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- How to Turn Down an Invitation Politely - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Royane RealHave you ever been in a situation where you did not know how to turn down an invitation to a social event, but you knew that you really did not want to attend? This is an embarrassing problem that everyone faces from time to time. One reason that it is embarrassing is that most of us want ...
Views: 3793 - Starting a Conversation When You Are Shy - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2011 from Royane RealStarting a conversation can be agonizing if you are a shy person. Many people who suffer from shyness have a hard time knowing what to talk about when they encounter someone they don’t know very well. These might be people that they work with, neighbors, and people they would like to be friends ...
Views: 1228 - Should You Date Your Friend? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhat should you do if you realize that you are romantically attracted to one of your friends? Should you risk embarassment and heartache by asking your friend on a date? What are the pitfalls of admitting to your friend that you are attracted to them? This is a problem that commonly comes up ...
Views: 1542(5 votes) - Why Some People Talk Too Much - Are You One of Them? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Royane RealTalking too much is one of the the most common bad habits. Discover the reasons why people talk too much. If you are guilty of being too talkative, learn how you can break this annoying habit. We have all met people who talk a lot, who never seem to run out of things to say. Have you ...
Views: 25127(2 votes) - Improve Your Conversations Skills With Open Ended Questions - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Royane RealOne of my friends recently asked me how she should handle an upcoming lunch with her lawyer. She was worried that the lunch would become awkward if they ran out of things to talk about. I suggested she should try to mentally prepare a few general questions such as, “Do you still enjoy being a ...
Views: 2352(1 vote) - Why You Shouldn't Bother to Be Interesting - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Royane Real“There’s nothing about me that is interesting. I’m completely average in every way. Nobody is interested in me because I’m not interesting. Tell me what I can do to become a more interesting person so I can have better conversations.” Over the years I have received several similar ...
Views: 1506(1 vote) - Improve Your Confidence at Parties - Even If You Are Shy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Royane RealDo you often feel nervous when you are at a party and you want to make a good impression on others? Perhaps you are shy and you get tongue tied or your mind goes blank. Here are many tips to help you improve your conversation confidence at social events. If you have to attend a party or ...
Views: 7226(3 votes) - Improve Your Conversation Confidence - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2010 from Royane RealPeople who are shy, and people who have low self esteem often have a difficult time making conversation with others. They sound awkward, they don’t make eye contact with their conversation partners, and they have a hard time keeping the conversation flowing. Although shy people and those ...
Views: 7764(8 votes) - Shy People - Learn to Enjoy Networking at Parties - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Royane RealMany people are intimidated by the idea of attending a party or a business function, especially if they are shy. This is a shame, because social shyness can hurt your career chances as well as your potential for romance and friendship. I’ve put together some tips for you that can help you ...
Views: 2399(2 votes) - How Shy People Can Improve Their Conversation Skills - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Royane RealPeople who are very shy often share some of the same fears that people who are afraid of public speaking. Some of the techniques that help people overcome their fear of speaking in public can help shy people improve their conversation skills and increase their speaking confidence. I spent ...
Views: 5306(3 votes) - Conversation Help For When Your Mind Goes Blank - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Royane RealMy readers often ask me for advice about how to make friends and improve their conversation skills. They lack confidence in talking to other people and they get shy and nervous. Their mind goes blank when they try to make conversation. If you have the problem of feeling shy or nervous during a ...
Views: 6709(4 votes) - Use Special Visualization Techniques to Improve Your Life! - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2010 from Royane RealVisualization is a very hot topic these days. Part of the reason that visualization is so popular is because there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that by use of visualization, we can improve in confidence and performance. For example, visualization is often used to help elite athletes ...
Views: 2038(6 votes) - Make Time for Friendship - by Submitted on May 29, 2010 from Royane RealDoes it ever seem to you as if it’s harder and harder to make new friends? Sometimes it’s our imagination, but sometimes it’s actually true. When we’re young, we’re surrounded with lots of other people who are the same age as we are, and who are going through the same things we are going ...
Views: 2316(1 vote) - Why Are You Lonely? What Can You Do? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Royane RealIf you are wondering why some people have a lot of friends and why you don’t have many, there can be many reasons for this. Perhaps the most common reason why people don’t have a lot of friends is shyness. If you are very shy, or if you have a lot of social anxiety, then being around ...
Views: 1595 - Use a Vision Board to Achieve Your Dreams - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Royane RealOne of the best techniques you can use to help you accomplish the goals in your life is creating a vision board. Perhaps you have heard of this technique. If you have not yet heard of a vision board, you are no doubt wondering what it is. A vision board is a board which you cover with ...
Views: 2883(3 votes) - Help! My Mind Goes Blank During a Conversation! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Royane RealSome people seem to be gifted with an ability to talk easily with anybody, anywhere. However, there are many people who find making conversation somewhat difficult. They struggle to find things to say during conversations, especially when they are talking to someone they don’t know very well. ...
Views: 19343(3 votes) - Do You Need to Upgrade Your Small Talk Skills? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Royane RealBillions of people are doing it every single day. In fact, you could say it makes the world go round. Some of the people who are doing it are very young. Some are very old. And billions of hours are spent on it every single day. What is this activity that is so common that nearly everyone ...
Views: 2790(3 votes) - Don't Put Your Life On Hold While You Search For That Special Someone - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Royane RealAre you looking for a mate? Sometimes people have the belief that their real life won’t start until they meet and marry their one true love. In the meantime, they put their life on hold. This belief is a fallacy. Your real life is going by right now, whether you are married or not. A single ...
Views: 4179(2 votes) - Abusive Relationships - Should You Go or Stay? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Royane RealHave you ever been hurt by someone who says they love you? Have you been treated badly by someone who is your friend? Are abusive relationships a constant pattern in your life? Sometimes the people who are the closest to us, our friends and our mates, the ones who should be liking us the ...
Views: 1760(2 votes) - Time to Let Go Of Resentment - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Royane RealMaureen worked in an office with twenty other people, processing checks. She didn't particularly like her job, but she didn't particularly dislike it either. Getting ahead in her career wasn't important to her until the day that her friend and co-worker Betty was promoted to be the boss of ...
Views: 1899(2 votes) - Gingko Biloba - Hype or Hope for the Aging Brain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Royane RealIn the last few years, the herbal product gingko biloba seems to be advertised everywhere, as a new miracle cure for many common ailments. Gingko is reputed to improve thinking, stave off Alzheimer’s disease, preserve memory, and reverse memory loss. In fact, it is one of the most widely ...
Views: 1703(4 votes) - How Talk Show Hosts Can Boost Your Conversation Skills - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Royane RealDo you want to improve your conversation skills? One good way to pick up tips on making conversation is easily available to you every day. If you want to learn how to be a good conversationalist, a really useful place to start is by watching television! Not just any television shows - you can ...
Views: 5236(2 votes) - Why Long Term Stress Is So Damaging - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Royane RealToday many of us are facing a lot of physical and emotional stress. When we don’t have good ways to deal with all this stress, it can end up hurting us in many ways, physical and mental. If we live with too much stress for too long, it can start to overwhelm us mentally and too much stress can ...
Views: 1302(3 votes) - Coping With Long Term Stress - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Royane RealDo you feel like you are always under a lot of stress? Many of us feel as if we are always worried and pressured, but we are so used to feeling stressed that we take it for granted. Many of us feel stressed because of too little money, and too many urgent things to do, and not enough time ...
Views: 1322(1 vote) - Some Study Tips for Exams - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Royane RealWhen you are studying for an exam or if you need to learn some material for a presentation, you may be wondering how early you should start to study, and how often you should review the material in order to remember it. Is it best to study large chunks of the information at a time, or should ...
Views: 1550(4 votes) - Does the Internet Cure Loneliness or Cause Loneliness? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Royane RealA few years ago a surprising survey discovered that people who spent a lot of time on the Internet were a lot lonelier than people who didn’t spend much time on the Net. This was an unexpected find because many people view the Internet and e-mail as a great way to make and keep connections ...
Views: 3925(3 votes) - Saying "I'm Sorry" - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealIn every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt. Hurt feelings will occur in friendships, in intimate relationships, and even between two ...
Views: 1944(2 votes) - Discover Your Strongest Intelligence and Your Unique Learning Style - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealWhen you were going to school, did you do well on exams? Was learning easy for you? Or were you one of those students who had difficulty learning? Did you often feel dumb? Did you grow up convinced that you weren’t very smart? If you didn’t do well in school, it might not have been ...
Views: 4141(4 votes) - What Is Your Intelligence Type? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealIs there more than one kind of intelligence? How should we define intelligence? Can we really measure it? What is intelligence, really? Several experts in the field of intelligence have proposed that we need to broaden our understanding of what intelligence really is, and the role it plays in ...
Views: 3033(3 votes) - Does Your Body Language Attract Other People or Push Them Away? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealDid you know that even if you never say a word, your face and body are constantly sending out messages to other people about your state of mind, your happiness, and your level of confidence. And you have been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of those people ...
Views: 4708(8 votes) - Learn to Create Your Own Social Life! - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Royane RealPeople who are lonely and who have few friends often dread the arrival of evenings and the weekends, because they have nothing to do, and no one to do it with. Weekends can become a long stretch of lonely hours and nothing to do. Why not change that! Many lonely people stay lonely because ...
Views: 1580(10 votes) - Overcome Your Loneliness Even if You Are Alone - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealHow do you feel when you are faced with spending another weekend alone because nobody has invited you to do anything with them? Do you mope around the apartment, hoping that the phone will ring? Do you spend all your time wishing that somebody, somewhere, will call to invite you to do ...
Views: 3679(2 votes) - Learn to Pace Yourself When Studying - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2009 from Royane RealMany students leave their studying too late until the night before an important exam. Even though most students realize that this is a bad habit, they continue to do it. One reason that many students procrastinate with their studies is because they have not learned to pace themselves ...
Views: 4797(4 votes) - Students - How You Can Improve Your Study Results - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealIf you’re a student attending classes, do you ever find it hard to make yourself settle down and study? Do you tell yourself that you still have plenty of time before that big exam, and then suddenly you find that it's too late? Like most students, you probably put off studying until the ...
Views: 1765(3 votes) - Is It Time to Stop Persevering? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2009 from Royane RealHow important is perseverance in achieving your goals? Many success gurus tell us constantly that to achieve your goals, you have to keep on going, have faith in yourself, and never give up. To keep persevering to achieve your goal does not mean that you forge blindly ahead, regardless of ...
Views: 1333(3 votes) - Is Your Inner Critic Stopping You From Being More Creative? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2009 from Royane RealWould you like to enhance your creativity? Do you think that increasing your ability to be creative would be a good idea? Some of us feel desperate to be more creative, because we want to feel more free to express ourselves, or because we may think a creative life is more glamorous than the ...
Views: 1362(1 vote) - When It's Time to Stop Persevering - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2009 from Royane RealHow important is perseverance in achieving your goals? Many success gurus tell us constantly that to achieve your goals, you have to keep on going, have faith in yourself, and never give up. To keep persevering to achieve your goal does not mean that you forge blindly ahead, regardless of ...
Views: 1486(3 votes) - Want to Get Over Your Fear of Getting Rejected? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2009 from Royane RealHow do you feel about getting rejected? Does rejection devastate you, or do you shrug it off? Rejected. It can be such an ugly word. One of the reasons why rejection can cause us so much difficulty is that in our minds we often tie rejection to so many other ugly words that cause us even ...
Views: 2085 - Why Should You Add New Words to Your Vocabulary? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Royane RealThere are a lot of good reasons why we should try to improve our vocabulary. When we have a good vocabulary, we not only sound smarter, but we are smarter. We can learn more things. We can understand deeper concepts and learn the connections between various bits of knowledge that we already ...
Views: 8272(7 votes) - Invest in Friendship For Your Later Years - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Royane RealWhen I was twenty-two, I was befriended by a woman named Doris who was thirty years older than I was. Although Doris was then a fifty-two year old woman, she did not feel it was inappropriate to befriend me. She did not operate with the social belief that she should choose her friends only ...
Views: 3277(1 vote) - Learn to Overcome Being Shy - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Royane RealAre you shy? If you are shy, then you are aware that shyness can sometimes be a problem. People who are very shy, miss out on a lot of life. They miss out on relationships, on fun, and on career opportunities. Fortunately, there are treatments. Most of us are shy on some occasions. For ...
Views: 2264(1 vote) - Attract Other People to You With a Friendly Face - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you are with other people, do you let them get to know the “real you”? Or do you hide yourself from others, always acting stiff and polite? In some societies, people behave very formally with each other. In those societies, you will be more respected if you are distant and courteous, ...
Views: 4415(3 votes) - My Tortured Path to Creativity - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealToday if anyone asks me, "Who am I ?" I can answer that I am a writer. It wasn’t always this way. For many, many years, I ran away from being a writer. I was terrified of putting pen to paper, or fingers to computer keyboard, even though I knew since I was a little kid that I was desperate ...
Views: 1344(2 votes) - Positive Affirmations or Negative Affirmations - You Choose! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealOne of the most powerful tools we can use to change our beliefs and our behaviors is the tool known as affirmations. Affirmations are simple, short, strong messages that we send to ourselves, by repeating them out loud or silently. Affirmations can also be written. There’s a good reason ...
Views: 2398(5 votes) - When Should You End a Conversation? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Royane RealWhen I was doing my research for my special report on making friendly conversation, I discovered that there’s a lot of information out there on the topic of how to start a conversation, and a lot of information about how to keep a conversation going. On the topic of how to end a conversation, ...
Views: 2085(6 votes) - Learning to Make Small Talk With Strangers - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Royane RealDo you find it difficult to make small talk with strangers? Most of us do. Talking with someone we don’t know can make many of us feel very anxious, especially if we happen to be shy. Why is it so hard to make conversation with strangers? When you first talk with a stranger, you don’t know ...
Views: 4578(5 votes) - Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends When You're Older? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Royane RealMany of us fear growing older because we are worried that when we are older we will be lonely. We often see older people sitting in shopping malls who seem to have no friends and nothing to do. We hope that won’t be our fate. What can we do to make sure we still have some friends and a good ...
Views: 6946(1 vote) - Can Your Friends or Lovers Trust You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Royane RealOne of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person. It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ...
Views: 1833(8 votes) - First Impressions - Right or Wrong? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Royane RealFirst impressions – they feel so accurate, but it’s so easy to get them wrong. When we meet somebody new, we size that person up in just a few seconds. A few seconds, that’s all it takes to decide whether or not we like somebody, whether we trust them, whether or not we want to get to know ...
Views: 12858(5 votes) - What Can You Do When a Conversation Runs Out of Steam? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Royane RealHave you ever been in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere, and neither person seems to be able to think of anything to say? This happens a lot, especially when both people don’t really know each other. It can also happen when both people are lacking in conversational skills. ...
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