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- Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1470 - How to Help Saving Lives of Those Struggling With Chronic Suicidal Thoughts? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from James SmithWant to know how to help saving lives of those struggling with the chronic suicidal thoughts? It takes a lot of courage to help a person who has suicide tendencies. If the person is also consuming drugs or alcohol or is verbally or physically abusive, helping them might seem even more ...
Views: 1193 - The Healing Power of Love - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Paul HellwigI remember when my first spiritual teacher told me that love was the most important thing there was, that it could transcend and heal all things. I thought he was crazy, not the love I was familiar with. The love that I knew was learned from those perfect families on TV and any of that I ...
Views: 1145 - Removing Toxins - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from B.L. AckerEverything that is toxic can kill you. Some work quickly, dropping their victims almost immediately. However, not all toxins are fast-acting. Some build up slowly over time. But they are all poisons and, regardless of the speed in which they work, all will eventually kill you. When most ...
Views: 1412 - Growing Pains - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2016 from Benjamin EmerlingHumans grow at a substantial rate from birth to adulthood. With growing comes growing pains. We all remember the pain that our joints, muscles, brains, and emotions caused us as teenagers. But did you know that if you excessively use drugs and/or alcohol as a teenager, you stop ...
Views: 1373 - Addiction and Perception Disorder: Seven Things You Should Know - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2016 from Charles G. HannaAddiction is cunning, baffling and powerful, and even after my surrender it kept trying to manipulate my mind to make me slip and destroy my recovery. I am alive today only because of the miracle I experienced one day in treatment. As I entered my room and walked by a mirror, I glimpsed ...
Views: 1586 - The 4-Step Process for Overcoming Addiction and Substance Abuse - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2017 from Hafiz AkindeWhen we talk about addiction and substance abuse, the two substances that come to mind are drug and alcohol. Generally, these substances include tobacco, marijuana, and cocaine. For a fact, illicit drug use in the United States is on the increase. Results of the Substance Abuse and Mental ...
Views: 1568(1 vote) - When Anguish Overwhelms Take These 4 Steps Before Other Action - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldIt just happened. You discover an infidelity; a partner signals an intention to separate; someone has passed away; there’s been some kind of personal tragedy. In the midst of anguish life feels totally out of control; is turned upside down; is overwhelming. Anguish, in the midst of a ...
Views: 1660 - Low Self-Esteem and Addiction: The Siamese Twins - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2017 from Hafiz AkindeLow self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which individuals view themselves as inadequate, unlovable, or incompetent. There are many manifestations of low self-esteem, the worst of them being addiction. There’s no doubt that low self-esteem is one of the chief causes of addiction. The ...
Views: 1840(1 vote) - How Drug Use Could Endanger Your Mental Health - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Anica OaksMany people might think that only major conditions like schizophrenia and bipolar disorder denote mental illness. However, many common symptoms like anxiety, sadness, mood swings and insomnia indicate poor mental health and often signify underlying conditions. Using drugs can make these feelings ...
Views: 1347 - Abusers Abuse despite Abandonment Anxiety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The abuser abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways: (1) By devaluing others, he restores his sense of ...
Views: 2292 - TOP SECRET ABOUT CHILDHOOD PTSD - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Bettina Sparkles ObernuefemannTOP SECRET ABOUT CHILDHOOD PTSD Are you experiencing too many PTSD Triggers? Do you still get “startled” or “react with rage or suffer other symptoms? I have shocking news for you. You haven’t fully released all your childhood demons or core PTSD issues. The least known fact about ...
Views: 1372 - Getting Past Victim - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Monty RitchingsWhat value is there in keeping your past alive, especially when it wasn’t so great the first time around? This may seem a ridiculous question but it is very true. When we allow ourselves to run in victim mode, we are keeping our past alive and prevent a future of happiness and ...
Views: 1245 - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - How Does Drug Rehabilitation Centers Work? - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Amy RothermelYou hear a different story from every recovering addict who has been through drug rehabilitation, because there is no one-size-fits-all solution to addition. Every person's path is different. However, there is a structured system for rehab that can provide anyone with valuable guidance. These ...
Views: 1905 - “REAL RAPE” - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2016 from Roni Weisberg-RossThis past weekend I read an article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine entitled “To Catch A Rapist”. It highlighted the work of a dedicated inspector and some of her colleagues in the Special Victims Unit of Law Enforcement in New Haven, Conn. and the repeated roadblocks they come up against ...
Views: 1548 - 5 Ways to Help Your Teen Avoid a Relapse - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2017 from Desiree PattonYour teen has relapsed. Despite whatever fear, disappointment, and frustration you may feel, you need to remain as calm as possible. Your loved one still needs your support. So, what can you do as a concerned parent to help them get back on the road to recovery? 1. Envision Relapse as a ...
Views: 1780 - The Motivation to Change is Inside You: MET Therapy and How it Works - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Sarah Ann NiemannGrowing up you were probably told "you can do anything you want to do, as long as you set your mind on it," and as a kid you probably believed it, but being an adult is hard and you lose sight of that mantra, which was drilled into your head. Motivational Enhancement Therapy is there to ...
Views: 2013(2 votes) - 5 Things You Can Do To Help Win the War on Substance Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2015 from Anica OaksSubstance abuse is a massive problem in the United States and a few other countries. The United States has more than 23 million people who are addicted to drugs, alcohol and the like. Drug-related crimes run rampant throughout the United States, as well. U.S. citizens can participate in fighting ...
Views: 1615 - Selfishness is OK - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2015 from Roni Weisberg-RossSelfishness has a negative connotation in our culture; but it’s not selfishness, it’s a lack of empathy that hurts others. While I am no Ayn Rand acolyte, I do agree with her argument in “The Virtue of Selfishness”. Taking care of oneself is not only reasonable; it is necessary – necessary for ...
Views: 1540 - Alcohol and the Body: 4 Long-term Effects of Alcoholism - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Anica OaksDrinking huge amounts of alcohol over long periods can cause many negative effects on your body and mind. Alcohol is present in wine, beer, and liquor. It depresses the CNS (central nervous system) and can affect all the organs in your body, especially the brain and liver. When you start ...
Views: 1605 - Know the Signs: How to Tell When a Loved One Needs Help - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Hannah WhittenlyIt can be difficult to tell how much emotional pain a loved one is experiencing, even if you are close to them. Many times, people have trouble expressing themselves, or don't want to trouble those around them with their problems. Perhaps you have noticed something different about something, or ...
Views: 1068 - How Anger Helps Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2015 from Tonya PrinceImagine it is your 18th birthday. A well-dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday. Hey! That is today. You jump up and down. Cry, get excited. Dance. Think of everything ...
Views: 1401 - Narcissism, Trump-isms, and Realism: The Narcissist's Illusion of Grandiosity - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Darlene LancerDonald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving ...
Views: 1972(1 vote) - Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years. Progressively ...
Views: 1681 - The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhen Children Don’t Stand a Chance Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ...
Views: 1911 - Adult NPD Survivors Defenseless Against Ignorant Judgment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAdult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must ...
Views: 1425 - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder the same as Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ...
Views: 1612 - Twenty Questions Identify Narcissistic Parental Triangulation Among Siblings - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineHave You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation? To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Is there one sibling in your family who is your ...
Views: 3720 - Narcissistic Parent and Enabling Parent - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler? To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ...
Views: 3238 - Lidija Rangelovska’s View of Shame - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2015 from Sam VakninLidija Rangelovska advanced the idea that some children subjected to abuse in dysfunctional families – objectified, dehumanized, their boundaries breached, and their growth stunted – develop intense feelings of shame. They turn out to be codependents or narcissists owing to their genetic makeup ...
Views: 1880 - Am I Manipulating My Narcissist? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" All told, there are three ways to manipulate the narcissist: (1) To withhold narcissistic supply from him until he comes, hat in hand, begging for more and then you can name your price and dictate terms; (2) To ...
Views: 2083 - Eating Disorders, the disconnect between body and mind. - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Mark SchwartzWhen human psychological factors cause an illness, it is called psychosomatic – of the mind and of the body. Of all disorders an eating disorder is the epitome of a toxic relationship between psyche and soma, yet the body is our interface for navigating the world. Medical writer Jonathan Miller ...
Views: 1840(1 vote) - The Fast Life Grinds: How to Overcome Habitual High-risk Behaviors - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Anica OaksSome people are naturally drawn to high-risk behaviors. This may involve taking drugs or alcohol, engaging in promiscuous sex, gambling or getting into physical altercations. There are many different ways this tendency can manifest, but all can be dangerous. In some cases, such actions can have ...
Views: 1100 - The Narcissist's Seriously Ill child and Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Narcissistic parents of seriously ill children derive narcissistic supply from onlookers, friends, family, colleagues, and community by attracting attention to their role as saintly caretakers. They are demonstratively and ...
Views: 1590 - 4 Proven Resources for Breaking a Substance Addiction - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Anica OaksAccording to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, drug abuse rates declined by almost eight percent from 2002 to 2013. However, there is still a large treatment gap, which results in over 20 million Americans failing to receive needed substance abuse help. Below introduces four excellent ...
Views: 2029 - The Narcissist's Disabled and Challenged Children - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The narcissist regards his disabled or challenged child as an insult, a direct challenge to his self-perceived perfection and omnipotence, a constant, nagging source of negative narcissistic supply, and the reification and ...
Views: 4137 - Families With Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Roni Weisberg-RossAbusive situations in families do not happen in isolation. It is neither bad luck, nor is it the fault of the victim of abuse. Abuse happens within a culture of abuse. That is, there is something that is handed down over the generations that encourages those who abuse and allow those around the ...
Views: 1492 - Secret Wish of Islamic Women; Female Mutilation; US—Great Satan; Iran v West in Daniel 8 Prophecy - by Submitted on May 26, 2015 from Richard RuhlingWhen a woman sees her husband is touched with tenderness toward her from Scripture and that he prays for God's blessing on their marriage, her heart is touched and she may even weep with love for God and him. This could be a secret wish or unidentified need of half the world's ...
Views: 1266 - The Narcissist in Custody Battles - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Sam VakninThe Narcissist in Custody Battles Presentation made by Sam Vaknin Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” In the 11th Annual and First International Battered Mothers Custody Conference http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN 1. ...
Views: 3260(1 vote) - The Narcissist’s Relationship with Money - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" When the narcissist has money, he can exercise his sadistic urges freely and with little fear of repercussions. Money shields him from life itself, from the outcomes and consequences of his actions; it insulates him warmly ...
Views: 5070 - Narcissist Loves Pain: His and Others' - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled. Having ...
Views: 2650 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Always Put Others Down? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs a human being, one has the ability to lift others up and make their life easier, or they can pull others down and make their life harder. There are going to be some people who generally fit into the first category and then there will be others who generally fit into to the second ...
Views: 14219 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2137(1 vote) - Loving a Borderline - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerCaring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. Being a borderline (having BPD) is no picnic, either. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time on the border between reality and ...
Views: 1682 - Abuse: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Ending The Cycle Of Abuse? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused during their childhood years, they can end up doing the same thing and abusing others or they can put an end to the abuse. And based on how much pain one would have experienced when they were abused, it is often hard for people to understand why they would end up doing to ...
Views: 2162 - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 8171 - Demonizing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaDemonizing is a coping mechanism that we employ to painlessly process our fears. It is the act of projecting onto a person, situation or environment-separation. Any time we speak negatively of another person, situation or environment, we are claiming that this seemingly separate experience is ...
Views: 1617 - How to Forgive Anyone Anything - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2014 from Kathi CalahanTrying to justify my resentment, anger and hatred was not worth the price of my health, nor is it worth yours. Today I have not only survived, but thrived and I'll show you how I did it. Resentment is a Latin word meaning to feel anger over and over. Like a poison, it shoots adrenalin into our ...
Views: 1288(1 vote) - Spite and Envy: Passive-Aggressive Narcissists - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder is not yet recognized by the DSM Committee. It makes its appearances in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for ...
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