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- OBJECTIFYING WOMEN SHAMES EVERYONE - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerPervasiveness revelations of sexual harassment and assault have surprised most men, but not women. However, both genders are largely unaware of the damaging impact that objectification of women can cause. It perpetuates a cycle of shame in both men and women. Even if never overtly harassed or ...
Views: 1418(3 votes) - "I Was Attacked Twice!" - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop. Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ...
Views: 1318 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Women Who Were Abused As Children End Up As Porn Stars? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a porn star committed suicide, and this was said to be due to the abuse that she received online. Based on this, it could be said that the people who abused her online were responsible for her death. The Trolls This is then an example of what can happen when someone is treated ...
Views: 1265 - “Their Mission Is To End Child Trafficking and Exploitation!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I felt the need to write an article about customer service, and when I was looking for information on a search engine I came across an interesting article. This was written by someone called Geoff Hudson-Searle. For some reason, I ended up doing a search to find out more ...
Views: 1022 - “My Mother Lacked Empathy!” - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt was not uncommon for my mother to act in a destructive way when I was younger, but that doesn’t mean that she spent a lot of time apologising. Shortly after she had done something, she would generally act as though nothing had happened. I would then similar to dropping a plate of food on ...
Views: 1093 - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 1121 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
Views: 1110 - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1315 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1610 - “Are You Gay?” - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year before I finished school, I remember bringing a girlfriend home for the first time. Before this took place, I wasn’t sure about if it was a good idea, and this was primarily due to how I thought my family would respond. Shortly after this I came to see that my concerns were ...
Views: 1223 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1273 - “I Was Told That I Was Useless!” - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember listening to Dov Baron in 2006 and thinking about I would love to know as much as he did. At this point, I had already been learning about self-development for about three years, so it wasn’t as though I hadn’t come across anyone like this before. However, although I had listened ...
Views: 1151 - #MeToo: Add My Voice to the Cultural Ground Swell against Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Suzanne St. John SmithWe are living in powerful times. A crucial time in the lives of those who’ve been sexually abused. For girls, boys, men, and women, it’s a long-awaited time when people are becoming empowered to speak up against the sexual abuse they’ve experienced during their lifetimes with the hope of making ...
Views: 1097 - “I Was Physically Abused!” - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my sister and I were growing up, we had to do as we were told; if we didn’t, we would often end up being hit by my father. In a lot of cases, this would be something that our mother was behind. So, while my father was physically stronger than my mother, it didn’t mean that he was in ...
Views: 1305 - Dysfunctional Families Never Totally Go Away - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from David HarmIt is coming up on a year since I was diagnosed with cancer. An amazing year it has been. A year of strength, as well as a year of fear. It has been filled with a sense of accomplishment as well as disappointment. I have experienced the whole emotional gauntlet for the last 12 months. It ...
Views: 1313 - Hitting Rock Bottom Means Hitting Reset Button - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Gaurav KumarLife can get a little crazy sometimes. Things can be going smoothly for years on end, and it seems like you're making progress – but then you get hit with some kind of tragedy that just knocks the wind right out of you. Tired of the Same Old Life Then you get hit again – and again. ...
Views: 1030(1 vote) - How to Find the Right Support Program for Mental Health or Substance Abuse Issues - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Desiree PattonWhether you’re recovering from drug or alcohol abuse or dealing with a mental health condition, you need the right support. You may have completed inpatient or outpatient treatment for your condition, and you’re ready to get back to your life. But without the proper support, it can be ...
Views: 1180 - Numerology of the Harvey Weinstein Sex Scandal - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from lynn buessMiramax co-founder and producer Harvey Weinstein has made the news recently in a major sex scandal involving an alleged long list of predatory and abusive sexual advances and actions with actresses and women in the industry.Miramax popularized bizarre behaviors, gratuitous violence and sex while ...
Views: 1565 - “You Were Abandoned!” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the relationship that I was in at the beginning of 2013 came to an end, I ended up coming into contact with a lot of emotional pain. Although a certain amount of pain had been coming up for a little while, the end of the relationship brought it all up the surface. Fortunately, I was ...
Views: 1109 - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1217 - Spotting the Signs: Is Your Child Being Cyberbullied? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.As cyberbullying has emerged with the development of technology, for many parents, it may feel a bit like uncharted territory. On many difficult topics, We often relate to our children by similar experiences during our childhood. However, due to its recent appearance, cyberbullying is likely not ...
Views: 1166(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws) - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help. I am the mother of 5 children, in my mid-thirties, and married for about 10 years. I have been abused for years. People I know tell me to fix my marriage that "You could've handled this better or that." I don't ...
Views: 1217(1 vote) - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 1117(1 vote) - Emotionally Reactive: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could hear something and respond in one way, and another person could hear the same thing and respond in a completely different manner. Consequently, this is going to show that they have interpreted it differently. One Response After hearing something, one person could soon ...
Views: 1261 - What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Join Us For A *FREE LIVE* Telephone Interview | 8/16/2017 at 8PM CST - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownJoin Us For A Queen Adventures Signature Ladies Night ! Topic: A Date With Danger Are you single and dating? Do you think you could be in a relationship with a narcissist or married to one? Do you have a daughter or young woman in your life that you want to love and protect? If the ...
Views: 4090 - Social Justice Warriors: Are Social Justice Warriors Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world and/or if they use social media, they may be familiar with the term ‘social justice warrior’ or SJW for short. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who is trying to make a difference in the ...
Views: 1070 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1357 - Drinking Addiction: Why Alcohol is One of the Most Dangerous Substances - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2017 from Anica OaksWhen you think of dangerous substances that you could get addicted to, you might think about cocaine, heroin and other substances of the same nature. However, alcohol is among the top substances that are abused, and there are quite a few reasons why it's highly addictive. Not only does alcohol ...
Views: 1287 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1204 - Child Abuse: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone Who Was Abused As A Child From Getting The Help That They Need? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way ...
Views: 1354 - 5 Signs You’re Ready for Drug or Alcohol Rehab - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2017 from Desiree PattonIt can be difficult to admit that you have a problem with drugs or alcohol, but it truly is the first step to recovery. Once you’ve taken this step, and recognize your addiction and its impact on yourself and others, your new focus should be choosing a strategy to get sober and change your ...
Views: 1408 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1516 - When early abuse blocks your success in life - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Felicity MuscatI find it interesting how many counsellors, therapists and life coaches seem to miss the realisation that the biggest obstacle in achieving success is based in negative beliefs that come from experiences of early abuse. This implies that strategies promoting the limited notion that one simply ...
Views: 1413 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Need To Live In Denial In Order To Get On With Their Parents? - by Submitted on May 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their parents, they may find that they start to feel good. What this can then show is that they have a good relationship with them, and this could be how it has always been. Now, this is not to say that they have never had any arguments with them; what it means is ...
Views: 1433 - Adult Narcissism and Childhood Criticism - by Submitted on May 08, 2017 from Felicity MuscatPeople who seem overconfident or too interested in themselves are often called narcissistic. Narcissism is a thought and behaviour pattern that involves many negative elements including: • Overconfidence • Fascination with the self • Excess ...
Views: 1376 - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1427 - Effects of Alcohol on the Brain and Body - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Desiree PattonMany people do not realize the health hazards associated with drinking alcohol because it is legal. However, alcohol has many detrimental short and long-term effects on the brain and body. If you're considering quitting drinking, this information could be the motivation you need to kick alcohol ...
Views: 1210 - Navigating PTSD in the Aftermath of Emotional Abuse - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Sylvia SmithWhen I got married I romantically imagined in my mind’s eye that my husband had carried me up the gangway of a beautiful ship which was to be our New Family Ship. As we embarked on the adventure of marriage we would set sail to explore the world, sometimes passing over deep waters, and ...
Views: 1030 - Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed! - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownMost of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very ...
Views: 2099 - Common Sense Ways to Stay Friends With a Victim - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person? We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and how to continue being ...
Views: 1694(1 vote) - Overcoming Addiction: Believe It Or Not It Is Possible - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2017 from Anica OaksAddiction can ruin lives, derail dreams and finally, it can even kill. When you are living in the throes of your addiction can seem like there is no way out, and that no one can help you. Long term addiction can change a personality, ruin someone financially, separate you from your family and ...
Views: 1511 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With People They’re Not Attracted To If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with. Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ...
Views: 1256 - The Problem with Alcoholism on Turtle Island - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2017 from Peter Dimaira DimairaAlcoholism has been a problem for many years on Turtle Island. Turtle Island is the name of North America according to some indigenous groups based on a Lenape story of the “Great Turtle” which was first recorded in archive between 1678 and 1680 by Jasper Danckaerts. The story has been shared by ...
Views: 1149(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Move On If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life is supposed to be a time when they will receive what they need in order to grow and develop in the right way. When this takes place, their developmental needs are generally going to be met. As a result of this, they are likely to have the resources that they ...
Views: 1372 - Child Abuse: Should Someone Expect Other People To Empathise Them If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life can be a time when they received what they needed in order to develop into a well-adjusted adult. As a result of this, they will now have what they need to handle life. Now, this is not to say that their life will be plain sailing; what it comes down to is ...
Views: 1633 - 6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2017 from Kim SaeedLike many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse. Further, the person you ...
Views: 2371 - The Love Within - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2017 from Renee L Richardson, M.Ed.Renee L Richardson, M.Ed. Knowing the "Love" Within: 1/6/2017 So many times, we find ourselves sitting on the wayside of love, extremely disappointed, hurt and totally exhausted; simply because we failed to receive the love of which we have given. Were our expectations too high? Did we ...
Views: 1321 - Sexual Abuse, Marriage and Parenting - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Gary DirenfeldWhen we talk about sexual abuse, we differentiate between intra-familial (from within the family) and extra-familial (from outside the family). When from within, it teaches the target of abuse to not trust people who are closest to them. When from outside the family, it teaches the target of ...
Views: 1121 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1552 - Child Abuse: Can A Parents Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause Them To Make Their Children Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is down to parents to give their children what they need so that they can handle the world. At times, this is something that takes place, and at other times, this is something that doesn’t take place. As a result of this, one can look like an adult from the outside ...
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