Relationship Advice Articles

Dear Dr. Neder, What's a good way to enter into a sexual relationship so that you don't go too fast or too slow? Sometimes if the guy goes too fast it can be really threatening to the woman (unless she likes it of course.) Hello! This is an excellent question! The key is to not try to ...

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line and have control over you? How did you respond? - You complied, trying to be the good little girl or boy and do what your parents wanted, hopeful that they wouldn't get angry so often.

I just want to give you a short quiz on what you think love is. A, Do you think that love is about reciprocity? B, Do you feel that love is about openness, honesty, and sharing? C, Do you feel that love is about calling someone ten to twenty times a day, monitoring their Facebook page like it is a stock market message board, and conducting casual drive-bys to see if they are home is love? If you answered C, then I regret to inform you that you fall into the category of being

Research conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. Long-term friendships are wonderful and valuable, but if you dont make new connections as you get older, your group of friends may diminish due to death and relocation. If you havent made new friends in a while, updating your definition of friendship and increasing your skills at meeting people will be worth your while.

Dating Advice For Women Who Still Love Their Ex Boyfriend; A breakup doesn't stop most women from still being in love with the man who got away, instead it seems to make the man more desirable. If you are one of these women, you have been driving your friends and family crazy asking for their advice. Of course they are not going to tell you it was your fault, so the man you love becomes the one at fault and they tell you to let him go and forget him. A complete solution to he

My Sexless Marriage Is Killing Me: No Intimacy In Marriage From Husband I once heard a comedian say "Sex is a misdemeanor. The more I miss, the meaner I get." Can you relate? Sex does so much for the human mind, body and soul in so little time. It is a great tool for healing, love, stress relief, even exercise. To go from having unlimited access to sex to ACCESS DENIED is a major upheaval in any relationship. In a marriage, it feels like a death. Why? That's the #1 question s

If you’re in a long-term relationship in 2013, you’ve probably thought about shacking up with your mate. If you aren’t yet in a serious relationship, this will definitely be a topic of conversation that comes up–and one that you’ll need to be prepared for. There are certainly both pros and cons to living together before marriage. In order for you to make an informed decision, we have a list of Dating with Dignity pros and cons of living together before marriage: PROS Financial Reliefr

I’ve been promoting a new concept on my show that has been very successful in explaining how attraction and love work. I call these them (collectively) “The Formula”. Is there really a “formula” for attraction and love? Yes, there is. I discovered them when I was working on what sorts of ...

INTRODUCTION We all like to think that we are logical, rational human beings. But many of our reactions and behaviors are driven by factors we NOT aware of – leading us to harm our relationships. Developing Self-Awareness paves the way to a successful intimacy. ARE WE RATIONAL HUMAN BEINGS?

A lot of people have already been in this situation. Their partner ends the relationship and they finds themselves asking "Willy my ex come back?". If you take some time to think about the situation longer though, you'll find that there are some things that could do wonders for your situation. First of all, start thinking if it would be better for your partner to get back with you. Why did the relationship end anyway? One of the things we get from a good relationship is that feeling of security and familiarity knowing that someone is always there to back us up.

Dear Dr. Romance: I am a divorced father of 3. I am remarried. My 11 year old daughter is very upset about her mother's new boyfriend that is also still married. He was first introduced as a friend but she doesn't understand why he is always at the house and stays till late at night. My daughter has asked her mother if this is her boyfriend and the mother tells her no.

After dealing with thousands of people and their relationships, it became very obvious to me that the people who are looking for relationship help usually seek it after they have exhausted all the knowledge and tricks they themselves had up their sleeve. By the time they start looking for relationship help, it is often, if not too late, then at least more difficult to get the relationship help that would work than if they had started looking at the first signs of trouble. So, what are the sources that people look for when they need relationship help?

Are you searching for a soul mate or unconditional love? Your quest can set you on an impossible journey to find an ideal partner. The problem is often twofold: No human being, nor any relationship can ever achieve perfection, and often unconditional and conditional love are confused.

The first three steps of the twelve step program for recovery from addiction have to do with asking for help, knowing that we are powerless without help from a higher power, and trusting that this higher power can restore our lives greater than we could even imagine. I have seen these twelve steps work miracles in the lives of many people. What about people who are not struggling with addiction? I feel the twelve steps, especially the first three, can help all people.

Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention!

There’s a lot of confusion about intimacy, what it really is, and how to make it happen. There’re couples married decades who can be physically close, but don’t know how to be emotionally intimate. The word intimate refers to your private and essential being. Usually people think it means sharing personal information or having sex. Real intimacy is far more. It makes you feel content, empowered, whole, peaceful, alive, and happy. It transforms and nurtures you. Physical closeness, sex, and romance are important to a relationship, but emotional intimacy revitalizes and enlivens it.<!--more-->

As Father’s Day approaches (June 16th, 2013), I began to contemplate about significant means to pay tribute to the forsaken heroes, our fathers. We should seize the opportunity to pay respect toward our dads by celebrating the event in joyous manners. The fundamental question should focus on the reasons behind celebrating Father’s Day. Without stating the obvious, most individuals are caught on the daily struggle of survival in the complex societies of today. Consequently, we acquired the tendency of taking our fathers for granted.

My ESTEEM Principle is designed so that women are able to look at their lives from a different perspective, shifting paradigms and ultimately creating the life they really want. Building self-esteem is one of the keys to walking through the fear of inadequacy and paves the way to become powerful beyond measure. Here is the break out of the ESTEEM Principle.

How To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup.

We've all had stressful times in our lives-- some of us seem to have more frequent stress and upheaval than others. And if you've been in the middle of a stressful period, you probably know that being under pressure can have detrimental effects on your love relationship. This is the time that ...

"Miracles do happen," wrote Chaim Weizman , the first President of Israel "but one has to work very hard for them."

Although you're probably familiar with the terms "sex drive" and "libido," how much about your own sexual clock do you understand? For example, can you list your sexual "need" signs? How long can you go without sex before it starts to negatively affect you? Are ...

Learning and memory take place in three stages. The first stage is the sensory stage. In this stage, information is retained very briefly, less than one second. It is retained just long enough for us to develop a perception about the information.

Your pet knows the truth of who you are! Many of us know how unconditionally loving most dogs naturally are – unless they have been abused. Even if you don't have a dog, you've likely seen the joy they express when their person comes home after being gone for even a few minutes. If you have a dog or another pet who loves you, what would your pet say about you if he or she could talk? Take a moment to imagine what your pet would say.

Dr. Romance writes: Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities like the judges on talent reality shows and certain game show hosts achieve success by putting people down and making fun of them. Sports are now about doping and winning at all costs, and the old ideals of sportsmanship seem to be lost.

Dr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace?

Years ago, I could not find my feelings. I could give you words for miles, but I couldn’t tell you how I felt. Even in romantic settings I didn't know how to say what I felt. This is all in hindsight. Once I understood that at any given moment there's a mixture of feelings going on inside of me, I felt excited to FEEL STUFF. And yet, it was still difficult to speak my true feelings. I felt shy, I felt embarrassed, and I felt a little exposed. I'd practiced standing in a full length mirror and saying what I felt.

Dear Dr. Neder: I am an African female who has very short hair and for these reasons, I feel that men are intimidated by me. I am 5'0 feet tall and very petite with a voluptuous body. Aside from my looks however, my speaking abilities are very polished and I also major in Math and Computer ...

Many of my clients have come in complaining of a lack of motivation; from not being motivated enough on the job, to not being able to diet, quit smoking, or get out of bed in the morning. They desire to achieve both positive and negative motivationspositive motivations and being motivations toward doing something; negative motiviations being toward NOT doing something (not smoking, for example).

People looking for the answers to overcoming their love addiction often ask two questions, “What does recovery really mean when it comes to breaking this problem”? ... and “What are key things I need to work on to successfully recover from love addiction”? When we are new to recovery, we may mistakenly believe that recovery is limited to ‘getting over a bad break up’... then moving on to find the right partner. The reality is-- unless we do the work required for healthy change, the same old relationship patterns will absolutely repeat themselves.

click here for video It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what hteir parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids:

Here's another help to overcome Christian codependency: Identify four common misbeliefs you need to change to detach from false guilt. Guilt is meant to help us identify when we have done something wrong. Guilt can be experienced as a physical pain, a nagging sense that something is wrong, a strong feeling that won't go away, a mental conviction, or a prickling of the conscience. Because guilt is associated with the assumption that we have done wrong, we assume that whenever we encounter guilt that it means we are guilty. This isn't necessarily true.

Your MIL is coming! As your mother-in-law is due to arrive in a couple of hours, your hands sweat and your heart begins to palpitate as you quickly try to neaten and straighten the house to perfection. HELP! Can you possibly live up to her standards? Will anything you do be to her satisfaction? ...

Aloha Dignity Daters, and welcome to the final day of the “Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge – 3 Steps to Tell the Difference Between a Player and the Guy Who is Looking for Love!” Today’s challenge, along with The Super Me 14-Day Challenge, is going to put you exactly where you need to be to find your man in 2013. And the final step of the “Meet Your Man Challenge” is… Step Three: Honing Your Dating Savvy – Get Any Man to Pursue You

Dear Dr. Romance: I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that 'guy'... I do not want to give up my friendship w/ my ex... It's really affecting me...emotionally... Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated... Dear Reader:

There Are Four Steps. Are You Doing All Of Them? Are you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of punishment or rejection –- apologizing makes it easier to be forgiven. 2. Don’t be afraid to admit you're wrong.

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When Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors,” he was on to something. Our ability to relate to others in a healthy way depends on our awareness of not stepping aggressively into their territory—physical and psychological—and not letting them step into ours. Boundaries are protective limits that prevent abuse and unwanted liberties. They serve well to express who we are and work best when they’re based on respect for ourselves and others. We need both exte al and internal boundaries to function well with the people in our lives without resentment and with integrity.

Have you experienced a break up where your girlfriend left you for someone else? It does happen so don't feel like you are the only one trade with this. How to know if your ex boyfriend wants you back; Maybe you are now demanding to think about how you can get you're ex girlfriend back.

You are now facing a hard situation and you're trying to figure out how you are going to improve things. Consider it this way, each problem has a solution. Now are you pleased to work hard for it? Sacrifices are going to be made and potentially some changes on your behalf. Don't think you might get back to your ex by still being the same person you were before. Breakups may be troublesome but also may be good.

Valentine’s Day creates a lot of expectations that are often unrealized. It's fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips to having a great holiday.

Are you stuck in the rut most Americans are in these days? You don’t have to be! Read on... So it’s your choice whether or not you see and react to the current economic climate, or what the media and government calls “the recession,” in a negative way, or a positive way. I have learned to turn any situation or environment into an opportunity for happiness, new learning and joy. Is this something that would be helpful to you right now? Are you hooked into the gloom and doom and negative outlook the media shouts at you through your TV and radio?

Dear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him? Dear Reader:

We're all looking for that special someone with whom we can have a great time, laugh and be ourselves, but if you really want to meet such a guy, then you sure won't be able to if you're not open minded and don't do something about it. And since many people don't really have the confidence of going out there to meet various people, they'll consider starting with online dating. So let's say that you met this wonderful guy online, but you want to get to know him more and while you're at it, why not add in a bit of sensuality as well?

Being authentic is a MUST in order to develop a successful intimate relationship. Unfortunately, not many are authentic. In this article I explain why it is so difficult for so many to be authentic, and what you can do to enhance your authenticity and thereby your relationships. WHAT DOES “BEING AUTHENTIC” MEAN? Being authentic means being yourself; being “who you really are”. It means, entering a relationship without wearing masks. Be true and honest with yourself as well as with your partner about your needs and expectations, true intentions and hopes. WHY ARE MANY not AUTHENTIC?r

Dear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader:

Put Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media 2008)" offers tips to improve intimacy with your mate. Q: Sometimes I feel sexually excited, but I don't always feel desire for my husband...In other words, I'd rather take things into my own hands. Does this mean there's something wrong or missing from our relationship?

Having worked on myself diligently for over 25 years, I was surprised when The Ascended Masters told me that on occasio I still judged others. We fool ourselves by thinking we are completely free of judgment. Yet when we come up against something that society fears we encounter the truth, that judgment comes from deep scaring and unconscious beliefs.

Here are some simple areas of thought to help you plan and prepare your new year. Hope it will help you today. Please print out if you feel that it would help you. In our own writing use the given guidelines and fill in your thoughts. Namaste. Dilani Diva. 2011 LOVE. What are you general goals in the area of love? How can you improve your love life? In what way can you change your love for the better and have better communication? What are your dreams for love this year? What are you doing to set your desire into action, and then reality? LIFE PATHr