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Help To Win Child Custody Case

One of the most complicated issues for parents during divorce is sorting out issues related to child custody and visitation. Child custody is often provided to those parents with whom the best interests of the child are preserved. Family courts often prefer parents who can prove that they are ...

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By Edward L. Amaral, Jr., Esq.
How to Calculate Your Massachusetts Child Support

Under Massachusetts law, parents who are divorced or separated must continue to support their children. In Massachusetts, a parent’s child support obligation is calculated based upon the Child Support Guidelines. The Child Support Guidelines are a set of rules that dictate how to calculate a parent’s child support obligation, and what income must be included in the calculation of child support. The Child Support Guidelines often compare the respective financial circumstances

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By Charles Berger
Mend Your Broken Heart With Funny Divorce Quotes

Getting a divorce is never that easy and it is never a joke. It is considered by many people as one of the most excruciating experience in their life that they need to go through. Perhaps, it could be difficult to smile and to be happy a little when you are in a process of getting a divorce. However, there are some simple ways that you can do in order not to be overwhelmed with pressure of divorce. One of the ways is to read these funny divorce quotes. What are these funny di

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Why Is Divorce So Hard?

We have all heard horror stories about divorce: there is the co-worker whose ex ‘got everything’ in the divorce, including $1200.00 a month alimony for the next seven years; there is the neighbor who lost custody of her nine-year-old son; and who can forget the third cousin, whose divorce is still ongoing, two and half years after it was filed. Do you ever wonder why divorce is so hard??? I do. And I have contemplated the reasoning behind it. Do you want to avoid having s

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Contemplating divorce? Early, important financial considerations

My good friend Hannah Foxley from the Women’s Wealth Expert (www.thewomenswealthexpert.co.uk) has written a corker of an article on things to consider financially before divorcing. Here are some tips written by her hand. Get ready for some good info… In the emotional haze of early divorce proceedings it is often difficult to make clear decisions about what needs to be done immediately with regard to the finances. Here are seven important financial considerations you need to think about from the outset.

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By Georgia Andrews
10 Reasons why couples break up

People dream of everlasting love. Love does not last for ever. There are a number of reasons why people break up. There are ten reasons that are such common reasons for couple to break up that one has to take a step back and examine the structure of relationships. With women in the workforce and couple delaying the decision to have children many couple part because they have a desire to be independent. They do not want to be tired down in a relationship when they could have t

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By Jennifer Cephas
How to Reconcile Your Marriage: How to Reconcile a Marriage after Separation

Don't you sometimes wish you knew what went on behind the closed doors in your seemingly, happily married neighbours' home? We all wish we had a glimpse into the secret life that enables them to be so desperately in love with each other even after being married for a number of years. Marriage isn't a walk in the park, is it? If you've been with your spouse for some time you may feel like taking a long, or maybe even unending, walk in the park just to get away from them someti

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How listening to music can help healing

Music is – The art or science of combining vocal or instrumental sounds (or both) to produce beauty of form, harmony, and expression of emotion. Music is an incredible aspect of life that is quite often not recognised of it true potential and value it holds. According to an article on “Mail Online” Easy listening and classical music were the top choices for surgeons and patients taking part in a new study at the John Radcliffe Hospital, Oxford.

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Are You Really Over Your Divorce?

I was at the funeral of a dear friend last week. He and his wife were and are the kind of friend that you choose to be family. In fact, I'm not sure who chose whom first. All I know is that when I heard that Bob had died, I cleared my calendar so I could be with Gloria and the rest of the family just as if they were blood relations.

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By Ruth Purple
Building a New Life After Divorce

Divorce can leave a person devastated and broken. It is a major, life-changing event that could shatter your heart into pieces. Accepting the fact that everything just isn’t the same anymore, especially for those who didn’t see it coming, may be a little too hard. Having to deal all alone with issues like children, money, career changes and downsizing the family income can be overwhelming, and is enough to make one ask: Is there life after divorce? Is it possible

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Divorce Can Lead to Self-Improvement

Divorce Can Lead to Self-Improvement. Leo Averbach http://BreakupTheBook.com I went through the divorce mill and came out the other side better for it. However, it was not plain sailing. The breakup was tough, really tough. Firstly, I was shocked to learn that my wife was having an affair. It hit me like a train; I was torn apart. Secondly, divorce was not in my script at all, so when I saw my marriage crumbling beyond repair after nearly twenty years together and three kids, I was totally disoriented.

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So, how do you heal anger when you want to rip someone’s head off?

What do you do when you are SO angry you want to rip someone’s head off? You actually think you COULD drown your kids or bash someone with your shopping trolley and you are not sure how to control it. In those moments, if another hippy tells you “you need to relax” or recommends that you try yoga or meditation, you feel like you just might shove a carrot into their mouth and light it. What now? You are TOO angry for yoga or meditation – but it’s probably what you need. Right?

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Dad’s Powerful Influence

An abundance of research in the past 10 years has shown repeatedly that involved fathers play a vital role in the well being of their children. Studies have confirmed that fathers have a distinct, necessary and irreplaceable role to play in child development. Fathers bring a quality to parenting that is different than mothers, and children benefit greatly from both styles. Dads and moms are not interchangeable.

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By Melvin Malen
Georgia Separation Agreement

Like many other states in United States, Georgia has also got legal separation laws. Legal separation laws were induced in the system so that those married couples who do not wish to live a marital life considering their marriage is dead but do not want to end the marriage. Ending marriage will scarp various social security cover as well as medical insurance cover. So, to maintain these cover couples opt for legal separation. In this way, the marriage stays intact but the cou

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Divorce Advice: Getting Divorce Advice From the Right Source

Getting the right type of divorce advice depends on what type of divorce advice you want and what you want to use it for. When looking for advice about divorce, it is smart to clearly define what you are seeking the advice for so you can be sure to look in the right places. Seems simple enough right? Yes, but...lots of people who are deciding about divorce and seeking divorce advice lump the categories of divorce advice into one, and that's a big mistake. You should seek di

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By chonyui kevin
I want to be faithful in marriage

Once you have taken your vows, don't do anything to break that trust. You have both taken vows to be faithful in every way to one another. Now it's time to believe in one another and trust your partner. You have taken the plunge and made the biggest commitment of your life. But statistics show that, almost half of all marriages end in divorce, and one of the leading causes is marital infidelity. Whether you're married or a partner in a committed relationship, being faithful

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How to Get Through a Breakup Without Bitte ess

Since your breakup, are you calling everyone you know and recounting the story over and over and over about how he did that or he said this or can you believe what he’s up to now? Let me ask you another question then: What about YOU? You see, I fell into that trap too. HE was awful. HE was an idiot. HE…HE…HE. Like a broken record, I went on and on and on and on about HIM. Do you see a pattern here? Right. I was all about him.

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By David Kane, CPA
Using the Married Filing Joint Status during Divorce

An area that needs to be examined while you are going through the divorce process is determining the tax filing status that will be the most advantageous to you. During the pre-divorce year(s), you have a couple of options that can increase or reduce your tax liability depending on which filing status you utilize. In your pre-divorce year(s), you have the option of filing under the following statuses: - Married Filing Jointly (MFJ), - Married Filing Separate (MFS), or - He

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By Ruth Purple
Is it Time to Get a Divorce?

Making a decision whether to get a divorce or not is an awfully difficult choice that a person must make in his/her lifetime. One has to think about a lot of important factors, like children, the number of years you’ve been together, the major differences, and the possible effects of divorce on the family’s finances. However, the most important question that a person should be asking oneself is about his/her happiness: if you get a divorce will it make you happier or woul

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Goal Setting Tip for the Day - Create Your Own Personal Culture

A funny thing happened when I was instructing my English 121 class today, the teacher (me!) became the student. In the blink of an eye, I was in awe of how much my "kids" as I affectionately call them, know about themselves, writing and life in general. I have to admit, it isn't always easy teaching at a college level. In high school and under, the students know each other so there is a sense of camraderie and friendship (most of the time) in a classroom setting. However, at a college level, especially at a community college, there are all different ages, cultural and economic backgrounds.

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Transition Tip # 1 - Making Peace with Your Past

Tips and Tools on Transition. Tip # 1 – Making Peace with your Past August 16, 2009 by divorcesolutionsforyou | Edit Many people often ask me how I got to where I am today (as a transition coach) being that I have had many twists and turns to my own life over the past decade. I by no means feel like “Rocky” but I have to tell you that I have made it my mission to study personal development during times of transition. And, in a sense, I was my own “guinea pig.” (Not a pleasant thought but true).

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How to Avoid the 5 Divorce Mistakes that Keep you from Moving On

Although feeling overwhelmed and confused during divorce is normal, avoiding these common boomer mistakes can save you unnecessary drama and stress so you can move on with your life. Missing the Big Picture. Divorce feels awful because as a society, none of us are taught to plan ahead for it. Funny, isn't it? For years, doctors have been telling us to take care of ourselves so we will feel better as we age. Financial advisors preached about planning for retirement for years. Why don't we apply those same principles to divorce?

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By Edward L. Amaral, Jr., Esq.
Finding Your Spouse’s Assets

Some divorces are friendly, while many others are hostile. Spouses in a hostile divorce should be more aware of many things. It is not uncommon for one spouse with greater financial resources to hide his assets, which would reduce the value of the marital assets that are subject to division. Nothing is unlawful about transferring assets from one person to another, such as conveying a house to a buyer, purchasing stocks from a trader, or moving cash from a checking account to

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How To Survive Your First Christmas Alone

Your first Christmas alone doesn’t have to be terrible. Make sure that you plan what you are going to do well in advance and that you arrange to keep busy over the holiday period. Be organised and don’t leave any spare time when you might brood. Don’t worry about what your ex partner is ...

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By Caitlyn Bell
6 Incredible Tips For Fathers To Win The Custody Battle

A child custody case could be more disheartening than expected. Until the final date, both the mother and the father stay at the edge of their seats because the thought of not being able to see the child every day is in itself, depressing. Some shocking custody facts about the U.S. over the many years: In 2009, only 17.8% of custody cases were in favor of fathers. rnIn 2009, only 68.2% of noncustodial parents had visitation privileges or some kind of custody arrangements.rnIn

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Codependency Unraveled

Co- dependency is a learned behavior that often times is passed down from one generation to another by watching parents relate in this type of system. It is sometimes referred to as “relationship addiction” because many times codependent relationships are one sided and can be emotionally destructive. A few of the characteristics of Co-dependent people are: · An over inflated sense of responsibility for the actions and feelings of others rn· A tendency to get involve with others that they can love, pity and rescue rn· Poor boundaries

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What to do when things didn't turn out the way you expected.

So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the divorce.” “I was supposed to be on his health insurance, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do.” Supposed to... I should be.... Sound familiar? Ah, the language of expectations. Or rather, unmet expectations that now haunt us.

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Self-growth Tips for Men Getting Divorced

The breakup of my marriage hit me like a train. At some level I knew it could happen but when the crash came, my world just disintegrated. In a flash I was no longer a husband, I was struggling to be a father and trust, built up over twenty years, was completely broken. We were a wreck and I was shattered vessel.

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By Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, Virginia M. Satir (Foreword by)Official Guide
Book Review: Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce .nn Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed , by Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, Virginia M. Satir (Foreword by), is a valuable resource for people interested in Divorce , and it is available through Amazon.com and Barnes & Noble .

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You're Divorced. Get Over It!

Once upon a time, I was a happily married mother of a 5 year old son and wife to my very own Prince Charming. We lived in a little neighborhood in a cute three bedroom house that even had a picture perfect white picket fence. Unfortunately however, my Prince Charming turned out to be more like a frog than a Prince. We went through the usual steps of counseling, separation, anger, hurt and ultimately, as I’m sure many women have felt, I simply began wishing he would just get hit by a bus.

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The Benefits of Co-Mediation: Seeing Both Sides of Every Story

Every situation has two complex and unique perspectives and the ability to interpret, empathize and identify with each side is a benefit divorcing couples must not take lightly. Having a mediation team composed of a male and a female allows C.E.L. and Associates to offer an approach to mediation that produces results that other firms cannot hope to achieve.

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Child Custody Agreements

When the custody of children is at stake in a divorce, the issuance of a divorce decree may be complicated and delayed. In some cases, the courtroom has become a battlefield for parents who are disputing the role of the custodial parent or disputing child custody. In such cases, judges today ...

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By Kyle Morrison
Men and Divorce - A Guide For You

Society usually has this misinterpreted view about men and divorce . That men will be fine in the end, that they are much more stable in terms of handling pain and tremendous emotional stress and that they will generally come out fine in the end. Well much as society would like to say it is so, it actually isn’t. Because men are still human after all, and as such, are not impervious to the damage that can be caused by divorce. Much like in the case of women, men need to fin

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Grandparents and Divorce

When your children come to you with their tales of marital woe beware. There will be a great temptation to finance your child's divorce, thinking that you are helping them get custody or more marital property but in most cases, hiring separate divorce lawyers is the death knell for any co-parenting relationship. Grandparents generally do not have rights to access their grandchildren in either divorce cases or when the parents are still together.

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War of the Roses

The War of the Roses was a civil war in England. Where the thirty years of warfare were even more destructive to England than the Hundred Years war had been in the previous century. With the Petty disputes that occur between partners throughout a Divorce these days it seems necessary to title this article with such a name.

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Dating after Divorce: The first steps

The first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes in your life. If you have low self-esteem try writing a list of all the things that you know you are good at, list everything (good friend, good parent, good cook, good timekeeper, good organiser, good communicator). Don’t leave anything out.

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By Sarah Ruiz, MBA
The 3P's of Dating after Divorce with children

The 3 P’s of Dating After Divorce, With Children rnBefore I share some very important advice, I feel I must give you a bit of background on how and why this advice served me well. This article is designed to give a basic guideline on some of the most important attributes in looking for a permanent new partner when there are children (minors) involved. I was a single mother of two beautiful girls for almost 7 years. I separated when my youngest was 3 months old and her siste

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Prevention of Workplace Violence

Preventing Workplace Violence While training in anger management can be very helpful in preventing workplace violence incidents or even minimizing their effects, there are a number of other things an employer can do. One of the best ways to prevent workplace violence and avoid law suits is to ...

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The Divorce Process and Laws in California

The spirit of California is no doubt Western and most certainly has its anchoring in the culture of the United States. Being a border and coastal state, Californian culture has been greatly influenced by several large immigrant populations, especially those from Latin America and East Asia. California is certainly cosmopolitan in temperament and is truly the gateway to the character of the US. nnIn the 1960s, California surpassed New York to become the most populous state in

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