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The word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them a sense of understandin…

Finally, an iPhone app that supports your rise to star performance as a leader. True North Leadership just introduced the FREE Leadership Keys app. Click the link or use your phone to scan this QR code to get your download. It’s usual for leaders not to realize that Leadership is like a performance with few opportunit…

40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is growing again offering people the opport…

How the Shiny Light Destroys Relationship and Our Leadership Credibility What percent of time do you think you operate on automatic from your habits? Research tells us that it is 95% of the time. What are you missing out on when you are doing things on autopilot every day? Often what this failed focus leads to ignorin…

Michael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see all the good things I am…

I was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to go over his expectatio…

The Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted. Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep? • When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want? • Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already tried? • Do you step on their i…

How to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out? This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders. • How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having them grow their focus and lea…

We are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing other…

Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies with Others: Mastering the Moment In the last blog I started with strategies to raise your emotional intelligence for yourself. In this next in the series we will look at strategies to raise your emotional intelligence with others. Mastering the Moment Your success or underperfor…

Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: Mastering the Moment, Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top performer. These…

What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 years, both individually and in their organizations, I wanted to summarize some of the key be…

Teamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now.\" Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to succeed or fail. We know…

Top 3 Reasons Why Applicants Fail Their Background Check and what you can do to prevent it from happening to you. Finding a job in this economy can be a daunting and difficult task. In a competitive job market employers become more stringent and will disqualify applicants that provide incorrect or incomplete information about themselves over the past 10 years. When employers find discrepancies between the information you provided and what they find out in your background chec

Teaching Skills No matter the age, consistency is the key to teaching good habits and hygiene with the parent being the most influential example. You will find that children will mimic their parents in practically everything and will reflect a lot more back when they become a young adult. Children learn faster when the parent is interacting on their level, such as getting down on the floor and putting their toys away along side them. Walk them through things at a pace that they can follow as they have very short attention spans even without ADHD.

It's true. I hear voices in my head. I don't talk about it much. But maybe it's a good time to start. You see, I'm a complex person. A lot goes on inside my head that no one else ever realizes. The main voice I hear comes from my ego. My ego takes information from the world - from my ...

For more than a decade, people from all organizational levels and from a broad spectrum of industries and businesses have participated in programs to help them enhance their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. While the participants' various roles have presented them with quite different pressures and challenges, the one factor all these people have in common is the emotions they experience. When people develop EI skills, they are able to become internally self-managed and capable of making their greatest contributions.

If you want to learn how to stop obsessive thoughts, the first step involves understanding exactly what's happening to you right now. It's like you're spinning on a hamster wheel. Like a treadmill that just runs in circles without ever getting anywhere. Why? Because you lack TRACTION. You ...

Authentic : 1. Of undisputed origin; genuine. 2. Conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief We hear this term so often in this world of ours as we become increasingly aware of the need to know ourselves and achieve life balance. How can you tell if some-one really is authentic or the real-deal?r

Most people experience life as a roller-coaster of different emotional states, accepting without question that emotions are something that just happen in response to life events. In any given day, you may experience a range of states, some positive and some that are negative or distressing. The emotional state we are in is so important as it affects how we behave and the results we get. If you are feeling positive and happy, of course the whole world seems better and more int

1. Change the cause of emotion. Fix the thoughts, fix the emotions. Circumstances do not cause emotions – rather, your thoughts and attitudes about those circumstances do. the only exception is when emotion is driven by a physical chemical imbalance in the brain, which can be identified and treated effectively with medication. nn2. Realize that thought is not the same as logic. Logic is a system for reasoning, and reasoning is what you do with your thoughts. You may be bril

I speak to people everyday about the importance of emotions and feelings in our daily life. Most of them are completely numbed and all they can do is nod their head while reading my words or simply sigh when I’m finished speaking. They’re knee deep in symptoms of mental illness; depression or an anxiety disorder, or both. They have poor eating habits, never relax and never exercise. Most of them hate their jobs, are struggling to make ends meet and have a distant marriage rel

I had a good crying spell yesterday. Actually, I felt pretty okay about it. Because it showed me where my boundaries of pain were, and it showed me I was going into those boundaries. As a way to expand myself. In other words, the crying spell was a signal, or a manifestation, of the process ...

People-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) - hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and vague, hard to pin down, sometimes obsequious and, generally, a spineless “non-entity”. These qualities are self-defeating as they tend to antagonize people rather than please them. But conflict-aversion is only one of several psychodyn

They're found in every work place. Regardless of how fortunate you are to be working with a great group of supportive caring coworkers, there always seems to be at least one that makes your work life less than ideal. They always seem to be looking for opportunities to impress the boss and spend an inordinate amount of time speaking just to hear themselves. While they can be mean and condescending to people under them they are sweet angels, the ideal team players, whenever their direct report or other superiors are around.

Are you feeling real emotion? Or is it just a fabrication? Here's how to find out... Just because you're feeling something, that doesn't automatically mean it's a 'real' emotion. Because so much of what we feel is a 'mental construct' of our own making. In other words, it's a fabrication; ...

What kind of love are you talking about? There are many forms of love that English has only has one word for which is 'love' and it gets bantered about indiscriminately. Greek has five, which are more descriptive: - Desire – Attraction (epithumia) - Longing – Romance (eros) - Belonging – Affection (storge) - Cherishing – Friendship (phile) - Selfless Giving – Unconditional Love (agape) There is much range in the length, strength, and potential for loving and our life experiences help us to expand in all of them.

What we commonly refer to as 'chronic guilt' could more accurately be described as 'habituated guilt' or 'patterns of guilt'. Because 'chronic' almost implies illness or disease; something we have no control over. When it comes to guilt, nothing could be further from the truth. No one is born with feelings of guilt. Guilt must be learned. Over time, it becomes habituated. Which means patterns become laid in the subconscious. Usually this happens in childhood, but the 'chronic guilt' can last a lifetime if no steps are taken to end it.

The whole point of a color personality test is to measure your personality. By doing something as straightforward as picking your favorite colors, it is possible to actually determine not only your present state of emotions, but so much more. For instance, a color personality test is said to be able to detect even the future behaviors that you will exhibit. All it takes is picking your favorite color. If you think that a color personality test is all hype or just scientifical

It can be a cold cruel world out there. You don't have to look far to see it. That's why so many people sleep through life. Asleep in their pity, their judgments, and all the other anesthetics currently on the market. Sleeping because it's too painful to wake up. It can be hard to find ...

Many people are prone to marveling whether emotions and brainwaves have a relationship with each other. The answer to this is yes! This is because the brain is the central point for all the emotional communication with the body. It is the main producer of most of the current in the basic neural pathway. It dies this with the use of different frequencies such as Delta, Alpha, Theta, Beta and Gamma. Al these have a major say in the body and usually determine the emotional state

Discipline Tough love is the best way to handle disruptive and/or destructive behaviour and following through is the key to instilling the message. Know the difference between natural and logical consequence and teach your child in it. - A natural consequence is when a child is playing with matches and accidentally burns their finger.

Oh, you think men won't commit? I know for a fact that millions of men can't wait for that 'special day' to arrive. They'll think about it constantly. Talk about it with their friends. Dream about it at work. And the week leading up to that special day - they can't wait for it to ...

One of the biggest problems we all experience with our emotions involves getting 'stuck' in them. Meaning, we keep feeling the same exact feelings, over and over; day after day. If you seem stuck in your feelings - it's almost guaranteed to be painful. Or at least unpleasant. Sadly, we end up ...

What is the secret to success? There are so many people talking about how to become successful, but there is a problem. They are telling you how to become successful based on what they believe success means. For you to be truly successful, you must first define what success means to you. So how do you define success? The easiest way is to first consider the basic domains of life and then write down specifically next to each domain what success means to you in each domain. Here are some of the domains to consider. Relationships Intimate Relationships Family Relationships Otherr

Recently, we were designing a training program at the Institute for Health and Human Potential, and we began our meeting as we always do - by asking ourselves the question: “What do we want people to be able to do differently after the program?” It’s interesting that no matter ...

If you want a relationship to click...find out what makes it tick.

Let’s first define COACHING as being a means of support given by someone having expertise in a certain domain. This support will be brought to you in consultations sessions given by email, over the phone or face to face individually or in groups. In some cases, the goals pursued will be known by you when you begin; in others, you will search for, discover and pursue your goals with the help of your Coach. In Life and Career Coaching, people seek to grow and enhance their capabilities. In Grief Coaching, people wish to find a soothing comfort to learn to manage their emptiness and pain.

Speed Programming, most of the members might have not even heard this term particularly people not belonging to Computer Science . I listen it a lot when my brother got admission in Computer Science , indicating he was really fond of programming. At the time of my admission in university, he forced me to get admission in a computer university. I don't know how but I certainly started getting interest in programming and then again the term speed programming came into my life w

A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight. You believe in ...A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight.

Are you blocking relationships too? Somewhere early in life I decided I did not live in a safe world because the people in it could hurt me. And the closer someone got to me, the more likely they could (and would) inflict pain on me. I saw only one solution to this problem. I just can't let anyone get close to me. It's the only way I'm going to survive. I'll pretend when I have to, but deep down inside, there's no way I can let someone into my heart. One of the first movies I ever saw on TV showed a man crying because he couldn't be with the woman he loved.

We know what organizations think motivates people. But the research says money isn’t an effective motivator. By the 1960s researchers were showing that paying employees a miserly wage or salary is an effective way to destroy their motivation, but once you are paying them enough, any additional dollars won’t add much to their drive to succeed. But the news for leaders and trainers is good. Research reveals motivators that cost nothing, are simple to use and provide us with a valuable checklist to make our training more effective.

Have you ever had a so-called friend that turned into your nemesis as time went by and still remained glued to you in some way even though you’ve done all you could think of to push this person out of your life? Have you ever witnessed how some individuals weave themselves into your every relationship, tinting your every gathering with their presence, always finding a way to be invited through some other acquaintances? Short of escaping to another part of the world and cutting all communication with previous contacts, there seems to be no way out!

How do you feel when someone gives you a gift? In particular remember a gift that you have really wanted, or a gift that has been handmade. Or how do you feel when you receive a gift from a child that they have lovingly prepared for you? If you say that you “feel warm and fuzzy”, that you “feel ...

Being members of Selfgrowth puts us in a unique position of appreciating the power of social networking, and networking sites like Ecademy, LinkedIn, and Facebook. So what is the power of social networking? Well those in the know say it is about forming relationships. OK then what? Well then ...

Money! Power! Sex! When we have them, and use them well, they are so much fun. When we don’t have them, we have feelings about them. When we misuse them, we have feelings about them. And sometimes we have serious mis-learning around them, and become either abusive or abused with them. As little children, we learn about the world from our grownups. If our grownups have some trouble handling the energies of money, power, and sex, we learn their ways. Some of us learn to push

From my perspective, our emotional wounds don't live in our minds. So healing our minds, as Dr. Eve Woods teaches on her show Healing Your Mind, Body, and Spirit, from September 19, 2006 titled "Rewrite Your Internal Script," does not actually get at the core issue. I find this idea - that somehow we can heal our minds with our thoughts, and that this will take care of the dis-ease that often permeates our lives - to be an all too common misconception.nnOur emotions don't liv

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