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- Keep the Fires Burning - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2005 from Laura SandhamThe toys are put away, homework's done and the kids are in bed. The lunches are made and the dishwasher is on. You wash your face, brush your teeth, choose clothes for tomorrow and then collapse into bed beside your spouse. You lean over give your mate a perfunctory kiss and casually comment ...
Views: 969 - 7 Powerful Ways to Show Love to Children - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2005 from Steve BrunkhorstOur children are our most important legacy to the world. However, our love is our most important legacy to our children. Here are seven ways to show love that will help children build sturdy foundations for the future.1. Spend Time with Your Children.Time is the most loving gift we can give to ...
Views: 1055 - Real Solutions For Combatting Extreme Shyness - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealMost people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem. Some people ...
Views: 16995(1 vote) - What You Must Never Talk About on First Dates - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2005 from Don DiebelMen, I have some very important advice about first dates. There are some things that you must never, never talk about on a first date. If you do, you're taking a major risk of turning off your date and spoiling your chances of ever getting a second date. Don't talk about the following topics ...
Views: 1443 - Improve Your Relationship By Taking Care of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2005 from Nancy WassonIt’s important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. The old saying ‘You can’t give away what you don’t have” applies here. Until you are peaceful and happy, you won’t have a peaceful, happy relationship. If you skip these steps and jump immediately into the ...
Views: 8819 - Getting Kids Out Of The Cross Fire - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2005 from Gary DirenfeldGetting Kids Out Of The Cross Fire Heaven help those children whose separated parents are involved in a litigious parenting dispute. Not only might the children have to contend with possible sub-standard parenting as often alleged in various forms, but many children are also subject to the ...
Views: 825 - Check Ingredients Before Blending - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2005 from Gary DirenfeldCheck Ingredients Before Blending Blended family is the term used when previously separated parents remarry and combine families. If you are looking at “blending” consider these points to facilitate the children’s adjustment: 1. Have a suitable courtship period. The purpose of courtship is to ...
Views: 904 - Now, they're bullying my daughterin our home: Welcome to cyber-bullying - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Derek RandelLast night Tom’s daughter, Sue, came out of her room to see her dad and said, “I got another one of those instant messages. It says, ‘tomorrow you had better not show up at school or else‘.” She has been getting messages like this now for weeks. The result of this is that she no longer likes to ...
Views: 2450(1 vote) - "10 Things You Need To Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship" - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhether you’ve been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don’t have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. We’ve both also made this decision ourselves in our ...
Views: 1983(1 vote) - My Mommy Has Epilepsy - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2005 from Stacey ChillemiDO YOU OR A LOVE ONE HAVE EPILEPSY? DOES YOUR CHILD HAVE EPILEPSY? ARE YOU LOOKING FOR AN EXCELLENTCHILDREN’S BOOK TO TEACH WHAT EPILEPSY IS TO YOUR CHILD? Millions of people have epilepsy or experience Seizures. Are you one of them? Are you trying to figure out how to explain to your child ...
Views: 1557 - Hire Divorce Lawyer or Use Online Divorce Forms? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2005 from Scott MorganHire Divorce Lawyer or Use Online Divorce Forms?When do you need to hire a family law attorney and when is it okay to just use an online divorce form website to save a little money? This article will provide a few pointers to help you decide whether to do it yourself or retain a divorce ...
Views: 1462 - Identifying Loneliness & Rising Above It - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2005 from Liara CovertLoneliness describes a sense of incompleteness within us. This emptiness is separate from physically being alone. We can experience it even when surrounded by friends if we fail to connect with them, ourselves, or to strengthen our relationships. Most people normally know intermittent ...
Views: 4419(3 votes) - The Purpose of Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2005 from Balbir ChaggerIt is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them Anthony Storr Definitions of relationship • the state of being related by kindred, affinity, or other alliance • a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional ...
Views: 17584(1 vote) - What does true love mean to you? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2005 from Dr. Ulla SebastianMost people long for or have an image of a true love that they nourish or search for all their life. Depending on the level of consciousness, true love can mean something completely different for different people. On the level of the physical well-being, love is the satisfaction of vital ...
Views: 4669(1 vote) - Charity Begins at Home - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Chick Moorman“Mom, we’ve got to have a family meeting. We need to vote. We have to give our charity money to the children. We have to send it right away.” Those excited words were uttered by eight-year-old Madison Willow, who was moved to action by viewing the tragic outcomes resulting from the recent ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Let's Talk About SEX - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Danish AhmedLet's talk about sex, baby Let's talk about you and me Let's talk about all the good things, And the bad things that may be Let's talk about sex - Salt N Pepa (1992, Written by Herby Azor) - - - - - - - - - - Let's Talk About Sex... Sex can be an uncomfortable topic for some people. How are ...
Views: 1887(3 votes) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2365(1 vote) - You ALWAYS Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2005 from PaulYou ALWAYS get what you want You ALWAYS get what you want The role of the subconscious in secretly shaping your life. If you’re like me, you’re probably thinking “I definitely don’t always get what I want!” I hear you, but hang in there a minute, open ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - Is neediness ruining your love life? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2005 from John GrayIs neediness ruining your love life? By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus In a recent survey conducted at AskMarsVenus.com, ... Is neediness ruining your ...
Views: 13668(3 votes) - Is neediness ruining your love life? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2005 from John GrayIs neediness ruining your love life? By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus In a recent survey conducted at AskMarsVenus.com, ... Is neediness ruining your ...
Views: 13668(3 votes) - Why is my Match still Searching? - by Why is my Match still Searching? You met a great guy online and have gone on several dates with him. You think things are really starting to heat up, so you decide to hide your on-line profile, but, before you do, you take another look at his and ...
Views: 4838(1 vote) - Investigating the False Intimacy of Online Dating - by Investigating
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online dating really what we think it is?
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Views: 3682(2 votes) - Investigating the False Intimacy of Online Dating - by Investigating
the False Intimacy of Online Dating
Is
online dating really what we think it is?
Everything moves so fast in today’s
world, and dating is no exception. Online ...
Views: 3682(2 votes) - Is your partner having an affair? - by Is your partner having an affair? What are the signs you should look for... Something feels different at home lately, although you aren’t able to quite pinpoint what’s up. You and your partner are suddenly ...
Views: 2184(1 vote) - Why Isn’t He Ready to Get Married? - by Why Isn’t He Ready to Get Married? Learn how you can get a few steps closer to walking down the aisle! You’ve dated for 3 years, lived together for 1 of them and are really beginning to wonder if this man of your dreams, your soul ...
Views: 14004(2 votes) - The Five Keys to Infant and Child Development - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2005 from Yolanda CardenHuman beings appear to have approximately nine built-in feelings at birth. These findings are based on the work of researchers such as Darwin, Demos, Ekman, Izard, Nathanson, and, especially, Tomkins. These feelings later combine with each other and experience to form our complex emotional life. ...
Views: 1536(1 vote) - Are We So Blessed? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2005 from Judee ReganThe man I write about, has had a serious mental illness for years. I had not asked about him for a long time and when I did, what I heard was a story that warmed my heart deeply. His story This man’s illness was diagnosed in his late teens. It always seemed to me that his family relegated him ...
Views: 1102(1 vote) - SEX, SEX EVERYWHERE - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2005 from Terry L. SumerlinWhile driving to and from the barbershop, I pass a different kind of bar. It’s billed as a place where the waitresses dress in bikinis. As if that’s not enticing enough, a hand written sign on the street disgustingly announces that the place offers “eye candy.” One day, as we passed by, I ...
Views: 3446(1 vote) - Wow, Grandma Is Dating! - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2005 from Allie OchsWhen Lena began dating, her youngest son, Paul, joined the same dating site. Lena, divorced, was 52 and Paul 24. While Paul was searching for a future wife, his mother was looking for someone to retire with. Mother and son had something in common: they were looking for love. As the entire family ...
Views: 1230 - Are You Fit To Love? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2005 from Allie Ochsis the most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are the cause of pain and struggle. Single or not, societal standards convince us that we can have it all. Much of the available relationship advice compels us to go ...
Views: 1284 - How to Make a Good Impression When Calling Single Women - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2005 from Don DiebelOK, you have just met a new single girl recently and got her phone number. Now its time to make that all important first phone call to her. Are you prepared to make a good impression on her so she will be interested in dating you? Guys, I just can't stress to you enough how important that ...
Views: 1395 - Author of Marriage Fitness/Marriage Coach - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2005 from Mort FertelTHE 5 MOST COMMON MARRIAGE PROBLEMS And How to Avoid Making Them Worse No marriage is perfect. So what are the most common problems that 60 million married couples face? A recent survey I conducted showed that the five most common marriage problems are: 1. Infidelity 2. Constant low-grade ...
Views: 2587 - Excerpt: Jane Austen's Guide to Dating - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2005 from Yolanda CardenKitty and Lydia Bennet "From all I can collect by your manner of talking, you must be two of the silliest girls in the country." --Pride and Prejudice Kitty and Lydia Bennet, the two youngest sisters from Pride and Prejudice, are the wildest, craziest flirts that Jane Austen ever created. ...
Views: 1994 - Explaining World tragedy to Children - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2005 from Chick MoormanYour 6 year old has just seen video of real children being washed out to sea. Your teen sits transfixed watching images of people clinging to trees, mothers wailing as they discover dead children in an endless line of unclaimed bodies, and babies crying hysterically for their mothers. At the ...
Views: 1071 - Divorce and Children: Things To Consider When You're Staying Married Only For Your Children - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2005 from Karl AugustineAll children are different and respond differently to divorce. Depending on the characteristics of the children - age, emotional maturity, happiness, resiliency to trauma - the easier or more difficult it will be for children to weather a divorce. As a parent, you should know your children ...
Views: 10425 - Healing The Mid-Life Love Crisis - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2005 from Trevor EmdonAll I wanted was to fall in love and live happily ever after. The End. Except it wasn’t that simple. At forty-something, I was hardly “on the shelf”, but I was the veteran of two divorces. That gave rise to plenty of self doubt. It gave rise to another more sinister, subtle symptom too: I ...
Views: 1413 - Top 10+ Ways to Jumpstart your New Year’s Finances! - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2004 from Cindy MorusOf course, these don't have to be done in any particular order! Just pick one or two that particularly apply to your situation. * Create your 2005 filing system. This might include new file folders, a new box to hold them or space in a filing cabinet with easy access. * Set up a folder to ...
Views: 1211 - The Art of Conversation: A Conversation Tool for Couples - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2004 from betsy sansbyIntroduction for Couples: The Art of Conversation is a homework tool I developed for couples in my therapy practice. It's a structured exercise in which one person (Person A) gets to talk for 20 minutes about any issue she wishes while her partner (Person B) asks specific questions designed ...
Views: 3378 - Let Other People See Who You Really Are - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealDo you know anybody that you feel is particularly engaging and lively? Take a moment to picture that person in your mind. What is it about that person that you find most attractive? He or she may have a charming voice and a great laugh, but it is also very likely that you find their face very ...
Views: 2872 - Banishing Bedtime Blues - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2004 from Chick Moorman“My son won't go to bed at night without a struggle. He keeps getting up with all kinds of excuses. It doesn't seem to matter what we tell him. Nothing works. What do you recommend?" This question was posed by a concerned parent in the middle of a fifteen-minute question and answer period ...
Views: 1077 - "Does Living In A Loveless Marriage Necessarily Mean That You Should Get A Divorce?" - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2004 from Karl AugustineBeing in a loveless marriage is a frustrating predicament, but it may not necessarily mean that a divorce is eminent. Solving the quandary of a loveless marriage requires self-reflection to assess the situation, courage to try to create a team effort for the best decision with your spouse, and ...
Views: 18929(1 vote) - Excerpt: Listening to Fear: Helping Kids Cope, from Nightmares to the Nightly News - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2004 from Yolanda CardenWhen Things Go Wrong: Trauma and Our Youngest Children Our children's nightmares are filled with the dangers and fears that span development from infancy into adulthood. These bedrock fears -- of losing our lives or the lives of those we love and upon whom we depend, of losing the love of ...
Views: 2326(2 votes) - Create a holiday feast for the senses - by This is my daughter’s first Christmas. Naomi will be nearly nine months old and eager to explore all that the holidays have to offer. Within a few weeks after conception, babies develop the sense of touch, with taste, smell, hearing and sight following in that order. At birth, babies possess ...
Views: 954(3 votes) - Tips For Singles On Celebrating The New Year - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanIt's coming up soon and you don't have any plans. Many of your friends will be away or out with their significant others. You can't believe it's been a whole year and you are facing another dateless New Years Eve. What can you do? If the above sounds familiar, it may be time for some quiet ...
Views: 1711(1 vote) - What Your Throat Is Trying To Tell You - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2004 from Gregory NewmanSome years ago, a friend of mine said “you sure do clear your throat a lot.” His comment stuck with me. Over the next few weeks I noticed that I was a chronic throat-clearer, especially during my conversations with people. Then I had an awareness that changed my life. As my ...
Views: 1011 - What Footsie taught us ! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2004 from graham julieWe have just inherited a rag, tag and bobtail of a dog called ’Footsie’. She was found three weeks ago wandering around outside a local restaurant for a couple of days looking for food. Paula, a woman who takes responsibility for stray animals in this part of the island, took her in and started ...
Views: 1510 - Pease Don't Hate Me because I Love to Read - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2004 from Nancy FennAs the recipient of a classical education, I was intrigued with the movie "Troy" which came out this summer. When I sat down in the theater my heart skipped a beat and I realized that the characters in "The Iliad", the book on which "Troy" is based, were a greater part of my high school ...
Views: 2430 - Hold the Holiday Hoopla for Introverted Kids - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2004 from Nancy FennIt’s holiday time and we’re all so excited! We can’t wait for get togethers with the family and out of town guests, holiday shopping, coking and traditions, maybe a visit to Disneyland … tree trimming, carols and New Year’s celebrations with poppers and party hats! What a ball we’re going to ...
Views: 1734 - If I would pick a phrase to describe school, I would go with Living Hell - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2004 from Nancy FennIt’s the 21st century. We know about Indigo children and introversion is being accepted as a legitimate personality type! It’s a Brave New World. If you’re not introverted yourself, you may not know how to anticipate the needs of your introverted child as they begin to make their way in the ...
Views: 3509 - Coaxing Back the Spirit of Your Introvertrd Child - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2004 from Nancy FennClarissa Pinkola Estes, the author of "Women Who Run with Wolves", has a wonderful tape on the life of the spirit called "The Red Shoes" (available through www.soundstrue.com). Estes, a Jungian analyst and Latina Cantodera (story teller) knows that the soul can never be harmed. There is a violet ...
Views: 6392 - Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2004 from Barbara Rose, Ph.D.The title of this article is fully credited to Erich Segal, who wrote the phenomenal movie “Love Story” back in 1970. Since that time, I have always wondered what that statement truly meant. Now, 34 years later, I understand. True love is unconditional. It is transparent, where we can accept, ...
Views: 23485(2 votes) - If I Hurt You, Then I'm Sorry - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2004 from Skye ThomasThis statement has stopped many a war in my house. My oldest two children are two years apart in age and would fight about everything and nothing when they were little. One would anger the other and then deny that it ever happened. One would accidentally harm the other during play and not ...
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