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- Were You an Intense Child? - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Imi LoPeople’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to external stimuli than the general population. They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes ...
Views: 1340 - Forgiveness Is Important! - by Submitted on May 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was talking to someone who spoke about what a friend of theirs had done in the past and it was clear that they hadn’t been able to move on from what had happened. A number of years had passed since that time, but it was as if it had happened the day before. Hearing about ...
Views: 1002 - Join Me On Thursday For A Live Video Call! - by Submitted on May 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was speaking to Errol Campbell, an intuitive coach, author and teacher, and he said about doing a video together. The idea he put forward was to talk about the inner child and the impact this part of us can have on our life. I was on board with this idea and I was looking ...
Views: 877 - It Takes Courage To Heal Ourselves! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, I was speaking to someone who had a less-than nurturing childhood, and this was something that had left them in a bad way. There was the impact it had had on how they saw themselves and then there was the trauma that they were carrying. Then again, it might be more accurate ...
Views: 1060 - Narcissistic Abuse | Betrayal | Divorce | Codependency | People Pleasing | Authenticity | Backbone - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownHave you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog ...
Views: 1339(1 vote) - The Abuse Was Passed From One Generation To Another! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had many conversations with my mother about what her childhood was like. This wasn’t simply because I wanted to know what this time in her life was like; it was because I wanted to find out why she behaved the way she did. As the years went by she settled down and was ...
Views: 973 - Neechey Lagna – a toxic concept of Patriarchal Culture of Pakistan - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from Dr. Mona AeyshaIn Pakistani culture, many sayings/ concepts have taken the place of cultural things, and people consciously/unconsciously accepts them and adopt them in their life. One of those concepts is, “ to be overly obedient to your wife” ( beewi key neechey lag jana). It means that if someone is taking ...
Views: 2060 - Is The Healthcare Fraternity Failing Its Female Patients? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Guru RajA few months ago, a 22-year-old woman called the Caremotto helpline, asking to see our CEO Dr Niranjan Ravuri with complaints of gastritis. She specifically requested to not be referred to other doctors on our panel, but solely to him. This young woman told us about how a few nights ago she ...
Views: 915 - “He Is A Real Healer!” - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2016, it was clear that I was only getting so far; in fact, it was as though I was actually getting worse, not better. I had worked with people, but some of the changes that I had made didn’t last and I was only getting so far. What also stood out was how I needed to be ...
Views: 994 - "My Family Were In Denial!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2012, I started to read books on child abuse, and the only time that I had read anything like this before was in 2009, when I read the book ‘Toxic Parents’ by Susan Forward. So, up until this point, I had primarily been reading books on self-development. As far as I knew, I just lacked ...
Views: 1081 - I Was My Parent's Son - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2018 from David HarmAs the years begin to pass me by, it is hard not to reflect on my life. Lost friendships, lost loves… just so much lost. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy with how my life has turned out, yet I can’t help and look back at the destruction of my life. From early childhood, watching my ...
Views: 1502 - Techniques of Sexual Harassers - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiHarassment is rife, certainly in London. It happens in all environments: from entrepreneurial environments, to very reputable companies, to day to day life. It happens regularly, and it is justified by society. I have experienced it many times and I have been disgusted by the low level of ...
Views: 933 - The Psychology of Abusers - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiAbuse can take many forms, it happens in many ways and in many environments. There is currently a lot of talking about sexual harassment, also particularly thanks to TimesUp movement. There is so much harassment going on and most of it is not known or recognized. For the brave people who decide ...
Views: 936 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Controlling Behaviour When They Are Emotionally Dependent - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people are in a relationship, they can continue to express who they are and to fulfil their own needs. As a result of this, their time together will have a positive effect on both of them. There will be the effect that this has on their relationship, and there will be the effect ...
Views: 1019 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the words ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’, they might have a good idea about what these words mean. Perhaps one of their friends has been in a relationship where they were victimised, for instance. Closer to Home Then again, they might know someone who has victimised ...
Views: 1092 - 5 Marketing Tactics Used By Predators To Draw In Their Victims - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Christiana StarWhen individuals are trapped in or have left abusive situations, they often ask themselves: How did I get into this? Why did I fall for it? How could I be so naive? Why did I not respond to red flags earlier? They experience much self-recrimination and shattered confidence in their judgment of ...
Views: 831 - "I Walked On Eggshells As A Child!" - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper. Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ...
Views: 1119 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1287 - College bullying: a temporary issue or severe illness of the young society? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Amanda Sparks“It will get better.” This is the common statement to victims of bullying, often made by celebrities – celebrities who were once bullied themselves. And there is also this common belief that once a victim leaves high school and moves onto college, it’s over. It’s Not Over Not so fast. ...
Views: 1335(2 votes) - "I Felt Invalidated By My Therapist!" - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it became clear that I felt the need to be loyal to my father, towards the end of 2015, and that this was holding me back, I knew that I needed to do something else. The emotional processing work that I was doing at this time wasn’t having much of an impact on this issue. The Wrong ...
Views: 1137 - How to Handle an Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Elaine PittmonWhen individuals are plagued with obsessive thoughts and keep reliving compulsive behaviors they are referred to as having an obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) condition. Every day each one of us have our own little regiments that we perform like at bedtime there are teeth brushing and face ...
Views: 760 - OBJECTIFYING WOMEN SHAMES EVERYONE - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerPervasiveness revelations of sexual harassment and assault have surprised most men, but not women. However, both genders are largely unaware of the damaging impact that objectification of women can cause. It perpetuates a cycle of shame in both men and women. Even if never overtly harassed or ...
Views: 1163(3 votes) - "I Was Attacked Twice!" - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop. Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ...
Views: 1153 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Women Who Were Abused As Children End Up As Porn Stars? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a porn star committed suicide, and this was said to be due to the abuse that she received online. Based on this, it could be said that the people who abused her online were responsible for her death. The Trolls This is then an example of what can happen when someone is treated ...
Views: 1122 - “Their Mission Is To End Child Trafficking and Exploitation!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I felt the need to write an article about customer service, and when I was looking for information on a search engine I came across an interesting article. This was written by someone called Geoff Hudson-Searle. For some reason, I ended up doing a search to find out more ...
Views: 866 - “My Mother Lacked Empathy!” - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt was not uncommon for my mother to act in a destructive way when I was younger, but that doesn’t mean that she spent a lot of time apologising. Shortly after she had done something, she would generally act as though nothing had happened. I would then similar to dropping a plate of food on ...
Views: 940 - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 965 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
Views: 934 - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1174 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1340 - “Are You Gay?” - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year before I finished school, I remember bringing a girlfriend home for the first time. Before this took place, I wasn’t sure about if it was a good idea, and this was primarily due to how I thought my family would respond. Shortly after this I came to see that my concerns were ...
Views: 1012 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1119 - “I Was Told That I Was Useless!” - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember listening to Dov Baron in 2006 and thinking about I would love to know as much as he did. At this point, I had already been learning about self-development for about three years, so it wasn’t as though I hadn’t come across anyone like this before. However, although I had listened ...
Views: 938 - #MeToo: Add My Voice to the Cultural Ground Swell against Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Suzanne St. John SmithWe are living in powerful times. A crucial time in the lives of those who’ve been sexually abused. For girls, boys, men, and women, it’s a long-awaited time when people are becoming empowered to speak up against the sexual abuse they’ve experienced during their lifetimes with the hope of making ...
Views: 805 - “I Was Physically Abused!” - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my sister and I were growing up, we had to do as we were told; if we didn’t, we would often end up being hit by my father. In a lot of cases, this would be something that our mother was behind. So, while my father was physically stronger than my mother, it didn’t mean that he was in ...
Views: 1125 - Dysfunctional Families Never Totally Go Away - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from David HarmIt is coming up on a year since I was diagnosed with cancer. An amazing year it has been. A year of strength, as well as a year of fear. It has been filled with a sense of accomplishment as well as disappointment. I have experienced the whole emotional gauntlet for the last 12 months. It ...
Views: 1026 - Hitting Rock Bottom Means Hitting Reset Button - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Gaurav KumarLife can get a little crazy sometimes. Things can be going smoothly for years on end, and it seems like you're making progress – but then you get hit with some kind of tragedy that just knocks the wind right out of you. Tired of the Same Old Life Then you get hit again – and again. ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - How to Find the Right Support Program for Mental Health or Substance Abuse Issues - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Desiree PattonWhether you’re recovering from drug or alcohol abuse or dealing with a mental health condition, you need the right support. You may have completed inpatient or outpatient treatment for your condition, and you’re ready to get back to your life. But without the proper support, it can be ...
Views: 938 - Numerology of the Harvey Weinstein Sex Scandal - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from lynn buessMiramax co-founder and producer Harvey Weinstein has made the news recently in a major sex scandal involving an alleged long list of predatory and abusive sexual advances and actions with actresses and women in the industry.Miramax popularized bizarre behaviors, gratuitous violence and sex while ...
Views: 1336 - “You Were Abandoned!” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the relationship that I was in at the beginning of 2013 came to an end, I ended up coming into contact with a lot of emotional pain. Although a certain amount of pain had been coming up for a little while, the end of the relationship brought it all up the surface. Fortunately, I was ...
Views: 959 - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1010 - Spotting the Signs: Is Your Child Being Cyberbullied? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.As cyberbullying has emerged with the development of technology, for many parents, it may feel a bit like uncharted territory. On many difficult topics, We often relate to our children by similar experiences during our childhood. However, due to its recent appearance, cyberbullying is likely not ...
Views: 1003(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws) - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help. I am the mother of 5 children, in my mid-thirties, and married for about 10 years. I have been abused for years. People I know tell me to fix my marriage that "You could've handled this better or that." I don't ...
Views: 993(1 vote) - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 936(1 vote) - Emotionally Reactive: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could hear something and respond in one way, and another person could hear the same thing and respond in a completely different manner. Consequently, this is going to show that they have interpreted it differently. One Response After hearing something, one person could soon ...
Views: 1122 - What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Join Us For A *FREE LIVE* Telephone Interview | 8/16/2017 at 8PM CST - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownJoin Us For A Queen Adventures Signature Ladies Night ! Topic: A Date With Danger Are you single and dating? Do you think you could be in a relationship with a narcissist or married to one? Do you have a daughter or young woman in your life that you want to love and protect? If the ...
Views: 3826 - Social Justice Warriors: Are Social Justice Warriors Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world and/or if they use social media, they may be familiar with the term ‘social justice warrior’ or SJW for short. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who is trying to make a difference in the ...
Views: 927 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1230 - Drinking Addiction: Why Alcohol is One of the Most Dangerous Substances - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2017 from Anica OaksWhen you think of dangerous substances that you could get addicted to, you might think about cocaine, heroin and other substances of the same nature. However, alcohol is among the top substances that are abused, and there are quite a few reasons why it's highly addictive. Not only does alcohol ...
Views: 1097 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
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