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Hey Doc, I have a question: why are women attracted to men (and not to each other)? I know what attracts me to women, women are beautiful and soft but I wonder what’s in women's brains that make them see men as more attractive than women? I can’t imagine my self kissing another man but why ...

If you find yourself wondering, "how do I get my ex back?" you aren't alone. Amazingly, there are ways , which you can win back the love of your life. There is absolutely no reason why you should not be able to re-ignite the lost love with the person you adore, so long as you remain assured and patient.

It's not uncommon for individuals to consider becoming friends after breakup with their partner. While being friends is completely possible for ex-couples, it isn't something that can be easily done. It's possible that being friends is not something possible between the two due to incompatibility or past problems they encountered as a couple. If you are considering being friends with an ex then you need to remember some things. If the breakup was done by mutual agreement, it's entirely possible for you and your ex to be friends after breakup.r

There are certain behaviors that some women possess that are sure to drive their men away. If you feel that your relationship is missing something or your man is drifting away, you may want to take a closer look at your own behaviors.nnYou don’t have to possess all these characteristics or behaviors. Just having one in excess can drive your man away.nnLow Self Esteem – Having a low self esteem may cause you to need constant reassurance that your mate loves you. It is nice

Bradley Manning, a 23 year old American soldier is in prison for leaking “SECRET INFORMATION” (250 thousand documents) to WikiLeaks. Some say he is a courageous man and call him a hero; others say he is a traitor.

Sounds like politics doesn’t it? Well, power struggles are the creature that’s eating most marriages and relationships alive today. Regardless of whether you are looking at a relationship, a business or running a country, if a power struggle exists among members – progress suffers. Okay, lets try to paint a vivid and maybe slightly exaggerated analogy of this. Lets say we have a couple trying to go for a nice little road trip for their vacation, which they both agree on

Has setting limits not worked? Despite your efforts, are your boundaries often ignored? It's frustrating, but it's not always the other person’s fault. Here's why and what to do.

Dear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader:

Your ex just suddenly decides to breakup or a fight happened and this causes a breakup or something not too known. Tragedy of this sought I would say is inevitable, because it happens most of the time. But some ladies are able to get over it, while some try as much as they can to get their ex back without minding what had happened in the past. I believe you are that type that will try as much as possible to get her ex back . If you are that particular type that wants her ex b

I get asked a lot for dating advice and the questions often begin with “How do I know if. . .” “But he told me . . .” “What does it mean when . . .” In my answers, I like to pass along one of the best pieces of advice anyone’s ever given me about dating: “Don’t Ignore the Signs!”

It would be wonderful if we were always on the same page with our marriage. It would be nice if we would automatically know what our spouse needs and then be able to magically provide it, but this rarely happens. One reason for this is that people don't always indicate what they need or they resist any help when we offer it. Also, most of us assume that our spouse can take care of himself and speak up if there is something that he needs help with. So our spouse may be strug

Did you know that retreat spas are the preferred vacation choice for many contemporary women? However, many do not have the immediate time nor the resources to indulge in a five-day, getaway in the mountains; therefore, w hat better way to unwind and enjoy being pampered, than to create a ...

What would you do if you started dating a man and the relationship seemed perfect. Except for one little thing... You find out that he hasn't really ended his last relationship. He's still seeing his ex while dating you. He sees her, he takes care of her emotionally and financially, and he ...

Husband Doesn't Turn Me On Anymore: Not Turned On By My Husband - What To Do If You Have Fallen Out Of Love With Your Husband Can you love your husband again if you've fallen out of love with him? Many women ask this exact question each and every day when they find themselves married to a man they are no longer in love with. Feelings shift over time and with the pressures of marriage, the dynamic of a relationship can change. A woman can still love her husband but those roman

Clinging and smothering behaviours are the unsavoury consequences of a deep-set existential, almost mortal fear of abandonment and separation. For the codependent to maintain a long-term, healthy relationship, she must first confront her anxieties head on. This can be done via psychotherapy: the therapeutic alliance is a contract between patient and therapist which provides for a safe environment, where abandonment is not an option and, thus, where the client can resume perso

Are you looking for Christian relationship help in dealing with your difficult in-laws? Are you wondering how God wants you to deal with them? God wants you to respond in a way that protects your marriage instead of damaging it. Here are four tips you can use to deal with difficult in laws that will minimize the damage they can do to your life and marriage. Interestingly, they all have to do with your response to them since you cannot force them to change:

Dear Dr. Romance: If the child has not had a real relationship with her father for many years and does not see him more than 2 times per year, should a mother keep pushing a relationship with the father and child? Will it do more harm than good? Dear Reader:

Anger is normal and a very healthy way to say that we are hurt or frustrated; Anger in itself is felt when we feel brushed off, not listened to or made fun of ect…. But anger becomes a major problem in the way it is expressed. As a Counsellor/Psychologist I work with anger issues, aggressive feelings in adolescents/children and anger problems in couple in daily practice. A person who is screaming, pushing things around the house and putting his red face in your face can onl

Donald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving power is their highest value – at any cost. Trump is “certain about what he wants and sets out to get it, no holds barred.” (Trump on Trump)

We all know that meditation is good for us. We hear it all the time. After meditating for over 20 years I had some interesting visions and experiences. Sometimes I would have a feeling of deep inner peace, but it was fleeting. More often than not sitting down for 20 minutes in a lotus position did very little for me. I often got restless. Meditation expands the brain, creating wellness naturally.

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Love, commitment and relationships seem to be in disfavor these days. I’m seeing a lot of articles and TV shows saying love doesn’t last, so why bother. But, I believe that all of us want to be loved, and I know from experience that a relationship can work, and that a great partnership is a joy not to be missed. A lot of people come into my office searching for love, especially unconditional love.

The other day, I got an email from a wife who was filled with regret. To make a very long story short, she and her husband had been having problems for quite some time. They still loved each other, she thought, but the relationship had evolved into something that neither of them recognized any more or liked very much. There were no huge fights or volatile times. They had simply "drifted apart" and "fallen out of love." They had tried desperately to reignite the spark bu

Is the “one night stand” at midlife the same thing it was when we were in our twenties? The answer might be YES for some who are very freshly out of a marriage or long-term relationship … but for most of us at midlife, I think the answer is NO. I believe the definition of the term “one night stand” changes with age – or at least it has for me. This article explains the “one night stand at midlife”, and highlights why this phenomenon sometimes occurs. I finish

It's a hot July day, one of the hottest days of the year. I slip on some sandals to pad down the blistering driveway and retrieve the day’s mail. What do I find amidst the usual real estate solicitations and utility bills? The Neiman-Marcus Christmas catalog! Is it just me, or has time ...

Reverend Ed Young, founder of a nondenominational church in Texas, made an unusual proposal to his congregation a few months ago. He suggested that married couples in his church make an agreement to have sex with one another every day for seven days. This “sexperiment” was intended ...

The reason why men won't commit actually stems from biological reasons rather than those social reasons so popular today. It basically stems from human sexuality and how it functions. Simply put, the male has the ability to produce multiple children with different women. The younger the guy the truer this statement holds. It's instinctive to ensure the survival of the species.

"I cheated on my wife, and now I'm beginning to lose hope that she will ever forgive me for cheating on her..." I'm sure that when you first decided that you want to save your marriage after cheating, you fantasized and hoped that the moment you displayed any effort, your wife would come running back. But let me guess - Things didn't turn out as easily as you thought? Initially you had hope that she could forgive a man who cheated on his wife, but now you realize that your wi

Branding is a way of marketing yourself so that people know who you are and what you do. If you brand yourself well, it will send a message that is instantly understood by your buyers and customers. The best three ways to build your name brand are: 1) Know yourself, 2) Choose work that ...

Teens place a lot of emphasis on their peer group in our Western society. Indeed, the peer group is an important source of support and identity for young people. But parents should not underestimate their role in their child's life. Parents can't necessary replace peers, but a teen's relationship with his or her parents is an important source of identity development as well.

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Are you someone who wants a committed relationship, but somehow yours don’t end up heading in that direction? Here’s some “investment advice” to help you overcome this dilemma: Q. I continually seem to get into relationships that appear great on the surface (good ...

I Need help In Getting My Ex Boyfriend Back. How to Save Your Relationship By Avoiding An Attitude of Neediness To Your Ex Boyfriend. Showing Neediness most times can be a girl's worst enemy in a relationship. Acting needy and clingy can make a guy get turned off really immediately all the time. Girls who always show neediness to their boyfriends too frequently are often taken for granted by their boyfriends friends. A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your

“I’m sending out a message to myself so that when I hear it on the radio, I will know that I am fine. I will know that I am loved.” In an interview, Melissa Etheridge explains that she wrote these lyrics as an uplifting reminder to herself. We believe that the positive ...

The Department of Labor predicts that the #1 employer in 2010 will be “self.” A recent Internet poll of 25-44 year olds revealed that 90% of them hoped to own their own business. A survey conducted by Ernst & Young found that 75% of influential Americans believe that entrepreneurship will be the defining trend of the 21st century. Some of the factors that have attributed to the rise of the modern day entrepreneurial spirit are access to technology, a global economy, and corporate stagnation.

Soul Astrology draws upo Psychological Astrology, Transpersonal Astrology and Esoteric Astrology. Soul Astrology is a bridge to get us from ‘here’ to ‘there’. Where is here? Our current psychological state in which our sense of identity stems from our egoic mind, and self-concepts based on personality traits. Where is ‘there’? An evolved post-egoic state in which our sense of identity comes from a true ‘realization’ of ourselves as spiritual beings: based on our own inner experience.

Power exists in all relationships. Having power means to have a sense of control, to have choices and the ability to influence our environment and others. It’s a natural and healthy instinct to exert our power to get our wants and needs met. When we feel empowered, we can manage our emotions, we believe that we matter and that we can affect outcomes. We have a sense of efficacy in our lives, rather than being at the effect of others and circumstances. Instead of reacting, we can act because we have an internal locus-of-control.

As a behavior specialist and coach I know first hand that fear and phobias drastically affect many people every day. According to Wikipedia (a great online resource) “Fear is a powerful, unpleasant feeling of risk or danger, either real or imagined.” Now we can describe fear by many different terms in accordance with its relative degrees; personal fear varies extremely in degree from mild caution to extreme phobia and paranoia.

Did you know that love does NOT conquer all? You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this ...

Let me guess, if you had a dime for every time a random guy asked "Why is a pretty girl like you single?" you could buy yourself a lot more than a Happy Meal. (Filet mignon, anyone?) Indeed, there are typically a plethora of explanations women could offer these poor saps who are just trying to make friendly conversation...or well, you know. (Perhaps, "because of guys like you," is a response that enters more than a few minds!)

Everything was great. We had been dating for 6 months. We shared the same interests, felt very at ease together, had (often)ndiscussed future plans and had even spent some of the holidays together. Our relationship seemed right on tracknand just right in general. Then, without warning, he ...

How much involvement is enough when setting boundaries with your adult children? Just enough! You raise your children with the idea that when they tu 18, they will be completely independent with the exception of possibly paying for college. But just because a child turns 18 doesn't mean parenting isn't wanted or needed. What it does mean is that the relationship between a parent and an adult child needs to be different than the one between a parent and a minor child. This is a particularly relevant question for adult children with problems.

Recovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday’s choices are the consequences you live today. The choices are yours to make. In other words, if you don’t acknowledge that there is a problem in your life, you will never be able to change it. If you change your choices, your life will refle

Dr. Romance video, click here for video When your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation. As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he or she wishes, you are free to focus your attention on solving the problem for yourself.

Even if you wanted the divorce, it entails loss. Aside from the ending of the relationship with your spouse, you may be losing your home, time with your children, in-laws, extended family, and even friends. There are inevitable financial losses, loneliness, a change of lifestyle, imagined losses of what might have been, and of memories of what once was. It may involve a move to a different city, a change of jobs or schools, or a homemaker entering the work force for the first time.

In looking at the shadow of shame I am reminded of a story author Max Lucado tells about that took place in the early seventies. One sunny summer afte oon two sisters were abducted by two men as they came out of a convenience store in Casper Wyoming. The two men drove the two girls to a canyon bridge, where they brutally beat and raped the older sister.

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Keeping Hope During Separation: How Do You Know When Things Are Improving During A Trial Separation Some of the mistakes in life can lead to matrimonial discord but there are some absolute methods that can save a marriage after separation. Generally, the decisions that create imbalance in married life are taken abruptly. You can probably fix your marriage if you follow some simple tips and techniques. You can seek advice from your friends or well wishers and also, from the re