my head and not my heart?"
A: Most of today's grandparents heard the love lesson "use your head not your heart" long before they looked with interest at the opposite sex. But just what do these words mean--and how do you apply it to your love life? Consider ... Views: 2651
Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article!
Q: My ailing mom has come to live with me, and it's taking a toll on my marriage. How can I find a balance?
A: Medical advancements have allowed us to live longer but not ... Views: 2271
Q: It's Valentine's Day, and I'm single and miserable. Is there anyway I can turn it around?
A: I don't know about you, but I'm really not very fond of those fake, business-driven holidays such as Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. (Okay. I admit, I do like Halloween because I love seeing all ... Views: 2894
Q: How long should I wait before dating again after my divorce?
A: Most of us have heard this advice about looking for love after you've just ended a marriage or intimate partnership: "Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire." In other words, to avoid re-bound love, take time off from ... Views: 2406
If you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the ... Views: 3517
Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article!
Happy marriages and long-term relationships are not happy every day. John Gottman, a pioneer in marital research, discovered that even in mutually satisfying marriages, ... Views: 2448
In a column about relationships, it's easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you ... Views: 3107
Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article!
Q: I'm about to meet my partner's parents. How can I make a good impression?
A: Okay, you're ready. You've fallen in love and gotten "serious" about someone who feels the ... Views: 2266
When Laurel’s boss overlooked her for a promotion, she was stunned. She had received high praise for her market analyses and team cooperation and was sure she’d be selected for a major project.
Tip #1: Get Feedback
Rather than wallow in disappointment, Laurel sought from her boss ... Views: 4307
Are you terrified of others' anger? Are you afraid to open to your own anger for fear of getting out of control?If you grew up in an angry or violent home, there is a good possibility that you have a fear of both your own anger and others' anger.Fear of Others' AngerI grew up with a very angry ... Views: 3606
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Anyone who gets married and doesn’t understand that their life will be altered in an unalterable ways, henceforth, doesn’t know love – doesn’t understand love.
Love and marriage changes everything. Love and marriage changes everything about your ... Views: 1922
Emotional Roller Coaster
Forget period cramps, bad hair days, hangovers, breakouts, getting fired, the guilt you feel after you’ve eaten a half-dozen donuts by yourself, or even a fight with a dear friend—few things feel worse than the way you are likely feeling right now. Newly single has ... Views: 4104
As Thanksgiving looms, a familiar queasiness in the gut may be forming as you contemplate the annual family get-together. But I doubt your concern is about what dishes people are bringing for the table. Rather, my bet is you are worrying about the emotional baggage that everyone, including ...As ... Views: 1804
Divorce and death of a husband is a top life stressor. Learn about this grief from the following quiz. Choose one answer that best describes your belief.
1. Jennifer and her husband divorced after one year. Five months later, Jennifer has gone out on three casual dates.
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"I know what's coming when Robert says that we need to sit down and have a talk," Maryann told me in our phone session. "He wants to tell me everything that is wrong with me. It's not about talking - it's about wanting to have control over me. Last time he did this it was all about how I spend ... Views: 3096
"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but ... Views: 4789
Family holidays are supposed to be relaxing and stress-free, but often they aren't. Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can take you back in time to when you were a family with both parents living together under one roof. Holidays that have a strong cultural tradition of "family" can ... Views: 2671
One of my best male friends was looking for me on IM feeling totally desperate because his wife was seriously talking about divorce now. They have been on that route before but this time she was totally serious. They have been having a rocky marriage as long as I can remember.
So I went ... Views: 13031
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Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think!
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As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ... Views: 1613
Sometimes you just have to end the relationship. But what are the best ways? Test your Break Up Smarts and take this quick quiz.
Break Up Quiz
1. Suzanne knows it’s not going to work out with Ron. They’ve been dating for a few months, and she already sees that Ron is ... Views: 1524
Cultivate Your Intimacy!
The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ... Views: 1556
Orgasm is truly all in your mind, however you need to let go of all thoughts and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations without distractions. It is, in a sense, a meditation to practice and ultimately master. In fact, it is possible to bring yourself to a powerful ... Views: 7954
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***How To Find Love Again - by Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, The Official Guides to Marriage
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
As the old song goes, “Breaking up is hard to do” – whether that breakup is due to death or falling out of love – the pain is still not minimized. It is hard to start over. It is downright challenging to find true love again.
After interviewing ... Views: 1876
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***How to Find Love Again - by Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, The Official Guides to Marriage
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Following the death of a spouse or the loss of a spouse through divorce, many individuals are “thrown on the street again” when it comes to finding love. And let’s face it; finding love again can be very, very challenging.
Finding love the ... Views: 1785
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
When serious issues occur, successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate with each other. They attribute their marital success first and foremost to the fact that they have honed their communication ... Views: 2017
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
August 29, 2016
Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work.
I received the following question about how to trust again:
"My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ... Views: 1294
Sexual fantasy is a vital, exciting, and natural part of our sexuality. Almost everyone fantasizes about sex, which means that the human brain can be legitimately considered a sexual organ in its own right.
We fantasize about sex pretty much any time: when we masturbate; when we have partner ... Views: 7249
Check out my newest article on THE HUFF POST Everyday Heroes and How to Make an Extraordinary Difference
WE NEED MORE EVERYDAY HEROES AND YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR OWN COMMUNITIES RIGHT NOW. LEARN THE SIMPLE YET POWERFUL WAYS YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD ONE PERSON AT A ... Views: 2284
"Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas Moore, author, Care of the SoulMost of us would love to have intimacy and connection in our lives, yet we often ... Views: 2594
Many couples lack some basic courtesies needed to build intimacy in marriage. Rudeness, careless words, disrespect for one's spouse, criticisms, public embarrassment do not portray politeness.
Before the wedding, most singles ensure they are courteous as they put their partner ahead of ... Views: 2386
Most of us believe that we want to have a loving and intimate relationship with a significant other. But we may not realize what that actually means. We may not be ready to deal with and reveal our own inner demons, those parts of our self that cause us to feel hurt, insecure, ashamed and ... Views: 4933
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
The Seven-Year Itch is real according to the U.S. Census Bureau. There were a number of interesting highlights reported in the U.S. Census Bureau’s press release entitled “Most People Make Only One Trip Down the Aisle, But First Marriages Shorter.” ... Views: 2731
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Loneliness is a huge problem in our society. It doesn't have to be this way.
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A study "followed nearly 45,000 people ages 45 and up who had heart disease or a high risk of developing the condition. Those who ... Views: 1647
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
We have often wondered over the years if the “stuff” that makes marriages work in the Judeo-Christian tradition around the world applies to marriages in predominately Muslim countries. Our first country in which we interviewed married Muslim couples ... Views: 1870
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
November 07, 2016
You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person.
One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ... Views: 1163
Machiavelli and his book, The Prince, may be among the most notorious and derided authors and works in history - attacked by the church from day one, and to this day, synonymous with deception and cloak-dagger-politics, espionage and subversive trickery. A closer read may reveal something ... Views: 7055
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Today, we were on an hour show with a “blow-torch” radio station, talking about love, relationships, and Valentine’s Day. We had a blast!
It is always fun reaching the folks with our positive message about our more than 30 years of research on ... Views: 2637