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- Everything I Own Fits In A Hefty Trash Bag - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2008 from Michelle ReneeThe truck I stole to have a place to sleep was a white Toyota with yellow and orange stripes, lifted with fat tires and no power steering. Everything I owned was stuffed into a dark green hefty trash bag, including a birthday card my mom had managed to get to me when I had turned 16. At the ...
Views: 1725 - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder the same as Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ...
Views: 1725 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1723 - ABANDONMENT Pain, Now (Part 2) - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoABANDONMENT PAIN IS FROM THE PAST It hurts, but it passes DEFINITION • the DEF for Abandonment (A) is : “Not getting enough of your legitimate childhood needs met, & some needs NOT at all”. This applies to all 4 categories of NEEDS: Mental, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual. (A) is NOT just ...
Views: 1722 - February is National Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month and it is critical that we take this time to remember that domestic violence is not just a problem for adults. One in three adolescents in the US will be a victim. - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Lacole Foster Grant;Celebrate February as Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month and help young people across the country have safe and healthy relationships. Love has many definitions, but abuse isn't one of them. It has been two years since 19-year-old Siobhan Russell was found brutally ...
Views: 1722 - Demonizing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaDemonizing is a coping mechanism that we employ to painlessly process our fears. It is the act of projecting onto a person, situation or environment-separation. Any time we speak negatively of another person, situation or environment, we are claiming that this seemingly separate experience is ...
Views: 1719 - Is freedom of speech now a selective privilege? - by Submitted on May 23, 2010 from John McMahon“The two pillars of 'political correctness' are: a) willful ignorance b) a steadfast refusal to face the truth” George MacDonald Last week (19/05/06) Sandra Kanck, an MP in Australia, stood up in Parliament and told the house that ecstasy “is not a dangerous drug” and “could have been used ...
Views: 1718 - SELF-HATE & ACoAs (Part 1) - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoI’M NO GOOD & EVERYONE KNOWS IT so I have to be perfect to make up for it Self-Hate is the #1 deterrent to growth for all ACoAs. It undermines our ability to function well, to have self-esteem & to be happy. Some people call it being ‘hard on yourself”, but it’s much more than that. It’s so ...
Views: 1710 - Child Abuse Doesn't Take A Day Off and Neither Can We - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt kind of trails off after the holidays. We would love to keep the issue in the front of everyone and that child abuse happens all year long. Abuse doesn't take a holiday, doesn't take a day off, and we can't either. (Jane Donovan) The it referred to in the quote is child abuse. It was in ...
Views: 1708 - Were You an Intense Child? - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Imi LoPeople’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to external stimuli than the general population. They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes ...
Views: 1708 - Clapton: The Autobiography - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Sigrid MacdonaldThose who are looking for sensationalism and all the pomp and glory that go along with being a rock god may be disappointed in Clapton: The Autobiography. Some people think that Eric Clapton came across as shallow in this memoir and that his behavior over the years, particularly to women, was ...
Views: 1706 - “REAL RAPE” - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2016 from Roni Weisberg-RossThis past weekend I read an article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine entitled “To Catch A Rapist”. It highlighted the work of a dedicated inspector and some of her colleagues in the Special Victims Unit of Law Enforcement in New Haven, Conn. and the repeated roadblocks they come up against ...
Views: 1706 - Recovered memories of childhood abuse - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2006 from Jane RowanWhy are memories of abuse so often hidden? This is a really hard question for people in recovery from abuse, for therapists, and for researchers. In my case, I didn’t recognize one of my early childhood memories as a memory of abuse until I was in my fifties. Then physical memories started to ...
Views: 1705 - PENNSYLVANIA DRIVER'S LICENSE SUSPENSIONS and D.U.I. Cases - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Steven TabanoPennsylvania DUI driver's license suspensions are handled by the Pennsylvania Department of Transportation (PennDot). The Department has the authority to suspend or revoke the driver's licenses and driving privileges of those arrested for DUI. Driver's License suspensions are not imposed by a ...
Views: 1701 - Online Drug and Alcohol Awareness Classes Aid Legal System in Options - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Ari NovickWhen a person is arrested and convicted of an alcohol or drug related charge, and then the court has the option to require the offender to take drug or alcohol education classes. Many times, the completion of those classes will negate any fine or sentence that is received. If a class is in your ...
Views: 1700(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Should Someone Expect Other People To Empathise Them If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life can be a time when they received what they needed in order to develop into a well-adjusted adult. As a result of this, they will now have what they need to handle life. Now, this is not to say that their life will be plain sailing; what it comes down to is ...
Views: 1698 - ABANDONMENT Pain, Now (Part 1) - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna Torbico“I HATE YOU - DON’T LEAVE ME!” I know I don’t deserve you, but I’m desperate ✶ Un-healed ACoAs have only 2 speeds about most things: Too Much or Too Little, black or white, very high or very low. ‘Gray’ is NOT even thought of, or is seen as a cop-out! ✶ Mental Health is about many ...
Views: 1696 - 5 Things You Can Do To Help Win the War on Substance Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2015 from Anica OaksSubstance abuse is a massive problem in the United States and a few other countries. The United States has more than 23 million people who are addicted to drugs, alcohol and the like. Drug-related crimes run rampant throughout the United States, as well. U.S. citizens can participate in fighting ...
Views: 1687 - HOW TO HANDLE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2018 from Darlene LancerWe’re all capable of abuse when we’re frustrated or hurt. We may be guilty of criticizing, judging, withholding, and controlling, but some abusers, including narcissists, take abuse to a different level. Narcissistic Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, sexual, financial, and/or spiritual. ...
Views: 1686(2 votes) - Learn What’s Really Driving Your Abusive Husband’s Behavior - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2011 from narcissism curedDo you feel trapped in a marriage with a husband who undermines you, makes you feel weak rather than strong, or are you always tense or afraid whenever he is around? You should know that divorce is not your only option and that you have more options than you realize. Understanding the cause ...
Views: 1684(1 vote) - The Narcissist's Seriously Ill child and Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Narcissistic parents of seriously ill children derive narcissistic supply from onlookers, friends, family, colleagues, and community by attracting attention to their role as saintly caretakers. They are demonstratively and ...
Views: 1684 - Backbone Power | Newsletter Sign Up - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownSUBSCRIBE TO GET THE LATEST BLOG POSTS, NEWS, & MORE UPDATES FROM DR. ANNE BROWN. http://backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN of Sausalito, California, formerly from Aspen, Colorado in her private practice has served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential ...
Views: 1681(1 vote) - School speaker and addictions expert, reflects on his life as a bully - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Scott GallagherBullying is growing problem in Canada and the United States. In recent years bullying behavior has spawned needless school violence and adolescent suicides. This article details what the life of a bully is like and how it affects everyone involved. The life of a bully is not what it seems. On ...
Views: 1681 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1680 - Statistics Of Abuse And Stalking - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Sam VakninBefore we proceed to outline the psychological profile of the stalker, it is important to try and gauge the extent of the problem by quantifying its different manifestations. More plainly, studying the available statistics is both enlightening and useful. Contrary to common opinion, there has ...
Views: 1678 - Alcohol and the Body: 4 Long-term Effects of Alcoholism - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Anica OaksDrinking huge amounts of alcohol over long periods can cause many negative effects on your body and mind. Alcohol is present in wine, beer, and liquor. It depresses the CNS (central nervous system) and can affect all the organs in your body, especially the brain and liver. When you start ...
Views: 1674 - Treating Abuse and Trauma - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-Ross"Therapists who work with adults abused as children have one overriding goal, that is to repair the client's self-image. Once the client's self image is repaired, he or she is on the road to full recovery." Eliana Gil - Treatment of Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse If you think it ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - Who Is An Alcoholic - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2011 from Charles SomerHave you ever wondered if you or a loved one is an alcoholic? There are many different definitions and explanations of what alcoholism is and who can be classified as suffering this addiction. Many times these designations are chosen by the various treatment facilities, perhaps the best way to ...
Views: 1671(2 votes) - Psychology In Trouble - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneThe Human Condition Volume 1, Part 01 Have you ever wondered what is the platform for our one and only human experience? I have, for I once destroyed 99.9 percent of my human experience. With one tenth of my experience left, I took the time to learn how to learn from my insecurities. I ...
Views: 1669(3 votes) - Addiction and Perception Disorder: Seven Things You Should Know - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2016 from Charles G. HannaAddiction is cunning, baffling and powerful, and even after my surrender it kept trying to manipulate my mind to make me slip and destroy my recovery. I am alive today only because of the miracle I experienced one day in treatment. As I entered my room and walked by a mirror, I glimpsed ...
Views: 1668 - Bullying and The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownI assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were ...
Views: 1668(1 vote) - For Millions, Every Day is 911 - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2009 from Anna MossEight years ago, in a matter of hours, the face of society changed because of what the few did to the many. As we reflect, let us also be mindful of the millions who suffer daily at the hands of those they once trusted. 11 September 2009 Today, we pause to honor the dead and shake our ...
Views: 1668 - Motivating the Village to Protect the Children - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Lisa SiegleChild abuse is a painful reality, but one that is preventable. As caring, thinking adults, we could have a profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children if each and every one of us reached out to other adults and inspired them to help protect kids. As a community, we can make a difference ...
Views: 1666(3 votes) - Child Abuse in the United States - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Nancee KemperChild Abuse in the United States The statistics of the number of children abused and neglected in the United States are staggering. And as the economy worsens, child abuse is on the rise. Here are some of the facts: Every ten seconds a report of child abuse is made. Five children a day ...
Views: 1665(1 vote) - The Lies We Bought As Love - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2011 from Piercarla GarusiWhat are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to suffer? What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to be happy? What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to love ourselves? What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to put up with ...
Views: 1664(1 vote) - How to Survive the Blame Game from Addiction and Family Members - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2010 from Katrina Holgate MillerRita was married to Jimmy for twenty years before she finally “got it.” She had begged Jimmy to stop drinking many times, but words did not change his behaviors. Words such as, “if you want a relationship with me, you will have to stop drinking,” or “If you keep drinking, you will die young” ...
Views: 1663 - Numerology of the Harvey Weinstein Sex Scandal - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from lynn buessMiramax co-founder and producer Harvey Weinstein has made the news recently in a major sex scandal involving an alleged long list of predatory and abusive sexual advances and actions with actresses and women in the industry.Miramax popularized bizarre behaviors, gratuitous violence and sex while ...
Views: 1663 - Healing From Abuse is Not the Same as Confrontation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanA lot of survivors of sexual and physical abuse feel they need to confront someone about it. Face down the perpetrator and tell him (usually him) – tell him what? That what he did was wrong. That it was hurtful and did substantial harm. I imagine it could amazingly empowering to do that. ...
Views: 1655(3 votes) - Drug and Alcohol Classes Online Can Help Restore a Family - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Ari NovickWhen an individual becomes an addict and starts abusing drugs, the drug abuse not only affects the individual: the effect is also felt within the immediate family of the drug abuser. When this happens there are a number of issues that usually arise within the family which might ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Pre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldPre-Marital Counseling In View Of Abuse My boyfriend and I getting married in a few months and I am worried because although he is so great, he does have a temper. When he gets mad he becomes scary. At times he yells and screams and at other times he throws and breaks things. He’s only hit me ...
Views: 1653(1 vote) - The 4-Step Process for Overcoming Addiction and Substance Abuse - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2017 from Hafiz AkindeWhen we talk about addiction and substance abuse, the two substances that come to mind are drug and alcohol. Generally, these substances include tobacco, marijuana, and cocaine. For a fact, illicit drug use in the United States is on the increase. Results of the Substance Abuse and Mental ...
Views: 1653(1 vote) - Causes of Alcoholism to be Identified - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Charles SomerAre there causes of alcoholism other than the constant drinking itself? If you haven't read anything about alcoholism, it is reasonable to assume that you think, just like many other people think, the only cause for alcoholism is the steady drinking over time, thus alcoholics can only blame ...
Views: 1652 - A Woman Without A Voice - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from Cathy RoysSherry (not her real name) was brought to my office by her husband who had grown concerned that she wasn't herself lately. She didn't take care of the kids, she cried all the time and she wouldn't look at anyone. She didn't protest much just sat there wringing her hands and stuttering over her ...
Views: 1650 - BeSimply...Strengthened and Renewed - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Suzanne ToroSuzanne Toro shares an introduction to a Self Help Series for Women and Men who have been abused or violated. She shares a simple over view on how to identify if you are still holding on to the trauma and the fears. She will share how you can identify where you might have buried you pain. ...
Views: 1644(4 votes) - Thoughts on My Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysA good friend emailed me a while back and asked about my experience of the "inner child" on my road to healing. My inner child, who I called Little Danny, was an integral part of the book I had written, "Freedom's Just Another Word." My friend wondered if my experience of that inner child had ...
Views: 1643(7 votes) - Losing The One You Love - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI’ve just returned home after another session with my Psychiatrist, today has really not gone well. I was asked to visit a place that had so many bad memories for me. Dealing with the sexual side of my rehabilitation is a killer. I know that I need this psychotherapeutic treatment, because I am ...
Views: 1640(1 vote) - What Alcoholism Is All About - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2011 from Wendy LauDrinking alcohol is a part of the lives of many people. You drink when you have a bottle of wine during your meals, during special occasions, when you go out with your friends and a lot more. It is then difficult to identify if a person is having troubles with controlling how much alcohol he ...
Views: 1640(2 votes) - The Stalker As Antisocial Bully - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Sam VakninStalkers have narcissistic traits. Many of them suffer from personality disorders. The vindictive stalker is usually a psychopath (has Antisocial Personality Disorder). They all conform to the classic definition of a bully. Before we proceed to delineate coping strategies, it is helpful to ...
Views: 1639 - Alcoholism Facts - Ten You Should Definitely Know - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Charles SomerCheck out this quick list of alcoholism facts. I'm sure you'll be surprised at some of the items in this list. Alcoholism cuts across gender, race, and nationality. Learning about the disease and how to protect yourself from it is essential. Here are the ten facts on alcoholism you ...
Views: 1636(1 vote) - Need A Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Keith BrayNEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM? I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others. Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ...
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